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[Dribble]

But to extend the question...is it different if you are watching 2 girls?

 

[AveryElle]

The magic isnt there. You cant feel her hips move. You cant hear that shortened breath. You cant feel the hand on the back of the head. You dont feel like you are the one in control...giving.

Isn't that, then, the same qualifier to any porn?

 

[Dribble]

Isn't that, then, the same qualifier to any porn?

I cant speak for others...other porn never had the intimacy...so it was never a factor. Good question though

 

[AveryElle]

04.19.20

Submitted!

For the watchers of porn: Is there a sex act that appeals to you in the flesh but that you don't want to see in porn/sexy tumblr pics? Or vice versa?

I don’t usually seek out porn that’s of something I wouldn’t do/am not really into. I have liked things on tumblr that are DDlg (like the woman wearing a choker that says ‘daddy’) because of the masochistic imagery but it’s a huge turn off. Same with too much CMNF. If I like the ACT but not the subkink, I sort of move on vs connect the two to my chosen proclivities. There are things that I’ve seen that I have been more willing to try based on the porn (more restraints and sensory deprivation, which were off limits for a while due to past trauma. It appeals to be more based on the porn/sexy pics I find.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

04.19.20

Submitted!

For the watchers of porn: Is there a sex act that appeals to you in the flesh but that you don't want to see in porn/sexy tumblr pics? Or vice versa?

I can relate to a lot of what Avery said. I can look past little things I dislike to enjoy the overall package.

I think most things I enjoy, I prefer in a homemade open versus pro porn. I like vo al guys - moaning, dirty talk, etc - but fake poen talk yucks me out.

Bad, half assed blow jobs annoy me. Like, girl, you can fit more than the head in your mouth! Open up!

It's hard to find good, realistic bdsm porn. Although.... I was sent a series of videos recently... mhmm...

 

[AveryElle]

I can relate to a lot of what Avery said. I can look past little things I dislike to enjoy the overall package.

I think most things I enjoy, I prefer in a homemade open versus pro porn. I like vo al guys - moaning, dirty talk, etc - but fake poen talk yucks me out.

Bad, half assed blow jobs annoy me. Like, girl, you can fit more than the head in your mouth! Open up!

It's hard to find good, realistic bdsm porn. Although.... I was sent a series of videos recently... mhmm...

Use different key words on pornhub for better bdsm stuff. At least, the bdsm stuff I'm into - I've found it!

Close ups after anal fucking.

I don't want to see anyone's gaping hole.

And thanks, my coffee just went down the wrong pipe. Ew.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

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04.21.20

I've been thinking a lot about perception lately and how important it is to me and how important it should be.

How do you feel about perception, here or Lit? Does it matter? Have you ever tried to correct a mis-perception? (I'm no sure that's a word but we're going with it!) How aware are you of how people perceive you?

 

[BlondeAmbition4RP]

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04.21.20

I've been thinking a lot about perception lately and how important it is to me and how important it should be.

How do you feel about perception, here or Lit? Does it matter? Have you ever tried to correct a mis-perception? (I'm no sure that's a word but we're going with it!) How aware are you of how people perceive you?

I try to be kind and respectful with my interactions here on Lit, so I would hope that I'm perceived as such, but other than that I don't really worry how others perceive me here. Used to a bit when I first joined I think (I lied about my age on my profile to seem younger , now I can't change it ), but not anymore. The only attempt to correct mis-perceptions that I can think of is the little sentence that I added beneath my sig, since we haven't been able to update our profiles in forever and literally EVERYTHING on my profile had changed: age, location, occupation. I'm definitely not an intern working my way through college anymore, haha!

 

[Coranhorn]

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04.21.20

I've been thinking a lot about perception lately and how important it is to me and how important it should be.

How do you feel about perception, here or Lit? Does it matter? Have you ever tried to correct a mis-perception? (I'm no sure that's a word but we're going with it!) How aware are you of how people perceive you?

I generally don't worry about perception of myself any more. Either here or in real life. People will linger me ,or they won't. I can't control them, all I can do is control myself. I am probably unaware of how people perceive me and unless they tell me otherwise, I carry on about my way.

 

[Willingtoshare]

It probably mattered when I first joined lit and got involved with posting in the forums, it doesn’t matter to me now. Most will have formed some kind of perception of me I guess, even without knowing the real me and without bothering to try as that perception has already been formed...be it good or bad, which I fine as I probably do the same to some degree.

I think I’ve changed the way I post a bit more to reflect my age, due to my own postings some felt I was younger than I am and I didn’t want that to be the case as it’s never been my intention to deceive, I am who I am, so how people perceive me matters less these days.

