How do you satisfy your needs in a sexless relationship?

[zysmith]

Porn and masturbation

 

[ffdan]

Lovense toy, and occasionally someone to watch

 

[donsboy]

all the porn and all the masturbation doesn't satisfy the desire. it just knocks the edge off for a day or two. it's a vicious cycle.

 

[LeeKee]

I don't. I live in hell. But I have learn to detach first, then it my be easier to move on.

 

[lowcollar]

In a sexless marriage, you are in essence, just friends. I would explain my needs and see what they say.

 

[Yarglenurp]

No easy way to answer because it depends on your relationship with your wife in general. I think it depends on why the sexless state is happening... is a loss in drive or a loss in closeness?

If it's overall an emotionally intimate relationship and she just has no sex drive, then just explain your needs to her and see if she can act out the role in a way that she finds agreeable. There's plenty I do for mine that I don't enjoy, and vice versa. I think the key is find a compromise that satisfies your needs without triggering some base "disgust" instinct in her. If she's close with you and just lacks libido, then she will find pleasure in making you happy so long as she's not being asked to do anything that is objectively unpleasant, right?

Like, if she doesn't enjoy any penetration or "wet" activities, maybe both you and her would be OK with handjobs, teasing, and lots of touching in general. I haven't had sex in a long time, but I've enjoyed intimate touch, handjobs, and teasing regularly. For me, it's enough to know she cares for me because I know it's honest. I'd rather her hug me and tell me she loves as I cum than wear her down so that she starfishes for me during sex.

If the marriage is one where there is less or no emotional intimacy, the sexlessness part is just a symptom of a much deeper problem. I'd try to fix those first.

 

[Lifestyle66]

How do you satisfy your needs in a sexless relationship?

How DID I???

First, I tried outsourcing for my wife's half of the fun. But when she realized it (note, I didn't hide anything, but even told her where I was going and why), she insisted on a divorce.

Then when she changed her mind about demanding a divorce, .... I didn't.

So, I am NOT in a sexless relationship anymore.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

Isn't that one reason Lit exists?

 

[Not Normal]

Isn't that one reason Lit exists?

It did a lot for me back when I was in a near sexless marriage.

 

[13Fantasies]

Isn't that one reason Lit exists?

Only if self pleasure works for you

 

[MakeMeWetAF]

Mmmm, all of the above! Love knowing your reactions on the other end - it's one thing to know you're enjoying. Totally next level when I can hear it back, as I'm recording.

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She promises a very detailed review. Who knows, she may even do her own recording.... of her pussy's immense gratitude. Maybe share that to Audio Literotica as testimony to your audio and literary talents and imagination. She says that will only happen IF your sordid story makes her super wet and delivers intense cunt quivering, thigh clenching pleasure with a stunning climax.

Do your best Jack Danger I AM counting on you...

 

[cuck72]

When I am looking to satisfy my cravings I go to the adult book store in hopes that I can get on my knees and take a cock down my throat. It is such a turn on when a guy is getting ready to cum and he holds my head with his hands and his cock is rock hard as he buries it down my throat and explodes shooting cum down my throat and he continues to pump his cock into my mouth until he empties his load.

OH, YESSSSSS I need this too, so bad.

 

[RoanMtn]

Isn't that one reason Lit exists?

And, I'm glad it does. It's been over 20 years for me, so I have an active fantasy life, which seems to be getting kinkier all the time, lol.

 

[zcraft5]

How do you satisfy your needs in a sexless relationship?

great question

 

[Ruff7]

I've been seeing escorts for about three years, and they have provided the sex and intimacy I need to stay in my marriage. I love my wife, but the door to the sex locker has been permanently closed.
Stick to reviewed girls that either work independent or for a smart reputable agency and you're golden. Since I live in Mexico, https://mx.pander.pro/en works well for me. You have a variety of women to choose from based on what you're in the mood for that day. There's no pressure to please anyone, so you can relax and enjoy without worrying about disappointment. And when it's over, she leaves, and you can get on with whatever business you are doing that day.

 

[ezwriter]

An active fantasy life; a sensuous chat partner; a rendezvous; memories and thoughts of next time.

 

[Tom_Brown]

I find that I’m pretty much able to get all that I could want….

Of course you do! You’re extremely beautiful

 

[LMWM321]

First, assuming I still love my wife, I'd commit to doing whatever we can to reawaken our sex life - sex therapy, couples therapy, going to yoga together, lose weight, gain weight, improve my hygiene... anything and everything I can do.

But if my wife refuses to participate in the effort or it fails to change her mind about sex, I'd have no choice but to tell her, "I'm sorry my Love, I will continue to be your husband, I will continue to love you, care for you and keep you at the center of my life - just as I promised you when we stood on the alter all those years ago - but I will NOT go the rest of my life w/ out sex. I'll either find a fuck-buddy, or visit a prostitute every few weeks."

To my thinking, one partner telling the other, "Sorry, I'm done with sex - forever!" is just as much breaking a marrital vow as cheating.

Sex is NOT a frivolous, non-essential activity that can be retired like playing Golf, or Mountain biking when the back gets creaky. For many of us, it's a life force that is an essential part of who we are and necessary for our happiness. And masturbation, though fun, is NOT a satisfying substitute - at least for many of us.

 

[mrsgee]

By chatting online.

 

[ReallyRandyReader]

Wanking

 

[Buffalogurl]

How DID I???

First, I tried outsourcing for my wife's half of the fun. But when she realized it (note, I didn't hide anything, but even told her where I was going and why), she insisted on a divorce.

Then when she changed her mind about demanding a divorce, .... I didn't.

So, I am NOT in a sexless relationship anymore.

Life's to short to do without sex...... it's my observation that a high percentage of husbands live in quiet desperation, one they feel they have built for themselves a prison of never ending responsibility and financial investment along with burning through irreplaceable time..... just to have their wife say no, I have a headache, ect.... barring health issues if the wife don't/won't "put out" she's basically useless..... also if she won't participate in the bedroom more than likely she ain't participating in other activities of marriage and maintaining a household..... no, masturbation can become a vicious cycle. It comes to a place your either "friends" or "brother/sister" relationship or the male is frustrated beyond reason... hell'of a place to be....

 

[Dirtyoldhornyman]

Seems like the less she wants it, the more I want it.
Porn helps. Talking to some of the great people on Lit keeps the sexual energy up!

 

[Tweedledude]

The gym has become my place of refuge.

 

[Windman1]

As a bisexual man it’s just not difficult, my wife having lost her sex drive doesn’t get pestered for sex and I don’t resent her for not providing it. The men I meet with are enthusiastic about wanting to have sex. Isn’t that what we want? To be wanted?

 

[Greytruck]

In a sexless marriage too. Been 10 years almost..
I masterbate a lot