Are you?

[Luna_Wolf72]

My vote

Femme Switch..

Why? Simply because I can not consider myself strictly Dominant..need pain play too much to feel completely content in Domme mode all the time.

I tried the submissive route, wasn't for me. Masochistic Dominant ..yea that would fit but you didn't have that particular label.

Therefore switch was the closest thing.

Luna

 

[DustyWolfe]

Uhhhh you need other..... I don't fit in anywhere since I'm Trans.... lol. But I am submissive, and can switch but in a non sexual. Like I can do micro management and stuff

 

[willpowered]

I've said it before, I'll say it again: Humans are complex creatures, that's what I like about 'em.

For instance: I voted female switch.

I spent over ten years as a life-style and pro dom, who would switch once a year for my birthday (Yeah, my subs had to close their eyes - had trouble bearing it : evil grin). Then I set them (my subs) free - didn't have the time to keep up the stables while in grad school. (Kept the wife/life partner. Can't say we were vanilla, but not in the life, either). D/s and BDSM became play.

Then, a strange thing happened. A long-time friend became...a great deal more. I discovered submission. What an epiphany! I brought it home, and now....hmmm.

My wife really gets me. She recognizes that I am pretty much "a guy in a woman's body". Note I didn't say "trapped"? That's 'cause I love it! I love my female body. I feel like the world's luckiest queer/bi/drag queen/boi. I play, now, with some butch bois, doing the guy/guy thing. I am my wife's houseboi, slut, and captain. I will top anyone with the spark to inspire me, but I'm really sweet on women. I could sub, but can't imagine doing that from a femme space. When I'm feeling more butch, women are....hard to resist. I would happily serve them in any way my wife would allow.

Not a real easy box to find.

 

[VandalHeart]

Willpowered, that is one of the greatest stories I've ever heard. And it's not the first time I've heard it. One of my best friends told me almost the exact same story. Very, very cool. I like girls like you, even though I usually have no chance with them, being a rape fantasy dom, but the stories we come up with together are mindblowing and unforgettable. Glad to see there are more of you in the world. Maybe there is hope for the species.

 

[willpowered]

I like girls like you, even though I usually have no chance with them, being a rape fantasy dom, but the stories we come up with together are mindblowing and unforgettable. Glad to see there are more of you in the world. Maybe there is hope for the species. [/B]

I don't mean to tempt you, but guys like you don't exactly "not have a chance" with me. Its all depends on what kind of a chance you're up to. What you say about stories....I snatched one of yours from the site. I like to sit and chew on such things. I'm hoping you could be right.

And, of course, I really do maintain the hope....any way you think of things.

 

[VandalHeart]

Intention or no, consider me officially tempted. So, when will you be walking down a dark alley?

 

[Master Serigan]

I myself am male dom but am more interested to see that there are so many fem subs on the poll. Just ish i know where all the ones in the uk are as all i find is other dom males...

 

[VandalHeart]

Same problem in New Orleans and Lawrence, Kansas, my friend.

 

[Master Serigan]

But the poll proves the facts at least in a small way that is not lack of people,and for me at least not a lack of trying. I fear it is the same everywhere and it is more because it isnt in sub nature to look but expect the dominiants to come get but it surely isnt the case everywhere (or at least i may hope).

 

[VandalHeart]

True, Serigan, very true. But you also have to take into account the Dom predications towards stoicism and apathy when looking at those numbers.

 

[WriterDom]

Bump for the 5 Lurkers

 

[lassarina]

Same problem in New Orleans and Lawrence, Kansas, my friend.

we subs are in New Orleans but only allowed to cum out after dark! *grins* i can't speak for Lawrence Kansas......

 

[VandalHeart]

Lass, where the fuck were you before I moved?!? Dammit! I'm always catching the news after it's too late.

 

[lassarina]

Lass, where the fuck were you before I moved?!? Dammit! I'm always catching the news after it's too late.

How long ago did you move? New Orleans has quite a large BDSM population. i've had success in joining several local BDSM groups. While its true that i wait for a Dom to make the first move there are things to do to show interest without being deemed "pushy". i do make an effort to make general conversation. Sometimes on the basis of these conversations i decide that chances are that we wouldn't suit each other. Also i speak with other subs. i do have 2 Doms that i serve on a regular basis and look to them for guidance. i wouldn't consider serving another Dom without one of them being there. i am not collared to either but very much enjoy their company.

*sorry for the hijack*

 

[VandalHeart]

I never could even find any. Oh well. I'm glad you found some. I'm finding a few here in Lawrence, but the insinuation is slow.

I apologize if I came off as screaming at you. I didn't mean to, but my frustration is a bit...well...frustratating. It's a viscious cycle.

 

[MastrJ]

Het male Dom.

 

[VandalHeart]

By the way Lass, what did you mean by hijack?

 

[Arioso]

Lurker who's just plain fascinated by the whole bdsm thing. Very assertive by nature, but that doesn't make me a Domme or a Switch. Aroused by well-written, detailed erotica involving power exchange, but not sure that makes me anything either. Pass through the bdsm personals to see what people are looking for out there every now and then, and that does make me a lurker

Cheers

 

[lassarina]

By the way Lass, what did you mean by hijack?

It was an off topic reply to you. i wasn't offended by your reply and know well the frustration of finding someone BDSM. Sorry its taken me so long to reply but with hurrcanes and things its been an interesting month so far!

 

[voltigeur]

an ex girl friend subbed me. i liked it pretty macho out of the bed room and never thought of it but she spanked me and noticed i got hard. then she put me on my knees i didn't think much of servicein her orally but then she turned and i issed her ass then begged.

 

[voltigeur]

Sorry kissed her ass

 

[risingphoenix68]

I voted sub curious. I have been curious for years but never ventured to find out about it. I am not sure where I fit in but very interestd in reading more.

 

[WriterDom]

I wish I had broken the curious into both male and female. My guess is that it would be similar to the male and female sub ratio.

 

[WriterDom]

bump

 

[~hellbaby~]

Perhaps you can tell me~I am Stuck in the gray area

It is hard for me to say what I am really.Most of my sexual life I have always liked bondage and spankings but I figured everyone did it never struck me as 'kinky'just exciting.Two years ago I got the sub~bug and spent a year reading,talking to people and figuring it all out as much as you can.I learned a lot about myself~blah blah yadda yadda......Helping me out was my online 'Daddy' who gave me daily assignments,punishments and instructions on what was expected from me.
What I took from all this into realtime relationships was I do very much love being Daddy's lil girl,and crave a good spanking at times more than sex. I also realized I am pretty sure i have no desire to be in a D/s relationship that is not D/lg. I have no desire to crawl around on the floor or have a spreader bar attached to my ankles.I am intrigued by the whip it seduces me, tie me up and stick a butt plug in me and I'm in heaven.
I am naturally submissive, have been my whole life.If I am colloberating on a story and the direction heads toward leather, ball gags and cages I see how it is a turn on for my partner and it turns me right off,not only because I cannot write what I don't know{at least I think it is more than that} I am very openminded and don't rule most things out without at least a taste.
So it seems that I am in a place where the vanilla~men think I'm kooky if I express my desires and in the BDSM world I'm a few kinks short of kooky enough.Do you think my adversions could be for lack of opportunity?
I did not mean for this to be so long a post.So what am I?any thoughts?