❓ PLP Inquires❓

[Mei5ter]

Sticky shift.

Crank shaft?

 

[AlpineFresco]

Crank shaft?

Sometimes, but that's not really your business.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Crank shaft?

Sometimes, but that's not really your business.

<quietly sits in the corner>

 

[AveryElle]

In terms of agreeable...nothing is worse than ‘whatever you want to do/eat/see’. Omg.

 

[Orchidea73]

11.22.20

I read a recent article that said (paraphrased) -- Agreeable people are the most desirable people to employ or being in a relationship with. They work harder for less compensation and are less likely to put up a fuss when things push against their boundaries.

Are you an agreeable person? If so, what pros and cons have you run into? What do you think is the opposite of agreeable?

It depends from the situation and context. As much as I am spontaneous and rely on my instincts, I am also very logical and practical. I have an analytical mind and I am for problem solving. I am an independent thinker and opinionated but I'm not a stubborn. I always try to keep an open mind and listen to other people's opinion, and appreciate their advice/suggestions/feedback. I've changed my mind on various subject, after I have listen to them and pondered well. Especially, from people who are more knowledgeable than me on a particular subject. Some things which I thought I was sure about, have changed with time. My opinion is not the same as it was before. I'm curious by nature, therefore I like to see things from various perspectives and hit the refresh button, from time to time.

I also do not like negativity and toxic environment and/or people. I do try to avoid or ignore those people and situations, if I can help it. As for relationships, I am not sure I can call myself agreeable. But I am not sure what agreeable means in some cases either. I am not a pain in the ass. I am not needy or clingy and I'm pretty easy going. But I do have boundaries and I am fierce about protecting them and my independence. I need a strong personality, with a lot of confidence, by my side. Any other kind won't do, no matter how good a person he might be.

Last but not least. If agreeable means someone who works harder for less compensation, then I am def. not agreeable. I'm past the point to prove myself (not a spring chicken anymore) and won't accept less. Fortunately for me, I've never been afraid to change and jump into unknown territories as well. I have made choices and faced the consequences. That gives you a lot of freedom in terms of negotiation because you are not afraid to say no to a bad offer. You know and they know that you can walk away at anytime. That gives you power over yourself. Fortunately, that has worked well for me most of the time.

 

[Orchidea73]

In terms of agreeable...nothing is worse than ‘whatever you want to do/eat/see’. Omg.

I truly can't stand that. It's an instant put off and even makes me angry sometimes.

 

[Dirt_in_the_Ground]

Thinking that I currently have the most unruly beard I've ever had, and that I need to do some grooming before I eat mashed potatoes and gravy in front of other people. If we're even doing that this year. My family never tells me anything. Just more holiday drama.

 

[Mei5ter]

11.22.20

I read a recent article that said (paraphrased) -- Agreeable people are the most desirable people to employ or being in a relationship with. They work harder for less compensation and are less likely to put up a fuss when things push against their boundaries.

Are you an agreeable person? If so, what pros and cons have you run into? What do you think is the opposite of agreeable?

I'm completely fine being agreeable, as long as that's okay with you?

 

[Karabare]

11.22.20

I read a recent article that said (paraphrased) -- Agreeable people are the most desirable people to employ or being in a relationship with. They work harder for less compensation and are less likely to put up a fuss when things push against their boundaries.

Are you an agreeable person? If so, what pros and cons have you run into? What do you think is the opposite of agreeable?

Is that agreeable? It just sounds like they are scared, uninterested or boring. I'm not agreeable, I'm stubborn and opinionated, sometimes to my detriment. I can be apathetic at times if I really don't care. But I'm always going to tell you harder and to pull my hair more.

 

[AlpineFresco]

You ever been in that situation where someone’s really winding up for a fight, but their logic does actually make sense so you realise your error and agree with them, only to watch them get very angry because they didn’t get the argument they were expecting/wanting?

I have. It’s hilarious.

 

[dadbod4u]

You ever been in that situation where someone’s really winding up for a fight, but their logic does actually make sense so you realise your error and agree with them, only to watch them get very angry because they didn’t get the argument they were expecting/wanting?

I have. It’s hilarious.

Those are the best.

 

[Dirt_in_the_Ground]

Thinking that I really don't want to do Thanksgiving, because then I have to deal with other people I wouldn't normally speak to. But I do want to eat turkey and stuffing and corn and mashed potatoes, and then to pass out in a reclining chair watching a football game on TV, and I am unlikely to accomplish these things alone. Life requires certain sacrifices.

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

Another downside to being too agreeable is that if a person tends to focus on the happiness and meeting the needs of others, they might not be self-aware enough to anticipate problems or be able to effectively reroute things in a different direction before there are crossed wires and hurt feelings on one or both sides.

I've been on both ends of it and it's mf painful. It's painful for me, and it's painful to see the other person suffering as well, and to know that I'm to blame for at least some of that. Not my finest moments for sure, and it sucks feeling like there isn't anything to say to remedy the situation.

