All tied up (howto)

[toaster_poet]

My g/f wants me to tie/cuff her to the bed...ive never done it before. Any help out there..?

Nothing to hard to start with, just some stuff we can enjoy.

 

[Wizard]

http://www.bedroombondage.com/bondageu/drbondage/basictechniques.html


http://www.iland.net/~jbritton/KnotPhoto SingleLoop Knots.html#Bowline


http://www.earlham.edu/~peters/knotlink.htm

http://members.aol.com/lolitassc/ropebasics.html

http://www.ropeforpleasure.com/RopeApplication.html

http://members.aol.com/lolitassc/breast.html


Check them out. You can start out by tieing her spread eagel with arms and legs streched out and tied to the coner of the bed. You can start with old neck ties or ribbon if you would rather start light.

I don't care for cuffs myself cause they can "Bite" if they are to tiight and ruin the moment. Make sure you don't tie to tight , you don't want to cut off the blood flow. (This also can ruin the time you have)
Start out slow, have fun and enjoy.........

 

[emer]

Just my two cents ... start with tying just her hands. If she likes it, she'll be begging you to tie her ankles too!

emer

 

[SexyChele]

I'm with emer on this one. For a first time, I would suggest just tying her hands. Test out what you will be using to tie her with. Some things can actually tighten more when there is struggling, making the event totally uncomfortable. Also, if you tie something into a knot, be careful that it doesn't become too difficult to untie. You can have this problem with scarves. The knots get so tiny sometimes, you might have difficulty getting her out!

Also, check out places like Home Depot or your local WalMart. You would be surprised at what little surprises await in the camping section!

 

[toaster_poet]

What about those fuzzy handcuffs?

My girl seems to want those. I dont know if its because we are unexperienced or because she wants more.....i mean she loves her ass slapped during doggy-style.

Plus i would be afraid that with scarves I would knot them....im thinking ties......

 

[Etoile]

toaster_poet, don't be afraid to just sit down and talk about this. The conversation doesn't have to be in the context of being about to do something. Hell, talk about it while you're out at a restaurant, scare the people around you!

One of my favorite beginner-type items is Jane's Bonds. These are soft fabric cuffs lined with fake fur, and they have 3-foot nylon webbing straps (like on a backpack). They're $30/pair through Blowfish or you can find similar items at other online (and brick-and-mortar, if you live in the right area) sex shops.

 

[toaster_poet]

Etoile, you are my new best friend....Thank you for being really helpful on all my posts....

You made my whole transition into the Litboards alot easier.....

thanks
-toasty

 

[SexyChele]

I like Etoile's suggestion! I've seen those cuffs and straps, and they look perfect for beginners!

Toaster_Poet, don't sweat the details. Think of what turns you on. Sounds like you both like to slap her ass. That's great, if you tie her facedown. That has lots of advantages. How about adding a blindfold? I always thought one of those big ostrich feathers that you can buy in a costume shop or craft store would be fun to play with.

Something just off the top of my head: Tie her wrists to the bed and blindfold her. Get together a bunch of things from around the house that have different textures. A feather duster. A fuzzy robe. Ice. Rubber spatula. Sponge. Chocolate syrup. Your imagination is your limitation. Use various things on various parts of her body. Feather duster on sides. Rubber spatula gently slapping the bottoms of her feet. Damp (warm!) sponge along her cheek. Ice on her nipples. Chocolate syrup on her pussy. See what works. See what doesn't. Have her try to guess what the item is. Place generous kisses and licks all over her body in between items. When she begs you to fuck her, leave her blindfolded and tied. Or not. It's up to you.

 

[Desdemona]

Toaster_Poet, the important thing is to take your time, be safe, and have fun! I have fleece lined leather restraints that I bought on ebay for about $35.00 a couple of months ago. We place them on so that they are snug, but you can slip at least 1 finger between the restraint and my skin (don't want to cut off circulation, you know).


Chele, the feather thing is incredible. Trust me. Someone once said its like liquid sex. Thats as good a description as I could imagine.

hmmmmm, I'm squirming in my chair just from remembering the feeling of being bound, blindfolded and having the feather used on me (among other things).

