❓ PLP Inquires❓

[LurkingLazarus]

And drape sashes, and shoelaces, and......

Phone charger cords (10', preferably) work very well too.

Just sayin...

 

[LurkingLazarus]

*gulp*


Ok...so..I might be ok with being tied up..for a little while

To bring this thread back on topic...does that mean you TOLERATE those with the point of view that restraining you would be positive?

And that you're willing to listen to that point of view?

 

[Fugu_B]

there is still ducttape.
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Saran Wrap. Works.

 

[lovetopleasewomen]

Well, I'm delighted that you've found a way to wear heels safely.

I suppose there would still be the ultimate safety precaution of tying you to the bed so you can't fall off, but it's not my place to suggest such a thing...

**hides all the rope, and ties, and belts in the house**

You forgot socks and stockings.

They work too, if tied properly, miss.

Trust me.

And drape sashes, and shoelaces, and......

there is still ducttape.
https://media.giphy.com/media/bdK3Kwh2GyQvu/giphy.gif

Phone charger cords (10', preferably) work very well too.

Just sayin...

Saran Wrap. Works.

Chains. Chains work well. You can daisy chain handcuffs too if necessary.

 

[parker77]

i’m never answering one of these inquiries seriously again. i come off boring enough as it is.

 

[LurkingLazarus]

People people people ..let’s get back to PLP’s inquiries and stop coming up with ways that sweet innocent ol’ me could get tied up

Innocent my ass...and there are lots of ways that weren't explored here, for the record...

But yes. Do that...back to our regularly-scheduled program...

 

[Dribble]

Maybe this is my problem. I don’t see someone as being OK with Trump or McConnell as having the possibility of decency anymore. Maybe until Feb 2 2017. But now? No.

That isnt a problem. That is called sanity. Why the fuck would I ever be friends w a person that flat out hates our country? Why would I ever be friends w people that openly lie? That have zero morals? Anyone....anyone that supports the present administration in any way shape or form...are gone from my life forever. You should have seen the look from my parents when I told them they were going to die alone. They thought they could buy me....lol...stupid fools. I wont even bury their asses. There are no good republicans. None. And those that dont take a stand...are no better.

 

[AlwaysFara]

That isnt a problem. That is called sanity. Why the fuck would I ever be friends w a person that flat out hates our country? Why would I ever be friends w people that openly lie? That have zero morals? Anyone....anyone that supports the present administration in any way shape or form...are gone from my life forever. You should have seen the look from my parents when I told them they were going to die alone. They thought they could buy me....lol...stupid fools. I wont even bury their asses. There are no good republicans. None. And those that dont take a stand...are no better.

They are worse.

I don’t believe there are no good republicans. And I think politics are crooked across the board. That being said, I do agree with Avery.

And I SO don’t want this to get political, but yeah, at least it’s back on topic.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Yes.

Disagreements happen over more things than politics and among more than just friends.

What about things as serious as parenting styles or as petty as what kind of pie you like?

As an example, I believe strongly in rescue animals and don't really care for pure bred animals. But my best friends have two dogs that could have paid my car off. We debate this all the time, I still disagree and I still respect her.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Yes.

Disagreements happen over more things than politics and among more than just friends.

What about things as serious as parenting styles or as petty as what kind of pie you like?

As an example, I believe strongly in rescue animals and don't really care for pure bred animals. But my best friends have two dogs that could have paid my car off. We debate this all the time, I still disagree and I still respect her.

I guess it depends on which hill you’re willing to die on. That’s clearly not it for you.
I love rescue animals as well.

Parenting styles? Yeah. I’m not friends with a lot of women who helicopter around their kids.

 

[Dribble]

Yes.

Disagreements happen over more things than politics and among more than just friends.

What about things as serious as parenting styles or as petty as what kind of pie you like?

As an example, I believe strongly in rescue animals and don't really care for pure bred animals. But my best friends have two dogs that could have paid my car off. We debate this all the time, I still disagree and I still respect her.

I dated a girl from Edmonton for a couple years. We broke up over a hockey game. The Oilers suck. I simply pointed that out. They still suck 20 years later....lol.

 

[BadAmy]

Yes.

Disagreements happen over more things than politics and among more than just friends.

What about things as serious as parenting styles or as petty as what kind of pie you like?

