❓ PLP Inquires❓

[AlpineFresco]

LMAO!

That's a weird thing to say. Even more when you consider that it was 9 am. lol
Are you sure she knew this was a date? I'm asking because of the time and the activity involved. It suggest more something you would do with a friend, or a woman you've been dating for a while. But maybe that's just a cultural difference.

No, she wanted to see the town. It was definitely set up as a date.
We did end up getting together, but at no point did she get any less confusing!

 

[Orchidea73]

No, she wanted to see the town. It was definitely set up as a date.
We did end up getting together, but at no point did she get any less confusing!

Ahahahhahah!
Now I'm curious. Did you ask her about it later? Why did she said that?
Was it a "subtle" msg to you or something had happened?

 

[AlpineFresco]

Ahahahhahah!
Now I'm curious. Did you ask her about it later? Why did she said that?
Was it a "subtle" msg to you or something had happened?

Oh no, something had happened. I hadn't realised I was, at that point, her rebound. She'd had an argument with her then-ex. I was very naive!

 

[Orchidea73]

Oh no, something had happened. I hadn't realised I was, at that point, her rebound. She'd had an argument with her then-ex. I was very naive!

Ah. It makes sense, then.

 

[HotBrand]

Oh, oh!

I once went on a date with someone who liked to preface sentences with:

"I know it's not a popular opinion but ..."

Those unpopular opinions would then span to bad history ("but it was the Vikings, then the Normans, then the Romans who invaded England", said the teacher), eugenics ("but most disabled people aren't happy anyway"), and sexual rights ("but gay men don't have wombs and can't ever be good parents").

... the sex wasn't even worth it!

(I joke, the sex was worth it)

(That was also a joke!)

 

[mulehead61]

Probably not the worst date out there. But my worst date was many years ago, around 2005 (maybe?) when I was still living in Rome. I went on a date with this guy, who was working as a Director for ENI (an Italian multinational oil and gas company, one of the seven "Supermajor".) We went out for dinner and he brought me in one of the most luxurious restaurants in Rome. One of those in Via Veneto, La Dolce Vita movie. Anyway, the place was great, the view from the terrazze and the food were just excellent. However, after the antipasto he started talking about dominance. Like how he was dominant and how he expected his "requests" and "needs" to be fulfilled by "his" woman. At first I decided to indulge him and listen, see where he was going with all that. But it became too much, like he had already decided that I was "his" woman, and my eyes started to roll back inside my head. I started to be a bit sarcastic and give him a hint but he kept going, so I really got pissed off. I left him in the middle of the dinner and went home.

It's not something that I have ever done before, or after. And it's not something I'm proud of. But the guy was a bit too arrogant for my taste and it felt like he was playing from a script. Plus, he was ASSuming too much, on a first real date. I had met him a week before in a seminar.

Anyway, not a tragedy, except I didn't get to finish that delicious food. He could've waited at least until the dessert, or while drinking the digestive. But that's the worse date I can remember.

Bonus point: I've never met anyone from Lit, so I don't have bad or good date to tell.

I met this guy and we decided to go on a date on Valentine's Day. He showed up at my door and I let him in, and told him I just needed to grab my purse and jacket. I came back in the room a minute later to him standing there, pants around his ankles, stroking his cock. I let him know that was not what I had in mind when he asked me to dinner, and I told him to leave. He proceeded to call me nasty names, tell me how fat I was, and how I'd never be lucky enough to get a guy like him again. Ughhhhh.

My worst Lit date? I met a guy here who turned violent after our second date.

I pick real winners. Obvs.

I’m surprised guys are this bold....I must be naive...

Wonder if they do this with all dates?

 

[beachbaby179]

Probably the one guy who kept marveling at how much I looked like his sister. And then couldn't even kiss me good night, because, well... I looked like his sister.

 

[Dribble]

Went to a general admission Filter concert. We worked our way to the front. It was quite violent. She stood in front of me, and I held onto the rail on both sides of her. The security dude reached up and pulled a surfer off the crowd...over the girl. The full weight of the surfer went on her. She collapsed with her head against the rail. She felt her neck pop and screamed in pain. I went superman. Pushing everyone out of the way as I carried her away...the fear in her eyes scared me. We spent the next 6 hours in the emergency room. We were lucky.

 

[mulehead61]

Probably the one guy who kept marveling at how much I looked like his sister. And then couldn't even kiss me good night, because, well... I looked like his sister.

I don’t have any sisters so not an issue for me...

 

[TheOriginalSA]

Last page!

12.16.20

Tell me about the worst date you've ever been on.
(Bonus points if you tell me about the worst "Lit date" you've ever had.)