 

[maverickstud]

How to Avoid Looking Like a Geek

I'm with emer on this one. For a first time, I would suggest just tying her hands. Test out what you will be using to tie her with. Some things can actually tighten more when there is struggling, making the event totally uncomfortable. Also, if you tie something into a knot, be careful that it doesn't become too difficult to untie. You can have this problem with scarves. The knots get so tiny sometimes, you might have difficulty getting her out!

Also, check out places like Home Depot or your local WalMart. You would be surprised at what little surprises await in the camping section!

Okay, okay, just a second while I pick myself up off the floor from rolling around laughing. Chele, I must say I'm impressed by your ability to "think of EVERYthing". You're hilariously accurate about the need for him to be careful with knots - it really looks bad if you tie someone up, and then can't get them UNtied. Oh, God, I can just picture it - so much for being suave and debonair after that!

Still smiling,
Jack

 

[SexyChele]

Re: How to Avoid Looking Like a Geek

Okay, okay, just a second while I pick myself up off the floor from rolling around laughing. Chele, I must say I'm impressed by your ability to "think of EVERYthing". You're hilariously accurate about the need for him to be careful with knots - it really looks bad if you tie someone up, and then can't get them UNtied. Oh, God, I can just picture it - so much for being suave and debonair after that!

Still smiling,
Jack

You're welcome for the laugh!

Of course, I would like to say I'd only read/heard about the incident of knots happening, but unfortunately I had to live through that one! Yeah, silk scarves have a tendency to tighten up after some, ah, very physical play. As I recall, the conversation went something like this:

He: "Okay, just let me get these untied."

Me: "Um, what's taking so long? Having trouble?"

He: "No, not at all. Just a little tight, that's all. Have you out in a minute."

Me: "You sure you got it there? I, ah, have to use the restroom, so I need you to hurry."

He: "Just a sec - I think I got it. FUCK! Shit!"

Me: "What's wrong?! I gotta go now!"

He: "Nothing. I thought I had it, but it slipped through my fingers. Try to hold it, will you? I'll be done in a sec. And stop that wiggling!"

Me: "I can't help it. My bladder is gonna explode! Hurry up!"

He: "Well, I can't quite get it with you yelling at me. Calm down!"

Me: "Calm down?!?! I'm tied to the bed permanently and you want me to calm down?!?!"

He: "There, almost.....SHIT! Goddamn it! FUCK!

Me: "Hey! Get the fuck back here and get me out of this!"

He: "Wait, I need to get the scissors and cut you out."

Me: "WHAT!?!?! Are you crazy?? This is one of my best silk scarves!?!!?"



Yeah. Something like that....

 

[maverickstud]

Re: How to Avoid Looking Like a Geek

Chele - Me, worst I ever did was...lose the key to the handcuffs. My ravishing (well, at the time, ravished) partner somehow failed to appreciate the humor when I mumbled something about a "hacksaw". In my defense, hey, that's a damn small key, and besides, I had infinitely more important things to attend to than keeping up with it. I found it in less than five minutes, but I was glad we were all done playing, 'cause, yeah, that kind of thing is a definite mood-killer.
As your recounting of your own "adventure" illustrated so beautifully, one has to appreciate the humor of the dialogue exchange that transpires at such moments.

"I've got to be home by midnight."

"What? You're going to turn into a pumpkin? It's got to be here someplace - it's not like I took it into the kitchen and made myself a sandwich. It's here...in the bed...somewhere. Or on the floor. Or...well, it's in this room."

"Well then, find it."

"I'm looking. You could stop bitching and help, you know."

"Hellloooo....I'm the one handcuffed to the headboard! I have a pretty limited field of vision from here, and I can only move the covers around with my feet."

"If you're not going to be nice, I'm going to stop looking."

"Oh, for God's sake!"

Still, those velcro cuffs, on the other hand, are so cheesy. I mean, it's like we all know that she could get out of THOSE by herself anytime she feels like it.

Have fun,
Jack