I like your comment. Yes, the change up is very comforting. Trust is key for me because I am giving my all to this and I trust, she will keep us both out of trouble.
Cfnm...your thoughts?
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I like your comment. Yes, the change up is very comforting. Trust is key for me because I am giving my all to this and I trust, she will keep us both out of trouble.
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CFNM stories -- what's the correct category?
I'm working on a CFNM story that, if I finish in time (always a big IF) I'll submit for the nude day event. A young well-endowed man gets noticed by an older woman while posing for an art class and ultimately gets invited to a CFNM event where he's naked and a group of women play with him.
Question: Is BDSM the right category for this, as opposed to Exhibition and voyeur? It will have elements of both but I haven't developed the story outline sufficiently to know the balance yet. Thoughts on what sorts of things would make it lean one way versus the other?
I'm working on a CFNM story that, if I finish in time (always a big IF) I'll submit for the nude day event. A young well-endowed man gets noticed by an older woman while posing for an art class and ultimately gets invited to a CFNM event where he's naked and a group of women play with him.
Question: Is BDSM the right category for this, as opposed to Exhibition and voyeur? It will have elements of both but I haven't developed the story outline sufficiently to know the balance yet. Thoughts on what sorts of things would make it lean one way versus the other?
Good question. CFNM can take on several aspects. I guess it is an individual thing. I love CFNM and I am not into the humiliation/BDSM aspect of it. I guess I'm more of an exhibitionist at heart. I like the fun side of this where I can be the woman's fantasy, her boy toy. She stays clothed and she can have her way with me, whenever and wherever she wants and she can invite her friends if she wants.
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I did a search of all Literotica stories with the "CFNM" tag, and there are 2493 of them. Although a few other categories are represented, the majority seem to be split between BDSM and Exhibitionism.
Exhibitionism has a somewhat larger readership, so I'm inclined to post it there, unless the story ends up taking a particularly BDSMish turn.
I look forward to reading your story. Please let us know when you post it.
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well done, Erosfan
Erosfan nailed my fascination with CFNM quite succinctly: My fantasy is to be her fantasy.
I haven't like much of the CFNM stuff I'd read or watched online when I first got the idea--and I didn't know that others had the same fantasy! But most of it seems to be just a different twist on the woman gets the man off, which wasn't what turned me on.
My interest was to be at the ready for Her pleasure. She gets to look at me because she wants to, touch me because she chooses to...or not. In that role, I'm naked not because there's imminent sexual play, but because I'm hers and she gets to freely chose when to see however much of me as the whim strikes her.
I've experienced this once.
"My fantasy is to be her fantasy." Well done, Erosfan.
Erosfan nailed my fascination with CFNM quite succinctly: My fantasy is to be her fantasy.
I haven't like much of the CFNM stuff I'd read or watched online when I first got the idea--and I didn't know that others had the same fantasy! But most of it seems to be just a different twist on the woman gets the man off, which wasn't what turned me on.
My interest was to be at the ready for Her pleasure. She gets to look at me because she wants to, touch me because she chooses to...or not. In that role, I'm naked not because there's imminent sexual play, but because I'm hers and she gets to freely chose when to see however much of me as the whim strikes her.
I've experienced this once.
"My fantasy is to be her fantasy." Well done, Erosfan.
Thanks for the kind words. I have discovered that there are numerous opinions as to what CFNM is. My thoughts and feelings tend to be away from the majority. I have had a difficult time over the years, trying to find my spot in this genre. It isn't a one size fits all kind of thing.
My view of this appears to be in the minority and I'm okay with that. It's my kink and I am entitled to my feelings. My wife and I have had many talks about my proclivities and she is very understanding. She has helped me explore this and we have enjoyed some fun times with it.
I can't get her to take the next step and invite a friend or two of hers where she could show my willingness to be anything she wants.
I have been her fantasy a couple of times and we had fun.
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Yes!!
Very well understood
While I personally feel that certain variations can change a particular in the BDSM world from one thing into another, far from, Ive never felt that way in regards to CFNM. It has always been what I and any partner has wanted it or visualized it to be, however different from mass posts in forums/communities or found on catering websites. ...And am okay with that. Its my kink, and I own it the way I please.
