❓ PLP Inquires❓

[Mei5ter]

I don’t feel comfortable on the bdsm pages because I feel like my lack of label makes me come across as a poser. So, I look but rarely touch.

I stay here. And here I shall stay. Cozy indeed.

Please don't let that put you off. We need fewer labels.

There are times when the BDSM threads remind me of the Judean People's Front arguing with the People's Front of Judea in the Life Of Brian. Five people who like more or less the same thing, arguing furiously about what to call it.

<disclaimer: yes, labels have their uses, sometimes>

 

[AngelicaS1780]

My first home was a thread in the Personals called Hello from London. It reached the 5000 post mark, was restarted under a new name, and was moved to the Darkroom Lounge. The current thread is called Hello from My Englishness. I was initially more of an AmPics poster and a PG and BDSM lurker. Currently, I post fairly equally in AmPics and the PG and continue to lurk in BDSM. The GB just seems a bit overwhelming in both scope and vitriol. I may take Honey's advice and check out the Lounge. I peek at LGBT and Fetish, but don't post.

AmPics
Moochie's Meandering Missives
Desultory & Impulsive
Dad Bod Hotties
Swannie's Random Stuff
The Real Chubby Tummies of Lit
Post Your Paired Pics Redux
The 2020 AmPics Tittie Awards Thread (Pre-ceremony festivities start at post 823 for anyone who is interested.)
- Shoutout to IHC, Suz, and everyone who works so hard on the Litties for inspiring us. We have a new level of respect for just how much work goes into it.

PG
PLP Inquires
The Audio Philes
AMA: Litster of the Week
Ones I don't subscribe to, but am always gonna look include Dear Litster and What Made You Roll Your Eyes Today?

 

[AveryElle]

Please don't let that put you off. We need fewer labels.

There are times when the BDSM threads remind me of the Judean People's Front arguing with the People's Front of Judea in the Life Of Brian. Five people who like more or less the same thing, arguing furiously about what to call it.

<disclaimer: yes, labels have their uses, sometimes>

As someone very experienced in the world of bdsm, I don’t really want to compete with anyone for worlds kinkiest, and after a while, the Dd/lg stuff gets to me (at real clubs, too. When the little area is near the sadistic demos, I leave).

But I appreciate the warm invite!!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

07.03.20

Ok, this one is a thinker.

What are the negative preconceptions that people generally have about your best character trait?
Simply put, what's your best character trait and what is the biggest drawback that you notice because of it?

 

[AlpineFresco]

07.03.20

Ok, this one is a thinker.

What are the negative preconceptions that people generally have about your best character trait?
Simply put, what's your best character trait and what is the biggest drawback that you notice because of it?

What a bitch of a question. Hmm.
OK, 'best' character trait is so very subjective... could be that I'm a good friend, could be that I'm creative and notice less obvious visual things, but I'd say my best trait is probably my ability to dig in and keep working on things, even if I sometimes feel it's a mountain to climb. That's sort of tied in with knowing some things can't be solved in a heartbeat.

The negative preconception of that is definitely that I am stubborn. I am willing to change opinions if someone's argument is stronger than mine, so I'm not sure how much it holds up, but it's definitely the negative perception.

 

[BadAmy]

I love most of the BDSM Cafe, and sometimes Talk.
Loathe AmPics, except for Desultory and Impulsive.

Hold up there Missy.
Loathe the am pics?
That's where we met you know.

It was love at first nip.

 

[BadAmy]

Please don't let that put you off. We need fewer labels.

There are times when the BDSM threads remind me of the Judean People's Front arguing with the People's Front of Judea in the Life Of Brian. Five people who like more or less the same thing, arguing furiously about what to call it.

<disclaimer: yes, labels have their uses, sometimes>

https://media2.giphy.com/media/saWdkFT5kQomc/giphy.gif?cid=82a1493b7957dddd3a41e2aab28c6d7fc1fc8abb0002455e&rid=giphy.gif

 

[BadAmy]

07.03.20

Ok, this one is a thinker.

What are the negative preconceptions that people generally have about your best character trait?
Simply put, what's your best character trait and what is the biggest drawback that you notice because of it?

Sorry to have hijacked from the previous question.


To this one.
This is a tough one. Because I am fantastic.
I find no flaws, and neither should anyone else.
Haha!
Barring that,
I am goofy...and my self centeredness is a joke...literally. I can be incredibly self effacing. Especially if you know me behind the threads...I'm looking at you Plp...and Fara...and Indie. You know.
I hope to make people chuckle. That's my end game. And I like meeting new people, I'm an extrovert in that sense.
I do deeply care for people I chat with, even those who have no use for me, even those who hate me. I wear my heart on my sleeve. And that is a problem. Because it leaves me open to a lot of pain. Pain I don't enjoy.
Maybe I care too much. But I try to see it as a good character trait. Better than to not care, I think.

