What exactly turns you on about your wife or girlfriend being with another man? Past or Present?

I was thinking about this topic and looked for this thread ….. as I’ve posted before, when I met my present, long-term gf she was coming out of a “passionless marriage”. She discovered her then husband had been cheating on her and that was it. She moved out, moved on and started making up for lost time …… her “Kid in a Candy Store” phase. I mean, she was hooking up with a lot of men.

Perhaps it was because we had just met, or I was “competing” for her, or it was just good, new, NSA sex for me, too ….. whatever; I didn’t mind. In fact, she was quite open about the fact that she occassionally needed to be incommunicado for a few days every now & then. No problem. I knew I’d be seeing her again and when we got back together, we’d have some serious, lustful sex.

One thing she shared with me was that at least a couple of these guys had smaller cocks than I and she loved having them fuck her ass. But plead as I might, she would never let me do that to her. Still to this day she won’t even let me try. I did try one time and and she became very upset with me ….. ended THAT session, pronto! ….. but I digress …..

From the outset, I was always intrigued and turned on by the fact notion of her sport-fucking. I just loved the idea of her pursuing and satisfying her carnal desires. And I was only too happy to participate. I would think about the dicks that had been in her pussy as I eagerly licked her to sloppy orgasms. I would watch the lustful look upon her face, in her eyes as I penetrated her and slid my cock in and out of her and imagine all the other cocks she had enjoyed.

Truth is, I think about that to this day, almost every time we have sex. Sometimes I’ll bring it up & we’ll talk about it while we’re fucking. I thrill to the idea that she might be thinking the same thoughts, although she denies having sexual fantasies or thinking of sexual things when we’re fucking (LIAR!!! … LOL!) and says she’s just enjoying how it feels ….

I’ve told her about my desire for her to indulge in and even pursue her fantasies but she won’t, or is reluctant to share them with me. (Yes, I do accept that she may actually be being honest about that, but I rather doubt it ….).

I have gifted her with several massages and at least one of those was with a masseur. Whether male or female, I take pleasure in knowing she is enjoying it and imagine what it could lead to. It doesn’t worry me or make me jealous that she is receiving physical pleasure at the hands of another. In fact, the one male massage I know of, I actually REQUESTED a masseur for her. Later, I asked her if she enjoyed it and she said she did. I teased her about whether she got a Happy Ending and she just rolled her eyes. I asked her if he was handsome or well-built, what he looked like. I asked if she’d noticed whether he got hard during the massage …. She down-played all of my inquiries but later, we did have great sex …. probably initiated by me and the visual fantasy I’D created.

The point is, the idea of HER sexual pleasure is a HUGE turn-on for me. I am certain I am a “Wannabe Stag” and she is my coveted Vixen. Last Christmas I actually bought her a holiday t-shirt with a reindeer image and “Vixen” written on it. I don’t think she’s made the connection ….. yet. 😉 I almost bought myself a “stag horns” image shirt, too but stopped short of that! Definitely not ready for the upside down pineapple shirt …..

I am comfortable with that and I know I’m not a “Cuckold” who desires humiliation. I definitely don’t. In fact, one of my fondest desires is to actually find a “Bull” with a smaller cock who might satisfy my desires and her longing for a nice, long ass-fucking. That is why I’d love to watch my gf (not wife) be with another man.

Sorry for the long, drawn-out post …..
The point is, the idea of HER sexual pleasure is a HUGE turn-on for me. I am certain I am a “Wannabe Stag” and she is my coveted Vixen. Last Christmas I actually bought her a holiday t-shirt with a reindeer image and “Vixen” written on it. I don’t think she’s made the connection ….. yet. 😉 I almost bought myself a “stag horns” image shirt, too but stopped short of that! Definitely not ready for the upside down pineapple shirt …

I’d like to piggyback off Beachsyrf’s post. Especially the quote I highlighted. HER pleasure. This is what drove it for me. I’ve posted our little sexual renaissance in other threads, so wont focus on it here but when she decided to open up our marriage, what would have been off putting a few years earlier, on closer introspection, I realized it was for her and my feelings changed.

