❓ PLP Inquires❓

[SMNaughtywife]

I think the answer to this ^^^ goes back to this:

....... Usually it's just a simple need for fake flattery and a bit of attention when I'm feeling down. Of course, it's reckless. I don't deny that. But it's a quick fix that I've found effective.

I swear, this thread has made me vow to never post my face again. Which is tragic bc I feel cute today...

I’m quite certain my opinions and thoughts on the matter sway anyone in their pic posting frenzy.
It’s something I’ve never done in my 5yrs here and refuse to ever participate in.
I think as women, (and men too) we are in need of outside validation to make us feel cute and beautiful, attractive and enough for the world.

But this is not the place where those beautifully strung adjectives should put a skip in your step. Not from random people scattered around the world that know so very little about who you are deep inside, your very being.

I can tell your right now you deserve more than “beautiful, stunning.....”
Way more. And the people that are closest to you, those are the ones that should put a skip in your step with words of truth and substance.
But first, you gotta find and know that truth in yourself.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I’m quite certain my opinions and thoughts on the matter sway anyone in their pic posting frenzy.
It’s something I’ve never done in my 5yrs here and refuse to ever participate in.
I think as women, (and men too) we are in need of outside validation to make us feel cute and beautiful, attractive and enough for the world.

But this is not the place where those beautifully strung adjectives should put a skip in your step. Not from random people scattered around the world that know so very little about who you are deep inside, your very being.

I can tell your right now you deserve more than “beautiful, stunning.....”
Way more. And the people that are closest to you, those are the ones that should put a skip in your step with words of truth and substance.
But first, you gotta find and know that truth in yourself.

Very true. Plus a few weeks ago we discussed people who save all the pictures they can from here so.... no thank you. Just google "freckled girl with glasses and cheeks" that's close enough.

 

[Mei5ter]

I’m quite certain my opinions and thoughts on the matter sway anyone in their pic posting frenzy.
It’s something I’ve never done in my 5yrs here and refuse to ever participate in.
I think as women, (and men too) we are in need of outside validation to make us feel cute and beautiful, attractive and enough for the world.

But this is not the place where those beautifully strung adjectives should put a skip in your step. Not from random people scattered around the world that know so very little about who you are deep inside, your very being.

I can tell your right now you deserve more than “beautiful, stunning.....”
Way more. And the people that are closest to you, those are the ones that should put a skip in your step with words of truth and substance.
But first, you gotta find and know that truth in yourself.

I agree about posting face pics, for what it's worth. It's an unnecessary risk, and not everyone here is nice. You have Facebook or Instagram for that, I guess.

I'll politely disagree on the wider question of ampics. Compliments from strangers can be just as valid and affirming from people who know us. Friends tend to be polite. Strangers have no reason not to be honest.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

*crushes harder*

I had a stalker here. It was horrible. And my face and my bod were all over lit. I learned the hard way.
Only my friends get to see my face anymore.

I remember and can’t even imagine the feeling of being exploited like that.
Hugs to coming back after it all, smarter and stronger.

Very true. Plus a few weeks ago we discussed people who save all the pictures they can from here so.... no thank you. Just google "freckled girl with glasses and cheeks" that's close enough.

I can tell you from a conversation yesterday that just because someone says they delete pics does not always ring true.

 

[BlondeAmbition4RP]

I’m quite certain my opinions and thoughts on the matter sway anyone in their pic posting frenzy.
It’s something I’ve never done in my 5yrs here and refuse to ever participate in.
I think as women, (and men too) we are in need of outside validation to make us feel cute and beautiful, attractive and enough for the world.

But this is not the place where those beautifully strung adjectives should put a skip in your step. Not from random people scattered around the world that know so very little about who you are deep inside, your very being.

I can tell your right now you deserve more than “beautiful, stunning.....”
Way more. And the people that are closest to you, those are the ones that should put a skip in your step with words of truth and substance.
But first, you gotta find and know that truth in yourself.

Actually, for me at least, the appeal of popping on to the Show Your Face thread on here occasionally is BECAUSE it's strangers and it's an unbiased opinion. Awesome person that I am, of COURSE my friends are going to give me compliments, they'd be shitty friends if they didn't, but the occasional (semi)unsolicited and completely superficial compliment from a stranger is a nice quick boost to the ego as Indie said.