While sometimes, depending on my mood, I enjoy the humiliation aspect .. its not the usual intent. Every female/male I've ever known who indulges has a different idea of what is & isn't..and, thats okay too. Explaining one's own version is never easy but brings conversation to the table.. which is always healthy.
This thread was a good read for me today, thank you. xo
Yes!!
Very well understood
While I personally feel that certain variations can change a particular in the BDSM world from one thing into another, far from, Ive never felt that way in regards to CFNM. It has always been what I and any partner has wanted it or visualized it to be, however different from mass posts in forums/communities or found on catering websites. ...And am okay with that. Its my kink, and I own it the way I please.
While sometimes, depending on my mood, I enjoy the humiliation aspect .. its not the usual intent. Every female/male I've ever known who indulges has a different idea of what is & isn't..and, thats okay too. Explaining one's own version is never easy but brings conversation to the table.. which is always healthy.
This thread was a good read for me today, thank you. xo
It is refreshing to hear a woman's honest opinion and thoughts on this subject. I truly appreciate you taking the time to comment here.
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https://peggingparadise.com/2018/05/day-20-naked-in-the-kitchen/
Excerpt...
Excerpt...
I love a naked man in my kitchen.
Absolutely love it!
It warms my heart to know that he is there, doing for me, cooking something yummy, preparing it with care and serving it to me. I enjoy him filling my wine glass, asking if I have everything I need, and pampering me.
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Absolutely love it!
It warms my heart to know that he is there, doing for me, cooking something yummy, preparing it with care and serving it to me. I enjoy him filling my wine glass, asking if I have everything I need, and pampering me.
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Nice teaser. The rest of this short read is very stimulating.
Yes!!
Very well understood
While I personally feel that certain variations can change a particular in the BDSM world from one thing into another, far from, Ive never felt that way in regards to CFNM. It has always been what I and any partner has wanted it or visualized it to be, however different from mass posts in forums/communities or found on catering websites. ...And am okay with that. Its my kink, and I own it the way I please.
While sometimes, depending on my mood, I enjoy the humiliation aspect .. its not the usual intent. Every female/male I've ever known who indulges has a different idea of what is & isn't..and, thats okay too. Explaining one's own version is never easy but brings conversation to the table.. which is always healthy.
This thread was a good read for me today, thank you. xo
This conversation needs a bump. We have some good thoughts working here.
I am surprised that many of the males still have hair instead of shaved clean
I prefer to be neatly trimmed, no stubble to irritate the sensitive areas.
You might want to try the i non consent reluctance angle?
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Either will work. I have two CFNM stories posted. The one I posted in Novels/Novellas did substantially better than the one I posted in Exhibition. You might even want to consider Fetish, that's a friendly bunch of readers who are looking for all sorts of different kinds of play.
Be sure to post a link to your story once you get it posted!
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I'm a fan of CFNM in many of its variations.
What's not hot about a confident woman taking the initiative and sexually objectifying (with consent, of course) a man for her own pleasure and gratification.
What's not hot about a confident woman taking the initiative and sexually objectifying (with consent, of course) a man for her own pleasure and gratification.
I'm a fan of CFNM in many of its variations.
What's not hot about a confident woman taking the initiative and sexually objectifying (with consent, of course) a man for her own pleasure and gratification.
Excellent observation! Nothing hotter than a confident woman objectifying a man that is willing to give his all to please her.
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I know I would love that.I'm a fan of CFNM in many of its variations.
What's not hot about a confident woman taking the initiative and sexually objectifying (with consent, of course) a man for her own pleasure and gratification.
Being shown off by my SO to her friends has been a long time fantasy of mine. For her to show her friends that I am hers and will do anything she wants any time anywhere would be the ultimate experience.
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It could just be me, but reading some of these posts, people almost seem disgusted or upset that they've seen others who don't enjoy cfnm in the same way. Or, maybe they feel it's almost necessary for them to do the same thing, if they are going to enjoy any cfnm.
Like with any label in the BDSM realm of sexual fetishes cfnm is just a starting point. The rest is up to you and your partner. It can be just a Sunday afternoon situation where nothing is different other than the male is naked, or it can have a dominant aspect to it, or even a humiliating twist to it.
Whatever the two of you decide is what you decide. If you like something, go with it. If it's the cfnm that gets you going, just stick with that. And if you want, make up your own play time. Don't assume you have to be one way or the other.