Having said all that, when menopause hit full force and the door slammed shut, she doesn’t pursue the fantasy anymore, and now neither one of us really “get off” to the thought of her being shared now. Not sure what that says, but I circle back to her pleasure. Now that it’s off the table, it’s not a turn on.
 
Here’s one I like; amateur Asian wifey clearly enjoying her hung bull while stag hubby watches & records.

https://xhamster.com/videos/young-wife-gets-pounded-by-bull-while-cuckold-watches-xhBMS5R

One aspect of this video that I like is that hubby also has a nice cock but is shaved smooth.
This signifies his submissiveness ….. to the bull AND her …..

Here’s some later action from the same (?) session ….

https://xhamster.com/videos/hotwife-rides-bwc-bull-and-ignores-cuck-trying-to-get-in-xh1GY9y
 
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Well as I’ve gotten older I don’t preform as well as I used to and I think she misses the sex. We play with toys but it’s still not the same.
If she wanted or needed the real thing occasionally I’d understand
 
I was thinking about this topic and looked for this thread ….. as I’ve posted before, when I met my present, long-term gf she was coming out of a “passionless marriage”. She discovered her then husband had been cheating on her and that was it. She moved out, moved on and started making up for lost time …… her “Kid in a Candy Store” phase. I mean, she was hooking up with a lot of men.

Perhaps it was because we had just met, or I was “competing” for her, or it was just good, new, NSA sex for me, too ….. whatever; I didn’t mind. In fact, she was quite open about the fact that she occassionally needed to be incommunicado for a few days every now & then. No problem. I knew I’d be seeing her again and when we got back together, we’d have some serious, lustful sex.

One thing she shared with me was that at least a couple of these guys had smaller cocks than I and she loved having them fuck her ass. But plead as I might, she would never let me do that to her. Still to this day she won’t even let me try. I did try one time and and she became very upset with me ….. ended THAT session, pronto! ….. but I digress …..

From the outset, I was always intrigued and turned on by the fact notion of her sport-fucking. I just loved the idea of her pursuing and satisfying her carnal desires. And I was only too happy to participate. I would think about the dicks that had been in her pussy as I eagerly licked her to sloppy orgasms. I would watch the lustful look upon her face, in her eyes as I penetrated her and slid my cock in and out of her and imagine all the other cocks she had enjoyed.

Truth is, I think about that to this day, almost every time we have sex. Sometimes I’ll bring it up & we’ll talk about it while we’re fucking. I thrill to the idea that she might be thinking the same thoughts, although she denies having sexual fantasies or thinking of sexual things when we’re fucking (LIAR!!! … LOL!) and says she’s just enjoying how it feels ….

I’ve told her about my desire for her to indulge in and even pursue her fantasies but she won’t, or is reluctant to share them with me. (Yes, I do accept that she may actually be being honest about that, but I rather doubt it ….).

I have gifted her with several massages and at least one of those was with a masseur. Whether male or female, I take pleasure in knowing she is enjoying it and imagine what it could lead to. It doesn’t worry me or make me jealous that she is receiving physical pleasure at the hands of another. In fact, the one male massage I know of, I actually REQUESTED a masseur for her. Later, I asked her if she enjoyed it and she said she did. I teased her about whether she got a Happy Ending and she just rolled her eyes. I asked her if he was handsome or well-built, what he looked like. I asked if she’d noticed whether he got hard during the massage …. She down-played all of my inquiries but later, we did have great sex …. probably initiated by me and the visual fantasy I’D created.

