Lootequiette: Pmann's Totally Original/Unaffiliated Thread

[Bry1313]

You know when two sets of titties don't calm the crowd that you've got to just let it run its course.

And I was part of it, too.
But yeah, it definitely got more than a little out of control there

Honestly, the intention was one reply to someone that I felt made a rude comment. (After previous rude comments by said person), which looking back, not mentioning anything would have been the smarter course. The last thing I expected was the entire town hall showing up and taking sides. Looking back I’d have just kept the lighter in my pocket. I’m sure most of us on both sides of the “debate” wish we had

 

[Cat]

I didn't see whatever is being talked about here, so I can't comment on that. But since they were mentioned as part of the discussion I'd like to talk about S+S. Not to pick on them or judge or accuse, but just because they represent a visible example that I think most PGers are familiar with.

I've had several bad interactions with people from SnS. I won't go in there, and that won't change because of whatever else may or may not have happened elsewhere.

I'm also not the biggest fan of the way they'll sometimes slide into other threads and just completely steamroll them for days at a time, but it's easy enough to just shrug and move on. It's clear it is not malicious, even when I personally find it annoying, and I'm not going to tell anybody how to Lit when any frustration I may feel is so easily avoided just by giving then all a wide berth.

And sure, sometimes they act like a clique. But doesn't any friend group to some extent? Isn't it natural to rally around your friends and have their backs when they feel wronged or creeped out? It can go to far, sometimes it does with the piling on and the white knighting, but it has never struck me as being first and foremost exclusionary. Individuals, perhaps. Such is the nature of any group.

But as a whole they just seem like a rambunctious group of friends who sometimes forget how loud a group can get in a public space. No meaningful harm meant. Every now and then those of us on the outside may have to roll our eyes and exercise a modicum of patience, but I suspect Lit gets more positives from groups of the sort than it does negatives.

I don't imagine anyone really cared about my two cents, but I suppose I've offered it anyhow.

I care about your two cents, a lot!

And, you are not alone with your experiences or thoughts, in fact.. I think we have the same thoughts and feelings about this subject.

Thank you.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Honestly, the intention was one reply to someone that I felt made a rude comment. (After previous rude comments by said person), which looking back, not mentioning anything would have been the smarter course. The last thing I expected was the entire town hall showing up and taking sides. Looking back I’d have just kept the lighter in my pocket. I’m sure most of us on both sides of the “debate” wish we had

It's happens

It was also entertaining at times.

It's also part of the magic of this place.
Flash mobs.
Some people want to ride the subway in peace and then there are pants less assholes that film them and put their horrified faces on the Internet. It's delightful and human and part of coexisting in public spaces

But yeah, there was little listening going on.
Lots of defensiveness.
And some random ass jokes that had me on the floor howling in laughter

 

[Bry1313]

It's happens

It was also entertaining at times.

It's also part of the magic of this place.
Flash mobs.
Some people want to ride the subway in peace and then there are pants less assholes that film them and put their horrified faces on the Internet. It's delightful and human and part of coexisting in public spaces

But yeah, there was little listening going on.
Lots of defensiveness.
And some random ass jokes that had me on the floor howling in laughter

I don’t think I used any of my good material in that debate, that also make me sad.

 

[Photog1rl]

And some random ass jokes that had me on the floor howling in laughter

Maybe I shouid reread for the jokes. I would love some more laughs out of it all.

 

[Cat]

Flash mobs.

... But are they not over in a flash? And usually an easy, funny, and entertaining happening?

I mean, they leave as quickly as they came, with the audience sitting still.. smiling and uplifted for the rest of the day,

Or that might just be those I have experienced.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Maybe I shouid reread for the jokes. I would love some more laughs out of it all.

And they called me the masochist

 

[aussiegeekygal]

... But are they not over in a flash? And usually an easy, funny, and entertaining happening?

I mean, they leave as quickly as they came, with the audience sitting still.. smiling and uplifted for the rest of the day,

Or that might just be those I have experienced.

True.
I suppose I look at time in relativistic terms. A flash in the scheme of things but a bloody eternity in the middle

 

[Photog1rl]

And they called me the masochist

There were a couple of doozies that made me laugh out loud but they were mostly not intended to be funny. I'm sure a close reading would have me rolling.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

There were a couple of doozies that made me laugh out loud but they were mostly not intended to be funny. I'm sure a close reading would have me rolling.

Yeah... That was poor form.

I have absolutely no idea what was going on there. From an outsiders perspective that seemed cruel. Like you, I saw the humor in the ridiculousness of it and also the malice.

 

[Lord Pmann]

My experience of this and other forums I've been a part of in the past is that some people seem to think that the basic rules of social interaction don't apply on forums when they do.

