Loose

[txwife594]

I am a 47 year old woman. I had two kids in my late twenties. Hubby loves using really big girth toys on me. I have also never done kegels and don’t really plan on starting. Hubby has an average sized penis. When we have sex I can’t really feel him. I was reading something that said being loose is a myth. What do y’all think?

 

[rae121452]

have your dr. sew in a drawstring.

 

[hogjack]

From conversations I've had with females who also encountered the "loose" problem there are several potential solutions to the problem. Consider all or some of them. Everyone is different. Find something that works for YOU.

TOYS: Consider using different sized toys than the ones you and your spouse currently utilize. Repeated insertion of large objects over time does have an impact on the vaginal opening.

HUSBAND'S PENIS: You mention he has an average size penis. Explore ways to increase that size. There are many options (too many to list here). There are penis-growth products, penis-growth lotions, penis-enhancement devices/lotions, and - yes - simple prayers that might work. This is a difficult subject but if you two have a strong relationship this is an opportunity to test it.

PRODUCTS: Just like with penis size explore commercially available options. This is not an area I am familiar with but scientists and inventors have created an assortment of products and solutions to help just about any condition in the human body. Perhaps discuss it with your physician of choice. Maybe family or friends can guide you to some viable options.

SEX PRACTICES: Sometimes, simply adjusting sexual positions has a major impact on how intercourse feels. Try different positions and methods of copulation. There are resources available to discover new or different ways to make love. Seek these out. Take your time. Make the journey together.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

I am a 47 year old woman. I had two kids in my late twenties. Hubby loves using really big girth toys on me. I have also never done kegels and don’t really plan on starting. Hubby has an average sized penis. When we have sex I can’t really feel him. I was reading something that said being loose is a myth. What do y’all think?

It's a bullshit myth created by a male-centric culture that creates excuses for inadequate dick game. Because if genitalia actually worked that way, then men's penises would be thinned and stretched out like fiber optic thread from constant jerking off by age 30.

Your hoo-hoo is fine the way it is. Love it and your whole body. Experiment with positions that'll let you feel his strokes better. And don't be shy to play with toys. It's your life and your pleasure. Get it with gusto.

 

[bestone4ever]

I am a 47 year old woman. I had two kids in my late twenties. Hubby loves using really big girth toys on me. I have also never done kegels and don’t really plan on starting. Hubby has an average sized penis. When we have sex I can’t really feel him. I was reading something that said being loose is a myth. What do y’all think?

Did you not notice your "looseness" between the last kid until now? 20 some years?

 

[txwife594]

It’s kinda been an issue for a while it the last year or two seems worse.

 

[AlotLikePsyche]

It's a bullshit myth created by a male-centric culture that creates excuses for inadequate dick game. Because if genitalia actually worked that way, then men's penises would be thinned and stretched out like fiber optic thread from constant jerking off by age 30.

Your hoo-hoo is fine the way it is. Love it and your whole body. Experiment with positions that'll let you feel his strokes better. And don't be shy to play with toys. It's your life and your pleasure. Get it with gusto.

Preach.

You’re the only one who ever says anything sexy anymore.

 

[dolf]

Unless you want to end up wearing adult diapers, or suffering a prolapse in the next 40 years, especially as you've had kids, suggest that you reconsider your thoughts on kegels. Bonus, it improves your orgasms.

 

[dolf]

It's a bullshit myth created by a male-centric culture that creates excuses for inadequate dick game. Because if genitalia actually worked that way, then men's penises would be thinned and stretched out like fiber optic thread from constant jerking off by age 30.

Your hoo-hoo is fine the way it is. Love it and your whole body. Experiment with positions that'll let you feel his strokes better. And don't be shy to play with toys. It's your life and your pleasure. Get it with gusto.

Fucksake

What happens to any muscle that doesn't get exercise? Childbirth can and often does weaken the pelvic floor. Hitting middle age can and often does weaken the pelvic floor.

Don't tell a woman her cunt is perfectly fine unless you're a medical professional with your fingers up her snatch! You're not psychic, and for all you know she could be in pretty poor shape.

 

[Saint_Ann]

My mom used alum powder...but that was the dark ages.

