The Lit experience: men v women

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

So here’s a question for the guys:

Women sometimes get unsolicited dick pics.

But have you guys been sent unsolicited nudes?

And is this a “victimless crime” on the grounds that it feels like winning the lottery?

I’ve been sent a fair few over the years on Instagram in particular. And it’s happened at least once on Lit. Thought rather a long time ago. And possibly because I had a pic thread until I got a stalker!

Well not a man, but I know for a fact a significant number of Lit men have received unsolicited nudes. It is quite common in my lit circle.

I know this because I sent them Well, Unless I am completely friend zoned of course. I try not to be totally inappropriate. I also find the gender double standards curious. I do want to create a male alt and see what lit is really like from that perspective. I suspect I would not find it pleasing. We often see a lot of guidelines, do's and don'ts, on PMing women, including the no unsolicited dick pic . Some I agree with, many sound rigid and boring and stuffy and oh so fluffy, though I have no doubt that they are valid. But does the reverse hold true, like if I break all the PM rules when sending to a man, what happens? Indeed, it is a very different experience. It turns out that it is incredibly difficult to offend a man using boobs. Shocking, I am sure, but someday maybe I shall find a way. #lifegoals

 

[AmberLGreen]

Well not a man, but I know for a fact a significant number of Lit men have received unsolicited nudes. It is quite common in my lit circle.

I know this because I sent them Well, Unless I am completely friend zoned of course. I try not to be totally inappropriate. I also find the gender double standards curious. I do want to create a male alt and see what lit is really like from that perspective. I suspect I would not find it pleasing. We often see a lot of guidelines, do's and don'ts, on PMing women, including the no unsolicited dick pic . Some I agree with, many sound rigid and boring and stuffy and oh so fluffy, though I have no doubt that they are valid. But does the reverse hold true, like if I break all the PM rules when sending to a man, what happens? Indeed, it is a very different experience. It turns out that it is incredibly difficult to offend a man using boobs. Shocking, I am sure, but someday maybe I shall find a way. #lifegoals

If you do create a male alt, I expect you to send me unsolicited dick pics

 

[SassySheDevil]

I don't have much experience with the new interface. Frankly, I don't get the concept of following someone, does that mean you are notified when they post? What happened to good old stalking, too much work to do that?

First. Good to see you!

If you are following someone they show up in your newsfeed. (Under what’s new). Apparently I’m following one person. Not sure why or how.

Second. For anyone who was with the old forum set up. If you had buddies. These automatically became people you follow as soon as we switched to the new set up.
I used to have my PM's off except to a few people (the buddies) -I do miss this set up.
They became those I follow. Vice Versa. Anyone that had me on their list. That became who was following me. Now the following is just based on whom you chose to follow, or who follows you.
And like BFG. Sometimes it is weird when you see people adding you if you've never seen them, talked to them, or interacted in any way. I have people who follow me simply because of the threads I've made. They see my name in those threads and follow me. But often never talk to me.

 

[PleaseLetMeIm]

Well not a man, but I know for a fact a significant number of Lit men have received unsolicited nudes. It is quite common in my lit circle.

I know this because I sent them Well, Unless I am completely friend zoned of course.

Don’t mind me. I’m just lurking, hoping to get close enough that the gravitational pull of desperate’s boobs drag me into her friend zone

 

[SassySheDevil]

Uh, not to seem all stalkery or to ruin any safe feelings you all have, but you can stalk just as well as you could before. Simply click on the search button in the top right, type in the name of the person you secretly crush on and, bingo, all the pmann posts you could ever want.

You can also highlight their name and click on the number of posts. Then that takes you to all their posts. Even those who have private profiles.

 

[munch2much]

Well not a man, but I know for a fact a significant number of Lit men have received unsolicited nudes. It is quite common in my lit circle.

