The Lit experience: men v women

[aussiegeekygal]

I guess I have little compromising info on my profile imo. So I haven't restricted. That decision subject to review and change at any time....

I'm not so worried about my profile, but after having an IRL stalker I like the idea of people not being able to comb through my history.

 

[wallstreetguy]

eh, it is dead and buried. Also, I think I may have lost my girl card by the standards of that intro post. eh, happens often. When my coworkers elect me to speak for the entire female gender, it usually begins with "hey, you are sort of a girl" haha.

lol. I'd guess the men then pretend to be their wives, Now mind reading though, in fairness, you are a straight man hanging out on lit, are you that sure that where your mind is, is that much of a mystery? I think I may be able to take a guess at this mind reading thing.

I caught a guy acting as an exotic woman. Every time I was ready to write, he was one step ahead. I thought this is too good to be true. a woman who thinks like a man.
oh wait, a woman who thinks like a man....
He admitted he was a dude and begged me not to be angry. Obviously, I never let him contact me again (though not for lack of trying on his part).
Wonder about the part with men then pretending to be their wives. That is crazy.
sometimes the guy says his wife has no idea; other times a guy will claim his wife loves it. Cannot tell since some photos are sexy and some are every day.
Then again, it could be any random stalker pretending to be the husband of any random woman. Welcome to Lit!

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I don’t get any of this. None. Every so often a girl will PM me, but it’s always about something very insightful I’ve said on the forum. It has been years since I’ve gotten some bizarre message with sexual overtones to it. And I’ve never gotten dudes trying to have their way with me. No men pawning their wives off on me. No stepdaughters. What am I doing wrong?

it has been years since you've gotten a bizarre message with sexual overtones? indeed, what are you doing wrong, this is lit, that is the bulk of PMs. Well some are less bizarre I guess.

 

[wallstreetguy]

I'm not so worried about my profile, but after having an IRL stalker I like the idea of people not being able to comb through my history.

Sorry to hear that. I had my first real life stalker in college. It was awful.

 

[cascadiabound]

Goddam IRL stalkers...I'm so sorry.

I'm not so worried about my profile, but after having an IRL stalker I like the idea of people not being able to comb through my history.

I get you girl. Sigh.

Sorry to hear that. I had my first real life stalker in college. It was awful.

And it is good to be reminded such shit doesn't only happen to women.
Sorry you experienced this

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I’m thinking boobs. Probably unique in that tho

boobs is always my guess when I am talking to a man and reading his mind.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I caught a guy acting as an exotic woman. Every time I was ready to write, he was one step ahead. I thought this is too good to be true. a woman who thinks like a man.
oh wait, a woman who thinks like a man....
He admitted he was a dude and begged me not to be angry. Obviously, I never let him contact me again (though not for lack of trying on his part).
Wonder about the part with men then pretending to be their wives. That is crazy.
sometimes the guy says his wife has no idea; other times a guy will claim his wife loves it. Cannot tell since some photos are sexy and some are every day.
Then again, it could be any random stalker pretending to be the husband of any random woman. Welcome to Lit!

damn those women who think like men can't be trusted (and did I just lose my chick card for the 2nd time in 5 minutes) And yes oldDudePretending2baHotChick really gets around. I actually decided to play one out one day, just to see the end game. It was in fact a twist I didn't see coming.

 

[wallstreetguy]

damn those women who think like men can't be trusted (and did I just lose my chick card for the 2nd time in 5 minutes) And yes oldDudePretending2baHotChick really gets around. I actually decided to play one out one day, just to see the end game. It was in fact a twist I didn't see coming.

This actually made me laugh out loud ( in a good way). Some women think like men in a good way. I just smelled a rat and I was right.
Who knows how many dudes have fooled me?
You do you and you can keep your chick card, I promise.

 

[munch2much]

I like the time it takes for a guy to ask what do you look like, what size boobs do you have, are you shaved.

What can I say? What man hasn’t fallen for the allure of a lady with 12 o’clock shadow and an Adams apple.

But seriously, I know these things happen a lot because I’ve been THANKED for not doing certain things. Which is quite sad that they felt the need.

I won’t claim that I’m not interested in the answer to those questions. But there’s a time and a place. And a thread!

I’d like to think I get the balance right. But I’ve definitely misjudged things at times. And I’ve been told I’m too slow too! Maybe the two cancel each other out

 

[LadyLascivious1]

damn those women who think like men can't be trusted (and did I just lose my chick card for the 2nd time in 5 minutes) And yes oldDudePretending2baHotChick really gets around. I actually decided to play one out one day, just to see the end game. It was in fact a twist I didn't see coming.

Oh, tell us more!