 

[Sh75]

I'd also like to add that sometimes it's just not that risky. For years, I was a stay at home mom, and I didn't have to worry about something getting back to my employer. I work now, but I don't think being on here jeopardizes that, though I'd rather not have my directors see my wobbly bits. My husband also knows that I'm on here now, so it's another thing that makes sharing less risky. The only real risk is embarrassment, I suppose. That and I've likely ruined my chances of running for President.

Id say your chances of running for president are significantly increased

 

[Sh75]

Well, the current administration doesn't exactly raise the bar very high.
/truth

And you have no aversion to grabbing a pussy so there's some votes already

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I don’t know. A stranger who wants his e-cock e-sucked may tell me I look like a goddess.
I don’t trust most of ‘em.

Yes. Thank you.
Because who isn’t a stunning beautiful show stopping goddess here?

 

[Trekka]

03.03.20

How do you determine if someone has good judgement? In life and on Lit.

I have enough trouble with my gauging my own judgment to worry about someone else’s.

But, if their judgment impacts my serenity, my home, my bank account, or my kid, we’ve got a problem.

Really tho, my goal, every day, which I don’t always achieve, is to look at myself in the mirror. And not fret too much about others and the presence or absence of their good sense.

(I say this as I mentally plot a Dear Litster post for the ages about someone’s dumbfuckery.)

 

[Trekka]

Subscribed.

I have half a mind to call in the entirety of the female contingency of lit to help me write above-mentioned post. Seriously.

 

[tnman03]

I have half a mind to call in the entirety of the female contingency of lit to help me write above-mentioned post. Seriously.

What'd I do now???

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

03.03.20

How do you determine if someone has good judgement? In life and on Lit.

Well, for me personally, I tend to most question those with extremely fixed judgement. Information, experiences, perspectives, life is fluid. Good judgement is adaptable as information is added. Good judgement has a willingness to explore new information. I tend to most question the judgement of those who seem to need to cling to what they want to believe because it is what they have always believed, to the exclusion of entertaining other possibilities and are closed to even the concept of considering new information and new perspectives.

I’m not going to wander into the RL good judgement stuff. Pretty sure it’s an endless list of circumstances and scenarios.

*Ok. Alright. Takes a deep breath.*
I have a pretty big who’s rocking a good judgement call here on Lit that straight up blows my mind. I won’t turn into a judgy cheeky bitch, I mean you made your bed now lay in it.
But I need answers.

Showing your face on a thread and your tits and bits in another thread. Or hell, maybe it’s on the same thread.
I really, truly and honestly don’t get the thought process in ones thinking that this is a smart decision. Why?!

Why is it that one trusts this little niche of the world wide web so much to chance nothing malice will come from this decision? The thrill, need for validation from strangers that toss a slew of sparkly adjectives your way like candy at a parade? Bathing you in the upmost sincere compliments as if they are the judge, jury and truth defining of who you are based on a 55K pic from your cellphone?

IMO I feel this is the biggest naïve lapse of judgement and red flags that tops WTF are you thinking here.

This all ^^^ is said with truth in failing to understand the rational behind it.
And perhaps in all honestly theres no answer that would make me smile and say “yeah, ok I get it.”
I’m the last person here to tell someone their Lit ways are right or wrong, to each their own. But to say when logic is misplaced, it’s disheartening to see.

I can very much see that this probably is insane to most. Are you actually interested in hearing a different thought process that really hasn't been touched on in response yet? No, there is no way I or anyone else is going to make you smile and say you get it. I just can't tell if you are really interested and want to hear or not. If you are actually interested in the thought process just another litster who does post bits, I would be happy to try to explain mine. Not as an attempt to change your opinion, just to show a possible rational, my rational, as odd as it may be.

 

[Trekka]

What'd I do now???

Oh hush. Your account is in good standing.

 

[parker77]

Yes. Thank you.
Because who isn’t a stunning beautiful show stopping goddess here?

pretty sure i’m not.

 

[hotwords229_A]

03.03.20

How do you determine if someone has good judgement? In life and on Lit.