 

[Mei5ter]

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04.21.20

I've been thinking a lot about perception lately and how important it is to me and how important it should be.

How do you feel about perception, here or Lit? Does it matter? Have you ever tried to correct a mis-perception? (I'm no sure that's a word but we're going with it!) How aware are you of how people perceive you?

What determines how we are perceived on Lit? I suppose there is what we all show the world when we post publicly, plus what we say to others in private, not to mention what is said *about* us in private also. I don't think I have a sufficiently prominent Lit presence for there to be a general perception of me here, so the handful here who know me will have their own perceptions of me.

How perception and reality join is a difficult one. I see people here who, I am reliably told, are completely ghastly, but whose posts always strike me as polite, interesting or amusing. And I see others who, I am equally reliably informed, are great company, smart, and fascinating, in spite of posting the kind of tedious drivel which - as I perceive it - doesn't even merit the muscle movement of an eye roll.

Many of us - including me - have made missteps in our early weeks and months on Lit, and my feeling is that if you behave in a consistent and different manner afterwards, that can be corrected. What is much harder is when the actions of others affect how we are perceived. I've been misrepresented here on a couple of occasions, and I am sure there are a few people on Lit whose perception of me is still tainted in consequence. But in the end, it's simply the word of person A against person B, and that can only be corrected if I, as person B, am perceived as more honest than person A. Neither of these misrepresentations matters very much any more, but they have made me much, much more cautious about engaging here. Which is a shame.

 

[AveryElle]

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04.21.20

I've been thinking a lot about perception lately and how important it is to me and how important it should be.

How do you feel about perception, here or Lit? Does it matter? Have you ever tried to correct a mis-perception? (I'm no sure that's a word but we're going with it!) How aware are you of how people perceive you?

Much like social media, lit is a curated portrayal of any given person. I personally don’t have time or care enough to do that - just like on social media. But there are people who WANT to be perceived in a certain way. I may have acted that way when I first joined years and years ago. Now? Meh.

I do try to see beyond people’s personas. However, if someone curates themselves to appear a certain way on lit, I tend to stop talking to them for the most part. The few people I talk with offline often are genuinely as they are on the boards. Those are worth the time to get to know.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

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04.21.20

I've been thinking a lot about perception lately and how important it is to me and how important it should be.

How do you feel about perception, here or Lit? Does it matter? Have you ever tried to correct a mis-perception? (I'm no sure that's a word but we're going with it!) How aware are you of how people perceive you?

I've really enjoyed everyone's answers to this question. Mainly, I think, because I feel so differently. It's not that I care particularly if people like me but I do care if people's perceptions of me be true.

<dreamy music as we prepare for a PLP flashback>

I grew up covering for a pretty seriously mentally ill mother. She was so depressed she wouldnt get out of bed for weeks and my dad worked nights and slept days which left lil PLP running a household and taking care of her sister. But as far as anyone... friends, family, teachers.... knew we were A OK. Because it mattered to me that people didn't perceive my mother that way. Fast forward a few years, mom gets help and starts speaking up and everyone looks at me like I'm some mastermind that hid the truth. So from then on authenticity and perception became linked in my little brain.

<dreamy music brings us back to the present>

I strive to be authentic. And if you don't care for that person, then that kinda sucks but I get it. I get on my own nerves sometimes. But if someone's perception of me is based on someone else's bias or misinformation then I do get very frustrated.

I'm also very aware of how people may perceive me differently if I do something they find out of character. As an example, I've been toying around with posting a personal ad for girl to ummm... "share chapstick with" but the thoughts of how that may change the way people see me, see my partner and judge our relationship keep me going the straight and narrow. (See what I did there?)

I think it's very easy to say you dont give a fuck what people think of you. But, really, I think we do. Or we at least want people to make their judgements based on the truth.

Ok, enough rambling from me. If you finished this, I owe you a beer.

 

[tnman03]

I've really enjoyed everyone's answers to this question. Mainly, I think, because I feel so differently. It's not that I care particularly if people like me but I do care if people's perceptions of me be true.

<dreamy music as we prepare for a PLP flashback>

I grew up covering for a pretty seriously mentally ill mother. She was so depressed she wouldnt get out of bed for weeks and my dad worked nights and slept days which left lil PLP running a household and taking care of her sister. But as far as anyone... friends, family, teachers.... knew we were A OK. Because it mattered to me that people didn't perceive my mother that way. Fast forward a few years, mom gets help and starts speaking up and everyone looks at me like I'm some mastermind that hid the truth. So from then on authenticity and perception became linked in my little brain.

<dreamy music brings us back to the present>

I strive to be authentic. And if you don't care for that person, then that kinda sucks but I get it. I get on my own nerves sometimes. But if someone's perception of me is based on someone else's bias or misinformation then I do get very frustrated.

