❓ PLP Inquires❓

[AveryElle]

If we are saying Cusack is old, that makes me feel very old.

depends, do you look like him?

 

[BlondeAmbition4RP]

Y’all are going way back. Someone join me in the 80s/90s. The water is lovely here!

Cary Elwes circa 1987 for me then.

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Well the question was about people when they were younger. Some people getting mentioned arent that far off from being thier younger selfs now.

It's like saying Young Paul Rudd.... is there really a difference??

Paul Rudd is a beautiful beautiful vampire. The man does not age. I would do him Clueless era, I would do him now.

https://tribzap2it.files.wordpress.com/2015/07/paul-rudd-clueless-ant-man.jpg

Hmm....
Has a thing for older men...
This is tough....

Brando was a good pick. I’d eat young Brando alive. Older Brando prolly not.

But... maybe!
Because, Brando!

I’m’a go with Grease/Urban Cowboy era John Travolta. Before things got weird.

Same goes for Tom, Mel, and Johnny. Shakin my head. Way to ruin the fantasy, boys!

Same with Tom Cruise and John Travolta with me. I think Tom in particular still looks REALLY good, but... yeah. Not going there.

I misread the question the first time and almost answered who my younger self crushed hard on... like Devon Sawa, JTT, and Hanson

I was soooo into JTT back in the day, haha! He still is a cutie too, but like someone else mentioned, too wholesome I think for "getting down with in the dirties way".

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

07.11.20

Deep dive.

How have your parents affected you as an adult? Obviously, they are the most obvious affect but name one great way they've shaped you and one negative way.

 

[AlpineFresco]

07.11.20

Deep dive.

How have your parents affected you as an adult? Obviously, they are the most obvious affect but name one great way they've shaped you and one negative way.

Damn. This is such a hard question, and then you restrict it to one positive and one negative. Wow. OK. So, coming from a not very stable background, this is with a single parent.

The good? I was encouraged to be inquisitive, to have the faith in myself to follow my own path and not be afraid to question convention. That's proven to be very useful in terms of not needing support structure to achieve whatever personal goals I've set. I'm content to do my thing, and if that ain't what everyone else is doing then that doesn't bother me

The bad, though, is the flip-side of that very same point. I feel it went too far. There was actually little encouragement to engage in groups, etc, outside of the things I specifically chose to. In hindsight, I wish I'd been pushed more in those directions. I wish I'd had more grounding in the mundane, in the basics (everything money-related, basic household maintenance, basic fitness, pushing yourself in areas you may not want to go but is good for you anyway, that kind of thing), and learned to more of a team player at a younger age. That, in some ways, left me not so prepared for adult life and I scrambled to pick up and teach myself how to get my shit together in a way that my parent never did, and I suspect now never will.

They did their best, I know that much. And it's swings and roundabouts, of course. In the end, we're all doing what we can with what we perceive we've got.

 

[AveryElle]

07.11.20

Deep dive.

How have your parents affected you as an adult? Obviously, they are the most obvious affect but name one great way they've shaped you and one negative way.

My parents are generally awesome, my dad in particular.

Positive: my dad taught me a lot about financial independence and what to do with my money once I started working when I was 14. He is always encouraging me to know my worth and put my salary into perspective (ie do not leave your job because balancing work and parenting is hard because you likely won’t make up for that lost time). This shapes me every day and every financial decision I make. He’s always taught me to save even if it feels like in the moment I’m broke (‘you’re not broke, Avery!’). My dad is awesome in many ways but that’s the longest lasting influence on me.

Negative: it took me a long time to realize that my mom essentially gave me an eating disorder and body issues. To this day, she still says things that are unnecessary and hurtful and has no idea. If I say as such, she says ‘I’m just trying to be helpful!’ Or ‘I’m just saying!’ After almost 40 years of me telling her to stop, she hasn’t and has started doing it to my child. So, I have to get better at setting those limits. It shaped me into someone who now battles with it every single day. Everything I chose to eat, or every work out, her voice in my head is there. I remember when I was my thinnest as an adult, how much more positive she was towards me or how beautiful she said I was all the time. She never asked if I was ok, but I straight up had an addition to exercise and ate next to nothing that I also obsessively wrote down. She didn’t care if I was ok just that I looked good. She’s the type that’ll say ‘well at least if you’re sick you lose some weight!’ My fear was having a daughter and continuing it, subconsciously.

Bonus: I’ve always felt loved, even if I didn’t always believe it.

 

[Daisy_Love]

07.11.20

Deep dive.

How have your parents affected you as an adult? Obviously, they are the most obvious affect but name one great way they've shaped you and one negative way.

My parents always showed unconditional love throughout my life. My mum died when I was young so I’m very close to my dad. It really bonded us in a sad but also beautiful way. He is my hero. I was lucky to have also had a wonderful step mum who put up with all my teenage rebellion and tribulations My mum, step mum and dad instilled morals and values that are engrained in my psyche and I’m very grateful for that.

