Are you?

are you a

  • Lurker who just likes to read posts

    Votes: 42 7.5%
  • Female switch

    Votes: 36 6.5%
  • Male switch

    Votes: 55 9.9%
  • Male Dom

    Votes: 90 16.2%
  • Female Domme

    Votes: 12 2.2%
  • Male sub

    Votes: 57 10.2%
  • female sub

    Votes: 114 20.5%
  • Dom/me curious

    Votes: 18 3.2%
  • sub curious

    Votes: 120 21.5%
  • seeking same sex only

    Votes: 13 2.3%

  • Total voters
    557
Almost 70 new people have voted this month alone. It would seem like more of you would visit the bdsm forums here to get to know like minded people. Is there a reason why you don't?
 
Maybe some of them are just learning and aren't completely comfortable speaking about what they want, yet...

It's not always easy to begin a conversation with people you aren't familiar with. I tend to sit back and read the board, picking up information about people before I start posting, but that's just me.

Have a good evening. :rose:
 
I don't consider it a "lifestyle" choice, it's just who I am.
I don't like to follow "rules" that I don't make.
I read everything and learn, but I don't play well with others.
 
WriterDom said:
Almost 70 new people have voted this month alone. It would seem like more of you would visit the bdsm forums here to get to know like minded people. Is there a reason why you don't?

Hi - wow, just realizing that I haven't been around here for almost 8 months. Interesting poll. I am curious and have been for a couple of years...guess I'll keep lurking for a few more. There is so much to know and things to learn...overwhelming...and sexy. Just haven't found that person to share it with yet.

:rose: PTY :rose:
 
MT_Pitcher said:
I don't consider it a "lifestyle" choice, it's just who I am.
And we don't consider it to be a lifestyle "choice" because it's just who we are. It is a lifestyle, because we live it, all the time, every day.
 
WriterDom said:
Almost 70 new people have voted this month alone. It would seem like more of you would visit the bdsm forums here to get to know like minded people. Is there a reason why you don't?

I have been on Literotica for a few years, but started posting only in the last couple. I have had *one* experience with a man (me sub, him dom) who was into BDSM, introduced it to me actually, and have not run across another since then (2002). I found myself intrigued with the whole lifestyle. I am more intrigued by the power/control thing - and especially orgasm control. I am not into humiliation or pain.

I guess for me it's a trust thing. I don't know who is on the other end of the computer screen, and not willing to hook up with just *anyone*. I am a bit idealistic that I would want the person I share this part of myself with to also share a relationship outside of BDSM. And chemistry just has to be there, or at least a sharing of similar BDSM interests.

For me, it's always been - what comes first, the chicken or the egg? Do I look for someone into BDSM first, or look for the relationship first and then introduce the kink? That one has been left unanswered for me still.

EL :rolleyes: (still pondering)
 
surprisingly, I consider myself a sub curious. I have a brushes with skin BDSM, but not for real. Or at least nothing to the extent of what I consider real play. rough sex is not the same.
I haven't posted here in forever due to my live-in. he's not into the lifestyle and thinks if i chat or whatever, I'll cheat on him. Long drawn out story there. Anywho, loved the poll & HAD to give my 2 cents.... :cathappy:
 
I consider myself Dom curious. I'm actually new to the whole bdsm thing but i have been interested in it for some time..but i never really got any experience or looked into it til now. Got a bunch of Dom/me and sub friends online and such.
 
Sub Curious

I'm a sub curious guy. I'm a bit uncertain as to it all yet. I haven't had any experience but am willing to try.
 
IM sub curious

I have alwasys wanted to be dominated by my wife but she is not willing too unfortunally. Ihave a thing about getting taken in my ass. Is it perverted i guess thats depends on who u ask.
 
Am new here to Lit but was going to cast my vote, but didn't see a choice that fit.

We are a couple, Husband and wife, He is Dom, I am sub.
 
I actually saw tonight that there were personals for LGBTs and BDSMers. I'm not interested in placing or answering ads but I was curious to see about some of the ads in here.

How long have these particular forums been here?
 
Just came across this board and had to put my vote in.

Female sub here with a wonderful Dom. Guess I could be considered a lurker also. I've posted a few times on the BDSM boards but enjoy reading them more. (shyness is sometimes a weakness) I've written erotica for a very long time and have posted several of my stories on this site with surprising results.
 
I voted sub curious, have only had very few brushes with being dom but I loved it!
Would like to meet someone to serve and obey again but that is very difficult to do :(
 
Interesting Survey

I ended up in the 3rd smallest category - by repondents results that is - i will have to find someone to cure my curiosity.....offers?
 
Currious As Well

I'm sub curious as well. I've never tried but I would like to. I wonder what it would be like to be under the control of a dominant female. My desire would simply be to serve and the pleasure I would receive would be the pleasure I give to others. Oh well, maybe someday.
 
bi BBW sub

i voted in the poll...female submissive here...

very little r/t experience, currently not involved in a D/s relationship (r/t or o/l)
 
Definetly a sub but do like to turn the tables at times.... much rather be tied up than to tie up...don't get me wrong I will tie you up!!! Please don't forget the blind fold.....!! ;)
 
Sub courious I suppose...... since I am not really certain about what I want.
Physical domination no.... I only like it gentle when it comes to that.
Sort of ordering me around I think..... but not always...... oh I am so complicated....... maybe I find some answers here on this forum :eek:
 
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