I'm also very aware of how people may perceive me differently if I do something they find out of character. As an example, I've been toying around with posting a personal ad for girl to ummm... "share chapstick with" but the thoughts of how that may change the way people see me, see my partner and judge our relationship keep me going the straight and narrow. (See what I did there?)

I think it's very easy to say you dont give a fuck what people think of you. But, really, I think we do. Or we at least want people to make their judgements based on the truth.

Ok, enough rambling from me. If you finished this, I owe you a beer.

FWIW I've always thought you were authentic and invested a lot of time and effort into making Lit into more of a community. While our past is what has considerable bearing into shaping us it's not always in the pattern of what we lived.

Invariably many of the "Personals" adds are written for the pure fun of it all and generate a great deal of mirth and good-humored bantering. Some have generated lasting friendships. So how about you just do what you want to do there and not fret about how others perceive it. I've always admired that you're always in the moment and willing to engage with others here. Just continue being yourself.

 

[Sh75]

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04.21.20

I've been thinking a lot about perception lately and how important it is to me and how important it should be.

How do you feel about perception, here or Lit? Does it matter? Have you ever tried to correct a mis-perception? (I'm no sure that's a word but we're going with it!) How aware are you of how people perceive you?

The older ive gotten the less i care about what others think of me unless they are people who mean something to me. I think there are ways you act or present yourself or do things that meet your own moral.or personal standard, maybe they are shaped by people or societal influences along the way, but i find i care less about what others think now a lot more then in my teens and twenties definitely.
Those who i care about,like or mean anything to me know who i really am, those who dont im not really that interested in what there perception is.

 

[Dribble]

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04.21.20

I've been thinking a lot about perception lately and how important it is to me and how important it should be.

How do you feel about perception, here or Lit? Does it matter? Have you ever tried to correct a mis-perception? (I'm no sure that's a word but we're going with it!) How aware are you of how people perceive you?

Perception...use it or lose it.

If there is a room of 20 people, and I enter that room and interact with each person differently...then I do something totally unexpected. We immediately separate the 20 people and ask them...what the fuck just happened? You get 20 different stories. Each is biased by how I previously interacted with them and who else they interacted with.

Now comes the fun part. Their perception...is the basis for their reality. Is any one reality less real than another?

My mother and my views of what happened growing up, is very very different. But she has told her "lies" for 60 years. Of course she believes them with all her heart. Does it really matter that I see things very differently? Each of our perceptions of the same events...differ. But each of us, have our own reality.

Do I care what others think of me? Sure. But do I really care? Depends.

 

[Booboobear84]

PLP we come from very different places but in one sense arrived at the same place. I would prefer to be liked but most importantly I would like people to correctly perceive me and go from there. If someone doesn’t like the real me then it is what it is.

I suspect part of your concern with the ad is that people will take that single data point and run with it. I think this is a valid concern because people do that. One can argue that it’s lazy thinking but in fairness no one comes here to have their discernment filter on high all of the time either.

 

[Mei5ter]

Perception...use it or lose it.

If there is a room of 20 people, and I enter that room and interact with each person differently...then I do something totally unexpected. We immediately separate the 20 people and ask them...what the fuck just happened? You get 20 different stories. Each is biased by how I previously interacted with them and who else they interacted with.

Now comes the fun part. Their perception...is the basis for their reality. Is any one reality less real than another?

My mother and my views of what happened growing up, is very very different. But she has told her "lies" for 60 years. Of course she believes them with all her heart. Does it really matter that I see things very differently? Each of our perceptions of the same events...differ. But each of us, have our own reality.

Do I care what others think of me? Sure. But do I really care? Depends.

Excellently put. It's what youre eventually taught when you study history - that there simply is no 'objective' version which is definitive above all others. Let's just say that the version of the American War of Independence taught in the US differs somewhat from what I grew up with.

But there are shades of grey, though. There are people who deny that an event ever happened, even though there is overwhelming evidence that it did. I'm all for acknowledging that the past can only be ever seen through a lens formed from personal perspective, but that in itself doesn't excuse rewriting facts to suit your own purposes. Which happens here sometimes, and because we don't have access to forensic historical tools on a porn site...'truth' risks becoming purely relative.

 

[Justis]

Hi PLP,

I do not know you though I have seen some of your posts whilst browsing.

Are you concerned what strangers like me will think of you? How we will perceive you or are you more concerned about what your acquaintances, friends, and those people that are closest to you here will think?

I ask as for me personally yes it is nice to be perceived for who and what we are, to be accepted and not judged by people. However I also know that I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. That there will be people for whatever reason that will judge me, my intent differently to what it was meant to be. That they will perceive my posts in a different light to what they were written. For the most part, people I do not know and their perception of me is not really that important. Why because they don’t know me, they see snippets of who I am and then make their perceptions from that.