The only negative I can say is that they were very strict and I wasn’t always open and honest with them. Not so much for being fearful, more not wanting to disappoint them. That still follows me today.

 

[Daisy_Love]

I was strict. My parents were not.
My kids are pretty great. Strict isn’t bad if done with love and for the child, not for yourself.

Hey Fara

Oh I am too but I’m also very open with them so they know they can talk freely. I was brought up Catholic, so there were things that you just couldn’t talk about freely I don’t think being strict is a negative, as you said it isn’t bad if it’s done with love and for the child. Kids need boundaries.

 

[Karabare]

07.11.20

Deep dive.

How have your parents affected you as an adult? Obviously, they are the most obvious affect but name one great way they've shaped you and one negative way.

I had a good childhood and was loved by my parents. I loved close to a very large Irish Catholic family and everyone was always in everyone else’s bid-ness. I live away from my family now but it’s a short 4 hour drive to see them. And then a relief to come home and not have to host 45 people for Christmas.
My brothers and I turned out well and are good at adulting.. I tough love my own kid and she’s lovely and not bratty to anyone else but her parents. As it should be.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

07.11.20

Deep dive.

How have your parents affected you as an adult? Obviously, they are the most obvious affect but name one great way they've shaped you and one negative way.

My mom passed when I was a teenager so my dad's had a much larger influence in my life since then. Both of my parents were very loving and supportive and were really excellent parents to my brothers and me. They both valued education and made sure I got my homework done, which was good because half my job now just feels like more homework and that part of it comes naturally. Two negatives come to mind - I inherited my father's absent-mindedness as well as his aversion to confrontation. Not that we're push-overs, exactly... but we're no strangers to malicious compliance if it will help us avoid a fight.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

07.11.20

Deep dive.

How have your parents affected you as an adult? Obviously, they are the most obvious affect but name one great way they've shaped you and one negative way.

I did not grow up feeling loved, wanted, or even liked. For a lot of years I gravitated toward partners whose control issues and emotional unavailability felt familiar.

But I will be forever grateful that my parents also gave me a love of art, culture, literature. The joy of music. A love of learning. A good work ethic. And a high sex drive.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Yes. I look at my parents, and i think, where the FUCK did my horny come from?

It makes me shudder.

My parents did not express it in healthy ways. Both my mother and my grandmother had BPD and were complete hos in their manic phases. My dad had intimacy issues and I caught him in bed with his secretary. I once tried to ask his advice on a boyfriend who wouldn't kiss me and Dad, clearly disgusted, called me horny and shut that shit down in a hurry.

It took me a lot of years to stop feeling guilty and dirty for wanting sex. Honestly, I think I'd rather be like you and not know for sure where it came from!

 

[beachbaby179]

I had a real Leave it to Beaver childhood. My parents were best friends. There were 4 of us kids and we all got along great. Lots of practical jokes. Lots of laughs. Dad was the fun parent, mom was the disciplinarian. I was definitely a daddy's girl. From him I think, I hope, I got my moral compass. From my mom I got manners. I always know which fork to use.

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

My parents never meant to, but treated me differently than my siblings - they pushed me more and were much more strict and impatient with me because they believed I had "potential".

They were disappointed in my choice of colleges and my career paths, and I grew up basted in passive-agressivity and self-doubt.

As a positive? I know they love each other, and they never fought. Like, ever.

As a negative? The above. It was much more a roadmap of what I set out NOT to be as a parent. And have been successful so far. Thankfully.

 

[BadAmy]

07.11.20

Deep dive.

How have your parents affected you as an adult? Obviously, they are the most obvious affect but name one great way they've shaped you and one negative way.

they have made me dislike a lot of things about my self.
and, like a few things.
I get my funny from my Dad.
I get my work ethic from mom.
I get my anxiety and self doubt from dad.
I get my strictness from mom.

 

[Dribble]

If my parents weren't my parents, neither would be in my life.

Positives? I know what not to be as a parent. My love is not conditional.

Negatives? They are my parents. So I carry that burden.

 

[Paul_Chance]

07.11.20

Deep dive.

How have your parents affected you as an adult? Obviously, they are the most obvious affect but name one great way they've shaped you and one negative way.

I was fortunate to come from a functional and loving family, so my parents (and many of my relatives in the extended family) had a profound shaping influence on my character.

The great way - from my father I learned two things - near infinite patience and a sort of fundamental quiet deep reserve of both emotional and physical strength. Though he died when I was in my early twenties his influence was deep. (And a shout-out to my step-father, who was in all aspects a good man and demonstrated the same character as my father - my mom had good taste in quality men.)

The negative way - from my mother (and by extension my family) I learned how to hold a fucking grudge a long time. Wrong me and I am not going to forget it.

Bonus answer: My parents both came of age in the fifties and lived through the whole sexual revolution of the sixties in their twenties and thirties. Consequently I was raised in an environment that embraced ethical but open sexual freedom.

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

07.11.20

Deep dive.

How have your parents affected you as an adult? Obviously, they are the most obvious affect but name one great way they've shaped you and one negative way.

