❓ PLP Inquires❓

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I’ve whittled down quite a bit, especially the men, and especially the men who really don’t want to be a part of my tangible life. So, I hesitate before becoming friends with a man.

Women? I stick to about 8 ladies here. Maybe 10? I’ve met a few of them, and I would eagerly meet the rest.
Only one was a dud.
I’m talking real life friends. Who know my voice and my last name and my kids and when I have my period. Who have heard me laugh and cry.

I’m friendlier with a lot of the women here, more so than the men, but recently I’ve drawn back on that. I end up liking people, then realize they maybe wanted to befriend me to see if I’m talking to their man. So, that’s kind of a bummer, but meh.

I’m not. Not like that. I’m happy. And I don’t want your man.

I can name names. I’m pretty proud of my friends list. They are the best.

OK, so I am trying to wrap my head around the fact that not only have you actually had a single female become friendly with you just to see if you are talking with "their man". (Like seriously, that doesn't actually happen, it is just urban Lit legend, right....seriously?) But then you are using words like "women" and "they", meaning plural, you think this may have happened multiple times? I have questions. How many times are we talking? What are you doing to attract the attention of the bunny boilers?

And now, I am reminded that over the years, I have gotten a few messages from completely unknown women asking my thoughts on a man and basic interaction questions. To me, it sounded as if they were trying to gauge if the guys was creeptastic or not. In all of these cases, I barely had an opinion as it was just random board interactions and occasional superficial emails. I have absolutely no clue why these women picked me to ask these questions of, maybe they were doing a poll of female flashers, no idea, didn't ask, didn't care, just provided an answer to their questions like "um he seems nice enough, he hasn't said anything creepy to me. I really haven't talked with him though, but he seems perfectly pleasant. Have fun." You know, for their peace of mind or their poll or whatever the hell they were doing . Was I actually talking to wackadoo bunny boilers trying to see if I was talking to "their man" and not just weird chicks asking random questions of other weird chicks? That's a really disturbing thought. Well, damn, next time that happens, I am answering with a crazy ass story of how awesome they are and telling them all about our plans to meet up at hotel bumblefuck for a mindblowing kinky chained gang bang in the hotel lobby, yeah the hotel staff are participating, then finish up the evening with rousing rounds of alligator wrestling and cow tipping. That might be interesting.

 

[AlwaysFara]

OK, so I am trying to wrap my head around the fact that not only have you actually had a single female become friendly with you just to see if you are talking with "their man". (Like seriously, that doesn't actually happen, it is just urban Lit legend, right....seriously?) But then you are using words like "women" and "they", meaning plural, you think this may have happened multiple times? I have questions. How many times are we talking? What are you doing to attract the attention of the bunny boilers?

And now, I am reminded that over the years, I have gotten a few messages from completely unknown women asking my thoughts on a man and basic interaction questions. To me, it sounded as if they were trying to gauge if the guys was creeptastic or not. In all of these cases, I barely had an opinion as it was just random board interactions and occasional superficial emails. I have absolutely no clue why these women picked me to ask these questions of, maybe they were doing a poll of female flashers, no idea, didn't ask, didn't care, just provided an answer to their questions like "um he seems nice enough, he hasn't said anything creepy to me. I really haven't talked with him though, but he seems perfectly pleasant. Have fun." You know, for their peace of mind or their poll or whatever the hell they were doing . Was I actually talking to wackadoo bunny boilers trying to see if I was talking to "their man" and not just weird chicks asking random questions of other weird chicks? That's a really disturbing thought. Well, damn, next time that happens, I am answering with a crazy ass story of how awesome they are and telling them all about our plans to meet up at hotel bumblefuck for a mindblowing kinky chained gang bang in the hotel lobby, yeah the hotel staff are participating, then finish up the evening with rousing rounds of alligator wrestling and cow tipping. That might be interesting.

What am *I* doing?

Being me.

Not my fault if they are insecure.
Or yours.

 

[Paul_Chance]

11.11.19

Friendship Stables

There's been a lot of talk about sexy stables lately but what about the idea of friendship stables? In Lit or life, do you feel like there are people whose goal is to know as many people as possible regardless of who they are, commonality, etc? Are you one of those people? What makes you hesitate before befriending someone? Has your experience on Lit made you think differently or more deeply about friendships?

