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[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

06.01.20

Happy June!!!!

Can you teach an old dog news tricks? (Its vague in purpose but I'm curious to see where you guys take it!)

Of course. That is the great thing about dogs. You might have to alter the trick to match their physicality, and you might have to alter the teaching methods to their strengths, but once a dog trusts you, it is motivated to please you, and will thrive on your praise. Plus, food is good too.

Older humans, that depends, but with most, it gets more and more difficult with age. When people are young, they tend to be very motivated to have new experiences, make gains in their life, accomplish goals. Somewhere along the way, most switch to being very focused and motivated on not losing or changing what they have. It is harder to teach them new things, because they are often unwilling to try anything new as it may somehow alter the old. The fear of failing, the fear of pain, the fear of struggle and strife eventually outweighs the value of new experiences to them. Once that happens, finding ways to motivate someone into just trying a new trick is incredible difficult, as any suggested activity or change to an existing activity will just be met with negativity and an endless supply of reasons not to. It really just depends on how far they have moved to that point. Of course, some rare people don't, but most do, just some more slowly than others.

 

[hotwords229_A]

06.01.20

Happy June!!!!

Can you teach an old dog news tricks? (Its vague in purpose but I'm curious to see where you guys take it!)

My childhood dog and I did everything together. We explored the woods, played constantly, she was even my first passenger when I got my driver’s license. By then, she was really old. She lost her hearing and when we were outside I started doing hand signals to tell her which way I wanted to go, when it was time to go home, when I wanted her to come to me, etc. She learned my signals very quickly.

If the old dog is engaged in life, they will want to learn anything.

That dog lived life at 100% at all times. She never gave up. She and I played in the snow hours before she dropped dead—playing is probably what killed her, but if she had to die that’s how it was going to happen and I’m glad it happened that way.

She also taught me a lot about life. So not only can an old dog learn a new trick, but an old dog can teach a Young Dick (me)

 

[AveryElle]

06.01.20

Happy June!!!!

Can you teach an old dog news tricks? (Its vague in purpose but I'm curious to see where you guys take it!)

Actual dogs? Depends on the breed.
As a metaphor for people? Probably. Learning is a lifelong journey, but some people aren’t worth teaching.

 

[Portobelllobelle]

You absolutely can! But it’s all about motivation, people can always change, but they have to want to learn and grow. Furballs, even when mine have gotten up there, seem to like a new challenge, in between naps of course.

 

[AlpineFresco]

06.01.20

Happy June!!!!

Can you teach an old dog news tricks? (Its vague in purpose but I'm curious to see where you guys take it!)

To go off on a tangent - back where I used to live, I knew (and worked with, for several years) this guy. This guy was in his 80s, and he was both very curious about everything and realistic about how time changes things. As he aged, he changed his diet and his exercise. He moved from house to flat complex before he could no longer live in his home, so he had power over the change instead of making it when it was forced up him because things like stairs were impossible.

He was open-minded, forever learning, forever creating, forever making something a project. He'd lived a full life - travel, multiple jobs in different countries, kids and grandkids, and still the urge to discover and learn was there. He's my blueprint for how to grow old.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.10.20

In your estimation, what makes a good communicator?

 

[tnman03]

06.10.20

In your estimation, what makes a good communicator?

A good listener who allows others to speak while asking well thought out questions to clarify what's being said.

 

[Booboobear84]

06.10.20

In your estimation, what makes a good communicator?

One has two ears and one mouth, use in that proportion, or bias it more toward the ears.

 

[AveryElle]

06.10.20

In your estimation, what makes a good communicator?

So....My spouse and my most recent former partner are neurodivergent and the concept of "good communication" is interesting to me. Over and over again, I hear people - especially in the kink community - say "just communicate!". Sex educators and kink educators tend to suck in dealing with autistic people, in my experience. If you've grown up being straight forward your whole life, of course it's easy to say, "just tell someone what you mean/need/want!". Speaking directly to an autistic person in that way can be both the only way and also an alienating way, depending on the person.

