Sex & Shenanigans

[crazychemgirl]

Thank you. And I appreciate the compliment.

And sorry for killing the Shenanigans. Let's go back to making fun of math.

*kicks dirt

… but I like math.




Actually that’s 100% untrue … I fucking HATE math. I like chemistry … math is dumb. It’s a means to an end.

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

Is there a better term for men than sexy… should it be .., desired? .., wanted? Needed? … appreciated? … attractive?

Those are all unique, similar to how I think women feel about hot, beautiful, alluring, desirable, etc. I think wanted is ubiquitous though. I get appreciated all day long - but it's for doing the basics which feels condescending. You appreciate a comfortable life? Cool. Look at me with, "come fuck me" eyes? That's a whole other ballgame.

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

*kicks dirt

… but I like math.




Actually that’s 100% untrue … I fucking HATE math. I like chemistry … math is dumb. It’s a means to an end.

Chemistry produces excellent items.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

I can't speak for everyone, of course, but my sense (and my experience) is that men generally aren't complimented in our day-to-day lives. Sexually or platonically. It's uncommon.

 

[crazychemgirl]

I can't speak for everyone, of course, but my sense (and my experience) is that men generally aren't complimented in our day-to-day lives. Sexually or platonically. It's uncommon.

Yeah ok I get that. I try to tell my hubby daily how I think he’s attractive and sexually attractive.. but maybe that’s not as common?

 

[vagrantx]

I can't speak for everyone, of course, but my sense (and my experience) is that men generally aren't complimented in our day-to-day lives. Sexually or platonically. It's uncommon.

I have a couple of close male friends. They dress well, and I make sure to tell them that whenever I see them! Makes them light up like firebugs

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

Yeah ok I get that. I try to tell my hubby daily how I think he’s attractive and sexually attractive.. but maybe that’s not as common?

Absolutely uncommon. So tell all your friends, they need to tell their male s/o how attractive they are to her!

 

[morelikeasong]

I’m sad to see all the comments about guys not feeling sexy.

I do think that girls hype each other up way more than guys do to each other.
I think it’s awesome what I’ve seen @Bry1313 and @Lmizzler do with the man chest reviews to hype up the guys.

Ultimately, though, I think @SalaciousMonkey22 is right that it needs to come from within. External validation will only get you so far.

 

[lavendersilk]

I can't speak for everyone, of course, but my sense (and my experience) is that men generally aren't complimented in our day-to-day lives. Sexually or platonically. It's uncommon.

Hey, I think you are cute. Want to show me your outfit so I can get specific?

 

[crazychemgirl]

Hey, I think you are cute. Want to show me your outfit so I can get specific?

I second this.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

I’m sad to see all the comments about guys not feeling sexy.
I can relate.
I rarely feel sexy in my daily life. It’s one of the things that coming to lit helps with.

I do think that girls hype each other up way more than guys do to each other.
I think it’s awesome what I’ve seen @Bry1313 and @Lmizzler do with the man chest reviews to hype up the guys.

Ultimately, though, I think @SalaciousMonkey22 is right that it needs to come from within. External validation will only get you so far.

And tbc, I get that it’s not easy, like a lot of things, it’s a thing you need to work at to make feel natural. FWIW, I also have normalized giving the men in my life compliments. If you dig their shoes or think their moustache is dope. Tell em, might be easier to tell yourself that too.

 

[lavendersilk]

I enjoy sex. I am at least okay at most of it, and, if I have to say so myself, really goddamned good at some of it. But accepting that doesn't make me feel sexy. I just don't feel that way.

Hmmm, I am sexually attracted to vibes first and you are giving off incredibly sexy vibes. Like, your cooking skills and music taste is

I've seen your face a couple times and legs.

Oh, and that voice...

Ok.. I'll stop now.