The only thing that will make me hesitate before befriending someone is drug/alcohol dependency or abuse. (I have nothing against the use of either - but there is a line that crosses into the unhealthy.)

There are definitely people who befriend everyone (in the working world, we call that building your networks). I'm one of them - if my interaction is anything more that casual, I learn as much as I can about the person quickly.

I look at friendship as happening in a set of concentric circles. In the inner circle are my close personal friends (LOL - my ride or die homies). In the second circle are people whose lives I'm intertwined with, whom I socialize with regularly, either personally or professionally. The third circle is people I know and socialize with, but infrequently. People often, over the course of life, rotate in and out of circles.

Lit really hasn't made me rethink my concepts of, or approach to, friendship.

11.12.19

With holidays fast approaching, are you an early shoppers or a wait to the last minute kind of person?

All done with shopping (I usually do it through the year, so by the time I reach the holiday season, I already have what I am giving people, and just box it up and ship it out. Works best for me.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

What am *I* doing?

Being me.

Not my fault if they are insecure.
Or yours.

Well, apparently being you grabs some attention.

I was actually just teasing, obviously it is no more your fault than the fact that it is chilly today is, though I will admit my first thought was wondering if maybe you weren't possibly reading a little too deep into those interactions, and obviously my second fault was, well wait, damn, she probably isn't. That is disturbing.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Well, apparently being you grabs some attention.

I was actually just teasing, obviously it is no more your fault than the fact that it is chilly today is, though I will admit my first thought was wondering if maybe you weren't possibly reading a little too deep into those interactions, and obviously my second fault was, well wait, damn, she probably isn't. That is disturbing.

I have no game or mojo anymore. This is all past stuff.

 

[Apisto42]

I have no game or mojo anymore. This is all past stuff.

You still have mojo. Cause you make my banana dance

 

[AlwaysFara]

You still have mojo. Cause you make my banana dance

I think a light breeze would do the same, stud muffin.

 

[Apisto42]

Totally depends on who is generating that breeze...

 

[AveryElle]

Totally depends on who is generating that breeze...

Must not have been breezy at the coffee shop!
<feels left out>


<no, not really>

 

[Mei5ter]

11.11.19

Friendship Stables

There's been a lot of talk about sexy stables lately but what about the idea of friendship stables? In Lit or life, do you feel like there are people whose goal is to know as many people as possible regardless of who they are, commonality, etc? Are you one of those people? What makes you hesitate before befriending someone? Has your experience on Lit made you think differently or more deeply about friendships?

Interesting how Lit friendships show themselves, in comparison with another amateur site which I won't name. There, friendships are publicly expressed. It's more like Facebook. You send a friend request, and it can be accepted or not. Anyone who views your profile can see who your friends are. You needn't be someone's friend in order to message them, but you get notifications of what they're up to and there are other practical advantages too..

But the other main thing was that you could tell a lot about someone by their friends list. It was a great way of weeding out alts and fake profiles. Building up and maintaining friendships mattered. It showed you belonged. Once you had friends in the community it was far more likely that you'd make more.

Lit is very different. I have no idea who people are, who likes or dislikes whom, who is talking to whom, who can't keep a secret, who is maintaining a stable, who litfucks anything with a pulse...nothing. Just what one can glean from thread posts, really.

Beyond the threads, where I'll post with most, I have made a handful of friends here, most of whom I don't stay in touch with as regularly as I should, but whose friendship goes far beyond Lit. They cross over into lots of other areas of my life and make it better by doing so. There may be a ton of horse shit in this place, but that's where a few roses bloom.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

11.15.19

Do you have a good imagination? Do you think imagination is useful in terms of sexuality? Is imagination important to you?

 

[HappyToBeAlive]

11.15.19

Do you have a good imagination? Do you think imagination is useful in terms of sexuality? Is imagination important to you?

Yes, Yes, Yes...

I have come up with most of my fantasies before I read/watch about them... For me, my imagination has always been my favorite playground... I have invited my wife to it a couple of times... sharing stories about trips that become sexual... Many times while I masturbate, I use those playgrounds to find something to work with...

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

11.15.19

Do you have a good imagination? Do you think imagination is useful in terms of sexuality? Is imagination important to you?