What make a good communicator, to me, is someone who knows when to ask a question and when to listen. It's not always the right time to drop that you don't like your partner's blow job technique or that their choice of outfit is shitty, but to ME, I really want my partner to tell me those things. Just at the right time.

I've been told that I'm not a good communicator, but if I'm directly asked something and have an answer, I will give it. I've learned to take, "you don't communicate well" in interpersonal relationships with someone else's inability to accept my response for what it is.

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

There are two facets to this - communicating your own thoughts and experiences directly and clearly and making yourself heard in a manner conducive to someone who might not be actually listening...but who you wish to reach.

Then there is creating a dialogue and listening. True two-way dialogue involves as much or more listening and empathy and patience than just expressing an ideal or opinion. That is far more valuable a skill.

 

[hotwords229_A]

06.10.20

In your estimation, what makes a good communicator?

I think you have to know your audience. Everyone is different and will hear what you're saying/intending differently. Tune in to their reactions and response and you can pretty much tell if what you're saying makes sense to them.

Practice on a dog. See if you can get your thoughts, feelings and point across without using words. If so, you're probably a decent communicator.

And don't speak in metaphors. Because metaphors are like when a squirrel starts grabbing nuts, it may mean a "fall" is coming or it could just mean that the squirrel is a total pervert. Either way, no one will know what the fuck you're talking about.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.10.20

In your estimation, what makes a good communicator?

I think good communication skills might be genetic. I don't know some people can just get their ideas across in a way that engages and pushes the conversation forward. And some people just don't know why people never understand what they are saying. I think it can be learned but it definitely doesn't come naturally to.aome people.

Good communicators listen and can adjust the delivery of their message from audience to audience. I like smart people who don't have to pretentiously prove their intelligence. I like people who can sum up their thoughts in a few sentences I stead of writing 38 paragraphs. I like when someone can sincerely see all angles of a situation. Humor, also go a long way.

But I agree with those above who say listening is the most important thing.

 

[StacyLeigh]

06.10.20

In your estimation, what makes a good communicator?

My first time stumbling across this thread and I find a great question

Aside from all the above... I think a great communicator understands the difference between issues, positions, and interests - and chooses to focus on and clarify interests by considering the interests of their audience (encouraging them to share if they aren't already known) and looking for areas of overlap.

While there are many ways to satisfy interests - with positions it is usually only one way- making it more difficult to communicate your message or come to an agreement. Most of us focus on our position, on our stance, on what we see as the answer or method to solving the issue. But when we don’t address the WHY (concerns, needs, desires) it’s hard to get to a solution and becomes a butting of heads. ​

 

[Jd192235]

I think good communication skills might be genetic. I don't know some people can just get their ideas across in a way that engages and pushes the conversation forward. And some people just don't know why people never understand what they are saying. I think it can be learned but it definitely doesn't come naturally to.aome people.

Good communicators listen and can adjust the delivery of their message from audience to audience. I like smart people who don't have to pretentiously prove their intelligence. I like people who can sum up their thoughts in a few sentences I stead of writing 38 paragraphs. I like when someone can sincerely see all angles of a situation. Humor, also go a long way.

But I agree with those above who say listening is the most important thing.

Pulpy I couldn’t have written this any better. There are people who know what someone is trying to say and can succinctly get their point across. They also know exactly how to get get their message across based on their audience , this might be the biggest key to many people continually try to shove a round peg into a square hole while good communicators know they need a square peg

 

[Sh75]

Someone who is patient and calm enough to communicate their position without getting too emotional. Someone who has the ability to rethink and rephrase in a way to get their audience to understand. Someone who is outspoken but kind in getting their point across. Someone who will listen to feedback.

Huh??

 

[Sh75]

<smacks your head>

You need to work on your communication skills, you seem a little aggressive. Use your words sweety

 

[Sh75]

❤

Very well articulated, you havent quite got the hang of it yet, but you know, baby steps.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.15.20

I don't know about anyone else but I need a silly break sometimes...

What do you search to escape from the seriousness of reality? What makes you giggle no matter what? Is Lit always an escape for you?

