Lifestyle question Rings.. should I wear them?

[Scareltt]

Good morning everyone..

I’m married but I do date outside our marriage. A gentleman that I date has invited me to his house for a party to watch football. He knows I’m married and gets it. However his friends may or may not get it. This is going to be the first time I meet them..

My questions are do I wear my rings or leave them at home?

 

[dolf]

Good morning everyone..

I’m married but I do date outside our marriage. A gentleman that I date has invited me to his house for a party to watch football. He knows I’m married and gets it. However his friends may or may not get it. This is going to be the first time I meet them..

My questions are do I wear my rings or leave them at home?

Which would your husband prefer?

 

[Ann_Tagonist]

They are pretty much meaningless as to their implied symbolism anyway...wouldn't you say?

 

[jomar]

Seems a little spicier to leave them on.

 

[Scareltt]

Good question..

Which would your husband prefer?

I think he say, “whatever you’re comfortable with.”

He’s on a flight to London so I can’t reach out at the moment..

 

[Scareltt]

Well..

They are pretty much meaningless as to their implied symbolism anyway...wouldn't you say?

What works in one marriage, may not work in another..

 

[Rightguide]

Good morning everyone..

I’m married but I do date outside our marriage. A gentleman that I date has invited me to his house for a party to watch football. He knows I’m married and gets it. However his friends may or may not get it. This is going to be the first time I meet them..

My questions are do I wear my rings or leave them at home?

Why pretend your really married?

 

[coati]

Seems a little spicier to leave them on.

^^^^This.

 

[ronmcc2448]

I would leave your wedding rings on. Men are attracted to something "they cant have". I think you will find that you will be the bell of the ball whichever you choose. Enjoy your time watching Football.

Good morning everyone..

I’m married but I do date outside our marriage. A gentleman that I date has invited me to his house for a party to watch football. He knows I’m married and gets it. However his friends may or may not get it. This is going to be the first time I meet them..

My questions are do I wear my rings or leave them at home?

 

[Dribble]

Complicated.

My gut instinct says wear them. It creates the least potential issues.

 

[Scareltt]

Good point..

Seems a little spicier to leave them on.

I typically leave them on, unless the person I’m seeing asks me not to wear them. I see a woman who is bothered by them. So I take them off..

 

[IrezumiKiss]

Why pretend your really married?

her really married...what?

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[KeithD]

Wear them on a toe.

 

[screwher]

Personally I like to keep as many in the dark about our lifestyle as possible. I'd recommend leaving them on until right before the first friend arrives. Put them back on the second the last guest leaves.

 

[Scareltt]

And if..

I would leave your wedding rings on. Men are attracted to something "they cant have". I think you will find that you will be the bell of the ball whichever you choose. Enjoy your time watching Football.

And if I were coming to your house to watch a sporting event with your friends. What would you say?

 

[Scareltt]

Ouch..

Wear them on a toe.

Sounds painful.. it’s chilly here. Not sandal weather.

 

[Paul_Chance]

I’d say leave them on, especially if it’s natural for you to wear them.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

Good morning everyone..

I’m married but I do date outside our marriage. A gentleman that I date has invited me to his house for a party to watch football. He knows I’m married and gets it. However his friends may or may not get it. This is going to be the first time I meet them..

My questions are do I wear my rings or leave them at home?

First off, I think your lifestyle rocks and you're obviously having your fun, so keep on doing that.

Second, just a question...are you going to be the only woman there? Is your date doing this to show you off to his friends? Or are you going to be amongst a group of other partnered women to his (assumed) male friends that would be judging you over your ring should you choose to wear it?

Group dynamics with other people who aren't used to or can't deal with alternative sharing/swinging sexualities can be uncomfortable. Also being the only woman in a group of men is a certain thing, too. Not saying women can't enjoy a simple football game. Just wondering what the full story is, if it's even gonna be like that. If it's not that, prolly no worries.

 

[dolf]

I think he say, “whatever you’re comfortable with.”

He’s on a flight to London so I can’t reach out at the moment..

What does your boyfriend prefer? They're his friends, so he's the one who's going to be quizzed. He might enjoy it, or he might find it uncomfortable.

But your husband might not like the symbolism. He could be very hurt by what it implies. Perhaps putting them on a necklace rather than removing them completely... But taking them off without talking to him seems a bit off.

 

[Scareltt]

Okay..

First off, I think your lifestyle rocks and you're obviously having your fun, so keep on doing that.

Second, just a question...are you going to be the only woman there? Is your date doing this to show you off to his friends? Or are you going to be amongst a group of other partnered women to his (assumed) male friends that would be judging you over your ring should you choose to wear it?

Group dynamics with other people who aren't used to or can't deal with alternative sharing/swinging sexualities can be uncomfortable. Also being the only woman in a group of men is a certain thing, too. Not saying women can't enjoy a simple football game. Just wondering what the full story is, if it's even gonna be like that. If it's not that, prolly no worries.

Blushing thank you.. to your first part..

My date just texted me back. There will be 10 people there. 3 married couples (men and women) 1 gay male couple, and 2 single men (both divorced) he wasn’t sure if then were bringing any one with them..

I asked him if I should wear my rings. His reply was. “I’m not sure anyone would even notice.”

Haha.. I love men.. I wanted to reply. “Trust me everyone is going to notice.”

 

[suurfer]

I would leave your wedding rings on. Men are attracted to something "they cant have".

From forum porn spammer, to relationship guru.

 

[Scareltt]

Funny to me..

What does your boyfriend prefer? They're his friends, so he's the one who's going to be quizzed. He might enjoy it, or he might find it uncomfortable.

But your husband might not like the symbolism. He could be very hurt by what it implies. Perhaps putting them on a necklace rather than removing them completely... But taking them off without talking to him seems a bit off.

He seems totally oblivious. I find that funny..

 

[dolf]

He seems totally oblivious. I find that funny..

Well, the straight men may assume you're fair game for cheating, the straight women might be quite hostile if they think you're fair game for cheating with their partners, and everyone might think you're going to screw him over and you're a bitch. Or they might all be totally understanding.

 

[Scareltt]

Hum..

Well, the straight men may assume you're fair game for cheating, the straight women might be quite hostile if they think you're fair game for cheating with their partners, and everyone might think you're going to screw him over and you're a bitch. Or they might all be totally understanding.

Now I think maybe I’ll leave them at home.

 

[Scareltt]

Punting (it’s football after all)

I’m going to put my rings on my necklace and wear them like that.. the chain is shortish.. but it won’t be totally obvious..

Now I have to shower, and pick up chicken wings..