 

[dolf]

 

[phil1955]

First step should be to see her doctor and get a pelvic exam. Might not be anything serious but better to check than wish you had. While I do not have a vagina, I am pretty familiar with muscles not doing what they use to do as I age. Perhaps a break from large toys might help the muscles to reconfigure.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

Fucksake

What happens to any muscle that doesn't get exercise? Childbirth can and often does weaken the pelvic floor. Hitting middle age can and often does weaken the pelvic floor.

Don't tell a woman her cunt is perfectly fine unless you're a medical professional with your fingers up her snatch! You're not psychic, and for all you know she could be in pretty poor shape.

https://images2.imgbox.com/6e/de/JtgE8DQ7_o.png

https://www.healthline.com/health/womens-health/loose-vagina#vaginal-changes-over-time

Maybe I missed something? The above article, one of many on this subject, is pretty much what I've been told by women and what I've read from women.

My bottom line is that the "loose" thing has almost always been junk talk from guys when they talk shit about women and I've heard it from boyhood on up. It is definitely not something I'm ever saying to a partner. Now, if she feels that way about herself, then I'm being supportive and we can go find out if it's a medical issue or see a sex therapist if it involves her self esteem and my support is not enough.

Everyone's different, I suppose. Only Txwife knows her pussy for sure and if she wants to come back and elaborate on it further, she's more than welcome to do so!

 

[dolf]

Fucksake

From your own damn link!

"Only two things can affect your vagina’s elasticity: age and childbirth. Frequent sex — or lack thereof — won’t cause your vagina to lose any of its stretch.

Over time, childbirth and age could potentially cause a slight, natural loosening of your vagina. Women who’ve had more than one vaginal birth are more likely to have weakened vaginal muscles. However, aging can cause your vagina to stretch slightly, regardless of whether you’ve had children."

And then it goes on to suggest... Kegels!

Yes, clearly you're missing something. But thanks for the mansplain. You clearly know more than every midwife and health visitor i ever saw whilst popping out sprogs.

 

[txwife594]

Thanks for all the replies. I do know that children and age have had an effect. I also believe the large toys and stretching has had some effects. His favorite way today stretch me was 3 or 4 fingers in me pulling down while I lifted my hips up. I think the time he and the stretching contributed to making me loose.

 

[dolf]

Are you a dude? I only ask because, when faced with the suggestion of incontinence and unpleasant medical issues, you told us about fingering techniques.

 

[Jada59]

Do the kegels. The women I know who refused to do them have all had incontinence problems or worse.

 

[dolf]

Do the kegels. The women I know who refused to do them have all had incontinence problems or worse.

I've seen a prolapse. It's fucking gross. Her insides literally turning inside out, hanging out of her cunt and arse. I've seen a few minor prolapses, but that one, total, both holes, was horrific.

...Then there was the mesh implant debacle, where surgeons used a flawed technique to repair it, and women ended up disabled and in constant agony, without any chance of a sex life for as long as they lived.

Kegels.
Kegels.
Kegels.

 

[Saint Peter]

Hold on.


There are TWO holes down there?

 

[FataMorgana]

Slack cunts.

 

[Saint Peter]

You could probably take four from the right hand. The smashed finger (smashed decades ago) on the left is questionable fit.

The smashed finger is quite popular as a solo act. Not enough stage when the rest of the choir chimes in.

 

[AlotLikePsyche]

In the unlikely event any women may actually read this, I’ll just say:

Zumi is right. Your pussy is fine. Fabulous even. Just because men, women, the medical profession, the media, the internet, porn, the patriarchy and society in general are ALL trying to convince you that the perfectly normal, natural and unavoidable process of *aging while female* is a terrible, awful, very bad thing... doesn’t make it so.

Resist the temptation to problematize your pussy. It’s unlikely that there is a medical issue with your vagina. And it doesn’t need deep cleaning, special products, cosmetic surgery, bleaching, a makeover, or a fitness program either.

How about you just love it. Enjoy it. Pleasure it. Share it.

 

[Pookie]

Slack cunts.

Literally and figuratively, me thinks.

 

[dolf]

Fucksake

 

[FataMorgana]

Fucksake

Tight cunt.