Depression. It's a silent killer.

[Wetkitty09]

Another bump.
One of the practices I use when my depression starts nagging at me is
Stop. Take a deep breath. Look around. Tell myself that the only time I have is RIGHT Now.
I find something to be grateful for. Even if it’s just that I can see with my eyes.
Everyone looks for the big things to be grateful for when really it’s the small stuff that gets you through a day.
Be safe out there. Love you.

 

[Wetkitty09]

I wish I have someone to tell all the bad stuff happened!

I have this trauma from my childhood
Even if I get a little sad
All that hits and makes me depressed and ruins the whole week
I spent many nights under blanket, crying, pulling my hair and in shower!

You can PM me if you like. I tend to be on and off during the day but I’ll check in when I can.

 

[MiaBabe23]

Touching grass always helps me; not a cure, but views, the sounds of birdsong or water, bring a different perspective.
As does being among crowds, and chatting or listening to others chatting.
Pick up games or any other form of activity are good. Music and writing too, in a cathartic way.
Friends, family too; to some extent. Probably the best thing is doing something for someone else, even if it’s something really minor.
Plus guilty sensual pleasures - chocolate, weed, alcohol, (all within limits obviously) and sexual sensuality of course.
Something of a brain dump list, but if I go a day with none of the above, my mood is invariably worse.

 

[gran_pron]

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[DeerTrace118]

I have good days and then bad months it seems. I have recently started to reconnect with some people that have really helped me out in the past that I totally went silent on. Some I just can’t because I caused them way too much pain in the past and don’t think they are up for another roller coaster. What has helped lately: Not drinking, running or working out in the morning, and actually making my therapy sessions. I have also developed a passion for reading. It has helped me more than anything.

I’m glad you kept this going @Wetkitty09 Really a topic that doesn’t get discussed as much as it should. Hope everyone has a great day.

 

[ConfusinglyDelerious]

Gonna bump this one, just so @Wetkitty09 doesn't have to do it later

 

[Ajjay_Annita]

Been there.

 

[ConfusinglyDelerious]

Been there.

Still her afterwards though. That's the bit that really matters

 

[Ajjay_Annita]

Still her afterwards though. That's the bit that really matters

Still depressed . Not getting enough energy to come out

 

[Wetkitty09]

Gonna bump this one, just so @Wetkitty09 doesn't have to do it later

Thank you.

 

[Wetkitty09]

Still depressed . Not getting enough energy to come out

I’m here to talk about anything. No judgment.
I’m usually in and out of Lit most days. I’ll get back to you when I check in.
If not me then reach out to someone.

 

[ConfusinglyDelerious]

Thank you.

Heard something about things being easier when the burden gets shared

You're doing good things for people

 

[RIPAphrodite]

I had an older male cousin in his 30s who killed himself because of depression…it’s no joke, it really does kill

Love and hugs to all

 

[Baldo_bearded]

As someone who tends to mightily struggle with depression on occasion, I appreciate this thread.

 

[Wetkitty09]

Just a quick bump.
Be safe out there. Love you.

 

[Persephone4U]

None of you are alone, as someone that deals with depression and anxiety. This thread is wonderful and so are All of you <3 <3 .
If you need a hug, a it's going to be okay, or sit and hold your hand while you cry, my Dm box is open.

 

[LustfulIntentions2]

It feels some sort of serendipitous that I stumbled on this thread tonight. I have struggled with depression for years, as well as what I believe to be undiagnosed ADHD.

I do therapy, but don't do great at keeping up on the work between sessions. It's like I know the tools to use and how to apply them, but would rather fall into old patterns and behaviors that make me hate myself.

And it is SO fucking lonely you guys. So empty to feel like no one gets you, or hears you, or even wants to try. And so I'm constantly chasing this external validation and hating myself the whole time.

