❓ PLP Inquires❓

[AngelicaS1780]

That spa looks beautiful! I want to go now, too! I've been to a nude sauna like that in Turkey, but that of course was more of a traditional Turkish bathhouse vibe. Very beautiful as well, but I'm loving the art deco theme of this one.

Post COVID Lit girls’ trip. I am sure a few of these ladies would be up for joining us.

 

[AngelicaS1780]

Best hair ever, but as someone who has seen the whole enchilada, if you know what I’m sayin’, NRJ is gold. Like Ponyboy.

Can confirm!

They aren’t lying.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Awww

You should put FIVE STAR SLAB OF MEAT! in your sig.

 

[AficionadoAngel]

With some exceptions, I present myself publicly and professionally very differently than I do privately. I tend to dress causal/conservative for the most part, but when I'm around friends or in a sufficiently casual environment, like the outdoors, at the beach etc, I might leave the bra at home or wear a bikini or tights that are a touch too revealing. I find the little reveal very arousing, more so among friends than strangers. I find it similarly arousing if I see a female friend with no bra or a male friend with swim shorts that show the outline of his cock. In private, anything goes, but since it's not "forbidden", being exposed is less exciting.

09.01.20

I've been reflecting on different cultures acceptance or comfort with nudity, hygiene, sexually or presentation.

What is your personal modesty level? Are you comfortable with nudity? Yours, others, situationally? Are there somethings you wouldn't let a partner see? Does the way you present yourself in your day to day life match with how you present in private?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

bwahahaha by request...

Omg

I bet no one beats you at Truth Or Dare.

 

[Paul_Chance]

09.01.20

I've been reflecting on different cultures acceptance or comfort with nudity, hygiene, sexually or presentation.

What is your personal modesty level? Are you comfortable with nudity? Yours, others, situationally? Are there somethings you wouldn't let a partner see? Does the way you present yourself in your day to day life match with how you present in private?

I am conscious of the situational impact of nudity and I always try to be situationally appropriate. I don't have any body issues. I'm sixty well-lived years old and my body reflects that. I'm comfortable with being nude, whether it's intimately or in a group setting, such as when visiting nudist friends, at a spa or beach, etc..

As for an intimate partner, I have no issues there - whatever they are comfortable with, I'm comfortable with. My townhouse has massive windows overlooking the courtyard, so I'm usually not nude in the house, unless the blinds are drawn out of courtesy. I have no problem with nudity, but I do recognize not everyone wants to look across the courtyard and see the nude guy walking around in his full glory.

I think I present myself the same in private as in public. I've worked a lot over the years on NOT living a segmented life, where you present differently in different environments. I am what I am as Popeye says. There may be subconscious things I do that I'm not consciously aware of, but I strive every day to be open, honest, and compassionate about everything, including sexuality, if it's situationally appropriate.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I like this thread, so I am going to play catch up hovering right at that too far back it is weird level. I think 10 days is a good line there.

08.25.20

How good are you at knowing when you're the problem? How often do you consider yourself to be genuinely wrong in a situation? Are you good at self policing or does someone have to point that out?

That is really an assessment made in the eyes of the observers. I think I am correct more than I am wrong, but I am often wrong too. If you are never wrong, you aren't doing, saying, thinking, or learning anything at all. I think I am fairly good at self policing, I do it on the regular, but I also like to check in with others, as my normal meter often needs a little re-calibration.

08.37.20

If you could be a fly on the wall and watch anyone bawchickawowwow, who would you watch? This could be real people, Lit people, celebrities, dare I say, politicians...


While I realize this question could be potentially problematic, we will assume you have consent to watch but only in fly form.

This changes constantly. It isn't the sexy celebs, or the people who would be erotic to watch. It is the people I know who would be informative or entertaining to watch. From the man who is 6ft 7in and his 4ft 10in girlfriend, the couple that I know engages in furry play just because I really want to know how that plays out. I will check in on friends who are cam girls just to see what their current thing is. The moment I see or hear something that makes me curious, they are the one I want to watch. I guess right at this moment, it would be a girl I know, who while venting about her depressing sex life yesterday, and how disinterested her husband is, also again mentioned how big her husband's cock is. Every time she alludes to it, I think "Hey, I want to see". I assume I'd get bored real fast though, as when a vanilla girl is venting about how boring her sex life is, you know you really aren't going to get that much of a show, I still want to see though. Ask me again tomorrow, and I will probably have a different answer because something else has piqued my curiosity.

08.29.20

Name a phrase you can say in a restaurant that you can also say in bed.

There are so many sexy, funny, and silly phrases, but I will go with the one that I use the most in both situations, and that is "Surprise me". I often crave new and different but the problem with craving the unknown, is how to ask for what you don't know, thus I ask for them to surprise me. It is likely unnerving to most at first. Many will need clarification such as the bartender, oh um give me something that is overly sweet, seems girlie, but will knock me on my ass. The waiter, if you were going to order here, what would you want. The partner, I want something I haven't done or felt in a while, what is something you haven't done recently. Once people get to know me, and understand there is no wrong answer, and I truly do just want to spin the wheel of life and see what experience comes my way, they learn to roll with "surprise me"

09.01.20

I've been reflecting on different cultures acceptance or comfort with nudity, hygiene, sexually or presentation.