I know this because I sent them Well, Unless I am completely friend zoned of course. I try not to be totally inappropriate. I also find the gender double standards curious. I do want to create a male alt and see what lit is really like from that perspective. I suspect I would not find it pleasing. We often see a lot of guidelines, do's and don'ts, on PMing women, including the no unsolicited dick pic . Some I agree with, many sound rigid and boring and stuffy and oh so fluffy, though I have no doubt that they are valid. But does the reverse hold true, like if I break all the PM rules when sending to a man, what happens? Indeed, it is a very different experience. It turns out that it is incredibly difficult to offend a man using boobs. Shocking, I am sure, but someday maybe I shall find a way. #lifegoals

I can’t imagine anyone would be anything other than ecstatic if they received any pics from you. Plus boobs are hours of endless fun haha.

I confess I was surprised the first time I received random pics. And even more so on Instagram. But ya know …I was brave! I survived! And tbh …really happy

 

[Thom_the_gleeman]

Then agian, is it really random when you have been talking with someone for a while? ... ah... Am reviewing that line of thought as I am writing g this and it is going nowhere... never mind
Love,
Thom

 

[Massive Grooves]

People send out random, unsolicited pics?

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

If you do create a male alt, I expect you to send me unsolicited dick pics

mmmm, I'll start with unsolicited cock pics. I have a really cute cock. My cutest is white and fluffy but a total dick. I have others too that are nicer. No stunt cock for me, just my cocks.

 

[Cat]

People send out random, unsolicited pics?

Maybe.. I mean.. oh.. they do?!

 

[THROBBS]

People send out random, unsolicited pics?

Anything you can imagine, and much that you can't.

Of course, others send targeted, unsolicited pics.

ready, aim...

 

[Bbl87]

I have sent many an unsolicited pic. You would think that people would be grateful but no, not even a “um thanks”.

Maybe I should do some new ones with lighting and props

How rude. You would at least get a thanks from me, minimum. It would be a first, haha.

 

[Thom_the_gleeman]

I have sent many an unsolicited pic. You would think that people would be grateful but no, not even a “um thanks”.

Maybe I should do some new ones with lighting and props

Seriously though, no reply at all? That doesn't sound like the Lit men I know... I'd expect either a kind thank you or a misogynistic assumption that you are now their property...

Or am I missing a joke again...?
Love,
Thom

 

[AmberLGreen]

Seriously though, no reply at all? That doesn't sound like the Lit men I know... I'd expect either a kind thank you or a misogynistic assumption that you are now their property...

Or am I missing a joke again...?
Love,
Thom

I was joking. I have never sent an unsolicited nude pic.

I normally make them beg a little first

 

[MissPennyLane]

I have a very love / hate relationship with lit, some days it's super fun and others it's like wading through a swamp that absolutely stinks, where the floor is quicksand and red flags start poking up everywhere. I find people way more out there in the messages from the boards than the chatroom and some days I visit the chatroom and I am absolutely bombarded and others I visit and struggle to make 1 conversation, it's a weird place but I think I mostly enjoy it

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

Lit is an escape. I like to discuss sex and most things related (emphasis on "most".....some of you people make me look like a choir boy and others ....quite frankly scare me )

But I can't talk about this stuff at the office. "Oh hi, Sharon. How was your weekend? Did you get the living room painted like you wanted to? Was the high setting on your Hitachi wand enough to vibrate your pussy to the mind bending orgasm you were talking about on Friday?"

It just doesn't work out well.

But on Lit that is an normal conversation. And it doesn't have to lead anywhere. It can just be two adults discussing favorite masturbation techniques, something that shouldn't be taboo in society but it is.

Some days I find it easy to strike up that kind of conversation. Other days... not so much. Whatever. It's no different than any other social gathering...bar...party ..sometimes I am interesting to other people. Sometimes I'm not.