It's super humbling to want to be a good friend, or partner, or just a good human, to have the best of intentions, and to feel like you've failed.

This.

A fucking million times this.

A bajillion fucking times this.

 

[Paul_Chance]

The One Concept That Will Change Your Life For The Better

11.22.20

I read a recent article that said (paraphrased) -- Agreeable people are the most desirable people to employ or being in a relationship with. They work harder for less compensation and are less likely to put up a fuss when things push against their boundaries.

Are you an agreeable person? If so, what pros and cons have you run into? What do you think is the opposite of agreeable?

Yes, I am an agreeable person (see, I just did it right there). I know people who are just fundamentally disagreeable - and what I mean by that is no matter what you say, whether it's a serious discussion or a casual commentary, their default response is to disagree with whatever you said. For those people even a comment as simple as "it's a beautiful day" results in them pointing out all the faults of the day. At the same time, and with no apparent internal conflict, if you said "You're right, it's an ugly day" they would then respond with a long list of all the reasons it was a beautiful day.

The Pros: First off, it takes a lot of the drama out of your life. Second, it builds solid relationships, both professional and personal. Third, it allows other people, when working in a team, to grow and learn and become confident in their decision making process.

The Cons: It leads some people to believe you're a push-over, which inadvertently sets them up for disappointment when they realize your not. It's possible to be both agreeable and uncompromising at the same time.

Bonus Round - How To Not Be A Disagreeable Cuss: I use the Stoic principle of the Dichotomy of Control. It's pretty simple. In all things ask "Does it Matter? What can I do about it?" Then do it - or let it go. Here is the simple truth - a vast amount of the things that bring us disagreement simply don't really matter, so just let them go.

Here's a little article that explains the concept succinctly.

The Dichotomy of Control

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

12.01.20

Write the recipe for your perfect orgasm.

 

[Dirt_in_the_Ground]

One of my favorites was with a smart and kinda nerdy woman who had clearly done some research on how to give a bj. She approached the process studiously, and I could appreciate and admire how her mind was working. But I think the all-time best recipe is when you both commit to making a baby. It's purpose-driven, and you let all worries go. There is a sense of abandon in that.

 

[AveryElle]

12.01.20

Write the recipe for your perfect orgasm.

One part good partner
One part teasing before hand
A dash of a very nice hotel room (good bed. Clean room)
And a big spoonful of no time constraints.

Served with a side of actual restraints and some toys for good measure.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Take 1 Good Partner
Flavor with Love and Desire
Bring to a simmer with plenty of Foreplay
Add a liberal dose of your favorite Kink
Then heat to a rapid boil
Hold there as long as you can
Then ride the waves of Pleasure
Serve with a dash of humor
and eat Ice Cream in the Dark afterwards

 

[Dribble]

I don't believe in a recipe. That is a fixed thing...add this...do that. Far better to use your mind for what is needed in the moment

 

[Dribble]

1 Indie
1 PLP

Peel their panties downward. Once you've done that, you can continue peeling their bras off, in one or two snaps. Mix the two together until creamy. This is the most common way to have an orgasm, so chances are that you're already familiar with it.

Ok...so I was wrong...

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

1 Indie
1 PLP

Peel their panties downward. Once you've done that, you can continue peeling their bras off, in one or two snaps. Mix the two together until creamy. This is the most common way to have an orgasm, so chances are that you're already familiar with it.

Ok...so I was wrong...

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Last page!

12.16.20

Tell me about the worst date you've ever been on.
(Bonus points if you tell me about the worst "Lit date" you've ever had.)

 

[AlpineFresco]

Last page!

12.16.20

Tell me about the worst date you've ever been on.
(Bonus points if you tell me about the worst "Lit date" you've ever had.)

It's about 10 years ago. I'm sitting there in the cafe, waiting for her - we kind of know each other, we've expressed an attraction to each other, so... this should be okay, right? Anyway, it's noon-ish, we're going to meet for a coffee and then go hiking.
She turns up on time, but flops down into the chair and her very first words are not 'Hi' or any variant of that, but instead, 'I am so done with dating!'

Threw me for a loop, that did!

 

[Orchidea73]

.....................

 

[Orchidea73]

It's about 10 years ago. I'm sitting there in the cafe, waiting for her - we kind of know each other, we've expressed an attraction to each other, so... this should be okay, right? Anyway, it's noon-ish, we're going to meet for a coffee and then go hiking.
She turns up on time, but flops down into the chair and her very first words are not 'Hi' or any variant of that, but instead, 'I am so done with dating!'

Threw me for a loop, that did!

LMAO!

That's a weird thing to say. Even more when you consider that it was 9 am. lol
Are you sure she knew this was a date? I'm asking because of the time and the activity involved. It suggest more something you would do with a friend, or a woman you've been dating for a while. But maybe that's just a cultural difference.