I find I either grow on people, or wear on people.

I can't change how I care. All I can do is care. Why?
Because I, like you, want to be cared about, too.

 

[tnman03]

Yes.
I just hate the comments.
And I hate that I can’t post my goods in there, anymore. I had a lot of fun in paired pics.

The regurgitated comments by the same people, even on obviously stolen and faked pic posts is nauseating in AMPICS for sure.

I love my big mouth. I stifled for a lot of years because of my ex. I’m finding it again.
I’m not always refined. I’m still in that, “Hey, I can say what I want!” Phase.

Not everyone is as enamored with it as I am.

I don't always understand your viewpoint or always agree with you when I do but I greatly appreciate what you have to say. So keep on saying what you have to say.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

07.03.20

Ok, this one is a thinker.

What are the negative preconceptions that people generally have about your best character trait?
Simply put, what's your best character trait and what is the biggest drawback that you notice because of it?

This is hard. Character traits are positive or negative based on the lens and angle one is using to observe them. Confidence or Arrogance? Easy going or indifferent? Brave or Aggressive? Strong willed or stubborn? Efficient or Lazy? Level headed or apathetic? This makes it very difficult to identify a "best" character trait when the "worst" side of it is clear too. I guess the most practical way to identify the best, is what has proven the most useful, in both daily life and long term. I think that is my unconventionality. It has been very helpful. It leads to a creative, out of the box thinking, which provides a level of ingenuity and an innovative approach to problem solving, a well as an high level of resourcefulness across many domains. The down side is the whole out of the box thinking can be so far out there that I misplace the box. The eccentricities can be very off-putting and come with a sense of humor that may lead to eternal damnation. There is also, sometimes, a sense of boredom with status quo. Thus I am drawn to others who are also highly unconventional, which can often be a bit unpredictable and sometimes volatile.

 

[Orchidea73]

07.03.20

Ok, this one is a thinker.

What are the negative preconceptions that people generally have about your best character trait?
Simply put, what's your best character trait and what is the biggest drawback that you notice because of it?

I'm not sure it is my best character trait, but confidence is among them. I know what I want (at the very least, I know what I do NOT want), and I am not willing to settle for less. The biggest drawback is that some can see this as arrogance, and may see me either as being either too aggressive or snob.

 

[DarkSimian]

07.03.20

Ok, this one is a thinker.

What are the negative preconceptions that people generally have about your best character trait?
Simply put, what's your best character trait and what is the biggest drawback that you notice because of it?

I know y'all probably won't believe this, but I'm the guy you call when you need a ride at 3 Am, you need to borrow $20 til payday, you need a jump start and don't have cables, you need someone to drop everything and just be there. I'm the guy you call when shit goes sideways.

And people take advantage of that. And yet I keep answering the call...

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

These answers have been really wonderful and thought provoking.

I don't know if it's my best quality trait but I'm often seen as very nice and warm. I like to make people feel comfortable and included and heard.

This is often also seen as me being stupid of naive... which I'm not. Being nice regardless of how im being treated is a choice I'm making not the presence of ignorance. I think sometimes smart people often feel the need to show how smart they are and prove it and that comes off as pretention. I'd rather you think I'm kind and dumb than smart and pretentious.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

07.03.20

Ok, this one is a thinker.

What are the negative preconceptions that people generally have about your best character trait?
Simply put, what's your best character trait and what is the biggest drawback that you notice because of it?

Oh, easy call. My sensitivity. I'm deeply sensitive. Like, ocean floor deep. People see things like my empathy or my patience or my creative writing and not realize that with those perceived 'positive' traits come other aspects of sensitivity that are often seen as negative.

Physical things like getting migraines from too much sun, or breaking out in hives when I'm on the grass, or passing out when I have blood taken. Emotional responses like having a hard time letting go of people, taking things 'too personally,' tolerating far too much bullshit, or becoming easily overstimulated and needing to remove myself from situations or people, making me look kind of flaky when I can't maintain communication.

Being sensitive is like walking around with no clothes on, and no skin on, either. I feel everything down to my bones. Staying on top of so much incoming information takes a lot of energy and the result is often that I look 'weak' in the eyes of people who aren't familiar with what high sensitivity looks like.

I'm a package deal. I will sit and cry with a stranger in Walmart over a relationship of hers that I know almost nothing about, hug her like she's my sister and pray with her if she wants me to. But I'm gonna cry over Call The Midwife, too.