But as a man I can come here and be myself without getting hounded. I know women have to be more guarded or discerning so I try to respect that by not being overbearing. (I am sure I have screwed that up before)

It's nice when a woman trusts me enough to share fun details. I am glad I am approachable enough for that. I also get it when a conversation isn't what she expected and she walks away. (Pro tip, lads....they do not always want you to follow them. Sometimes they walk away because they don't like you.) I don't take it personally. That is important.

I have met women here who I didn't gel with after a few conversations and they took it personally that I wasn't more into them. So that issues goes both ways. It can be awkwards and usually makes Lit less fun and means it's time for a break.

As for men pretending to be women.... most of them are pretty obvious. The "woman" who is jumping around every thread looking for as many random guys she can find to meet up with in real life for casual sex.... yeah I'm a dude. I know how dudes think...and that is how dudes think. It's also how serial killers act. So plan your evening accordingly.

Some men larping as women are more subtle. But it becomes obvious after a few messages. Like if she aggressively wants to see dick pics by her 3rd message to you.... red flags should be going off, boys. You know who wants to see nudes super fast? Men.

I find some women here are just here to blow off flirty steam. Others are hear looking for someone to meet up with who understands her sexual needs. Others are just lonely and want an emotional connection. I do try to stick with women who are here to blow off flirty steam like me. If you are one type of Lit member trying to connect with a different type of Kit member one of you is going to end up being disappointed.

 

[munch2much]

Lit is an escape. I like to discuss sex and most things related (emphasis on "most".....some of you people make me look like a choir boy and others ....quite frankly scare me )

But I can't talk about this stuff at the office. "Oh hi, Sharon. How was your weekend? Did you get the living room painted like you wanted to? Was the high setting on your Hitachi wand enough to vibrate your pussy to the mind bending orgasm you were talking about on Friday?"

It just doesn't work out well.

But on Lit that is an normal conversation. And it doesn't have to lead anywhere. It can just be two adults discussing favorite masturbation techniques, something that shouldn't be taboo in society but it is.

Some days I find it easy to strike up that kind of conversation. Other days... not so much. Whatever. It's no different than any other social gathering...bar...party ..sometimes I am interesting to other people. Sometimes I'm not.

But as a man I can come here and be myself without getting hounded. I know women have to be more guarded or discerning so I try to respect that by not being overbearing. (I am sure I have screwed that up before)

It's nice when a woman trusts me enough to share fun details. I am glad I am approachable enough for that. I also get it when a conversation isn't what she expected and she walks away. (Pro tip, lads....they do not always want you to follow them. Sometimes they walk away because they don't like you.) I don't take it personally. That is important.

I have met women here who I didn't gel with after a few conversations and they took it personally that I wasn't more into them. So that issues goes both ways. It can be awkwards and usually makes Lit less fun and means it's time for a break.

As for men pretending to be women.... most of them are pretty obvious. The "woman" who is jumping around every thread looking for as many random guys she can find to meet up with in real life for casual sex.... yeah I'm a dude. I know how dudes think...and that is how dudes think. It's also how serial killers act. So plan your evening accordingly.

Some men larping as women are more subtle. But it becomes obvious after a few messages. Like if she aggressively wants to see dick pics by her 3rd message to you.... red flags should be going off, boys. You know who wants to see nudes super fast? Men.

I find some women here are just here to blow off flirty steam. Others are hear looking for someone to meet up with who understands her sexual needs. Others are just lonely and want an emotional connection. I do try to stick with women who are here to blow off flirty steam like me. If you are one type of Lit member trying to connect with a different type of Kit member one of you is going to end up being disappointed.

I think this is an excellent post.
Definitely agree with most of this

 

[may_I_please]

Lit is an escape. I like to discuss sex and most things related (emphasis on "most".....some of you people make me look like a choir boy and others ....quite frankly scare me )

But I can't talk about this stuff at the office. "Oh hi, Sharon. How was your weekend? Did you get the living room painted like you wanted to? Was the high setting on your Hitachi wand enough to vibrate your pussy to the mind bending orgasm you were talking about on Friday?"