Deep subject.

My Mother taught me to appreciate all people. That it was the person inside that mattered more than anything you could see on the outside. She taught me the difference between "Erotic" and "Eye-Candy". Erotic being that vibe you get off someone that just sends them delightfully delicious shivers up and down your spine, where as Eye-Candy is just pretty to look at, but the person inside has no vibe or life to them.

My Father taught me that no matter what I did, I would never live up to his expectations.

 

[BlackCashmere]

07.11.20

Deep dive.

How have your parents affected you as an adult? Obviously, they are the most obvious affect but name one great way they've shaped you and one negative way.

I could write a book about my thoughts on this...My parents were everything beautiful to me and for me...

Many life lessons were spoken, but they Truly lead by example every singe day with kindness, grace and selfless giving...

They dragged all of us out to volunteer all the time....Hospital visits, Fundraisers for disabilities, Anonymous gifting at the holidays, etc...

I’m so grateful and proud of having that example all the time...I learned pretty much all I know about Compassion, empathy, giving and forgiveness from them...

Maybe the most poignant lesson...learning that what we see is a choice...what we see in others, or situations...there will always be flaws, and always what is not right, but there are also things that are right, beautiful and good always there too...we can choose to see that...nothing is black and white...

I will never be able to emulate them, but I try to make them proud and that keeps me going...

They have both passed on and I miss them every moment...They were my best friends...

But now I still have my Father In Law who is also such a compassionate, beautiful hearted soul who is so wise and knows what real beauty is and what truly matters...He is blind and partially deaf, but is so full of joy and peace and love...What a gift to be surrounded by all of that all the time...it is all so meaningful...

I’m a lucky blessed soul...

The negative if anything...I am a product of their sappy lingo...so Blame my dears, sweeties and honeys on them...

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Great answers everyone. Thanks for sharing!!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

07.15.20

Well it's time. One of those hard, complicated questions I've been hesitant to ask for so long. I know this will be devisive. I know it will cause fights and hard feelings. Skeletons will come out of closets... but I think it's important to get out there.
If you can only have one cheese for the rest of your life, what cheese will you pick?

 

[Whiskeyjack]

07.15.20

Well it's time. One of those hard, complicated questions I've been hesitant to ask for so long. I know this will be devisive. I know it will cause fights and hard feelings. Skeletons will come out of closets... but I think it's important to get out there.
If you can only have one cheese for the rest of your life, what cheese will you pick?

Easiest question yet. All cheese is gross. Please keep your lumps of congealed chunk-milk far away from me.

 

[Dribble]

There can be only one.

When I lived in the PNW, I would commonly stop at Pike's Place and buy cheese from the cheese shop there. So many good cheeses. But to only have one? That means it has to cover both cooking and eating. Toughie.

Probably a sharp cheddar because of what you can do with it. Far from my favorite break off a chunk and eat cheese, but there can only be one.

 

[Codeman93]

07.15.20

Well it's time. One of those hard, complicated questions I've been hesitant to ask for so long. I know this will be devisive. I know it will cause fights and hard feelings. Skeletons will come out of closets... but I think it's important to get out there.
If you can only have one cheese for the rest of your life, what cheese will you pick?

Simple feta cheese!!

 

[AlpineFresco]

07.15.20

Well it's time. One of those hard, complicated questions I've been hesitant to ask for so long. I know this will be devisive. I know it will cause fights and hard feelings. Skeletons will come out of closets... but I think it's important to get out there.
If you can only have one cheese for the rest of your life, what cheese will you pick?

Hmm. Just one? OK, so I love cheese. I'm limited by being veggie, but there's still a decent amount I've had.

But, what would I use it for? Grating/crumbling on top of something? Part of a sandwich? Do I need it to melt?

Alright, let's break it down. Crumbly, blue, soft, harder. Yes, I know that's not how they're actually divided but it's how I think of 'em. Crumbly... I'm going to have to say hirtenkase takes this, over Cheshire, Caerphilly, Wensleydale, feta, all of 'em. Tangy, salty, crumbly, cheap, but doesn't melt at all. Blue? Shropshire! Melts alright, good strong flavour. Soft? None I'd pick as really amazing for many purposes. Harder? Has to be a vintage cheddar. Strong AF, goes well in nearly anything, but perhaps not the world's greatest melter. Honourable mention goes to a strong red leicester

Damn. It's hard to pick between those 3 but probably Shropshire has the least utility. So, hirtenkase or vintage cheddar...

Cheddar takes it. Or something that fits the same mould (Old Amsterdam, for example).

Fight me.

 

[base10]

07.15.20

Well it's time. One of those hard, complicated questions I've been hesitant to ask for so long. I know this will be devisive. I know it will cause fights and hard feelings. Skeletons will come out of closets... but I think it's important to get out there.
If you can only have one cheese for the rest of your life, what cheese will you pick?

Life would be horrible if we could only have one type of cheese. That would derail thousands of years of human development. But if I could only have one it would be the holy mozzarella