Are you reasons for staying on LIT now...

[hotoldrguy]

different from you reasons and needs when you first joined? So we all had our original reasons to try LIT out but they may or may not be valid today. So are your reasons different or the same?

If you are up to it , it would be great to hear what has changed since you joined.

 

[hotoldrguy]

So since I started the thread, I should really answer the question first.

I joined LIT because my libido was gone. No interest at all in sex with anyone. I thought, since I am a bit of an exhibitionist that if I posted my nude pics on LIT and got comments back and than did some cybersex, that would do the trick. Actually, I did get my libido back so that bit worked...LOL

But now I am more about having fun on the boards, some light flirting and developing friendships with people I come to like.

So now, what is YOUR story?

 

[done_got_old]

I stay because it's fun. It's not as good as it was in 2003 when I joined. The drama has driven a lot of people away.

I was on the receiving end of a lot of crap back then. The choice to stay was mine. I did choose not to participate on a lot of threads, and that helped. Along with changing my profile pic.

 

[DarkSimian]

I've come and gone from the boards many times; only recently back. Still trying to figure out if I still belong, and if so, get my mojo back...

 

[dashie33]

My reasons are pretty much the same: being my real self. Due to various circumstances (girlfriend, family, etc), I can't be who I want to be in real life, so I use places like this to maintain my sanity.

 

[PNWKitten]

Gives me something to do when I'm bored. There are some threads that are fun to post in. Ive met some cool people here. Most have left though. This is not my first rodeo and I do remember a time it was a lot more fun to be here on a regular basis instead of infrequently.

 

[LadyJS]

I initially came to read the poetry, then just started hanging out in the forum. I probably spend too much time here, but that's only due to the fact that my real life is exceptionally dull.

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

So since I started the thread, I should really answer the question first.

I joined LIT because my libido was gone. No interest at all in sex with anyone. I thought, since I am a bit of an exhibitionist that if I posted my nude pics on LIT and got comments back and than did some cybersex, that would do the trick. Actually, I did get my libido back so that bit worked...LOL

But now I am more about having fun on the boards, some light flirting and developing friendships with people I come to like.

So now, what is YOUR story?

I've lurked for years, read stories. The playground was always very intimidating. It was filled with friendly people who all knew each other, or at least familiar. People seemed to have a camaraderie that made you smile from the outside looking in. This was back in 2012, when I first found out about this space. I still read stories, under a different name, but I found the Playground intimidating because in real life, I'm a bit shy. It was hard for me to open up to people and have people accept me...my thoughts. January 2016, I took the plunge after losing the sign on name of the other and became who y'all now know as BCC.

It was scary and daunting for me. No one really opened up to speak to me, to get to know the real ME until maybe September. By then, I went through a few avatars, met less than a handful of people who I called true blue friends. There was still a level of untrust that I didn't have or the other didn't have for me. I went through my stage of chats at different levels until I settled in a comfortable place where I am now.

Fast forward to March, 2019. I'm not a veteran here, but I'm more open. I'm more willing to approach someone and say hi or post in their thread. It can be a refreshing place to frequent, but I try not to get too swallowed up into the lures of fast paced responses. I don't read as many stories as I used to, but I still keep that page open. My favorite author's work to read are avrgblkgrl and Nanaya. (I do hope you are still writing avrgblkgrl, your work is amazing) I enjoy getting to know people, meeting someone from let's say from the Midwest just as much as I do from as far away as Finland on here.

I focus on a few threads now, not as many as I used to. I appreciate all those I've met here, good and bad. It helped me in forming boundaries in what I will accept and set the standard for what I don't or won't, not only here but in real life. The friends and bonds made are unbelievable. Thank you all for accepting me into framework of who you may call a friend. If not, that's okay as well, I'm not everyone's cup of caramel, and I accept that.

 

[jaF0]

I still do some of the picture threads, but some have been taken over by people posting really nasty crap. Took all the fun out of some of them.