 

[Thom_the_gleeman]

This actually made me laugh out loud ( in a good way). Some women think like men in a good way. I just smelled a rat and I was right.
Who knows how many dudes have fooled me?
You do you and you can keep your chick card, I promise.

A real interesting question is, if it is a dude, and he fools you so well that you never notice.... does it matter?
Now there's one to think about...
Love,
Thom

 

[aussiegeekygal]

When did everyone forget the rules of the old Internet?

Don't give away too much and assume there's bad players in the mix. It's important to have fun but do it wisely.

 

[cascadiabound]

When did everyone forget the rules of the old Internet?

Don't give away too much and assume there's bad players in the mix. It's important to have fun but do it wisely.

#truth
#preach!

 

[Thom_the_gleeman]

When did everyone forget the rules of the old Internet?

Don't give away too much and assume there's bad players in the mix. It's important to have fun but do it wisely.

Are these the rules to the old Internet? I assumed they were very... very current rules....
Actually it gives me trust issues.... there is a lovely lady whom I have been talking with for over a year. Just a week ago, I realised I had divulged something in our chat that combined with other things I had told about myself over the year, would enable het to, if she really wanted to, find out my full identity... And I actually thought... Shit, I hope she is not playing the long game... which of course was ridiculous... and a very mean-spirited thing to think besides.

Love,

Thom

 

[munch2much]

Women on Lit often tell me about being bombarded by men with weird come-ons and fetishes. They are always surprised when I tell them I get some of that, though not on the same scale. I get men trying to interest me in their wives, men pretending to be women (though I smoke them out pretty quickly; quick tip for dudes: If she can read your mind instantly, it's a guy) and women with some bizarre cravings.
That said, I still enjoy the site quite a bit.

This is all very true. And I had an online stalker who tried to track me down in real life.

With the exception of the stalker I have never been too bothered by it (especially ladies kinks - go for it!). But I’m sure it’s much worse for women, as you say.

 

[Png1drv]

So based on the comments of you ladies, I went through and unfollowed all the people I hadn't made a personal connection with. All 3 of them, ha. Didn't appreciate the creepy aspect. I wont follow anyone without asking going forward. That was good perspective from you guys!

 

[Lord Pmann]

AF!!!!!
The new interface does not allow stalking in quite the same way is in the past. And by stalking, I mean the ability to review the last 1-2+ months of posts to check out a litsters behavior, thread interest, style of interacting, etc.
In the past if someone I had little/no prior contact with messaged me and I was willing to invest some time to check them out, it was very useful to help me decide if I wanted any contact with them or not.

Uh, not to seem all stalkery or to ruin any safe feelings you all have, but you can stalk just as well as you could before. Simply click on the search button in the top right, type in the name of the person you secretly crush on and, bingo, all the pmann posts you could ever want.

it has been years since you've gotten a bizarre message with sexual overtones? indeed, what are you doing wrong, this is lit, that is the bulk of PMs. Well some are less bizarre I guess.

It really has. The weirdest PM I’ve gotten recently is someone chastising me for making fun of California. But not sexual in nature at all.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Oh, tell us more!

I think I shared this before, but dude pretending to be a chick approached me as someone very similar to me. Middle aged mother, kids a little older, more of a bi lean than me, but the same gist. Now this is unusual since I am predominantly straight, so being a fake chick to pick me up, seems a waste, as I would say the odds are like 50 to 1 of me being in a chick mood. But ok, I will roll with it. they declined a live skype call, but sent a few pictures, I sent a little video. Used the hubby is too near excuse, but again video would be a problem since she is a he. We had some random girl talk about life and such, actually wasn't too off. Things start getting a little dirty, and then comes the why. "She" starts going into how hot her teen son's friends are and the one she is banging, sends me a "picture" of him and says he is joining our chat and wants to talk with me. It was a mommy fetish bait and switch. like I assume the thought is I wouldn't be rude because we were talking a while, and now they could switch on voice, as male. sigh. I do get the mommy guys, but never had the mom approach bait and switch. It was kind of an impressive plan that I never saw coming.

