Trekka
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When I connect with someone, male or female, platonic or romantic, e- or otherwise, and enough time passes, wherein there’s a mutual sharing of personal info, maybe a pat or two on the back,
some hugs, maybe some kisses, a high five or two, maybe a cry on the shoulder ... a little sexy is always fun but not a requirement ... then feelings form.
I don’t avoid it.
I don’t dislike it.
I don’t seek it out.
I don’t turn it away.
I don’t cling to it tightly.
I don’t wall it off.
I don’t snort it like a drug and go on a bender.
But certainly, when there’s a change of heart, or a change in behavior, tone, actions... it takes the wind out of my sails a bit. The good stuff is less good, or absent. Sometimes there’s an explanation. Sometimes not. Often I’m left wondering what I did wrong.
The difference between the e-relationships and the RL ones is paucity of info. In RL there’s facial expressions, body language, do they smell like someone else’s perfume? And I usually know more about a person’s day to day, their history...
I can look them in the eye.
They gotta look me in the eye too.
But. The heart is the heart, like Enny noted, and I may be quicker than others to open mine up.
Which I suppose leaves me vulnerable to the other side of the rollercoaster. The downside. Can’t have one without the other. C’est la vie.
This is the point at which some folks are scratching their heads going “but why get so close?” Well, why not? Who knows where it will lead. I’ve met many people online and had many things lead to very interesting places! So, that’s why. And that’s how as well. How did I wind up doing top secret sexy special ops in DC that one summer? Thank you, internet.
I agree, SMN and NRJ - time, self care, realizing what’s important and what you can hold onto with two hands — what asses you can smack in real-time for being flaky or fishy or facetious — that’s the antidote.
And Sassy, I think you and I should wrestle for the tag-line “Moody Rollercoaster.”
And yes HW, you’re an alien. I’d like to break into your Martian office and get a hold of your super organized filing cabinet of well managed expectations See how it’s done.
{{you all}}
some hugs, maybe some kisses, a high five or two, maybe a cry on the shoulder ... a little sexy is always fun but not a requirement ... then feelings form.
I don’t avoid it.
I don’t dislike it.
I don’t seek it out.
I don’t turn it away.
I don’t cling to it tightly.
I don’t wall it off.
I don’t snort it like a drug and go on a bender.
But certainly, when there’s a change of heart, or a change in behavior, tone, actions... it takes the wind out of my sails a bit. The good stuff is less good, or absent. Sometimes there’s an explanation. Sometimes not. Often I’m left wondering what I did wrong.
The difference between the e-relationships and the RL ones is paucity of info. In RL there’s facial expressions, body language, do they smell like someone else’s perfume? And I usually know more about a person’s day to day, their history...
I can look them in the eye.
They gotta look me in the eye too.
But. The heart is the heart, like Enny noted, and I may be quicker than others to open mine up.
Which I suppose leaves me vulnerable to the other side of the rollercoaster. The downside. Can’t have one without the other. C’est la vie.
This is the point at which some folks are scratching their heads going “but why get so close?” Well, why not? Who knows where it will lead. I’ve met many people online and had many things lead to very interesting places! So, that’s why. And that’s how as well. How did I wind up doing top secret sexy special ops in DC that one summer? Thank you, internet.
I agree, SMN and NRJ - time, self care, realizing what’s important and what you can hold onto with two hands — what asses you can smack in real-time for being flaky or fishy or facetious — that’s the antidote.
And Sassy, I think you and I should wrestle for the tag-line “Moody Rollercoaster.”
And yes HW, you’re an alien. I’d like to break into your Martian office and get a hold of your super organized filing cabinet of well managed expectations
See how it’s done.{{you all}}
