An odd question ...

[KimGordon67]

So I have a question, which isn't really about a fetish, but it is about sex ... I've just started seeing a guy, we have slept together once but it was after a loooooong night of drinking and the details are a little hazy. Last night we were chatting, and he mentioned feeling quite inadequate about the size of his dick. I honestly don't remember it being an issue - but I may also have attributed anything like to the amount of beer he'd drunk.
So now I'm overthinking things, and gotten anxious about making him anxious.
I'm seeing him either tonight, or next weekend. I'm thinking I'll just say something about really appreciating that he'd shared his stuff, and that it was great that he did that ... and that now I'm a bit anxious, so how can we work around all these things for both of us.
But any thoughts would be gratefully received.

 

[Escierto]

I think every guy on the planet wishes his dick was bigger. You could have 9 inches but wish you were ten!

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife had experience with a number of dicks in college, including one guy with a really small one. The sex wasn't that good the first time, but she made him feel like she really enjoyed it. The next time, she suggested that they try something different, so that he felt bigger inside and had more clitoral contact. It was better, and she made sure he knew how much she enjoyed it. They didn't date long, but they tried different things and helped build his confidence.

 

[KimGordon67]

I think every guy on the planet wishes his dick was bigger. You could have 9 inches but wish you were ten!

He's apparently had women ridicule him about it, so I'm guessing it's not 9 inches.

 

[KimGordon67]

My wife had experience with a number of dicks in college, including one guy with a really small one. The sex wasn't that good the first time, but she made him feel like she really enjoyed it. The next time, she suggested that they try something different, so that he felt bigger inside and had more clitoral contact. It was better, and she made sure he knew how much she enjoyed it. They didn't date long, but they tried different things and helped build his confidence.

I'm not really worried about the sex being bad - actual fucking is only one of a hundred things we can do together, and the other 99 things are all pretty great. I just don't want to (unintentionally) make him self conscious.

 

[gtnlynn]

I'm not really worried about the sex being bad - actual fucking is only one of a hundred things we can do together, and the other 99 things are all pretty great. I just don't want to (unintentionally) make him self conscious.

That was her main concern, too. She wanted to increase his confidence since he was a friend, even after they stopped dating.

 

[billg1421]

So I have a question, which isn't really about a fetish, but it is about sex ... I've just started seeing a guy, we have slept together once but it was after a loooooong night of drinking and the details are a little hazy. Last night we were chatting, and he mentioned feeling quite inadequate about the size of his dick. I honestly don't remember it being an issue - but I may also have attributed anything like to the amount of beer he'd drunk.
So now I'm overthinking things, and gotten anxious about making him anxious.
I'm seeing him either tonight, or next weekend. I'm thinking I'll just say something about really appreciating that he'd shared his stuff, and that it was great that he did that ... and that now I'm a bit anxious, so how can we work around all these things for both of us.
But any thoughts would be gratefully received.
(Not thoughts about how maybe he'd be into small dick humiliation - I'm definitely not getting that vibe, but if it turns out to be the case, I'm sure I can handle that.)

So, he brought it up? Not you?
And now he's made you feel anxious?
Could be a red flag; a precursor that he's one to unneccisarily (sp?) fuss about things that he can't control.
I know. I'm a people pleaser by nature and my worst fear is being inadequate.
Sure, most men wish they were bigger, or could last longer, or were slimmer, or whatever but if he's not at a point where he can say " this is how I am. Take it or leave it" (things that can't be controlled, mind you) you might want to proceed with caution. You shouldn't have to stroke his ego so early in a relationzhip.

 

[nutoseen]

So I have a question, which isn't really about a fetish, but it is about sex ... I've just started seeing a guy, we have slept together once but it was after a loooooong night of drinking and the details are a little hazy. Last night we were chatting, and he mentioned feeling quite inadequate about the size of his dick. I honestly don't remember it being an issue - but I may also have attributed anything like to the amount of beer he'd drunk.
So now I'm overthinking things, and gotten anxious about making him anxious.
I'm seeing him either tonight, or next weekend. I'm thinking I'll just say something about really appreciating that he'd shared his stuff, and that it was great that he did that ... and that now I'm a bit anxious, so how can we work around all these things for both of us.
But any thoughts would be gratefully received.
(Not thoughts about how maybe he'd be into small dick humiliation - I'm definitely not getting that vibe, but if it turns out to be the case, I'm sure I can handle that.)

after you have it in your mouth, hand, and pussy while sober give him some feeback.

 

[KimGordon67]

So, he brought it up? Not you?
And now he's made you feel anxious?
Could be a red flag; a precursor that he's one to unneccisarily (sp?) fuss about things that he can't control.
I know. I'm a people pleaser by nature and my worst fear is being inadequate.
Sure, most men wish they were bigger, or could last longer, or were slimmer, or whatever but if he's not at a point where he can say " this is how I am. Take it or leave it" (things that can't be controlled, mind you) you might want to proceed with caution. You shouldn't have to stroke his ego so early in a relationzhip.

I really don't think his intention was to make me anxious, nor to get me to stroke his ego ... it doesn't feel like that. I think he was just being genuinely open about a concern that he has.

 

[KimGordon67]

I,m almost 75 years of age, and it is something that has never bothered me in the past. My only concern now is I there are fewer women around who are willing to accept my larger size.

So not really related to the question that I started the thread with all. But thanks for your input.

 

[NOBGE]

So I have a question, which isn't really about a fetish, but it is about sex ... I've just started seeing a guy, we have slept together once but it was after a loooooong night of drinking and the details are a little hazy. Last night we were chatting, and he mentioned feeling quite inadequate about the size of his dick. I honestly don't remember it being an issue - but I may also have attributed anything like to the amount of beer he'd drunk.
So now I'm overthinking things, and gotten anxious about making him anxious.
I'm seeing him either tonight, or next weekend. I'm thinking I'll just say something about really appreciating that he'd shared his stuff, and that it was great that he did that ... and that now I'm a bit anxious, so how can we work around all these things for both of us.
But any thoughts would be gratefully received.
(Not thoughts about how maybe he'd be into small dick humiliation - I'm definitely not getting that vibe, but if it turns out to be the case, I'm sure I can handle that.)

Be straight with him. Tell him there didn’t seem to be any problems the first time and you were drunk and don’t think there will be any problems going forward.

 

[CurtGiles46]

He could be one of these guys holding the mistaken view that most women want big cocks. Just tell him he’s fine and he will eventually move on from the topic.

 

[bouldghirl]

I think that you feel that he was being open with you then it is only fair for you to reciprocate. However in my opinion that it’s probably better to do this without (excessive) alcohol being involved. If you didn’t have any issues drunk the chances are you will be just as happy with maybe just a light buzz on.

 

[Rob_Royale]

Just a sexy smile and a quick, "Seemed just fine in me," should be all you need.