Ashes to Ashes

[MissTaken]

Three friends from the local congregation were asked "When you're In your casket, and friends and congregation members are mourning over you, what would you like them to say?" Artie said: "I would like them to say I was a wonderful husband, a Fine spiritual leader, and a great family man." Eugene commented: "I would like them to say I was a wonderful teacher and servant of God who made a huge difference in people's lives." Don said: "I'd like them to say, "Look, he's moving!"
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So what would you hope your friends would say when your time is up?

 

[Shadowsdream]

Three friends from the local congregation were asked "When you're In your casket, and friends and congregation members are mourning over you, what would you like them to say?" Artie said: "I would like them to say I was a wonderful husband, a Fine spiritual leader, and a great family man." Eugene commented: "I would like them to say I was a wonderful teacher and servant of God who made a huge difference in people's lives." Don said: "I'd like them to say, "Look, he's moving!"
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So what would you hope your friends would say when your time is up?

Get the hell out of the coffin...You have more subs to whip!

 

[Vixandra]

Something like "I can't believe she lived that long!"
Though knowing me I'll go quietly in my sleep or out in a tremendous explosion. One or the other.

 

[Netzach]

I just want all the people I ever screwed the brains out of to sit and stifle a cough and look uncomfortable and look over wondering if I also fucked that other person across the room as lustily.

When I'm 90, of course.

 

[MissTaken]

Sure, I would love for people to say NICE things about me, but I expect scooter might say, "That's what she looks like on her back!"

 

[A Desert Rose]

Well, I thought this over, over night, off and on.

I would hope they would say nice things... she was a good mother, a good person... a loyal friend... etc.

I hope they at least say "Well, she still looked pretty good." lol

 

[morninggirl5]

Well, I thought this over, over night, off and on.

I would hope they would say nice things... she was a good mother, a good person... a loyal friend... etc.

I hope they at least say "Well, she still looked pretty good." lol

Why is it you always hear someone say "Doesn't he/she look good?"

I just don't get it.





I want people to say that they're glad they knew me and they wish they had known me longer.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Why is it you always hear someone say "Doesn't he/she look good?"

I just don't get it.





I want people to say that they're glad they knew me and they wish they had known me longer.

LOL That was my point exactly.
I'm pretty sure they will say those things about you.

 

[morninggirl5]

LOL That was my point exactly.
I'm pretty sure they will say those things about you.

I'm pretty sure they'll say nice things about you, too.

 

[MissTaken]

My guess is that my friends will say nice things, but someone will be real.

"she lived her life as though she were running on a hamster wheel and it looks like she finally decided to get off!"


(silly, i know!)

 

[AngelicAssassin]

No tears

and at least one whispered, "Ding Dong the wicked sumbitch is dead," with a sad smile.

 

[NemoAlia]

I don't know about you, but I'm hoping for a polka band.

 

[Kajira Callista]

I think they would say..."she lived her life with no regrets" while thinking to themselves; she was such a slut!

 

[landcruisergal]

I really dont know, I guess I'm hoping someone will say I was a loyal friend, a good listener, a talented artist ( kidding myself here)
But I think they will just say " what a freak she was. Do you remember the time she....."

 

[Phoenix Stone]

I'd like the people I love, especially my kids, to say that they felt really, deeply loved by me. It would be great if my kids could say it filled them up so they always will have it with them to go on with.

The part of me (so this would have to be when the kids are old) would love to have old beaus expound on how I'm still remembered, for passion, in both senses of the word, and it would be so cool if all over, people I've run into at some point and had an good interaction that added something to their lives, would feel a little 'zing,' stop for a moment and smile, those bits of the best part of my spirit twinkling and spreading like fairy dust.

(And, yeah, some part of me would love if a portrait I painted, poem, story, play, landed someplace 59 years from now and was heralded a small jewel, from an artist who regrettably was too busy tilting at social change and public policy windmills to have done more art.) My shiny pebble in the stream....

