What Are You Thinking? Continued 5

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The early bird catches the worm, but the worm is entirely fucked for being up so early. Moral of the story, go back to sleep.
 
I don't know where you're from, but there are places in the American South where men and women call each other pet names when they're just transacting business at a grocery store or a bank. It's simply customary.

It’s not really about the pet name itself but the “my” part before it. The “taking ownership” of them or “claiming” them feeling just makes me uncomfortable. I’m totally good with calling my cashier sweetheart if they deserve it, but I’m not going around calling them MY sweetheart. That would have a completely different connotation.
 
I do that on the boards quite often.

I never think of it as "claiming" someone though, just a turn of phrase.

Is that how folks here see that?
 
I do that on the boards quite often.

I never think of it as "claiming" someone though, just a turn of phrase.

Is that how folks here see that?

I don’t like to be called pet names unless I’m your pet. Or, unless I know you well enough that it’s a joke. Some rando calling me sweetie would put me off.

Luckily, no one calls me names to my face except MissHnD, and meh.
 
I don’t like to be called pet names unless I’m your pet. Or, unless I know you well enough that it’s a joke. Some rando calling me sweetie would put me off.

Luckily, no one calls me names to my face except MissHnD, and meh.

At least I’m honest and upfront. 😬👍🏾
 
It’s not really about the pet name itself but the “my” part before it. The “taking ownership” of them or “claiming” them feeling just makes me uncomfortable. I’m totally good with calling my cashier sweetheart if they deserve it, but I’m not going around calling them MY sweetheart. That would have a completely different connotation.

I had a problem similar to this with a previous “relationship” I was in. The guy kept telling me I was his only and then doing exactly this. I had told him I had a problem with it, him “claiming” other girls, but not even acknowledging my existence as his actual online gf for months and months. He continued. Needless to say, I found much better. *shrug*

If it bothers you, ignore the people who do it. That’s what I did/do.


I don’t

I say similar things and it’s just meant to be endearing, I can’t imagine that anyone would assume I’m laying claim or marking my territory...I’ve been said “there’s my girl/guy” and just meant it as a silly flirt and nothing more

Imagine it. Sounds like someone might assume it... although, we all know what assuming does, right? ;)

I don’t like to be called pet names unless I’m your pet. Or, unless I know you well enough that it’s a joke. Some rando calling me sweetie would put me off.

Luckily, no one calls me names to my face except MissHnD, and meh.

I also feel this way about particular pet names... I will say someone is sweet, but I won’t call them sweetie. I will call someone I am close with Lovely, but it is always well-deserved.
 
Some toss around pet names and compliments like candy and mean none of it other than casual affection. I don’t have a problem with that.

Some have meaningful connections with multiples. I’m ok with that too.

Some treat women as interchangeable.. THAT makes me uncomfortable. Everyone is worth being recognized as a unique person with their own value.

I couldn't have said this better myself:heart: If someone I'd consider special, they get special treatment....endearments, special pm's etc. I don't give that to just anybody. I would never demand that whoever I wanted to spend my special time with not to talk to others, not my style because they aren't technically mine. When I did have someone special here, did I enjoy my time with him? Yes I did, very much, more than he will ever know, but I would never expect him not to talk to others. He would probably be surprised to know this if we were still in touch:rose:
 
Some toss around pet names and compliments like candy and mean none of it other than casual affection. I don’t have a problem with that.

Some have meaningful connections with multiples. I’m ok with that too.

Some treat women as interchangeable.. THAT makes me uncomfortable. Everyone is worth being recognized as a unique person with their own value.
But it is grimly amusing when a guy posts "Princess?" and six different women appear to answer, "Yes, ***?"
 
If a guy openly claims multiple other people in threads here (saying things like “my dear,” or “my sweet girl” commonly) does that make others as uncomfortable as it does me? Maybe it’s just another one of those things I don’t understand.

Doesn’t make me too uncomfortable... It just puts them in that leg humper category to which a large number of the guys here seem to belong.