 

[Drummersi]

46 year old male in the UK. I'd suffered with depression since 2010 but it ramped up big time during the Pandemic and lockdown. On tablets. Have tried various types of therapy but none of them have worked for me. Have self harmed. I'm a believer that you never truly get rid of depression, you just learn to live with it and how to deal with it, when you can deal with it.

One of the things that annoys me is people who claim to care but don't. They ask you how you are and then, as you start to tell them, you can see in their faces that they wished they'd not asked. This is one of the reasons that when you ask people with depression if they're ok, most of the time they will say either yes I'm OK or not bad thanks. Because you don't really want to know. That's what I've learned anyway.

 

[Wetkitty09]

46 year old male in the UK. I'd suffered with depression since 2010 but it ramped up big time during the Pandemic and lockdown. On tablets. Have tried various types of therapy but none of them have worked for me. Have self harmed. I'm a believer that you never truly get rid of depression, you just learn to live with it and how to deal with it, when you can deal with it.

One of the things that annoys me is people who claim to care but don't. They ask you how you are and then, as you start to tell them, you can see in their faces that they wished they'd not asked. This is one of the reasons that when you ask people with depression if they're ok, most of the time they will say either yes I'm OK or not bad thanks. Because you don't really want to know. That's what I've learned anyway.

I’ve seen that look in the eyes of people too.
I also don’t believe you are ever cured of depression. I do think that we can learn different healthy techniques to cope with it that can make life better.
Thank you for posting.

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

Got home from a vacation. Slinking back into depressive mode. Being here doesn't help but I don't have another mode of socialization at the moment.

 

[Wetkitty09]

My brain is in a fog this morning. Nothing serious just lack of sleep.
I hope your day goes well. Stay safe out there. Love you.

 

[ericalauren]

I'm so glad to see folks talking about depression! I almost died from depression when I was a child. It didn't help that my parents and my pediatric psychiatrist were abusing me. I'm on antidepressants that work for me (thank goodness) now. I still sometimes need to do light therapy and/or take Xanax (mostly for my C-PTSD), especially in the late winter.

 

[summer_reine]

I should have looked up if tiktok is allowed here but this one is too powerful not to share, I immediately thought of this thread.

It's about men's mental health. A video of guys calling their best friend just to say I love you bro. Honestly, the reactions surprised me (in a good way)

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMhJ9oADo/

 

[BornNorCal]

Honestly, the "big three" are what helped me: physical activity, diet and rest.

Get enough REST. Not just sleep but time spent looking at a tree. NOT YOUR SCREEN. Resting on a park bench and looking at clouds.

Move your body. Walk. Dance when you vacuum. Fuck. Do 20 pushups, It doesn't matter. Be ACTIVE.

Eat a basically good DIET heavy in lean protein like tuna, tofu, lentils, chicken, eggs, etc. and veggies. Fucking stir fry frozen walmart brand veggies in vegetable oil and soy sauce. Eat veggies and protein and a little carb like mashed potatoes or rice.

Also, be social!! Your depression tells you to avoid people so as to not be a burden to them. The devil is a liar. Community kills depression. Be social as much as you can tolerate.

You're not broken or useless. Nobody hates you. The devil is a liar. Stay here.

As a mental health professional I cannot stress how wise this advice is. Your rundown is not only supported by science, you list things anyone can test out and verify for themselves. Sometimes it's the little things that add up to big things. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

It feels some sort of serendipitous that I stumbled on this thread tonight. I have struggled with depression for years, as well as what I believe to be undiagnosed ADHD.

I do therapy, but don't do great at keeping up on the work between sessions. It's like I know the tools to use and how to apply them, but would rather fall into old patterns and behaviors that make me hate myself.

And it is SO fucking lonely you guys. So empty to feel like no one gets you, or hears you, or even wants to try. And so I'm constantly chasing this external validation and hating myself the whole time.

This resonates with me A LOT. I have bipolar disorder and had a tentative ADHD diagnosis a number of years ago. I found it hard to accept but now I wonder if it isn't true. If you need someone to talk to, listening would be helpful for me, because I would feel like I am helping. Hang in there.