It just doesn't work out well.

But on Lit that is an normal conversation. And it doesn't have to lead anywhere. It can just be two adults discussing favorite masturbation techniques, something that shouldn't be taboo in society but it is.

Some days I find it easy to strike up that kind of conversation. Other days... not so much. Whatever. It's no different than any other social gathering...bar...party ..sometimes I am interesting to other people. Sometimes I'm not.

But as a man I can come here and be myself without getting hounded. I know women have to be more guarded or discerning so I try to respect that by not being overbearing. (I am sure I have screwed that up before)

It's nice when a woman trusts me enough to share fun details. I am glad I am approachable enough for that. I also get it when a conversation isn't what she expected and she walks away. (Pro tip, lads....they do not always want you to follow them. Sometimes they walk away because they don't like you.) I don't take it personally. That is important.

I have met women here who I didn't gel with after a few conversations and they took it personally that I wasn't more into them. So that issues goes both ways. It can be awkwards and usually makes Lit less fun and means it's time for a break.

As for men pretending to be women.... most of them are pretty obvious. The "woman" who is jumping around every thread looking for as many random guys she can find to meet up with in real life for casual sex.... yeah I'm a dude. I know how dudes think...and that is how dudes think. It's also how serial killers act. So plan your evening accordingly.

Some men larping as women are more subtle. But it becomes obvious after a few messages. Like if she aggressively wants to see dick pics by her 3rd message to you.... red flags should be going off, boys. You know who wants to see nudes super fast? Men.

I find some women here are just here to blow off flirty steam. Others are hear looking for someone to meet up with who understands her sexual needs. Others are just lonely and want an emotional connection. I do try to stick with women who are here to blow off flirty steam like me. If you are one type of Lit member trying to connect with a different type of Kit member one of you is going to end up being disappointed.

That was really interesting, I must be honest I normally skim read longer posts but I read and enjoyed every word

I am stealing the phrase “blow off flirty steam“, that’s mine now

 

[Thom_the_gleeman]

Lit is an escape. I like to discuss sex and most things related (emphasis on "most".....some of you people make me look like a choir boy and others ....quite frankly scare me )

But I can't talk about this stuff at the office. "Oh hi, Sharon. How was your weekend? Did you get the living room painted like you wanted to? Was the high setting on your Hitachi wand enough to vibrate your pussy to the mind bending orgasm you were talking about on Friday?"

It just doesn't work out well.

But on Lit that is an normal conversation. And it doesn't have to lead anywhere. It can just be two adults discussing favorite masturbation techniques, something that shouldn't be taboo in society but it is.

Some days I find it easy to strike up that kind of conversation. Other days... not so much. Whatever. It's no different than any other social gathering...bar...party ..sometimes I am interesting to other people. Sometimes I'm not.

But as a man I can come here and be myself without getting hounded. I know women have to be more guarded or discerning so I try to respect that by not being overbearing. (I am sure I have screwed that up before)

It's nice when a woman trusts me enough to share fun details. I am glad I am approachable enough for that. I also get it when a conversation isn't what she expected and she walks away. (Pro tip, lads....they do not always want you to follow them. Sometimes they walk away because they don't like you.) I don't take it personally. That is important.

I have met women here who I didn't gel with after a few conversations and they took it personally that I wasn't more into them. So that issues goes both ways. It can be awkwards and usually makes Lit less fun and means it's time for a break.

As for men pretending to be women.... most of them are pretty obvious. The "woman" who is jumping around every thread looking for as many random guys she can find to meet up with in real life for casual sex.... yeah I'm a dude. I know how dudes think...and that is how dudes think. It's also how serial killers act. So plan your evening accordingly.

Some men larping as women are more subtle. But it becomes obvious after a few messages. Like if she aggressively wants to see dick pics by her 3rd message to you.... red flags should be going off, boys. You know who wants to see nudes super fast? Men.