However if someone that does know me perceives me negatively that has more of an impact because they do know me and their perception has weight to it.

For me I try to be true to myself and let the chips fall where they may. If you want to share your chap stick and you and your partner are in line with that view, go for it. Those people that hold weight if they care will want you to be happy and fulfilled even if they don’t necessarily understand how you chose to be so. Strangers like me in my opinion should not have a direction on your happiness, wants or desires. I see what you did lol! So I presume you have come to this conclusion as you have dipped your toe into that proverbial water perhaps in your post.

 

[beachbaby179]

I'm very true here to who I am in real life. If anything, you all get to see a more real me than the average person in my life. I feel free to be myself here. All facets. But I'm shy and reserved, and while I'll talk about my kids, you will never see me naming names of men I might be involved with. That stays personal. I'm hopeful that the perception matches the reality. I care A LOT if someone gets a bad impression of me. Probably too much. But that's me.

I worry sometimes that someone from my personal life will recognize me here, because I probably share a little too much detail. But I figure if they're here too, who would they tell? I think they call it 'mutually assured destruction '.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I'm not doing a great job of explaining. I guess, I don't care whether you like me but I prefer to that you base your decisions of me on facts. I try to do that for others too. I don't take up other's grievances, I base my opinions of someone based on my interactions with them, etc.

I wasn't really looking for validation though I do appreciate everyone's thoughts here. And I promise worries of what people think of me do not keep me up at night but I cant and wont be the type of person who just doesn't care how people perceive me. I've done a lot of work of myself to be someone I can be proud of (still working on it!) So... of course, I care.

I'm sure it's very freeing to be someone who just doesn't give it a second thought but then I think back to being a kid, even now to being a spouse, partner and friend. The way I'm perceived affects others. And the way people I surround myself are percieved affects the way I'm seen.

Have a great Hump Day folks!

 

[AveryElle]

...if we all took into account our authentic personal lives, almost all of lit would vanish overnight. I think for many people, knowing they can be someone other than the spouse, caretaker, or parent this place is the biggest attraction to it. I don't necessarily believe that means it's a different perception, but I don't think really anyone sees 100% of our authentic selves. Everything - especially online - is edited, to a degree. I don't think I'm 100% authentic at home because I'm still in a "role" of spouse, parent, caretaker so the perception there is that I am those things.

I have no idea if that makes sense, but maybe the word is really compartmentalization instead of perception?

anyway, good talk everyone. Go team. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Whoever puts more points on the board wins.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

No I agree. But authentic doesn't mean you get my entire person. Parents can be authentic with their kids while also editing for the audience.

I edit for privacy but never to change how someone sees me.

I'm all for compartmentalizing. I think its actually a really useful life skill. One I used to be pretty good at but - as I sit here nervously tapping my foot because people in my neighborhood are planning a riot because they cant get haircuts - I am lacking in lately.

 

[AveryElle]

No I agree. But authentic doesn't mean you get my entire person. Parents can be authentic with their kids while also editing for the audience.

I edit for privacy but never to change how someone sees me.

I'm all for compartmentalizing. I think its actually a really useful life skill. One I used to be pretty good at but - as I sit here nervously tapping my foot because people in my neighborhood are planning a riot because they cant get haircuts - I am lacking in lately.

The compartment I put them in is the one that says let them do it and watch nature takes its course while I stay inside

 

[LurkingPhoenix]

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04.21.20

I've been thinking a lot about perception lately and how important it is to me and how important it should be.

How do you feel about perception, here or Lit? Does it matter? Have you ever tried to correct a mis-perception? (I'm no sure that's a word but we're going with it!) How aware are you of how people perceive you?

In the offline world? How someone sees me has definite consequences, especially professionally. So that matters to some extent. Not so much my appearance, but the person I am and how I treat people.

On Lit? I used to care. Far more than was healthy. It used to matter to me to NOT be perceived like one of the fuckheads that prey on insecurities and have flings with bunches of women at once and was a general asshole. Even though none of that was true...it would have bothered me greatly if someone thought it was.

Now? I know I can't change anyone's perception of me here, and I could care less. If it was someone I cared about that had the wrong impression of me, I'd correct the record, but even that has only so much power to make things different.

Hell, even some of the people who know me best dislike me a lot of the time. So why spend brainpower trying to convince people I *don't* know that I'm some form of saint/worthy of praise?

If you like me? Ok...you like the person I post as here - the more outgoing, expressive version of me. Great. If you don't like me? Ok, too. It's become a survival mechanism in my own skull.