I was taking out a female I loved, but we were only FWB. We were on our way to the restaurant, when she mentioned something about the doorman thinking ill of her, then I asked questions I really didn't want to know. She reveals to me, she's been getting fucked by an ex. I quietly lose my shit, I'm dropped tears, but I'm raging. I try to salvage the night, we go out anyway. I can't let go of the subject, I start killing shots fast, we're arguing at dinner, tears are dropping again. I try to rationalize it, telling myself were just FWB. We go to a bar, because young and stupid me, thought I needed to get fucked up. We bring the subject up, tears drop again, I pay the bill and leave, she didn't realize I was gone. I'm full crying, screaming in anger, punching and kicking the walls, in between walking down the blocks to clear my head. I pass by a group of people, when I'm one block down, I hear them laughing at me. I catch a cab and go home, next day the ugliest argument occurs, we're really going in.


That was the worst date experience, I have been through



Edited to add: I laugh about it now, so many awkward and uncomfortable moments that night

 

[AveryElle]

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12.16.20

Tell me about the worst date you've ever been on.
(Bonus points if you tell me about the worst "Lit date" you've ever had.)

Possibly the guy that wouldn’t let go just how good the salmon was until I tried it. After being told I didn’t eat fish or meat. He also gave me a fake last name, which I asked about when I saw it on his credit card when he paid the bill. That was fun.

My worst lit date is probably whenever I met Alpine. Because he’s the worst

 

[Mei5ter]

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12.16.20

Tell me about the worst date you've ever been on.
(Bonus points if you tell me about the worst "Lit date" you've ever had.)

I don't have anything to contribute, except to suggest that a thread along the lines of "NAL who would be your nightmare date from the ninth circle of hell"...might be interesting?

 

[Orchidea73]

I don't have anything to contribute, except to suggest that a thread along the lines of "NAL who would be your nightmare date from the ninth circle of hell"...might be interesting?

And open the Pandora box. lol
Sounds more like Pmann's territory.

 

[Mei5ter]

And open the Pandora box. lol
Sounds more like Pmann's territory.

The only reason I would ever open Pandora's Box would be to release Hope, Orchidea.

Besides, even if I did find out in the past that not all girls appreciate sadomasochistic kink on a first date, it would be ungentlemanly to go into details, no?

 

[Orchidea73]

The only reason I would ever open Pandora's Box would be to release Hope, Orchidea.

Besides, even if I did find out in the past that not all girls appreciate sadomasochistic kink on a first date, it would be ungentlemanly to go into details, no?

I have no doubt that you are indeed a gentleman.

"NAL who would be your nightmare date from the ninth circle of hell" could be an intriguing subject.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

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12.16.20

Tell me about the worst date you've ever been on.
(Bonus points if you tell me about the worst "Lit date" you've ever had.)

The one that sticks in my mind was a high vis Lit fella who came with a glowing recommendation from someone I trusted. (This was years ago, when I was gloriously naïve and still trusted people. ) He's wonderful! she said. You'll love him! she said.

After several minutes of very casual, barely-even-flirting conversation, he suddenly says to me,

'Hold still, baby girl, Daddy's almost finished.'

That's right you're finished! Now pack up your penis and hit the road, bub!

For crying out loud.

 

[AveryElle]

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12.16.20

Tell me about the worst date you've ever been on.
(Bonus points if you tell me about the worst "Lit date" you've ever had.)

I guess I should have also included that my prom date had mono and that still was better than the guy that basically fork forced me to try the salmon.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Dating Florida Woman

Okay, thanks for everyone who shared in this question. Many of the answers made me go "damn....that's harsh".

My worst date was a double-date with a woman, her grown son, and his wife. It kind of went like this:

1. We decided to meet for the first date and do a bay dinner cruise. (Paul's First Lesson: NEVER agree to a date you can't just walk away from.)

2. The day of the date, she let me know her son and daughter in-law would be joining us. This actually didn't bother me, as I have no problem with double-dates as first dates.

3. We meet at the dock and spend an hour sitting in the waiting area. This part goes pretty smooth, but her and the son were knocking back the giant-fruity-six-shots-of-liquor umbrella drinks. (Power Drinking is generally a bad sign on any first date.)

4. We get onto the ship and leave the dock and are almost immediately seated for dinner. Dinner is...not good. Not horrible, but not good. The date and her son start bitching and spend pretty much the entire dinner in a family bitch session about...everything and everyone. They both fire passive-aggressive shots at me and the daughter in law. We survive dinner. (The words survive and first date should never appear in the same sentence.)

5. We move to the deck for drinks and dancing. Power drinking continues. Bitch session continues, with the added joy of them talking shit about other passengers, waiters/waitresses/bartenders/DJ. (Any first date that involves your date talking shit about strangers is not going well.)