It would be great to have one smartass friend say something that would crack everyone up at my expense. And to have my husband feel that he'd made me happy, and that I'd done the same for him.

 

[Guest]

during the party

the little bastard named 'ego' would love to have people laugh and retell stories about how rediculous everyday things seemed to me. 'damn she was funny' says john stewart, 'she gave me all her material just before she kicked it.'


but truely at the party i want people to throw, i dont want any weeping or carrying on, just laughter. as they toss my ashes into the water, i want stephen lynch to be singing a song written just for me..

 

[Angel_Diva]

So what would you hope your friends would say when your time is up?

I would like them to say that I lived my life to the fullest, that I achieved everything that I ever wanted... that i was there for them, and they were there for me.

 

[lorddragonwolf]

i would like them to say there he was a loyal friend loving husband and father.

 

[shy slave]

too tired to think but

I think i would like people to say "God help Heaven I hope they are ready to cope with THAT sense of humour!"

Other than that I hope people felt I brightened their day and gave a damn about them.

Now of course I am wondering if i should make it a last request to be bound and tied in the coffin.. so those who didn't figure it out finally do

 

[Phoenix Stone]

Re: too tired to think but

Now of course I am wondering if i should make it a last request to be bound and tied in the coffin.. so those who didn't figure it out finally do

ulp! This is one place I'd want my hands free... just in case! (Yeah, I can hear ya, girl, about the sense of humor -- may just end up in the wrong place on that one, alone!)

ADR, as far as that 'looking good' thing goes -- my Grandma was embalmed and heavily made up for her open casket viewing (southerners, what can i say?). Now there was a gruesome sight. That's the last time I can clearly recall telling a purposeful, out-and-out lie, too -- telling my step-Grandpa how good she looked. Shoulda seen him smile, saying how proud she would have been to go out looking good! She was very pink and blue, with ethereal lighting. it was like looking at a pastel-painted, Grandma-shaped envelope.

 

[ethicalslut]

I want at least one ex to say to another ex, "She WAS good in bed, wasn't she?" And then either graphic conversation or uncomfortable silence.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Re: Re: too tired to think but

... ADR, as far as that 'looking good' thing goes -- my Grandma was embalmed and heavily made up for her open casket viewing (southerners, what can i say?). Now there was a gruesome sight. That's the last time I can clearly recall telling a purposeful, out-and-out lie, too -- telling my step-Grandpa how good she looked. Shoulda seen him smile, saying how proud she would have been to go out looking good! She was very pink and blue, with ethereal lighting. it was like looking at a pastel-painted, Grandma-shaped envelope.

I think people make those kinds of statements for a few reasons. For one thing, I think we all feel that any words we have to offer to the family of the deceased are trite and inadequate. So the solution in our minds is to offer up the silliest thing that can POSSIBLY be said... LOL.

I mean really, it's a dead person. How can he/she possibly look good?

Sorry if my gallows humor offends anyone. But there's no denying that it's true.

 

[MissTaken]

I said that once, "She looks really good."

It was my third funeral in a week and the very best make up job of the three.

Hmmm now that I think of it, it was a lousy week.

 

[MissTaken]

On a lighter note:

I wonder which of my friends or relatives will look in my coffin and say,

"hey, there are my earrings! I loaned them to her a long time ago!"

 

[Phoenix Stone]

Re: Re: Re: too tired to think but

I think people make those kinds of statements for a few reasons. For one thing, I think we all feel that any words we have to offer to the family of the deceased are trite and inadequate. So the solution in our minds is to offer up the silliest thing that can POSSIBLY be said... LOL.

I mean really, it's a dead person. How can he/she possibly look good?

Sorry if my gallows humor offends anyone. But there's no denying that it's true.

He actually Asked me! I didn't volunteer it up -- would never in a million years have occured to me, silly as i try to be in other circumstances -- he wanted validation that she looked good, said she would have been so proud -- and knowing her, she WOULD have! That was exactly what she would have wanted to have said about her -- that, and that she was a pious woman.