If someone saw a group of friends sat around a table in a bar chatting and having fun and decided to approach them in an overly familiar way like they had always been part of the group and just sat themselves at the table being inappropriate and even outright rude, then you would fully expect that person to not exactly be welcomed with open arms without suggesting they were being a clique.

Some threads like S&S are mostly populated with people who have got to know each other well, have their own running jokes about each other and a shared sense of humour. When new people arrive join in and contribute in a way that shows they have got the measure of the group and their vibe they are welcomed with open arms and new friendships are made.

Someone swaggering in like they own the place and then getting the hump because they aren't immediately welcomed for it isn't a group being exclusionary. That's not how social interaction works anywhere.

I’m finally getting a chance to go through and read everyone’s posts. This particular post was quite brilliant. I think Otis did a great job summing up the reality of social interactions here. I think there are some nuances when it comes to an Internet forum that don’t make it a 1:1 translation between the two.

An Internet forum is, by nature, designed to be open for discussion. However, one cannot expect to just be accepted immediately into banter and such. That is unnatural and it doesn’t make sense for people to assume their banter should just slide right in there.

Lit has its own culture. Then each forum of Lit has its subculture (e.g., the Playground is quite different than the General Board). Even more granular is the culture of each thread within that forum. Some threads welcome really deep discussion. Some threads welcome quick banter. This thread is often a combination of the two. I like the longer replies. That tells me something about a person. I learn more. However, sometimes it devolves into quick banter, which I also enjoy.

But the rules of social interaction go both ways. For instance, using your bar example, just as someone shouldn’t necessarily feel excluded if they are new and don’t immediately get accepted, the opposite is true as well. That group of friends standing their talking loudly, shouldn’t assume their their brand of loudness is accepted everywhere, either. If that group just walked into a quiet wine bar or jazz bar, their behaviour might seem equally as unwelcome as the person walking up and expecting immediate acceptance.

I think that’s some of the perception of what is happening. And to be incredibly fair, they’ve come here and discussed if very candidly and fairly, without defensiveness and without attacking.

To me, their behaviour hasn’t felt exclusionary. They’ve always interacted with me quite readily, but that might just be because of my glowing personality and royal status.

 

[Otis_Ravelli]

I think it is incumbent on everyone to "read the room" and judge if their behaviour is going to be well received by the people already socialising in that space. As you say, if people are loudly intruding on a place where people are being quiet that is equally unwelcome.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I feel like this about most things. When topics get heated or too noisy, I largely take a step back. Or ten. It’s not that I don’t have an opinion, but it’s not a situation that I want to participate in. I might try to lighten the mood, but I don’t have a desire to wade into the loud fray

That’s exactly how I behave, too.

I heard it was a swarm of nasty lit nats, ganging up on a poor innocent person

I know. Poor, innocent pmann. I am a victim.

Also, I enjoyed several of your posts in this thread. Thanks for the comments.

For real, I can’t masturbate to hardly any of this

Sometimes we are alike. Sometimes we are so different.

I think sometimes people can get caught up in having fun with their friends that we forget our manners. And it takes a lot to figure it out. Like talking too loudly and having a party at a quiet coffee shop, maybe the first few gentle shushs don't register, especially when it's coming from people who are also talking, and the the criticisms pile on until it feels like an attack. Then people really don't respond well to perceived attacks.

I'm sorry for being part of the cock thread derail.

I certainly don’t hold any ill will about it. And I’m sure that’s your greatest concern.

But seriously, we all see things through our own perceptions. I’ve done the very thing that we’ve discussed in this thread. Most of us carry on about this or that, finding it amusing and others getting annoyed. What’s the dead horse saying? Stop beating off a dead horse (or something like that).

I personally feel that thread derails can be natural and sometimes they offer some really fun times. But they do have to come back around.

Like yesterday when I thought about it, I stopped posting in there cause yes that's not what that thread is and people who enjoy that head should get it back.

Love that typo. #BringBackTheHead

As for what I love about Lit, for me it's a space to be open and silly and not have filters. I appreciate people who are who they are and that can be people I disagree with. There are many of you that I will never be good friends with because we are too different but I appreciate you being around and being you.

That was a really nice post.

I’ll try to do better.

It happens, man. The intent of the discussion wasn’t to try to prove a point or anything like that and I can’t thank you enough for actually discussing it. The internet is filled with internet twats who often refuse to listen to one another. A discussion of this nature with candid back and forth is almost destined to turn into attacks. It didn’t.

I’m going to take full credit for that.

