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people i don’t like, whatever the reason, are threats to my delicate princessy nervous system.

i generally overreact to them and i attempt to avoid them at all costs.

flight > freeze > fight.

grudge? no. but i never forget where the poison berry bushes grow, or where sirens swim.

tangentially related: my former supervisor came to work once on halloween dressed as a witch, and i laughed inappropriately loud, hard, and long. epic giggle fit.

dealing with people i don’t like, in summary, is difficult.
Can I change my answer? This^!!!

You put things so eloquently, Missy.


(Well, exclude the former supervisor coming to work dressed as a witch part. :p)
 
Just watch out for @Endless_Night, she has a problem with Scorpios.
Or maybe that’s scorpions? 🤔
What?!?! Muscles, you are in Trouble! 😠

I haven't seen any of these jokers correct this. She's a total sweetheart, and extremely easy to get along with
My hero. :heart:

default loves me. 🕶️

Despite his stupidly spelled user name, @deefalttwunnyfor is correct. @Endless_Night is a delightful sweetheart who somehow often ends up searching various types of monster porn. It seems to usually involve tentacles and it’s probably @hotwords229_A fault.
Ummm, I'm not entirely sure this is an accolade, but considering aspersions have been cast upon my character by *ahem* others? I'll take it! 😂

Totes HW's fault on the monster, err, erotica. Totally.
 
So how do you see people you don't like? Are you able to see them through another lens? Or is it tough to see past that? Do you just see them as the person who wronged you? Do you hold a grudge forever or are you quick to let go?
people i don’t like, whatever the reason, are threats to my delicate princessy nervous system.

i generally overreact to them and i attempt to avoid them at all costs.

flight > freeze > fight.

grudge? no. but i never forget where the poison berry bushes grow, or where sirens swim.

tangentially related: my former supervisor came to work once on halloween dressed as a witch, and i laughed inappropriately loud, hard, and long. epic giggle fit.

dealing with people i don’t like, in summary, is difficult.
Can I change my answer? This^!!!

You put things so eloquently, Missy.


(Well, exclude the former supervisor coming to work dressed as a witch part. :p)
What the opposite of this nervous system? The sturdy, peasant kind? 😂 ‘Cause that’s me.

Other than work, I don’t take most things too seriously. I’m usually good at not focusing on things that don’t serve me and/or that I can’t control. And just because I dislike someone or they “wronged” me, doesn’t mean I can’t see their other qualities. I recognize in their narrative, I might be the person who was in the wrong.

Unless it’s a seriously heinous thing someone did, I don’t hold grudges. It just takes too much energy. I’ll either address it if I think that’s needed or I’ll make some inappropriate joke and then let it go. If the joke is good, that part might stick around or get repeated 😂
 
What the opposite of this nervous system? The sturdy, peasant kind? 😂 ‘Cause that’s me.

Other than work, I don’t take most things too seriously. I’m usually good at not focusing on things that don’t serve me and/or that I can’t control. And just because I dislike someone or they “wronged” me, doesn’t mean I can’t see their other qualities. I recognize in their narrative, I might be the person who was in the wrong.

Unless it’s a seriously heinous thing someone did, I don’t hold grudges. It just takes too much energy. I’ll either address it if I think that’s needed or I’ll make some inappropriate joke and then let it go. If the joke is good, that part might stick around or get repeated 😂
I'm inclined to be this way and will admit, having kids definitely took a toll on my nervous system. Things slip in now that would never have phased me a few years ago.
 
So how do you see people you don't like? Are you able to see them through another lens? Or is it tough to see past that? Do you just see them as the person who wronged you? Do you hold a grudge forever or are you quick to let go?
It depends on why I don't like them. Are they a shitty person or do we just butt heads? I can still find value in people that I just don't agree with or who have made some mistakes. But if someone has proven over and over again that they just aren't a good person, I'll hold on to that perception of them.
 
So how do you see people you don't like? Are you able to see them through another lens? Or is it tough to see past that? Do you just see them as the person who wronged you? Do you hold a grudge forever or are you quick to let go?

If a person is someone that I just don't jive with, I do not consider that someone I do not like. I can see them or not and interact or not but they do not really cross into my reality- I am mostly indifferent toward them.

I usually like most people on a superficial level but I am slow to call someone my friend. Once a friendship has been established it is extremely hard for me to change my opinion about them. I will be mindful of the battles I choose, often letting things go repeatedly until they really bother me. I will accept behavior that I shouldn't and try to make my own peace with it because I care about the person and I do not assume malitent. I appreciate honesty and am most comfortable with clear, direct communication and when somone comes to me ready to try to work through thihngs then I am very likely to try and work through it with them. However, once a person has wronged me and I make the decision to let them out of my life it is much harder to change my mind. Letting go of someone I considered a friend is difficult, painful and can take longer than I would like it to but once it is done it is done. If they have shown me that they are not deserving of my time or energy there is really no need to interact anymore.

Of course, I know that other people value them and depending on the reason I do not like them I may still appreciate certain aspects about them but not enough to engage.

I want to say I do not hold grudges but that is only true for disagreements with my friends. I react, let it out and it is gone .I want to not actively hold on to the reason(s) I am not friends with someone anymore but that is a work in progress and dependent on the person and the reason I no longer like them.
 
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