Unable to climax while sitting on his face…advice needed.

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Despite many many tries, I’m unable to climax while riding my partner’s face. I’ve tried sitting facing different directions, no affect. In general I love having my pussy worshipped, so I’d love some tips for how to climax in this position.
 
Despite many many tries, I’m unable to climax while riding my partner’s face. I’ve tried sitting facing different directions, no affect. In general I love having my pussy worshipped, so I’d love some tips for how to climax in this position.
Maybe he isn't building up the pleasure and anticipation correctly. Maybe you aren't feeling it with him, the desire, the comfortable submission. A steady, patient method generally works. It could take some time, but it may have more to do with you than your partner. Extra stimulation is always a plus
 
Just agreeing with that to some extent and obviously I'm no expert on the physical side, but I daresay there's a risk that you get in your head about it and place ever more pressure on the big climactic moment - especially with every occasion that it doesn't happen. And presumably the more you're focused on that, and stressed mentally about it happening, the less likely it is to actually happen.

So counterintuitively, I think it's important to focus on just generally enjoying it - the indulgence, the pleasure and closeness and sensuality of what you're doing - with less emphasis on climax being the be all and end all
 
Just agreeing with that to some extent and obviously I'm no expert on the physical side, but I daresay there's a risk that you get in your head about it and place ever more pressure on the big climactic moment - especially with every occasion that it doesn't happen. And presumably the more you're focused on that, and stressed mentally about it happening, the less likely it is to actually happen.

So counterintuitively, I think it's important to focus on just generally enjoying it - the indulgence, the pleasure and closeness and sensuality of what you're doing - with less emphasis on climax being the be all and end all
Celticlight, you’re so right. I do end up in my head and tense…though I also enjoy it. I hate performance pressure though, it’s a turn off for me.
 
Maybe he isn't building up the pleasure and anticipation correctly. Maybe you aren't feeling it with him, the desire, the comfortable submission. A steady, patient method generally works. It could take some time, but it may have more to do with you than your partner. Extra stimulation is always a plus
Poeticwolf, I agree with all of your analysis. Thx
 
Celticlight, you’re so right. I do end up in my head and tense…though I also enjoy it. I hate performance pressure though, it’s a turn off for me.
I couldn't agree more - as much as possible I feel like it's important to be in a relaxed, enabling environment when you're being intimate with someone - it's always so much fun finding how things can develop with the right person in those circumstances :)

So if there are things that both your partner and you can do to help with easing your own tension or being in your head at that time, then all the better. That can be physical on his part, or it could be in how you speak to each other, or touch one another, even how you breathe and relax. As much as possible I daresay you want to be completely in the moment, lost in how nice it feels and the physical and aural sensation of it. Rather than 'I hope it goes this way.. oh, no, it's not working, why do you always tense up like this' etc etc.

As much as possible, it's very much worth focusing on how much you're enjoying it, right in that moment, and closing off other thoughts where you can - because God knows it must be a delightful situation to be in, for both of you 🔥 May as well enjoy that to the full
 
Despite many many tries, I’m unable to climax while riding my partner’s face. I’ve tried sitting facing different directions, no affect. In general I love having my pussy worshipped, so I’d love some tips for how to climax in this position.
Maybe give my face a try? Just here to help :love:
 
I think part of it is feeling unbalanced, like I’m going to fall over…so I don’t really relax into the moment
 
Despite many many tries, I’m unable to climax while riding my partner’s face. I’ve tried sitting facing different directions, no affect. In general I love having my pussy worshipped, so I’d love some tips for how to climax in this position.
As someone that would be doing the licking it is very hard to eat the pussy properly in that position. Having the woman on her back I always get any woman I done it to to cum.
 
I can see how 'just switch off entirely and enjoy the moment' might not be compatible with 'at any moment you might topple over if you don't keep balancing'. 😅

I daresay some sort of supportive or stabilising pillows for your legs, or something to that effect, may help to reduce the latter. But when we're getting to that sort of detail then I really should defer to the experts!
 
I think it definitely is tougher to get in the perfect position for both. Being "the face" I have found it helps to have maybe a couple pillows under my head so it is off the mattress a bit higher and a bit of an angle.
 
I can see how 'just switch off entirely and enjoy the moment' might not be compatible with 'at any moment you might topple over if you don't keep balancing'. 😅

I daresay some sort of supportive or stabilising pillows for your legs, or something to that effect, may help to reduce the latter. But when we're getting to that sort of detail then I really should defer to the experts!
Yeah the toppling over fear is very distracting…😵‍💫
 
I think it definitely is tougher to get in the perfect position for both. Being "the face" I have found it helps to have maybe a couple pillows under my head so it is off the mattress a bit higher and a bit of an angle.
That sounds helpful for “the face”…and what about tips for the rider?
 
I can tell you what works for me. On my knees, his head propped on a folded pillow, with my hand on the headboard or wall. I'm stable. I can move backwards and forwards, slide my hips forward and backward and raise or lower myself. I can also reach down and pulls his head up while I push down. I really like him playing with my butt, pulling my cheeks apart, and lower belly, gently pressing and pulling up.

