Hardest thing?

[littlebirdjoy]

Howdy hey hi.
I've been trying to decide how to broach this, and I still don't have a great way.
In my time in the lifestyle there have been moments when I've faced a thing I was scared to try. Sometimes I gave the activity a try for my own curiosity. sometimes I gave it a try because it was important to the person I was with. In all but one case it went very well, and I've not regretted it.

Today I faced my absolute biggest fear. I succeeded. It doesn't even matter what the THING was that i did, it is the sense of accomplishment at having done *hard thing* and succeeding.

After having moments like that I feel incredibly close to my Partner. It is a deeply bonded moment.

I'm curious if this has been a thing for anyone else?

If people chose to share their "hardest things" no not THAT thing , please no teasing or diminishing. What is hard for one can be easy for another. What matters is that they faced said mental or physical obstacle and succeeded.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

Asking for a second chance.

 

[littlebirdjoy]

oh wow... not the direction I was thinking, but absolutely. Anything involving facing possible rejection/judgment. Well said.

 

[Ropebunny]

The hardest thing for me is also not anything physical, but the emotional side of communicating my needs but also having to wait to have my needs met and also coming to terms with the fact that there are places that we most likely won’t ever go as I’m not sure he will develop the desire to go there.

Juggling kids and work and life and past trauma whilst also finding the time and energy to devote to growth in the kink department is fucking hard.

 

[lanceGibs]

To over come the impulses that force us to lie to ourselves followed by lying to our partner or other folks is normally one of the hardest things to do.

 

[Jada59]

My hardest thing will sound weird to a lot of you but it was getting oral. Reason being, the men I had been with prior all used the same technique. That was to form their fingers into a V shape to isolate my clit. They then stabbed at it weakly with their tongue. This did nothing but upset me and when they did not stop, wound up with me putting them in a head lock with my thighs. Then I hurled them off of me!

The guy who succeeded, waited until I'd had several orgasms, then when down on me right after intercourse, holding my thighs apart with his hands, telling me I would hate him for a minute, then dived right in. True, I did hate him for a minute as it was rather painful at first. Painful, I can deal with. Annoying I can not. Not for very long anyway.

From there, it was amazing! But he never went down on me again. I didn't mind at all because everything else we did sexually was wonderful.

So for me, it was less a matter of fear, as I don't really fear anything but more a matter of being being put off by the thought of it.

 

[littlebirdjoy]

@ropebunny "the emotional side of communicating my needs but also having to wait to have my needs met and also coming to terms with the fact that there are places that we most likely won’t ever go as I’m not sure he will develop the desire to go there." This is incredibly important. Well said.

@Jada... I can relate so much. Thank you for sharing. This is one thing that I've not yet done myself. I do hope to go there someday, but it's a big deal for me too, it's more related to insecurity issues than being "put off" You made me grin so much at the mental image of thigh headlocks ^__^

 

[SissySalina]

That sense of joy after doing something for the one you care so much for is a great feeling, even the little things that you accomplish for Them is important and joy-est, just knowing you have dome it to their satisfaction.
One of the hardest thing for sissy is sharing that special one with others, not physically but with relationships and those personal moments.

 

[Soraya1]

The hardest thing for me to endure is knowing that I have disappointed my Dom.

 

[littlebirdjoy]

The hardest thing for me to endure is knowing that I have disappointed my Dom.

Amen on that, but for me it is equally hard to believe i have NOT disappointed him when he says "we're good". That one should be easy, but it is hard.

 

[Catshadow]

Much like Jada, for me it is effectively communicating wants and needs during play.