Why do we like being submissive?

[BHughes]

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[EmilysJournal]

I don’t really have any real world experience with it, but when I imagine the possibility of submitting, I imagine myself disappearing into a different state of being. While physically I might experience something intense, emotionally and intellectually i imagine letting go, relaxing. That’s how I imagine it anyway. An escape.

 

[Bearsleeve]

Sub missive Male

I've been realizing more and more my submission to my wife.
It amazing. I am eager and researching our special relationship to find the words to explain my submission as I beginning to see it

 

[Bearsleeve]

you said it
I feel like its getting easier to be a slut.

 

[BHughes]

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[ThePhun1]

What do you feel when you are being /humiliated/dominated?
What is the feeling and the aim of being submissive to another person? How does it feel good?

Let's all share our feelings.

The hands on touching can be thrilling all the things you do are not your idea so no shame if homosexual tasks , sometimes just allowing yourself to be a slut is liberating and exciting

 

[Lady2020]

I'm not sure I do. I wouldn't submit to just anyone.

 

[AshleeP96]

Why?

For me it’s the feeling of letting go, kind of like skydiving. There is a kind of high in just being okay with whatever happens. There is also a deep sense of fulfillment afterwards. I agree that I would not just submit to anyone. In order to let go like that, it has to be with someone I trust.

 

[brittneydanger]

Being vulnerable and sometimes helpless turns me on. I don't have control and that helps me have stronger longer orgasms.

 

[aluzion]

Being vulnerable and sometimes helpless turns me on. I don't have control and that helps me have stronger longer orgasms.

It is the very same for me, being helpless just turns me on.

 

[MissMandy86]

Thats such a deep question. Being used for sex in a humliating way just sets me off .. but its like asking why you like the color blue. Why does someone like seafood

 

[htester]

The great thing about sub-dom is when someone takes care of your needs. When they hear what you want and focus on giving it to you.

 

[MysteriousRyu]

I'm a rather masculine guy but a switch nevertheless so I get a thrill from the role-reversal. 'Nuff said.

 

[Wonderer67]

Being under control is very exciting to me. I don’t have to think, although I must be thoughtful, and I can let go. My wife does very specific things to control me and I tell her all the time how it makes me feel. I love being owned.

I don’t always love the mundane stuff like cleaning and washing dishes and making all of the food, but when I’m good, she rewards me with controlling behavior and it sends me to another level, when she spanks next or uses me for my cock to get off. I am almost never allowed to cum.

Lately she has stopped drinking coffee and she has me drink coffee and kiss her while the coffee taste is still on my lips and mouth. (I don’t spit it into her mouth, she likes to taste it on my and makes me kiss her). “Come here and kiss me, slave.” It drives me crazy.

 

[PaxNurgle]

to learn how to please, and how to be a better listener, a better lover and giver of pleasure. Because it's better to give than receive.
And also because the thrill of it, and because of my admiration of strength and power- especially in a female lover.
And I guess, because it's fun and exciting to stretch the boundaries, to go beyond vanilla and taste the extreme.
I don't know though; there are plenty of things I DON'T like about being submissive, but that isn't the point of the thread so I wont talk about that here.

 

[MissMandy86]

to learn how to please, and how to be a better listener, a better lover and giver of pleasure. Because it's better to give than receive.
And also because the thrill of it,

Nicely put

 

[sterculius]

What do you feel when you are being /humiliated/dominated?
What is the feeling and the aim of being submissive to another person? How does it feel good?

Let's all share our feelings.

This allows me to perform all the humiliating and embarrassing acts I secretly crave without feeling any of the associated guilt or responsibility. It's not my fault. The devil made me do it!

 

[Orchidea73]

For me it’s the feeling of letting go, kind of like skydiving. There is a kind of high in just being okay with whatever happens. There is also a deep sense of fulfillment afterwards. I agree that I would not just submit to anyone. In order to let go like that, it has to be with someone I trust.

Skydiving is a very good paragone.

 

[Orchidea73]

Sometimes being a slut is just so exciting

And freeing

 

[writerzblok92]

I'm an Alpha all day...when i get behind closed doors, i just want to surrender and shed the mantle of control.

 

[LauraWilling]

For me it is giving myself completely to someone I trust to use me as they desire. All my life I have gotten more pleasure and satisfaction from knowing how much others enjoyed me. I wish I could explain it better.

 

[james2346]

I so want to experience this. been waiting for the right guy to show me the way!

 

[adesiredlust]

I’m inexplicably drawn to it. Every time I try to ignore that part of me I get drawn back in. I was raised to be independent and equal, but when it comes to sex I appreciate a Dominant.

 

[LustyScribe]

In submission there is...
...an approval of our value/desirability.
...a release of responsibility for what our inhibitions say is forbidden.
...freedom from anxiety about our performance; we are just there to be used.
...an opportunity in some cases to release the burden and stress of the dominating personality our public/professional lives demand of us.
...a chance to enjoy pleasures our "normal" lives would not afford us.

 

[Roughscrewu]

Submissive wives I have meet

I find the women I have meet like not having to make decisions is a reason they like to Submit. Most have good careers and are in charge at work and at home.
Serving a Dom is Stress relief for them