 

[Paul_Chance]

06.15.20

I don't know about anyone else but I need a silly break sometimes...

What do you search to escape from the seriousness of reality? What makes you giggle no matter what? Is Lit always an escape for you?

Reality isn't serious in my book. Pretty much all of it deserves to be laughed at and laughed with - especially the more serious it is. Lit's pretty much always an escape for me, a place I come to laugh, the oogle, to read and be entertained.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Reality isn't serious in my book. Pretty much all of it deserves to be laughed at and laughed with - especially the more serious it is. Lit's pretty much always an escape for me, a place I come to laugh, the oogle, to read and be entertained.

Nice to see you back Paul!

I wish I didnt feel the seriousness all around me but, for me, it's important seriousness.

 

[Misanthrope4Life]

06.15.20

I don't know about anyone else but I need a silly break sometimes...

What do you search to escape from the seriousness of reality? What makes you giggle no matter what? Is Lit always an escape for you?

I argue online, listen to music, talk that perv shit, jerk off, take a walk, make cocktails, new food recipes, work out, meditate, go out to restaurants ( even though I can't eat or drink inside, I order drinks for outside hanging out, while I wait for food ), music videos, my Jedi Counsel Forums, read and research information.

Joking with family and friends, thinking silly thoughts, doing character voices and play fighting


It's not always, my real life is more calm, than my lit posts. People show me respect and love being around me in my personal life, my experience on lit is the opposite.

Poor me, I am the victim lmao

 

[BadAmy]

06.15.20

I don't know about anyone else but I need a silly break sometimes...

What do you search to escape from the seriousness of reality? What makes you giggle no matter what? Is Lit always an escape for you?

I watch grandpa amu. Youtube. Look for him!
Seriously so peaceful and amazing.

Farts make me giggle. every single fucking time.

Lit is a filler. Between things. And a place to smile.
Most times.

 

[AveryElle]

Lit has been less and less an escape for me. I come here more out of habit and to check in.

Same.

Escape....work out. Music. Hang with the dog. Work out more. Also, having a kid is the easiest way to avoid bullshit sometimes - imagination, silly tv, games, snuggles....it makes all the bullshit much easier to digest and also gives me a great purpose to carry on with what I view as important social justice. He is my escape and I’m very lucky.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

06.15.20

I don't know about anyone else but I need a silly break sometimes...

What do you search to escape from the seriousness of reality? What makes you giggle no matter what? Is Lit always an escape for you?

Usually, my purpose for Lit is as a little escape. It is a little escape from the "every day feels the same and I want a little excitement" feeling. It is also the break from work stress and I want to blow off a little steam escape. It is fun, it is convenient, it is easy as it is right there, and if all I have is a couple minutes while waiting in line, that is ok too. It is not always an escape though, as sometimes I get sucked in a bit more than I intend.

I am someone who laughs a lot at any given point. It is as simple as just general interaction. If I am talking, and someone else is talking, there will soon be giggling and laughing. Hell, who am I kidding, someone else isn't always required.

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

06.10.20

In your estimation, what makes a good communicator?

If you ask my Ex, she will tell you that I was the worst communicator in the world. But she was never clear in what she was asking outside of work. In her work environment, she was great (she worked from home, her questions were clear, concise and to the point), but when it came to things that had nothing to do with work, she would ask "What time is it?" when what she really wanted to know was what program was currently on TV, or what time a program would start.

06.15.20

I don't know about anyone else but I need a silly break sometimes...

What do you search to escape from the seriousness of reality? What makes you giggle no matter what? Is Lit always an escape for you?

I have a couple of RP characters for an MMORPG online that are made entirely around just being outrageously silly, for when I need that.

Lit is honestly a double edged sword. On the one hand, I get to read adult, short attention span stories, of a particular theme that tickles my fancy. On the other, it very much reminds me of my physical limitations, and how much those limitations have impacted not just my physical health, but my mental health. It is why I show up so sporadically in the Playground, as much as it can relieve anxiety, it can very rapidly fuel it.