 

[Orchidea73]

I think my friendliness comes across as weakness or being too sensitive to some. I give the benefit of the doubt and I hope to see the best in people, but that doesn’t mean I’m a pushover. But I realize that some may think that. I used to care more about how I seemed to others but I feel like I’m getting better at not concerning myself with others’ opinions of me.

The people who take friendliness and sensitivity as sign of weakness are morons, at worse, or bitter because of their miserable life at best. Come to think of it, maybe being a moron is better than bitterness consuming you. Either way, these people, despite their big statements in public about strength an what not, are the weakest. They see life as a competition rather than a journey.

Rock those sexy britches, SB.

 

[Deacon_Voss]

I think my friendliness comes across as weakness or being too sensitive to some. I give the benefit of the doubt and I hope to see the best in people, but that doesn’t mean I’m a pushover. But I realize that some may think that. I used to care more about how I seemed to others but I feel like I’m getting better at not concerning myself with others’ opinions of me.

I never saw you as weak. I saw you as very friendly, but also independent.

 

[Karabare]

07.03.20

Ok, this one is a thinker.

What are the negative preconceptions that people generally have about your best character trait?
Simply put, what's your best character trait and what is the biggest drawback that you notice because of it?

I wanted to quote every post under this question because of how wonderful you all are, even those I don’t know, or have never said hello to. If those are flaws I want to forever be in your company.

I would say my best character trait is that I’m always funny, not just trying to be, because bitch, I’m funny. The negative preconception people have is that everything I say is meant to be funny, it is not. I have a slight edge of meanness that I need to do better with. And like Amy, I probably wear on people at times or they just have no sense of humor. (I’m going to go with the latter)

 

[BadAmy]

Thanks, Guys

This was really kind. Much appreciated

I think you're hot.
https://media.giphy.com/media/eB1muFfUvQrZkoJa16/giphy.gif

 

[Misanthrope4Life]

I think my friendliness comes across as weakness or being too sensitive to some. I give the benefit of the doubt and I hope to see the best in people, but that doesn’t mean I’m a pushover. But I realize that some may think that. I used to care more about how I seemed to others but I feel like I’m getting better at not concerning myself with others’ opinions of me.

I am proud of you

 

[hotwords229_A]

I guess my trait is that I’m quiet. No, really. In real life I’m not much of a talker. I like to observe and then speak when I actually have something important to say, you know, like something so perfectly timed that it makes someone spit their drink out.

The unintended consequence of being the quiet one is that people seem to assume I’m an idiot. Which, in a way, I’ve embraced because it kind of gives me the upper hand if they are underestimating me.

And then I guess I have to admit that letting people underestimate me probably makes me slightly evil.

 

[Daisy_Love]

07.03.20

Ok, this one is a thinker.

What are the negative preconceptions that people generally have about your best character trait?
Simply put, what's your best character trait and what is the biggest drawback that you notice because of it?

I can totally relate to SB’s comments. I think my friendliness can sometimes come over as some people thinking I’m a bit naive. But I’m no pushover nor am I naive and I don’t suffer fools easily. Just ask the pond dwellers here at Lit!! I’m a really positive person and I think that’s probably one of my better traits. I love banter and I think I have a good sense of humour, be it somewhat dry and sarcastic. Although that doesn’t always come over well, especially online.

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

I think my friendliness comes across as weakness or being too sensitive to some. I give the benefit of the doubt and I hope to see the best in people, but that doesn’t mean I’m a pushover. But I realize that some may think that. I used to care more about how I seemed to others but I feel like I’m getting better at not concerning myself with others’ opinions of me.

I appreciate your friendship, friendliness and the fun of getting to know you. I'm the same way. There are some who may not appreciate subtleties of being kind...FUCK THEM. Since day one of meeting you, I've grown as a friend by coming in contact with you. Please know I cherish you and see this place of Literotica as better with you in it

 

[Daisy_Love]

I think you come across as badass. Just my opinion ...

Badass And you definitely come across as strong and confident

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

oh plp, this was such a good question. I love seeing the glimpses of what makes people who they are, and this hit on that. I also really want to quote everyone too, as what people shared prompted me to have a follow up question or two for each person.

Litsters, Is there anyone here who answered that is open to a follow up question on their initial answer?

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

oh plp, this was such a good question. I love seeing the glimpses of what makes people who they are, and this hit on that. I also really want to quote everyone too, as what people shared prompted me to have a follow up question or two for each person.

Litsters, Is there anyone here who answered that is open to a follow up question on their initial answer?

Thank you maam! A question is only as good as it's answers. I'm so interested in the dichotomy of personality traits.

I say ask away!