For me, I'm not into cfnm, but I could have some fun with cmnf. I'd see it as just a starting point, but there is something really sexy about hugging a naked woman, when I'm fully clothed. Of course, I could never just leave it at that. I'd have to add bondage and maybe a blindfold and maybe a butt plug, and that's just for starters. But, again, that's just me.
Create your own scene and enjoy it. expand on the label of cfnm and make it your own. Experiment with different things. Talk about it later and decide what worked and what didn't. If something was interesting, maybe go a bit deeper with it, next time. Maybe have different scenes where you almost role play different parts, or even bring other people into the scene with you.
Personally, I'm not one to share, but once again, that's just me. I could allow other women to come watch, but I don't think I could ever handle other men. I want to be the only man. Not just because I'm so dominant, but also because there's no competition, either. Everything I see...is mine.
Like with any label in the BDSM realm of sexual fetishes cfnm is just a starting point. The rest is up to you and your partner. It can be just a Sunday afternoon situation where nothing is different other than the male is naked, or it can have a dominant aspect to it, or even a humiliating twist to it.
Whatever the two of you decide is what you decide. If you like something, go with it. If it's the cfnm that gets you going, just stick with that. And if you want, make up your own play time. Don't assume you have to be one way or the other.
For me, I'm not into cfnm, but I could have some fun with cmnf. I'd see it as just a starting point, but there is something really sexy about hugging a naked woman, when I'm fully clothed. Of course, I could never just leave it at that. I'd have to add bondage and maybe a blindfold and maybe a butt plug, and that's just for starters. But, again, that's just me.
Create your own scene and enjoy it. expand on the label of cfnm and make it your own. Experiment with different things. Talk about it later and decide what worked and what didn't. If something was interesting, maybe go a bit deeper with it, next time. Maybe have different scenes where you almost role play different parts, or even bring other people into the scene with you.
Personally, I'm not one to share, but once again, that's just me. I could allow other women to come watch, but I don't think I could ever handle other men. I want to be the only man. Not just because I'm so dominant, but also because there's no competition, either. Everything I see...is mine.
It could just be me, but reading some of these posts, people almost seem disgusted or upset that they've seen others who don't enjoy cfnm in the same way. Or, maybe they feel it's almost necessary for them to do the same thing, if they are going to enjoy any cfnm.
Like with any label in the BDSM realm of sexual fetishes cfnm is just a starting point. The rest is up to you and your partner. It can be just a Sunday afternoon situation where nothing is different other than the male is naked, or it can have a dominant aspect to it, or even a humiliating twist to it.
Whatever the two of you decide is what you decide. If you like something, go with it. If it's the cfnm that gets you going, just stick with that. And if you want, make up your own play time. Don't assume you have to be one way or the other.
For me, I'm not into cfnm, but I could have some fun with cmnf. I'd see it as just a starting point, but there is something really sexy about hugging a naked woman, when I'm fully clothed. Of course, I could never just leave it at that. I'd have to add bondage and maybe a blindfold and maybe a butt plug, and that's just for starters. But, again, that's just me.
Create your own scene and enjoy it. expand on the label of cfnm and make it your own. Experiment with different things. Talk about it later and decide what worked and what didn't. If something was interesting, maybe go a bit deeper with it, next time. Maybe have different scenes where you almost role play different parts, or even bring other people into the scene with you.
Personally, I'm not one to share, but once again, that's just me. I could allow other women to come watch, but I don't think I could ever handle other men. I want to be the only man. Not just because I'm so dominant, but also because there's no competition, either. Everything I see...is mine.
Very well stated.
I have been into CFNM for a very long time. I have had the good fortune to enjoy a few wonderful experiences with it. That said, I don't fit what a lot of people insist it should be. I'm not into the humiliation aspect that so many enjoy. I guess, being naked for a woman or women that want me naked, may be a little humiliating, depending on the circumstances. It feeds the exhibitionist in me. There is a slight sense of embarrassment, but the excitement and arousal far out ways that.
Many women say they don't have any sexual fantasies, my wife included. I want to give that type of woman an opportunity to fantasize. I want to be her fantasy. I want her to experience a reversal of roles where she gets to indulge in what she has been subjected to. Show me off to her friends. Expose me, play with me and make me entertain her and her friends.
It isn't a one size fits all and there are many variables to consider.