I love this position. Pretty much ride his face every time we fool around in a bed. At some point my husband just smiles and points at his face and I hop on.

It doesn't hurt that I know how much pleasure he gets out of it also.

I really hope this helps.
 
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I can tell you what works for me. On my knees, his head propped on a folded pillow, with my hand on the headboard or wall. I'm stable. I can move backwards and forwards, slide my hips forward and backward and raise or lower myself. I can also reach down and pulls his head up while I push down. I really like him playing with my butt, pulling my cheeks apart, and lower belly, gently pressing and pulling up.

I love this position. Pretty much ride his face every time we fool around in a bed. At some my husband just smiles and points at his face and I hop on.

It doesn't hurt that I know how much pleasure he gets out of it also.

I really hope this helps.

I knew I was right when I said I should defer to the experts 🔥 💯
 
I can tell you what works for me. On my knees, his head propped on a folded pillow, with my hand on the headboard or wall. I'm stable. I can move backwards and forwards, slide my hips forward and backward and raise or lower myself. I can also reach down and pulls his head up while I push down. I really like him playing with my butt, pulling my cheeks apart, and lower belly, gently pressing and pulling up.

I love this position. Pretty much ride his face every time we fool around in a bed. At some my husband just smiles and points at his face and I hop on.

It doesn't hurt that I know how much pleasure he gets out of it also.

I really hope this helps.
Your husband is a very lucky man… this sounds like a dream coming true 👅
 
I can tell you what works for me. On my knees, his head propped on a folded pillow, with my hand on the headboard or wall. I'm stable. I can move backwards and forwards, slide my hips forward and backward and raise or lower myself. I can also reach down and pulls his head up while I push down. I really like him playing with my butt, pulling my cheeks apart, and lower belly, gently pressing and pulling up.

I love this position. Pretty much ride his face every time we fool around in a bed. At some point my husband just smiles and points at his face and I hop on.

It doesn't hurt that I know how much pleasure he gets out of it also.

I really hope this helps.
This is how my wife used to do it when she sat on my face. It was essentially like she was fucking my face. Once she got going, there was little regard for my nose, my breathing, or my pleasure. I just hung on for the ride and tried to keep my tongue as far extended as possible. She would usually hang onto the headboard and rock and roll until she screamed. Sometimes she rode my face reverse cowgirl, but then she generally bent forward and stabilized herself on the bed.

I put this in the past tense because almost always now I worship on my knees while she is sitting, or I am prone on the bed as she sits up against the headboard with legs spread. Sometimes she does lay on the bed, but she is always (as she should be) in a superior position. It is my privilege to bring her to climax. I do miss the days of face-sitting because it is a very submissive position for the male, but she no longer prefers it. Obviously, it is not up to me how (or when) I worship her.

Worshipping her pussy is one of the greatest joys of my life!
 
Despite many many tries, I’m unable to climax while riding my partner’s face. I’ve tried sitting facing different directions, no affect. In general I love having my pussy worshipped, so I’d love some tips for how to climax in this position.
use my face
 
I can tell you what works for me. On my knees, his head propped on a folded pillow, with my hand on the headboard or wall. I'm stable. I can move backwards and forwards, slide my hips forward and backward and raise or lower myself. I can also reach down and pulls his head up while I push down. I really like him playing with my butt, pulling my cheeks apart, and lower belly, gently pressing and pulling up.

I love this position. Pretty much ride his face every time we fool around in a bed. At some point my husband just smiles and points at his face and I hop on.

It doesn't hurt that I know how much pleasure he gets out of it also.

I really hope this helps.
I’ll have to add the butt play next time, that’s a nice added touch ~ good idea! As well as grabbing his head. Need to incorporate this as well. Sounds great!
 
I rode his face today, and again didn’t climax…then I laid down and he worshipped me while prone, and that’s when I was able to climax. I’m wondering if maybe when I’m riding him, he’s just not hitting high enough on my clit & that’s the reason I’m not climaxing….hmmm
 
This is how my wife used to do it when she sat on my face. It was essentially like she was fucking my face. Once she got going, there was little regard for my nose, my breathing, or my pleasure. I just hung on for the ride and tried to keep my tongue as far extended as possible. She would usually hang onto the headboard and rock and roll until she screamed. Sometimes she rode my face reverse cowgirl, but then she generally bent forward and stabilized herself on the bed.

I put this in the past tense because almost always now I worship on my knees while she is sitting, or I am prone on the bed as she sits up against the headboard with legs spread. Sometimes she does lay on the bed, but she is always (as she should be) in a superior position. It is my privilege to bring her to climax. I do miss the days of face-sitting because it is a very submissive position for the male, but she no longer prefers it. Obviously, it is not up to me how (or when) I worship her.

Worshipping her pussy is one of the greatest joys of my life!
Did you ever ask her why she didn’t want to ride your face anymore?
 
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