I find it odd that any girl would take compliments from those types seriously. Any girl who posts her pic is hot and beautiful and perfect, as they’re pressing their penises against the computer screen. I realize there are fans of every type here. And I don’t think that’s a bad thing, necessarily. But there is a lack of sincerity in such a compliment. Am Pics is filled with these types.

Sometimes I see the delusion spring further and the girls think these guys are really interested in their thoughts and musings. There was one such delusional poster who was sure that the guys in her Am Pic thread were there to read and hear about her thoughts. :eek: And if she removed her pics, they would surely still come around to read her writings.

I get why people flirt here and that’s cool. But telling everyone who posts their tits that she’s perfect just seems lame.
 
Never thought of myself as a "leg humper," but I do identify as a dog sometimes, so I suppose it fits.

I agree with you that everyone posting in AmPics is brave, if a little needful of attention and positive feedback [which is one reason I have a thread there], but it seems shabby to shame the people who offer that attention and feedback.

As for a woman posting her thoughts and thoughts alone, it would really depend on the writing.
 
Doesn’t make me too uncomfortable... It just puts them in that leg humper category to which a large number of the guys here seem to belong.

I find it odd that any girl would take compliments from those types seriously. Any girl who posts her pic is hot and beautiful and perfect, as they’re pressing their penises against the computer screen. I realize there are fans of every type here. And I don’t think that’s a bad thing, necessarily. But there is a lack of sincerity in such a compliment. Am Pics is filled with these types.

Sometimes I see the delusion spring further and the girls think these guys are really interested in their thoughts and musings. There was one such delusional poster who was sure that the guys in her Am Pic thread were there to read and hear about her thoughts. :eek: And if she removed her pics, they would surely still come around to read her writings.

I get why people flirt here and that’s cool. But telling everyone who posts their tits that she’s perfect just seems lame.

That’s one of the reasons I stopped posting my face and body in AMPics. Same old song and dance from the same old tired crew. Thread after thread.
Plus, a stalker who made me button it all down.

I just don’t take anyone seriously anymore that won’t be a part of my life outside of lit. And if you’re not part of my life, keep your pet names.

One funny thing. A woman awhile back wrote a Dear Lit that she signed “insert atypical pet name here”
I was like, wow, he calls her that, too? Then a few of my friends were like, no, he calls me that! No... me!
Turns out, he called most of us that.
Sad that she thought it was just for her. Sad that we all did.

Now I can laugh, but at the time it pissed me the fuck off.
 
Never thought of myself as a "leg humper," but I do identify as a dog sometimes, so I suppose it fits.

I agree with you that everyone posting in AmPics is brave, if a little needful of attention and positive feedback [which is one reason I have a thread there], but it seems shabby to shame the people who offer that attention and feedback.

As for a woman posting her thoughts and thoughts alone, it would really depend on the writing.

I don’t mind the people who post there! Many of the ladies are friendly with me. And it is hard to put yourself out there.

It’s just not my thing anymore, for the reasons I stated.
The only fun I really ever had there was on Paired Pics. I won’t go to Ampics unless someone specifically tells me to go look.
 
😢 why are all the hottest guys gay? It’s like getting doubly life fucked for a single girl. Hey there is a really hot, intelligent, sexy guy who likes cock as much as you do. Nope he likes it more and doesn’t you. 😭😭😭
 
That’s one of the reasons I stopped posting my face and body in AMPics. Same old song and dance from the same old tired crew. Thread after thread.
Plus, a stalker who made me button it all down.

I just don’t take anyone seriously anymore that won’t be a part of my life outside of lit. And if you’re not part of my life, keep your pet names.

One funny thing. A woman awhile back wrote a Dear Lit that she signed “insert atypical pet name here”
I was like, wow, he calls her that, too? Then a few of my friends were like, no, he calls me that! No... me!
Turns out, he called most of us that.
Sad that she thought it was just for her. Sad that we all did.

Now I can laugh, but at the time it pissed me the fuck off.

Who was it????
 
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