I find some women here are just here to blow off flirty steam. Others are hear looking for someone to meet up with who understands her sexual needs. Others are just lonely and want an emotional connection. I do try to stick with women who are here to blow off flirty steam like me. If you are one type of Lit member trying to connect with a different type of Kit member one of you is going to end up being disappointed.

This is a better summary of Lit than I could ever have given. Hear Hear!
Love,
Thom

 

[Seadog777]

I'm a male.

I do feel "invisible". Mostly here in forums.

I was very active in late spring and very early summer. Then my teams season went long into late October.
All the people that I had started to get to know and were friendly with, now don't talk to me anymore.
I'm having to start over again.
I know that it'll happen all over again in 2023 because my team travels all over the county and I have to focus.

 

[may_I_please]

I'm a male.

I do feel "invisible". Mostly here in forums.

I was very active in late spring and very early summer. Then my teams season went long into late October.
All the people that I had started to get to know and were friendly with, now don't talk to me anymore.
I'm having to start over again.
I know that it'll happen all over again in 2023 because my team travels all over the county and I have to focus.

You’re not invisible, you’re opinionated and not afraid to have a discussion. Ive never met you before but I recognise your name within a couple of posts

no idea what the team bit means but I’ve been gone years, people remember you and chat when you pay them attention

 

[munch2much]

My bad memory versus Lit

I often feel, hmm a bit anxious?

I’ve been on Lit a long time.

In real life I have a truly awful memory for names. Not great with faces tbh. But somehow I muddle through life ok. I can remember who I’ve talked to before.

But on Lit, over the years I’ve talked to so many. Mostly fairly briefly. But also a fair few more intimate moments. My memory just doesn’t deliver consistently.

I feel awful that I almost certainly talk to people having forgotten about the naughty stuff a year (or ten) ago.

Of course I assume everyone else has near perfect recall.

So please forgive me folks.
And please don’t pretend, just to toy with me, I will believe you

I hasten to add I do recall the Litsters I’ve actually met in real life!

I don’t suppose anyone else has these concerns?

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

I am stealing the phrase “blow off flirty steam“, that’s mine now

 

[may_I_please]

My bad memory versus Lit

I often feel, hmm a bit anxious?

I’ve been on Lit a long time.

In real life I have a truly awful memory for names. Not great with faces tbh. But somehow I muddle through life ok. I can remember who I’ve talked to before.

But on Lit, over the years I’ve talked to so many. Mostly fairly briefly. But also a fair few more intimate moments. My memory just doesn’t deliver consistently.

I feel awful that I almost certainly talk to people having forgotten about the naughty stuff a year (or ten) ago.

Of course I assume everyone else has near perfect recall.

So please forgive me folks.
And please don’t pretend, just to toy with me, I will believe you

I hasten to add I do recall the Litsters I’ve actually met in real life!

I don’t suppose anyone else has these concerns?

If it helps I had no idea who you were before this thread

I had to check profile for gender :blushing:

 

[Seadog777]

You’re not invisible, you’re opinionated and not afraid to have a discussion. Ive never met you before but I recognise your name within a couple of posts

no idea what the team bit means but I’ve been gone years, people remember you and chat when you pay them attention

I feel that way.
Seems like I can not get any of the traction that I had back.
I want to meet and make friends on here and I had started pretty well, now it's the opposite.

I definitely am opinionated. LOL. I travel around and I end up talking to people from all over the country that I get to see different cultures, opinions, lifestyles, etc, etc. So my opinions get formed from all the different experiences that I have every single year.
My Disaster, Emergency Response, Search and Rescue Teams travel all over the country working.
In 2022 we were in California, Kentucky, Missouri, Colorado, Florida, Tennessee and Michigan.
Summer through Fall is our busiest time of the year because people are doing things outside plus weather is batshit crazy.