Ladies advice for men
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Lonelywife1205
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anniebaby10
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When a girl says no she means it....
and always start off with oral sex on her.
and always start off with oral sex on her.
Dazer3
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I imagine many of us men are considered dicks, but completely oblivious to people seeing us as that way. I've realized that I was being a dick a time or two... not my proudest moments. Good advice.
TongueLust
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Don't vacillate.
Keep your word.
Keep your word.
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Absolutely, no means no! There are zero exceptions to that. Oral sex first, middle, and last (if a girl is not too sensitive from orgasms, I suppose), if I was allowed.
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I agree 100%. And, I believe that should work both ways.
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Yes.
Very cool, TL. At the moment, I can think of anything more profound that would improve humanity and relationships.
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Be honest. 100%. All the time.
If you say you are going to do something do it.
If you make plans with your partner don't cancel.
Your partner should be your priority above all others.
Listen to your partner, even if what she says isn't what you want to hear.
If you say you are going to do something do it.
If you make plans with your partner don't cancel.
Your partner should be your priority above all others.
Listen to your partner, even if what she says isn't what you want to hear.
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Hey Dazer : ) I think a little picnic would be romantic. Some yummy food...bottle of wine... a beautiful setting somewhere away from all the chaos.
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If you're interested in a woman. Be interested in her. Not just about what she looks like or what kind of sex she likes or all that other surface bullshit. Ask about her day, show interest and attention to her entire life. Pretty words are nice but what's really great is someone who when he hears I'm having a bad day listens to me rant or if I'm having a good day wants to celebrate with me or if I'm having a blah day, he makes me laugh. Sincere interest goes a long long way.
Basically make it so that whenever anything happens in her life, YOU are the first person she wants to call.
Basically make it so that whenever anything happens in her life, YOU are the first person she wants to call.
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Dazer3
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Right on! And, thank you for your use of "partner." You remind me that I could be more inclusive. Thanks again!
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Nyx,
It would be the one woman on Lit that I would love most to have a little picnic with great food and wine to mention it... Without any doubt, I will follow your advice.
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Well put! And, taken to heart. Thank you!
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Thanks that's sweet
You're the cat's meow, Nyx.
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It's funny but I think guys have this belief that getting the girl is about big over the top things or practiced moves but what women swoon over are really the little things that show a guy is actually listening to them and being thoughtful. Don't get me wrong big shows are nice but what sustains us are the little things. Hubby bringing me my fav author's newest book because he knows I haven't read it yet or the lemon tree he bought me even though he knows I'm probably gonna kill it but I love lemons. So I catch him keeping it watered and alive for me. When I told him that girl child was needing pamprin for cramps and he picked up a box of chocolates and her own personal heating pad as well. We just want to know that the person we are with is paying attention
Don't guys want the same thing?
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You're contribution is amazing! You're hubby sounds like a good guy, and those little things that he does is evidence that you're one special girl. Thank you for sharing!
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blulilacgrl
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Lol. Sorry. I just reread and realized that you might have just been asking for general not romantic advice. So to that end...
Change your underwear and socks everyday and your sheets once a week. Unless you have made your partner very very happy, then change your sheets more often.
Dazer3
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Lol. Sorry. I just reread and realized that you might have just been asking for general not romantic advice. So to that end...
Change your underwear and socks everyday and your sheets once a week. Unless you have made your partner very very happy, then change your sheets more often.
No, no, no! I'm asking that any and all input be shared. Romance to laundry, let's hear it. I truly appreciated your post!
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Thought of one more.
Accept your partner for who they are. Don't try to change them.
Accept your partner for who they are. Don't try to change them.
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Oh my dear, you have opened Pandora's box. LOL
I agree with much of what the ladies have already shared and some of what is in my answer may be a repeat, but they say repetition improves memory. Here are a few things I think maybe of some assistance.
Give your best effort. Things don't always have to be over the top, but they should be special and your best effort. If you don't have a lot of money to go out, bring over a pizza, her favorite dessert (no, it's not on your body), and watch something on Netflix, etc.
Never lie. She's going to find out one way or another, or you're going to screw up and trust me, women would rather be hurt by the truth than by a lie. "I'm sorry" isn't that difficult to say and it goes a long way to make things better moving forward.
If you're not getting what you want or need for some reason, don't hide it and then be angry you didn't get it or she didn't give it to you. Talk about it, let her know what you'd like from her or to share with her. Neither of you are mind readers and if you communicate openly, things are so much easier.
One more thing, I heard this somewhere and I thought it was an interesting point of view. Sometimes partners can't give or meet at 50/50, sometimes things need to be 60/40 or 70/30 etc...but if you both agree to that your goal is to give 100% to the relationship, you both win. Giving to the relationship and giving to your partner are two different things.
Good thread, feel free to share your ideas with the ladies too. We can all use a little insider info.
Dazer3
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Great advice!