I do not believe that I have a good imagination, however others disagree. I do indeed think is useful in terms of sexuality, as a way to continue to add variety especially. I would say it is slightly important. It is on the list, but below many other things.

 

[RcyMtnGrl]

11.11.19
Friendship Stables
There's been a lot of talk about sexy stables lately but what about the idea of friendship stables? In Lit or life, do you feel like there are people whose goal is to know as many people as possible regardless of who they are, commonality, etc? Are you one of those people? What makes you hesitate before befriending someone? Has your experience on Lit made you think differently or more deeply about friendships?

I’m a fairly friendly person, my job has made me interact with a wide variety of people but I find over time some “fall by the wayside” if you will and others remain consistent. People I reach out to daily, or at least every few days. Someone else mentioned a close inner circle of homies, I have very few in that circle. And then lots in the next two circles. I don’t think I’m any different with Lit friends than I am IRL friends.

11.12.19
With holidays fast approaching, are you an early shoppers or a wait to the last minute kind of person?

I’m usually a bit of both, start early when I find the right thing but end up running around in the end for the remaining. This year, despite having the time to shop with being off work, I haven’t had the budget to shop so I am way behind!

11.15.19
Do you have a good imagination? Do you think imagination is useful in terms of sexuality? Is imagination important to you?

Imagination, creativity and spontaneity are all important, especially in a long term relationship. I do have a good imagination!

 

[TTawhere]

11.15.19

Do you have a good imagination? Do you think imagination is useful in terms of sexuality? Is imagination important to you?

Hell, yeah. Yes, very useful. Imagination is important to my life both personally and professionally - I often get asked to imagine the impossible and make it happen.

 

[LisaMisteriosa]

11.15.19

Do you have a good imagination? Do you think imagination is useful in terms of sexuality? Is imagination important to you?

God yes - I have much more intense orgasms when I'm lost in my own imagination...

 

[barefootgirl69]

11.15.19

Do you have a good imagination? Do you think imagination is useful in terms of sexuality? Is imagination important to you?

Yes, it usually gets me into trouble.

Of course it's useful...otherwise it would be boring. Once you've teased and put some naughty thoughts into his mind...well, anything could happen, yes?

It's very important to me. I like to be teased and think about naughty things, too.

 

[AlpineFresco]

11.15.19

Do you have a good imagination? Do you think imagination is useful in terms of sexuality? Is imagination important to you?

Yes, I do. I'm a very visual person, and I think it's extremely useful in terms of sexuality. Imagination is being to spin out fantasies in different ways, being able to think of what you might like, what you might do. It's being able to plot out stories. It's fairly critical for anything over distance, because if you cannot touch each other often then being able to imagine, or use imagination to further play out memories into new situations, keeps things exciting.

So yes, it's also important to me that someone I'm with can do this.

Now the downside is sometimes you imagine things you don't want to, so knowing how to distract yourself is useful too.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

11.19.19

Simply question.

Favorite meal side dish.

 

[Apisto42]

11.19.19

Simply question.

Favorite meal side dish.

Simple answer: fried rice

 

[RcyMtnGrl]

11.19.19

Simply question.

Favorite meal side dish.

Steamed broccoli

 

[RcyMtnGrl]

Potato - mashed or roasted or pan fried or hash brown’d

They’re so versatile!!

Ohhhh. I might have to change mine!

Now I want mashed potatoes. Or a baked potato.

 

[AveryElle]

11.15.19

Do you have a good imagination? Do you think imagination is useful in terms of sexuality? Is imagination important to you?

I’m too pragmatic for my own good. I’m not very creative or imaginative. WRT sexuality and imagination, I’m not one to role play or anything like that. I don’t do well with ‘scenes’.

I envy the imaginative - it must be lovely!

 

[AveryElle]

11.19.19

Simply question.

Favorite meal side dish.

Mashed potatoes or buttered, salted corn in the middle of summer. Tied with tomato, basil, and mozz salad in the summer.

Fuck I’m hungry

 

[Apisto42]

Mashed potatoes or buttered, salted corn in the middle of summer. Tied with tomato, basil, and mozz salad in the summer.

Fuck I’m hungry

I thought you were going to say “coffee”.