Honestly, the intention was one reply to someone that I felt made a rude comment. (After previous rude comments by said person), which looking back, not mentioning anything would have been the smarter course. The last thing I expected was the entire town hall showing up and taking sides. Looking back I’d have just kept the lighter in my pocket. I’m sure most of us on both sides of the “debate” wish we had

I think that’s the downside and the beauty of the internet, all at once. It’s fascinating how something so small can end up being so big (that’s what she said). I mean, think of how the Hawk Tuah girl’s life changed on the internet from one comment. You and Woody had an interaction that was, by most measures, innocuous and

But we got some good discussion out there. I certainly hope people who thought that your actions were intentional can see that they aren’t. And I think maybe you saw things from the other side as well.

 

[Bry1313]

It happens, man. The intent of the discussion wasn’t to try to prove a point or anything like that and I can’t thank you enough for actually discussing it. The internet is filled with internet twats who often refuse to listen to one another. A discussion of this nature with candid back and forth is almost destined to turn into attacks. It didn’t.

I’m going to take full credit for that.

You take credit for the cock thread degrading into attacks? That’s really big of you

 

[Lord Pmann]

You take credit for the cock thread degrading into attacks? That’s really big of you

I just like credit. I will take whatever credit I can.

 

[Photog1rl]

I just like credit. I will take whatever credit I can.

Stirring the pot
Poking the bear
Beating a dead horse
Providing a space for open discussion of differing opinions
The thread degrading into attacks?
And yes, this is almost a compliment

 

[Lord Pmann]

Stirring the pot
Poking the bear
Beating a dead horse
Providing a space for open discussion of differing opinions
The thread degrading into attacks?
And yes, this is almost a compliment

Thank you. I will take credit for those as well.

Maybe one day I will tell you the story of how I single-handedly ended slavery and got women the right to vote.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Thank you. I will take credit for those as well.

Maybe one day I will tell you the story of how I single-handedly ended slavery and got women the right to vote.

Fancy taking a shot at wagering peace in the middle east?

 

[Photog1rl]

Fancy taking a shot at wagering peace in the middle east?

Nothing else has worked

 

[Lord Pmann]

Fancy taking a shot at wagering peace in the middle east?

I already took care of it. I haven't heard anything lately from that region, have you? Seems pretty peaceful to me.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Alright... this was a wildly interesting (to me) discussion over the last few days. Thanks to all those who participated. I would really like to, most specifically, thank those ladies who posted their boobs. Shame on you @Love_Is_Blonde for mentioning boobs and not posting them. If I were still in the titty rating business, you would be getting a zero for participation.

We will shift to a less serious topic, one that @deefalttwunnyfor brought up. What are you masturbating to these days? What's your brand of porn? What's your brand of wank material? Are you reading stories? If so, what kind? Are they age play? Orgies? CNC (*ahem*)? Tell me you wankiest fantasies. Feel free to tell me what DOESN'T get your bits going, as well.

 

[deefalttwunnyfor]

I would really like to, most specifically, thank those ladies who posted their boobs.

Not all heroes wear capes. In fact, some of them don't wear anything on their upper torso at all

Feel free to tell me what DOESN'T get your bits going, as well.

I have a weird one here that I'll probably delete later, but wtf it's a holiday, no one is going to see it anyway. Snowballing in porn is incredibly hot to me. Like a passionate kiss right after a facial. BUT, if they transition to spitting it into one anther's mouth, by boner dies almost immediately. I have to fast forward to maintain that forward momentum or else I get a ruined orgasm and then I get masturbangry. It's very strange for me even thinking about writing this, how similar the acts are, but that little delineation totally ruins it for me

 

[aussiegeekygal]

My hair trigger disgust gets in the way of enjoying a lot of porn.

If there's visible cum, I'm puking a little

 

[Photog1rl]

We will shift to a less serious topic, one that @deefalttwunnyfor brought up. What are you masturbating to these days? What's your brand of porn? What's your brand of wank material? Are you reading stories? If so, what kind? Are they age play? Orgies? CNC (*ahem*)? Tell me you wankiest fantasies. Feel free to tell me what DOESN'T get your bits going, as well.

Ahem…

Well, this seems like a good topic…
What do you prefer to masturbate to?

Do you have a favorite or go to category for porn? How about the Lit stories? Is there any strategy in what you choose?

I mean I was directing it at @deefalttwunnyfor but maybe throw me a bone on this one or better yet, how about partial credit? I was a very strong student(in school) but I’ll take all the Lit points I can get

 

[Lord Pmann]

Ahem…



I mean I was directing it at @deefalttwunnyfor but maybe throw me a bone on this one or better yet, how about partial credit? I was a very strong student(in school) but I’ll take all the Lit points I can get

It seems like I am not the only one who enjoys credit...

But sure, I could be tempted to throw my bone your way.