What is your personal modesty level? Are you comfortable with nudity? Yours, others, situationally? Are there somethings you wouldn't let a partner see? Does the way you present yourself in your day to day life match with how you present in private?

overall, I am rather comfortable with nudity, though I do prefer something on myself. That is the nice thing about the long hair, it counts as something. Also, I feel awkward when someone stares. I guess that is odd, given it is me, but it makes me try to identify what is wrong that is causing them to to stare. Did I spill something on my boobs again? Is there a quarter stuck to my ass? It unnerves me. With others nudity, I am usually comfortable. I can only recall a handful of times I haven't been, and they are generally men using their nudity as a means of intimidation, which is just awkward, as I won't supply the satisfaction of a visible reaction. I would really prefer to be alone in matters of hygiene, but I have accepted what a rare treat it is to pee alone. Day to Day versus private, well I wear more clothing in public, nudity being frowned upon and all. I always wear a bra, a shirt, pants, and shoes if leaving my house.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Welcome back, lady. ^

Thanks. It is good to be back. Absence makes the heart grow founder, and lit is all shiny and new. Though really, it is still same, seems to always be true. I just have to figure out the new users names are after whatever drama went down (Happens every damn time).

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Thanks. It is good to be back. Absence makes the heart grow founder, and lit is all shiny and new. Though really, it is still same, seems to always be true. I just have to figure out the new users names are after whatever drama went down (Happens every damn time).

You were missed!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

09.05.20

When you are talking to someone, do you consider the truth, the impact, or the necessity of your words?
In other words, do you filter or do you just let them flow?

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

You were missed!

Thank you.

09.05.20

When you are talking to someone, do you consider the truth, the impact, or the necessity of your words?
In other words, do you filter or do you just let them flow?

I try, and often successfully do, but here is the thing, if I am, we aren't that close, and the more I do it, the less close we will be. Words are rarely a necessity. For shits and giggles, I spent an entire day not speaking except for only uttering one bizarre phrase, just to see if I could. It wasn't that hard. The only time it is a necessity to speak is when someone with power over you asks you a direct question. If I am only speaking out of necessity, it is some old white guy in a suit who controls my career or might arrest me because of that bag of weed hiding at the bottom of my purse and he is getting one word answers. We will never get to know each other unless he starts speaking not out of necessity, but in order to make me comfortable. Even if I am comfortable, what does a conversation with someone who only speaks when necessary look like? I ramble awkwardly enough as is, but now there is a ton of silence I feel the need to fill even more awkwardly, otherwise we are staring at each other, starting at the walls, waiting for anything to save us. If someone only spoke when necessary, they would only be a lurker here and missing all the fun.

Next, impact and truth are often conflicting ideals. Even when they aren't exactly conflicting, the process of self editing to carefully predict and plan precise impact or to avoid impact is tiresome and frustrating. Usually, it is a polite, respectful nicety that feels like walking on eggshells. It is not fun, and I lean to avoidance. We are friends when we can both speak the truth, neither give two shits about necessity, and impact is barely, if ever, a thought. We are friends when we can bullshit with zero filter, can have conversation filled with wildly inappropriate hilarity, and can tell each other that they are being a huge asshole or crazy bitch when they are, then laugh about it.

So yes, I do filter, but only to display a general respect of others, to conform to social norms, to demonstrate my acceptance of organizational and social hierarchies, but I don't like it, and am much happier when I am where the filter is unnecessary.

 

[Pervy_Sage]

09.05.20

When you are talking to someone, do you consider the truth, the impact, or the necessity of your words?
In other words, do you filter or do you just let them flow?

I always consider the impact of my words. It’s my natural disposition. I tell the truth, but I still always consider impact.

 

[base10]

09.05.20

When you are talking to someone, do you consider the truth, the impact, or the necessity of your words?
In other words, do you filter or do you just let them flow?

I think everyone always uses a filter to some extent. How can you not think about what you are going to say before you say it. That goes for the other side too, when you say something to deliberately provoke or say something to raise eyebrows.

I got in a argument with a friend the other day, I told her something I knew was going to piss her off (which it did); but I thought it necessary to say and I was willing to take the shit because I thought it needed to be said (not lit or sex related at all).

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

09.05.20

When you are talking to someone, do you consider the truth, the impact, or the necessity of your words?
In other words, do you filter or do you just let them flow?

I tend to filter too much with those I care about, because I care about their feelings more than my own. I'll always tell the 100% honest truth, but I might hold back my own feelings that I think are too much for the moment.