The point is, the idea of HER sexual pleasure is a HUGE turn-on for me. I am certain I am a “Wannabe Stag” and she is my coveted Vixen. Last Christmas I actually bought her a holiday t-shirt with a reindeer image and “Vixen” written on it. I don’t think she’s made the connection ….. yet. 😉 I almost bought myself a “stag horns” image shirt, too but stopped short of that! Definitely not ready for the upside down pineapple shirt …..

I am comfortable with that and I know I’m not a “Cuckold” who desires humiliation. I definitely don’t. In fact, one of my fondest desires is to actually find a “Bull” with a smaller cock who might satisfy my desires and her longing for a nice, long ass-fucking. That is why I’d love to watch my gf (not wife) be with another man.

Sorry for the long, drawn-out post …..
Great story
 
I think it’s just seeing how she’s different with other men. I don’t mean necessarily more slutty or submissive (though it can be that). It’s just that different partners do different things and bring out different sides of her.

I once watched a man kissing my wife for … ten, fifteen minutes? Doing nothing more than kissing her while stroking her ass. They were both fully clothed the whole time. And it was a wild turn on for me.
I am a hj fanatic. Not sure but if she had went further stroking his cock whether that would turn you on...I know that would really be hot for me.

And what brought about them kissing?
 
I've had cuckold fantasies for years and it finally became reality 3 1/2 months ago. I haven't yet watched but soon that'll happen.
Now that it's real several aspects turn me on.
Knowing she is having the best sex of her life and seems like both her and her new man can't get enough of each other is a turn on. Other things like him being significant larger than me, his stamina, recovery time, him being an dominant alpha male, exploring different positions that I can't do because of my lack of size, wearing a tiny dome cage.

I know it's strange but I get aroused knowing I can't and never have satisfied her with intercourse. Not being able to have intercourse or receiving bj's from her now with our sex life consisting of handjobs with hot talking and me going down on her.
Knowing that they're much more than fuck buddies and do a lot together outside the bedroom.

Her doing things with him she doesn't do with me. She loves sucking his cock for long sessions with him regularly cumming in her mouth and her swallowing. Her learning to deep throat, Him playing with her ass with a glass dildo and soon he'll be taking her anal virginity after never allowing me even though I have a small thin penis compared to his longer thicker cock.
Now that it's all happening I now know I was made to be a cuckold.
Do you lick up his cum?
 
How she touches another man's cock the way she touches you is a turn on plus the differences.
I saw that in my ex after we arranged to meet some guy. All happened in my car as I watched.

Just how she played and teased him during the make out before she exposed his cock. And then her excitement upon touching another man's cock the first time in 2 years. The sounds of her and the things she said just so hot!
 
For me the idea of her being with someone else in an intimate way is a big turn on. We have been talking about it for a long time and she has now agreed to meet people. My fantasy is more on what if she gets involved emotionally with him, how would she react? Would love to see her in such a situation..
 
I've always been fascinated with big Dick porn.
When my wife admitted she had a friend with benefits for years up until we started dating with an absolutely monster Dick, It was a blow to my sexual ego but I was also unbelievably aroused.

Whenever I see a woman taking a huge black Dick I think of my wife in that position and have encouraged her to revisit him if she wanted to.
Its become the most intense fantasy I have. Would have never ever thought I would have a fantasy like that.
The knowledge that my wife had a black ex with a huge cock is a real turn-on for me. I often fantasies about him fucking her right in front of me.
 
I would love to see her head over heels for a much younger man with a big dick. I’d love to see her sex starved for days, horny, wet, cock hungry for him and saving herself for him. Watch her go out of way seduce him with such determination.

I’d love for her to call him one day just strictly sex. She invites him over to our home and she answers the door in a robe. As soon the door shuts the robe comes off and she’s in lingerie for him. She walks him to the bedroom and from there my imagination takes off.

Knowing my wife makes it even better. Knowing how driven she can be to get something she wants. Being pretty and using her looks, physique and attire. I know she would get a thrill for teaching a young boy toy with a big dick how to fuck properly.
Does that mean you like to watch her with him or be involved somewhere?
 
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