 

[crazychemgirl]

And tbc, I get that it’s not easy, like a lot of things, it’s a thing you need to work at to make feel natural. FWIW, I also have normalized giving the men in my life compliments. If you dig their shoes or think their moustache is dope. Tell em, might be easier to tell yourself that too.

NORMALIZE COMPLIMENTING … I love this. Why does a compliment about something physical have to be sexual or uncomfortable?

Also … normalize complimenting in general.


If you have a sexy brain … like monkey here.. that’s sexy too.

 

[crazychemgirl]

Hmmm, I am sexually attracted to vibes first and you are giving off incredibly sexy vibes. Like, your cooking skills and music taste is

I've seen your face a couple times and legs.

Oh, and that voice...

Ok.. I'll stop now.

That’s what I tried to tell him lol

 

[lavendersilk]

In person, it’s been a really long time.
Confirmations here have been good to hear and affirming

Hey, hot stuff.

 

[morelikeasong]

Oh, and that voice...

Quoting for emphasis

 

[crazychemgirl]

Quoting for emphasis

I don’t know that I’ve heard it tbh

 

[crazychemgirl]

(I probably have but maybe he’ll see my message and be inspired to record something and give a little thrill to the ladies of shenanigans)

 

[vagrantx]

Sorry to interject with some humour in the serious talk, but, it's just too on-topic, and I love FOTC...

Your beard is good. Just a compliment, about your beard, uh, being good....
Also, you're good at finding shortcuts around this part of town.

 

[lavendersilk]

And tbc, I get that it’s not easy, like a lot of things, it’s a thing you need to work at to make feel natural. FWIW, I also have normalized giving the men in my life compliments. If you dig their shoes or think their moustache is dope. Tell em, might be easier to tell yourself that too.

I dig you.

 

[morelikeasong]

Sorry to interject with some humour in the serious talk, but, it's just too on-topic, and I love FOTC...

Your beard is good. Just a compliment, about your beard, uh, being good....
Also, you're good at finding shortcuts around this part of town.

I love them so much

 

[crazychemgirl]

I’m sexy and I know it





(please tell me you all heard that in the robot voice)

 

[vagrantx]

I love them so much

Almost posted "So hot, BOOM" as the song that reminds me of me today, but, felt that would be a tiny bit too masturbatory

 

[UnquietDreams]

I’m sad to see all the comments about guys not feeling sexy.
I can relate.
I rarely feel sexy in my daily life. It’s one of the things that coming to lit helps with.

I do think that girls hype each other up way more than guys do to each other.
I think it’s awesome what I’ve seen @Bry1313 and @Lmizzler do with the man chest reviews to hype up the guys.

Ultimately, though, I think @SalaciousMonkey22 is right that it needs to come from within. External validation will only get you so far.

Which is terrible for me, because you are a phenomenally sexy woman. Lit is filled with so many phenomenally sexy women. People who are willing to put themselves out there are so brave and strong, and that is amazingly sexy. And I mean that about every woman who pulls up the fortitude to put themselves out there. That is strength, and that is sexy.

And there are some astoundingly good looking guys here as well, and I do appreciate Bry and Lmizzler of being so supportive of those guys who post.

And if that sounds mildly (or more) confused and maybe irreconcilable with how I see myself, I accept that. But it doesn't change how I see myself. The goblin, to use my favorite analogy, growling in my head.

 

[crazychemgirl]

Which is terrible for me, because you are a phenomenally sexy woman. Lit is filled with so many phenomenally sexy women. People who are willing to put themselves out there are so brave and strong, and that is amazingly sexy. And I mean that about every woman who pulls up the fortitude to put themselves out there. That is strength, and that is sexy.

And there are some astoundingly good looking guys here as well, and I do appreciate Bry and Lmizzler of being so supportive of those guys who post.

And if that sounds mildly (or more) confused and maybe irreconcilable with how I see myself, I accept that. But it doesn't change how I see myself. The goblin, to use my favorite analogy, growling in my head.

The goblin voice is strong bro … totally!!!