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[PrettyLilPussy19]

07.06.20 (submitted)

What is a relationship deal breaker for you?

 

[AveryElle]

07.06.20 (submitted)

What is a relationship deal breaker for you?

Smoking.
Excessive drinking.
Being rude to service employees.
Someone I have to teach (I really don’t want to explain why what you said was anti-semetic or sexist, or what TPE means, for example).
Poor personal hygiene.
Someone with a history or not getting along with parents. If people’s parents rarely, if ever, like you, the problem isn’t the parents.
Someone that tries to convince me to participate in kinks I don’t enjoy / someone that participates in kinks I find morally disturbing.

Shit I’m picky.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Smoking.
Excessive drinking.
Being rude to service employees.
Someone I have to teach (I really don’t want to explain why what you said was anti-semetic or sexist, or what TPE means, for example).
Poor personal hygiene.
Someone with a history or not getting along with parents. If people’s parents rarely, if ever, like you, the problem isn’t the parents.
Someone that tries to convince me to participate in kinks I don’t enjoy / someone that participates in kinks I find morally disturbing.

Shit I’m picky.

Nah, but would you be in a relationship with someone who was like that?? Doubtful

 

[tnman03]

Smoking.
Excessive drinking.
Being rude to service employees.
Someone I have to teach (I really don’t want to explain why what you said was anti-semetic or sexist, or what TPE means, for example).
Poor personal hygiene.
Someone with a history or not getting along with parents. If people’s parents rarely, if ever, like you, the problem isn’t the parents.
Someone that tries to convince me to participate in kinks I don’t enjoy / someone that participates in kinks I find morally disturbing.

Shit I’m picky.

So...Toilet Paper Engineering's a touchy subject, is it???



And seriously, that's a good list.

 

[AveryElle]

Nah, but would you be in a relationship with someone who was like that?? Doubtful

I’ve dated smokers. I’ve dated drunks. I’ve dated closet anti semites (and people who don’t believe they are). I’ve dated people rude to servers. I’ve dated people that have wanted to do CNC and age play with me. I’ve dated people who have asked me to lose more weight. I’ve dated a lot of people in my many years. How do you think I know these things are now deal breakers?

I guess the ultimate deal breaker is ‘someone who doesn’t make me happy’ but even then, sometimes there’s a pull I can’t explain and I stick around.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I’ve dated smokers. I’ve dated drunks. I’ve dated closet anti semites (and people who don’t believe they are). I’ve dated people rude to servers. I’ve dated people that have wanted to do CNC and age play with me. I’ve dated people who have asked me to lose more weight. I’ve dated a lot of people in my many years. How do you think I know these things are now deal breakers?

I guess the ultimate deal breaker is ‘someone who doesn’t make me happy’ but even then, sometimes there’s a pull I can’t explain and I stick around.

Ahh fair enough. Dating and then finding out someone is an asshole is a bit like ke realizing I never want a two story house, after I have purchased...a two story house.

 

[OGMG]

07.06.20 (submitted)

What is a relationship deal breaker for you?

Country music

 

[Orchidea73]

07.06.20 (submitted)

What is a relationship deal breaker for you?

Violence. Physical and mental abuse.
I've been fortunate and I have never experienced it. But I've seen it done on people I love. My blood boils and I would kill the person who dares to even lift a finger against me, or disrespect me.

Low self-esteem/whiners
Jealousy

 

[Whiskeyjack]

07.06.20 (submitted)

What is a relationship deal breaker for you?

Avery's list is a good one. The only thing I can think to add is that I'd be very uncomfortable in a relationship where we had to be each others' everything. Hopefully there'd be a good amount of overlap in our interests that we can do things together, but I also want her to be able to go off with friends and do things that interest her, and I want to do the same with my friends. Common interests are fantastic. Time apart for our own interests is also fantastic.

 

[AngelicaS1780]

Ahh fair enough. Dating and then finding out someone is an asshole is a bit like ke realizing I never want a two story house, after I have purchased...a two story house.

At least it's usually easier and less expensive to get rid of the someone.
I don't think I will ever own a home again. That was a nightmare.

I think Avery and Orchidea cover most of the bases there as far as dealbreakers go. On a practical, as opposed to purely interpersonal level, I would add financial recklessness.

 

[Orchidea73]

Avery's list is a good one. The only thing I can think to add is that I'd be very uncomfortable in a relationship where we had to be each others' everything. Hopefully there'd be a good amount of overlap in our interests that we can do things together, but I also want her to be able to go off with friends and do things that interest her, and I want to do the same with my friends. Common interests are fantastic. Time apart for our own interests is also fantastic.