Giant fat cows plastered with tats is NOT pleasing.

 

[done_got_old]

I've lurked for years, read stories. The playground was always very intimidating. It was filled with friendly people who all knew each other, or at least familiar. People seemed to have a camaraderie that made you smile from the outside looking in. This was back in 2012, when I first found out about this space. I still read stories, under a different name, but I found the Playground intimidating because in real life, I'm a bit shy. It was hard for me to open up to people and have people accept me...my thoughts. January 2016, I took the plunge after losing the sign on name of the other and became who y'all now know as BCC.

It was scary and daunting for me. No one really opened up to speak to me, to get to know the real ME until maybe September. By then, I went through a few avatars, met less than a handful of people who I called true blue friends. There was still a level of untrust that I didn't have or the other didn't have for me. I went through my stage of chats at different levels until I settled in a comfortable place where I am now.

Fast forward to March, 2019. I'm not a veteran here, but I'm more open. I'm more willing to approach someone and say hi or post in their thread. It can be a refreshing place to frequent, but I try not to get too swallowed up into the lures of fast paced responses. I don't read as many stories as I used to, but I still keep that page open. My favorite author's work to read are avrgblkgrl and Nanaya. (I do hope you are still writing avrgblkgrl, your work is amazing) I enjoy getting to know people, meeting someone from let's say from the Midwest just as much as I do from as far away as Finland on here.

I focus on a few threads now, not as many as I used to. I appreciate all those I've met here, good and bad. It helped me in forming boundaries in what I will accept and set the standard for what I don't or won't, not only here but in real life. The friends and bonds made are unbelievable. Thank you all for accepting me into framework of who you may call a friend. If not, that's okay as well, I'm not everyone's cup of caramel, and I accept that.

I'm one of the people who don't open up to newbies. Like a lot of old-timers, I've been burned. There were, and I suppose, still are a lot of alts here. I learned it was best not to befriend a newbie.

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

I'm one of the people who don't open up to newbies. Like a lot of old-timers, I've been burned. There were, and I suppose, still are a lot of alts here. I learned it was best not to befriend a newbie.

I'll assure you, this is the only name I use now. I pride myself on being honest with everyone. There may be those who may use alts to lurk and at one time I used it maybe a few times here. I saw no reason to continue using it. It felt deceitful doing that.

Within my first few months here, I felt alone and unappreciated when joining in on threads. Only one person reached out to me and is still friends with me to this day. I can honestly say I love him without flinching. He's my best friend. No, he's not courting me. He's been there to cheer me up through all my aches, pains and breakups and joys. He's my friend in the truest definition of the word.

 

[done_got_old]

I'll assure you, this is the only name I use now. I pride myself on being honest with everyone. There may be those who may use alts to lurk and at one time I used it maybe a few times here. I saw no reason to continue using it. It felt deceitful doing that.

I had an alt too. I remember the name, but not the password. I used it to avoid people.

 

[quietlylooking]

I joined Lit initially because I thought I might try to write some stories. However, I ended up changing careers and now am writing a lot... although not the kind of writing I would have done here!

I still am here, mostly because of some special people who I met here. I also find it's an interesting mix of people; it gets me out of my echo chamber. Also, oddly, I have found some interesting music, books, and recipes from people here on Lit.

 

[HBergeron]

I was on here for a number of years reading the stories without even having an account. Then I got involved in a similar site, but with much fewer people. One day I noticed there were forums here, so I decided to poke around. I like online games and did that for a while, then ventured into the more interactive threads. I ended up developing a few friends who have become very dear to me, but ultimately, I'm just not that interested in being a part of the larger community. A little clever exchange now and then is fun, but I just pop on to play a little or if I see a friend out and about. I'm not here for romance or any kind of online SO relationship. It's fun enough to occasionally indulge in sexy PM conversations, but I don't seek them out.

After brushing up against 'the community'. I'm back to doing what I did when I first got here, and it's good.