Until I swing too far to the other direction and don't filter at all - which should be ideal but makes me squirm sometimes...because I'm a little off-kilter in terms of social stuff, I don't always recognize lines and boundaries of what should be said. I've been so unfiltered at times that I recognize that sometimes it is hard to be my friend at those moments.

On the flip side...I love when people are completely unfiltered and raw and open with me.

I'm weird.

 

[Dirt_in_the_Ground]

09.05.20

When you are talking to someone, do you consider the truth, the impact, or the necessity of your words?
In other words, do you filter or do you just let them flow?

Oh, sure. Taking all of that into consideration makes it easier for me to lie to get my way. And I have a suitcase full of filters for almost every occasion. I’m only human, after all.

 

[BlondeAmbition4RP]

Post COVID Lit girls’ trip. I am sure a few of these ladies would be up for joining us.

I’m in.

I would legit be down for that. I have friends in Germany that I eventually want to visit and see again after all of this.

09.05.20

When you are talking to someone, do you consider the truth, the impact, or the necessity of your words?
In other words, do you filter or do you just let them flow?

I definitely try to consider all of those things when I am speaking to someone, so yes, I filter. It doesn't mean that I'm not honest or that I don't speak my mind though. Usually I'm just trying to be kind/curtious, or make sure my meaning/intentions aren't taken the wrong way, and with friends who know me well and who I know won't take things the wrong way I can be a little more blunt. If I'm honest, there have also been times during an argument where I've considered my words and "filtered" them to inflict maximum damage, though those times are few and far between. It takes a lot to get me angry, and honestly the person that does get me to that point is likely being a real douche.

 

[Dribble]

09.05.20

When you are talking to someone, do you consider the truth, the impact, or the necessity of your words?
In other words, do you filter or do you just let them flow?

I never sugar coat anything. My true friends want that kind of honesty...my acquaintances do not. Acquaintances are a dime a dozen

 

[newrandomperson]

09.05.20

When you are talking to someone, do you consider the truth, the impact, or the necessity of your words?
In other words, do you filter or do you just let them flow?

All the time. I have found that words have found a much higher significance in the digital age than ever before. They become letters without a tone or any body language behind them so what I type is incredibly important in my eyes because I want to be truthful but also respectful and attentive to who i am typing to. To not be flippant to beliefs or make assumptions simply because of the way I think. I want whoever reads them to be comfortable, feel they are being respected and that I have taken the time to understand who they are a little.

So I do not know if filtered is the right phrase because I do not try to hide anything or obscure anything at all, but i am very deliberate in what I say.

 

[Orchidea73]

09.05.20

When you are talking to someone, do you consider the truth, the impact, or the necessity of your words?
In other words, do you filter or do you just let them flow?

All of the above. Depending on the situation and level of friendship and/or acquaintance.

Oh, sure. Taking all of that into consideration makes it easier for me to lie to get my way. And I have a suitcase full of filters for almost every occasion. I’m only human, after all.

LOL!

 

[Dribble]

Do I look fat in this dress?

No baby...but i like the purple flowered one better. This one isn't that dress.

You bastard...you said I was fat.

Vs.

Do I look fat in this dress?

No baby...you look great.

You bastard...you said I was fat.

 

[tnman03]

It honestly amazes me how little empathy people can have. How some people's need to hear themself talk is more important than another's feelings. I'm not saying to be dishonest or disingenuous... but responding to one another in kindness and knowing when to shut up and when to speak up can go a long way. Not every thought that goes through your head needs to be spoken.

^^^ I love this response indie and I agree with you, very well said.

 

[Dribble]

Nailed it.

Exactly...and I really do like that purple flowered dress. I have said so every time you wear it. And I love being seen with you when you wear it. It is hot.

The end result is the same whether you say what is on your mind or gloss it over under the guise of empathy. All that happens is the ball is kicked down the road until a later time when things are glossed over. I prefer people that actually say what they think. Actions, show what you are thinking, even when not said. Everyone knows what you think the other is thinking. How can anyone move on without open communication? How else will you believe me when I say I love you with all my heart...there is no one else I want?

 

[Dribble]

Agree. Yet, you can do this, and mesh with indie’s approach. There is a time to be quiet.
She has helped me immensely in the past by lending an ear, a hand, and a non-judgmental shoulder to cry on.

Everyone already has their answer..no matter what. A true friend simply reminds them they know the answer, without telling them yours.

https://youtu.be/FMYz5SteBBY

Mary got pregnant...

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

A big portion of empathy and love is knowing when to shut up and listen. I learned that early...and has been one of my greatest strengths, and biggest weaknesses.

I wouldn't have it any other way though.

 

[BlondeAmbition4RP]

It honestly amazes me how little empathy people can have. How some people's need to hear themself talk is more important than another's feelings. I'm not saying to be dishonest or disingenuous... but responding to one another in kindness and knowing when to shut up and when to speak up can go a long way. Not every thought that goes through your head needs to be spoken.

Totally agree 100%.

Do I look fat in this dress?

No baby...you look great.

Why did you hesitate?!