Interlude 1: By this point, I am done. I'd have left then if it had been physically possible. The only thing that is nice is the daughter in law is a sweet heart, as embarrassed as I am, and pissed about their conduct. We bond.

Interlude 2: I start into a PTSD event, what are called "Intrusive Thoughts", in this case triggered by the general environment of being on a boat with a dark tree lined shore a few hundred yards away. I kept expecting to see the shore line light up with muzzle flashes and tracers. (Avoid any first date circumstances that will trigger a PTSD event.)

6. We make it to the end of the cruise and arrive safety back at shore. As we disembark the son goes full Florida Man, rips off his shirt, and starts challenging people to a fight, with his mother, my date, egging him on. (Anything that involves Full Florida Man is going to end badly.)

7. I intervene with Florida Man. He is not happy. He is also very drunk so when he decides he wants to fight me...well, it ends badly for him. I'm completely sober. I outweigh him by forty fighting pounds. I'm a Deputy Sheriff so I am actually a professional drunk wrestler. I've quit fighting by this time and I am just coaching boxing. (Any date that ends in a fist fight is going to memorable, but not probably not a "good" date.)

8. He goes to jail. Date goes to jail. After the police arrest her son (Florida Man), she decides to go full Florida Woman. (Ditto if the words "Florida Woman" appear in any sentence about a first date.)

Denoument: Yet, out of this hellish first date comes something good. After the belligerents are carted away, I take the daughter in law to a pancake house. We hit if off and I counsel her about domestic abuse, then take her home to pack her bags, then drive her about a hundred miles to her parents house. I sleep on the couch. In the morning we get a restraining order and she files for divorce. We bond over the shared experience and eventually forge a friendship that has lasted twenty odd years, with me in the role of her "dutch uncle" to this day. As a PSA, when you meet a victim of domestic abuse one of the things they need is support and some people in their lives who are looking out for them. So often it's a vicious cycle they're trapped in. YOU can help them, just anticipate it might be a long haul.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

There are some true disasters here!! Oh gosh!!


Well here's mine. Too much to type and much better taken aurally. Enjoy...?

https://voca.ro/1htvdaknO9VR

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

12.23.20

Ok we're winding up 2020 (thank sweet baby jesus) and it's been a hard year.

Tell me 10 Things that got you through the year in one piece, gave you hope, brightened your year or for which you were grateful.

 

[AveryElle]

12.23.20

Ok we're winding up 2020 (thank sweet baby jesus) and it's been a hard year.

Tell me 10 Things that got you through the year in one piece, gave you hope, brightened your year or for which you were grateful.

1. My sister. With all the drama of the year, even only seeing her twice in 2020, we relied on each other a lot.
2. My dog. I thought 2020 was her last year a few times. It wasn’t. She’s still hogging my bed.
3. My child. He was able to adapt and wears a mask like a champ. He cares for his neighbors and expresses his emotions well - valuable in this tough time.
4. My kid’s camp and school, both of which have been able to mostly function well in the second half of 2020. I know without that routine, we’d all be miserable. They have both done an amazing job keeping kids and staff safe - we are truly lucky.
5. My spouse. He has to go to work, so I’m not smothered like a lot of people currently are.
6. My neighbors. Mostly awesome, mostly safe. We’ve been able to safely socialize and allow our kids to play outside.
7. Local restaurants. Other than the outstanding take out, so many have been feeding the community in an otherwise thankless environment by sending food to hospitals, to nursing homes, lunch boxes for kids whose schools aren’t open. They’re being shit on by the government but still know the healing power of food.
8. Brave government officials trying to protect the population in the face of such hatred by absolute morons. People protesting with high powered rifles in front of their homes because certain businesses MUST be closed to protect public health. It’s a shitty situation and I’m thankful for the few that have stood up.
9. American voters. People waited in line for hours and hours in unsafe conditions to vote. The historic turn out, including among young people, gives me hope that this country can turn around and be a better, more hopeful, just, and prosperous place for everyone. That feeling of relief and elation that came over me is one I’ll never forget.
10. Alpine. He’s patient and sweet, and even if the pandemic ends us, someone else will be lucky enough to have him.

I wish you all a safe Christmas and New Years, and I hope 2021 brings all of you the relief and happiness so many of us need. It’s been a really difficult year for almost everyone. You don’t have to have lost your job to be under a mountain of pressure. We all owe it to ourselves to be gentle with each other, don’t worry about the ‘quarantine 15 (or 20...)’, and whether your kid is watching too much tv. May 2021 bring you all a turned tide, good health, and wonderful experiences.

 

[beachbaby179]

1. First and foremost, God. For having a plan, even if I don't know what it is. I'm holding on to the fact that there is indeed a plan, and it keeps me sane.