Way too many people take Lit way too seriously.

 

[done_got_old]

I was on here for a number of years reading the stories without even having an account. Then I got involved in a similar site, but with much fewer people. One day I noticed there were forums here, so I decided to poke around. I like online games and did that for a while, then ventured into the more interactive threads. I ended up developing a few friends who have become very dear to me, but ultimately, I'm just not that interested in being a part of the larger community. A little clever exchange now and then is fun, but I just pop on to play a little or if I see a friend out and about. I'm not here for romance or any kind of online SO relationship. It's fun enough to occasionally indulge in sexy PM conversations, but I don't seek them out.

After brushing up against 'the community'. I'm back to doing what I did when I first got here, and it's good.

Way too many people take Lit way too seriously.

Well said and so very true!

 

[Sexybritches69]

I enjoy Lit because of friendly, clever people. I found it very difficult to get to know people here when I joined. It took a very long time and a lot of attempts to befriend people. There are so many people that seem so interesting and that I really like, but like others have mentioned, I guess they had been burned and so they really weren’t looking for new friends. I understand that now, but at first I really wasn’t sure this place was for me. I’m just here to have fun. This is a stress reliever, and so I don’t intend to get mixed up in drama. (Famous last words, right?)

 

[done_got_old]

I enjoy Lit because of friendly, clever people. I found it very difficult to get to know people here when I joined. It took a very long time and a lot of attempts to befriend people. There are so many people that seem so interesting and that I really like, but like others have mentioned, I guess they had been burned and so they really weren’t looking for new friends. I understand that now, but at first I really wasn’t sure this place was for me. I’m just here to have fun. This is a stress reliever, and so I don’t intend to get mixed up in drama. (Famous last words, right?)

When I joined, it was a different place. People were super friendly. I got a lot of PMs asking for an exact age. Once I changed my location, I garnered more attention, mostly negative. I kept my location and changed my profile picture. I don't miss the dick pics or invitations to cyber. I'm here for.....damn, I forgot why I'm here.

 

[tnman03]

I found this place by accident and was intrigued by it so I stuck around. Sometimes I’m appalled by the depth of aberrant behavior here and saddened by the lonely desperation of others. When it’s fun here it’s fun. Trying not to read too much into anything here or over thinking is probably best. It’s highly unlikely that your hearts desires are going to be met or soul mate discovered here. So overall I try to remind myself to not spend too much time here and recognize that this Lit habit thing is only temporary.

 

[pikmin1388]

I joined as I was in a sexless relationship, and found guys in the same boat we helped each other out I so appreciated their support kept me sane
But now im single I'm just in here to have fun explore my sexual side and keep in touch with a few long term friends I made

 

[navytime09]

Short answer (after typing and deleting a couple of paragraphs), I really don't know.

 

[mellowyellows]

Habit now mostly

 

[PattiJolene]

Yes much different, my marriage back in 2012 was heading for divorce, l thought it over... that is when l discovered the online world. Now today it's much better. I've made some good friends here so for me its not about hooking up or finding an online affair....Not interested, just here to post my thoughts and chat with my friends. I find this place very therapeutic some days.

 

[DarkSimian]

Reading some of the responses reminds me why I keep leaving. Maybe it's a sign that I should move on

 

[hotoldrguy]

Reading some of the responses reminds me why I keep leaving. Maybe it's a sign that I should move on

You are one of the good guys on LIT that make it better for everyone here. You are always missed when you are gone. I hope you decide to stay.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I joined Lit for opportunities for social interaction, intellectual stimulation, and creative expression. I did not join for any reasons related to sex, flirting, romantic attachments, etc. I had never been on an adult site before and was completely unprepared for the reality. It's been a steep learning curve, for sure.

I invested a lot of time and energy during my first few years here, but have since scaled back in terms of both activity and expectations. There are a few discussion threads i like to keep an eye on, but otherwise, this is just a place to kill some time.