I approach it the same way I look at reviews on Amazon. I always read the one star reviews because that’s where the truth is. If everyone says the thing falls apart after a week then it probably does. If the bad reviews are just people being picky or whiny then the thing is probably pretty good (assuming there are enough reviews).

So I would look at someone’s “bad” decisions and if they aren’t that bad, or if I can see why they made those decisions (that judgement), and it makes sense, then I would think they have pretty reasonable judgement.

As to Naughty’s point, I just heard that there is an app (I forget the name of it) that you can upload a person’s pic to and it can identify the person and connect you with their personal info. Pretty scary stuff!

 

[AlpineFresco]

I'm curious what % of people feel like they don't have good judgement. I've heard people express this in terms of the relationships they get into, but rarely beyond that.
But then, personal judgement is hard because it's often influenced by a lot of things; and you can really feel you're doing your best and being as cool and objective as you can be and still be miles out to outside observers.

 

[Mei5ter]

Well, for me personally, I tend to most question those with extremely fixed judgement. Information, experiences, perspectives, life is fluid. Good judgement is adaptable as information is added. Good judgement has a willingness to explore new information. I tend to most question the judgement of those who seem to need to cling to what they want to believe because it is what they have always believed, to the exclusion of entertaining other possibilities and are closed to even the concept of considering new information and new perspectives.



I can very much see that this probably is insane to most. Are you actually interested in hearing a different thought process that really hasn't been touched on in response yet? No, there is no way I or anyone else is going to make you smile and say you get it. I just can't tell if you are really interested and want to hear or not. If you are actually interested in the thought process just another litster who does post bits, I would be happy to try to explain mine. Not as an attempt to change your opinion, just to show a possible rational, my rational, as odd as it may be.

Well, I'd be interested to hear your take on this. It was something I'd planned to ask you on AMA, were you ever to do it.

And I guess I could just have sent a PM. But that would involve sending a PM, and I'm British, and we haven't been introduced so obviously that would be unthinkable.

So...yes please?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Well, I'd be interested to hear your take on this. It was something I'd planned to ask you on AMA, were you ever to do it.

And I guess I could just have sent a PM. But that would involve sending a PM, and I'm British, and we haven't been introduced so obviously that would be unthinkable.

Mei5ter, this is Alpine.
Alpine, Mei5ter.


Sorted.

 

[Mav Unlimited]

Mei5ter, this is Alpine.
Alpine, Mei5ter.


Sorted.

Pssst. It's Justa.

Too early, Honey?

She must have been distracted. Maybe watching something else on an adjacent screen

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Pssst. It's Justa.

Too early, Honey?

Omg yes. I just woke up. <cone of shame>

She must have been distracted. Maybe watching something else on an adjacent screen

I'll deal with you later!

 

[Mav Unlimited]

I'll deal with you later!

I love when they make me wait.

 

[AlpineFresco]

Nah it's fine, I'm way ahead of you as I've already previously PM'd with Mei5ter, that fine hunk of British man-meat

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I love when they make me wait.

Oh.

Oh.

Have you met Miss Honey?

Nah it's fine, I'm way ahead of you as I've already previously PM'd with Mei5ter, that fine hunk of British man-meat

You sound like Simon with the 'man meat.' Now you've got me thinking about cock rings and tight pants.

 

[AveryElle]

Nah it's fine, I'm way ahead of you as I've already previously PM'd with Mei5ter, that fine hunk of British man-meat

That’s saying a lot, as a vegetarian.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I’d be very interested in your rational.

As to Naughty’s point, I just heard that there is an app (I forget the name of it) that you can upload a person’s pic to and it can identify the person and connect you with their personal info. Pretty scary stuff!

Yes! Reverse facial recognition is out there. PimEyes. You can pay for premium services with advanced features. Tineye has been around forever. There’s others.
It.is.scary.

I think we forget about the lurkers around here. Those that open an account, never post, remain invisible and watch. Out of sight and out of mind, hidden. The PG is only a fraction of this site, the familiar names we see. No one knows who all drifts in and out of here.
Views compared to comments on pic threads. (Not counting Tumblr imagery)
**Shivers**