2. My kids. They've grown into men I'm proud of, and they demonstrated patience and compassion throughout this grueling year.

3. My job. As an essential business, we not only didn't close even one day during 2020, but we expanded, creating jobs for about 100 people.

4. Zoom. Skype. Etc. Made it possible to still interact with people and not feel quite so isolated.

5. My brother. Took on the burden of about 90% of my mom's care during a time when I physically couldn't visit or be there.

6. My sister. Has always been, and always will be, 'my person'.

7. My Lit girls. You know who you are. Kept me grounded during a difficult time.

8. The Lit guy who let me go, brutally but effectively, so that I could move on to number 9.

9. Match.com. Brought me the best thing that's happened to me in a long time - my guy. I still don't think it's the best way to meet people, but it did work in my case.

10. And all you crazy pervs on Lit for being a community for me when community was hard to come by.

 

[HotBrand]

12.23.20

Ok we're winding up 2020 (thank sweet baby jesus) and it's been a hard year.

Tell me 10 Things that got you through the year in one piece, gave you hope, brightened your year or for which you were grateful.

Alrighty! I'm going to jump on this because I'm a team player (and not because I just died on my game AGAIN).

FYI: I've been in a form of lockdown since August 2019. The "quarantine" element of COVID has had a very different impact on my current lifestyle.

1. Spanish Flu was pretty terrible. Smallpox was a scourge. The Black Death made people think that the end of the world had come. We are not alone historically in this struggle.
2. The changes in society have forced a reassessment of how we work. Telecommuting and distance working are far more common. If this becomes a permanent change, I believe that the reduced times in travel will help our work-life balance. I'm hopeful that this will be the case and it has helped me this year.
3. Renewed friendships. Since I was already in lockdown, I felt quite isolated from the active world. When COVID started, people were compelled to spend more time indoors, which gave me a great opportunity to reconnect with old friends. Those friends have made life so much more bearable and I am so grateful!
4. Video games. Come on. I'm indoors. They take away some of the misery that otherwise sinks in.
5. Movies. Especially horror movies. They've kept cabin fever at bay somewhat. I even had a conversation with a couple of the actors from the movie, Host. That was such an innovative film for the COVID era (it is all filmed over Zoom during lockdown) ... and I got to hear about all the work behind the scenes to film stunts and scares!
6. My two cats. It's such a loser statement but I've had more time to work on their anxiety. It's gone well so far too. Those little bastards have kept me sane by driving me insane. As they say, hell is being trapped in a room with your best friend.
7. Books. Tons of books. I can learn, I can find entertainment, I can be inspired, I can be crushed ... and all from my own home. I've really learnt the joys of reading again!
8. Among Us. That's a special mention. It's allowed me to play games with friends, drink and be merry, and ... you know ... kill people and lie without shame. It's been such a discovery!
9. Porn. Let's be honest, porn is awesome. It's been amazing edging and denying myself while teasing with porn. Come on, you know what I mean!
10. Lit. You guys are obviously awesome. Sex is awesome. A combination of the two is what I call "awesome-awesome". I am so thrilled to have had the privilege of getting to know so many people here. Long may it continue!

 

[dadbod4u]

12.23.20

Ok we're winding up 2020 (thank sweet baby jesus) and it's been a hard year.

Tell me 10 Things that got you through the year in one piece, gave you hope, brightened your year or for which you were grateful.

1. My newly diagnosed anxiety disorder (as of August), for pushing me to make better life choices and causing there to be less dad bod (in a good way!).

2. My friends. I am very choosy and so I dont have many, but the relationships are deep AF.

3. The Lit community, even though I've been gone for most of the year. Y'all are awesome, and I mean that.

4. Being fortunate enough to be in education so I could still work from home. One less thing to be anxious about, and I realize not everyone is as fortunate.

5. My kids, keeping me active even on bad days where I didn't feel like getting out of bed.

6. A summer trip where we dropped anchor on the lake out of cell range and away from civilization, and did nothing for a week. Everyone should do something along those lines, as its great for your soul.

7. Essential oil-infused epsom salts and a jetted tub.

8. My health, and that of my family.

9. Cooking. I've dabbled for a long time but I dove in during the lockdown and found it to be a great stress outlet.

10. Books! I read 55 this year and am aiming for more in 2021.

 

[dadbod4u]

Impressive on the books, dadbod.
As someone who suffers from anxiety and depression, I’m glad you’re handling yours so well. It’s a bitch.

That it is. I've developed some mantras with help from my counselor, and I have some meds that are helping. 90% of the time I seem fine but that 10% is an absolute monster, and there isn't a clear trigger or pattern so its anyone's guess as to when the 10% shows up. Used to think it was something that was just all in someone's head and they needed to snap out of it. How wrong I was.