I couldn't agree more. https://i.imgur.com/BEJCaY9.gif
This is so important for a good and lasting relationship.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

I couldn't agree more. https://i.imgur.com/BEJCaY9.gif
This is so important for a good and lasting relationship.

It's a big piece of how I've stayed married for 14 years.

 

[AlpineFresco]

Eh, most of mine would just be repetition of the obvious ones people have posted. But, I'll add one specifically mine: anyone with right-leaning politics.

 

[AveryElle]

Ahh fair enough. Dating and then finding out someone is an asshole is a bit like ke realizing I never want a two story house, after I have purchased...a two story house.

Yeah, it’s probably realizing what you cant take in a person once you’re actually with them. I’d be fine with a smoker! Until I have to taste them. I’m fine with someone that’s never met a Jew. Until they don’t realize they’ve made too many jokes that aren’t funny. The more you date, or fuck around if you’re in an open relationship, you realize what you need and what you can’t stand. Hence my odd deal breaker list.

I don’t think I’d want a one story house, just a bathroom on every floor

 

[Bewleybrother]

It's funny how many people will put up a front to get something,psychologists sometimes call them sociopaths because they have no personal empathy so can easily manipulate others.
And yet some of the most successful careerists,politicians actors sales people could be defined (and some have) as functioning sociopaths.Scary shit,we could all do with a lie detector in our homes or is that taking it a little to far.lol

 

[Orchidea73]

It's a big piece of how I've stayed married for 14 years.

Bravo to you. This isn't easy at all. I was listening to psychologist a while ago and she was speaking about this subject. She said; We put so much pressure to our partners today, because we have put all our hopes, dreams and roles on them. We want them to be our lover, our best friend, our priest, our father, our mother, our god.
What we want and expect from them today, is what a whole village used to provide. Made me laugh because it is funny but so true.

 

[AveryElle]

It's a big piece of how I've stayed married for 14 years.

I agree. Genuine alone time and privacy - a deal breaker would be someone who doesn’t respect that but also someone who doesn’t have their own interests. I cringe at couples that rely so heavily on each other for everything or never need a break!! It’s how I’ve managed to stay sane in spite of quarantine - a spouse that really gives me space AND privacy when possible.

 

[Esslemont]

I think finding out that a woman doesn’t believe she is truly wonderful and worth every single good thing that this life has to offer would make me sad.

Thus...a deal-breaker for me.

 

[Esslemont]

I feel that sharing a connection which reaches so far past the physical is a requirement.
A conjoining of ideals...nay, a shared empathy for all that is good.

Without this...I fear that I cannot entertain your need to be by my side.

Thus...a deal-breaker.

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

07.05.20 (submitted question!)

Is there a band or musical artist you wish you could have seen play live before they broke up or passed away??
What's the best show you ever saw live?

Wish I could have seen play live...that is difficult to answer, because I am not much for the concert scene anymore, and anyone i wanted to see live, when I was into going, I did see.

Best show would have to go to David Bowie's Spiders from Mars tour, because I got to go backstage.

 

[Ziggins]

I answered this in another thread, but I have one more. An abusive woman with kids is a different problem than someone who abuses me. I don't have parenting experience.

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

07.06.20 (submitted)

What is a relationship deal breaker for you?

Asking me a personal question, but not actually Listening to the answer.

Trying to WebMD my Chronic Pain and Nerve Damage as if I haven't already exhausted every avenue, as well as not actually listening to "Why" things that work for Similar Symptoms, don't actually work for me. Because Similar does not actually mean The Same.

Not respecting me when I tell you "I don't Drink" and turning around and asking me if I want a "Beer and a Shot".

the list goes on, but those came up in the last 6 months when I tried to rejoin the dating scene.

 

[AngelicaS1780]

Eh, most of mine would just be repetition of the obvious ones people have posted. But, I'll add one specifically mine: anyone with right-leaning politics.

That wouldn't work for me either.

 

[Codeman93]

The biggest dealbreaker for me is someone that doesn't share my morals. If we can't agree on the basic rights and dignity a person should be given - then I don't want you in my life as a friend or as a lover.

One hundred percent agree with you here!

 

[BadAmy]

07.06.20 (submitted)

What is a relationship deal breaker for you?

I think a deal breaker for me is someone who takes me for granted.
and doesn't like Led Zeppelin.
I have standards.