 

[Thom_the_gleeman]

I think I shared this before, but dude pretending to be a chick approached me as someone very similar to me. Middle aged mother, kids a little older, more of a bi lean than me, but the same gist. Now this is unusual since I am predominantly straight, so being a fake chick to pick me up, seems a waste, as I would say the odds are like 50 to 1 of me being in a chick mood. But ok, I will roll with it. they declined a live skype call, but sent a few pictures, I sent a little video. Used the hubby is too near excuse, but again video would be a problem since she is a he. We had some random girl talk about life and such, actually wasn't too off. Things start getting a little dirty, and then comes the why. "She" starts going into how hot her teen son's friends are and the one she is banging, sends me a "picture" of him and says he is joining our chat and wants to talk with me. It was a mommy fetish bait and switch. like I assume the thought is I wouldn't be rude because we were talking a while, and now they could switch on voice, as male. sigh. I do get the mommy guys, but never had the mom approach bait and switch. It was kind of an impressive plan that I never saw coming.

holy Crap! See, people do play the long game.... but still... has anyone ever fallen for that? ever?
Nevermind... I know the answer... in an infinite world such an so on.... (the infinity in this being the infinite stupidity of mankind )

 

[Mrtenant]

I think I shared this before, but dude pretending to be a chick approached me as someone very similar to me. Middle aged mother, kids a little older, more of a bi lean than me, but the same gist. Now this is unusual since I am predominantly straight, so being a fake chick to pick me up, seems a waste, as I would say the odds are like 50 to 1 of me being in a chick mood. But ok, I will roll with it. they declined a live skype call, but sent a few pictures, I sent a little video. Used the hubby is too near excuse, but again video would be a problem since she is a he. We had some random girl talk about life and such, actually wasn't too off. Things start getting a little dirty, and then comes the why. "She" starts going into how hot her teen son's friends are and the one she is banging, sends me a "picture" of him and says he is joining our chat and wants to talk with me. It was a mommy fetish bait and switch. like I assume the thought is I wouldn't be rude because we were talking a while, and now they could switch on voice, as male. sigh. I do get the mommy guys, but never had the mom approach bait and switch. It was kind of an impressive plan that I never saw coming.

i've done my share of dumb shit. But dayummm. That's messed up

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

holy Crap! See, people do play the long game.... but still... has anyone ever fallen for that? ever?
Nevermind... I know the answer... in an infinite world such an so on.... (the infinity in this being the infinite stupidity of mankind )

no idea, maybe, I was impressed at the creativity though.

i've done my share of dumb shit. But dayummm. That's messed up

lol. well really I guess it just boils down to a role play with a dude, I just don't normally role play. And if I do, I want a really cool character, not myself. and I will totally overact my character in the cheesiest way possible.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I think I shared this before, but dude pretending to be a chick approached me as someone very similar to me. Middle aged mother, kids a little older, more of a bi lean than me, but the same gist. Now this is unusual since I am predominantly straight, so being a fake chick to pick me up, seems a waste, as I would say the odds are like 50 to 1 of me being in a chick mood. But ok, I will roll with it. they declined a live skype call, but sent a few pictures, I sent a little video. Used the hubby is too near excuse, but again video would be a problem since she is a he. We had some random girl talk about life and such, actually wasn't too off. Things start getting a little dirty, and then comes the why. "She" starts going into how hot her teen son's friends are and the one she is banging, sends me a "picture" of him and says he is joining our chat and wants to talk with me. It was a mommy fetish bait and switch. like I assume the thought is I wouldn't be rude because we were talking a while, and now they could switch on voice, as male. sigh. I do get the mommy guys, but never had the mom approach bait and switch. It was kind of an impressive plan that I never saw coming.

This is a random thought, but the mommy thing is so much less desirable than the daddy thing for so many on Lit.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

So based on the comments of you ladies, I went through and unfollowed all the people I hadn't made a personal connection with. All 3 of them, ha. Didn't appreciate the creepy aspect. I wont follow anyone without asking going forward. That was good perspective from you guys!

do most people actually know who is following them? I will be honest, I don't pay attention at all. now I am curious.

 

[cascadiabound]

I think I shared this before, but dude pretending to be a chick approached me as someone very similar to me. Middle aged mother, kids a little older, more of a bi lean than me, but the same gist. Now this is unusual since I am predominantly straight, so being a fake chick to pick me up, seems a waste, as I would say the odds are like 50 to 1 of me being in a chick mood. But ok, I will roll with it. they declined a live skype call, but sent a few pictures, I sent a little video. Used the hubby is too near excuse, but again video would be a problem since she is a he. We had some random girl talk about life and such, actually wasn't too off. Things start getting a little dirty, and then comes the why. "She" starts going into how hot her teen son's friends are and the one she is banging, sends me a "picture" of him and says he is joining our chat and wants to talk with me. It was a mommy fetish bait and switch. like I assume the thought is I wouldn't be rude because we were talking a while, and now they could switch on voice, as male. sigh. I do get the mommy guys, but never had the mom approach bait and switch. It was kind of an impressive plan that I never saw coming.

I had a few mommy fetish interactions that were extremely weird, uncomfortable and insistent.
It was a long time ago but the memory is a bit PTSD inducing.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

This is a random thought, but the mommy thing is so much less desirable than the daddy thing for so many on Lit.

True. If I am ever doing an incest role play, I so call the daddy role.