As an example, I believe strongly in rescue animals and don't really care for pure bred animals. But my best friends have two dogs that could have paid my car off. We debate this all the time, I still disagree and I still respect her.

here is the crux of the matter, to me...
"my best friends"
I think that plays into it quite a bit.
You respect them. Therefore their choices, although are not agreeable to you, are not game changers as far as the relationship is concerned. Because your friendship is bigger than the matter of discussion.
kwim?
Plot twist...could someone's choices make you go from liking them to disliking them?
and this can run the gammot, from vaxing or not...to Dem/Rep. oh the tangled web we weave.
back to mindless giffing
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[LostGirlTink]

Plot twist...could someone's choices make you go from liking them to disliking them?
and this can run the gammot, from vaxing or not...to Dem/Rep. oh the tangled web weave

Again it comes back to decency for me.
I’m for rescue animals but I wouldn’t stop being friends with someone who bought a purebred. I might try to convert them but this doesn’t make them a bad person.
Breastfeeding/sham/mom returning to work/bottle feeding... don’t care we may or may not have much in common depending but doesn’t impact your decency as a human.
Now I feel someone supports putting children in cages, cutting healthcare for the disabled and infirm, repealing protections for the LGBTQA community, ignores racism and misogyny.. then I don’t care who they are... bye

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

10.10.19

How good are you at asking for what you want? If you don't receive it right away, do you persist? When do you give in?

 

[dashie33]

10.10.19

How good are you at asking for what you want? If you don't receive it right away, do you persist? When do you give in?

A problem I had a lot in my life growing up was I'd ask for something and days would go by, and I'd enquire again and get the response, "Well, there's no rush, is there?" Thinking back on it now, I wish I'd said something like, "No, but there's no reason to dawdle either, is there?" I was the younger middle child of four, and it was pretty obvious that my elder sister (the older middle) and I were kinda neglected in favour of the oldest and youngest.

Nowadays there's not a lot I ask for since I'm a (reasonably) self-sufficient adult-ish thing.

Sexually, I'm pretty good about making it clear what I want.

 

[Lord Pmann]

10.10.19

How good are you at asking for what you want? If you don't receive it right away, do you persist? When do you give in?

I'm really good at getting what I want.

Of course I persist. I don't like being told no.

When I'm interested or I know it won't happen.

 

[parker77]

all depends on what it is, who has it and how badly i want it. i’m accustomed to winning, but easily shrug off losses.

 

[seeshelly]

I have always wondered...

I have always wondered who, what, where, why, when and how? Do you know?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

10.10.19

How good are you at asking for what you want? If you don't receive it right away, do you persist? When do you give in?

UGH. I was just thinking about this this morning!

I was taught not to ask for things, but to be good, and patient, and eventually I'd be rewarded. Maybe. But that it was definitely better to have to go without, than to be selfish and greedy and break the rules.



It's a hard thing to unlearn all of that guilt, and to confidently ask for what i need. It's not easy to stop thinking of myself as a burden or an inconvenience. And the number of people I've cared about who have walked away from me makes it more challenging.

But I'm learning. To ask for more, sooner, and to need less.


ETA: This only applies to my personal relationships. Put me in a professional setting and I'm fine.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I'm really good at getting what I want.

Of course I persist. I don't like being told no.

Give me some of this. I've got the dirty talk under control already.

 

[Apisto42]

10.10.19

How good are you at asking for what you want? If you don't receive it right away, do you persist? When do you give in?

I’m really okay with asking directly for what I want. If you can’t state it clearly yourself, how can you ever get it?

For example, if you dance around wanting a blowjob, you’re probably not going to get it. If you say “I want you on your knees, mouth open” then you’ve clearly stated your desire and your partner knows what you want.

If you’re not receiving what you want it probably comes down to one of two things: either you need to work harder for it or you’re asking for it from the wrong place. This question and the next are rather passive ways of living. “Persist” translates to “weak” in this context I think. Rather the question should be, “why am I not getting what I’m clearly asking for?” That is a fixable problem because the answer ultimately is what are you going to change to get what you need/want.

Which leads to the final question - if you’re not getting what you ask for, you’re unwilling to change to get it, then it leads to either changing what you desire or accepting that you’re not going to get it. So it’s self reflection time. How important is this thing I’m asking for? If it’s something you can live without, make peace with that, move on in life and let it be. If not, the sooner you change yourself, the sooner you’ll have what you desire.

TLDR: “Do or do not, there is no try.”

 

[JerseyJade]

10.10.19

How good are you at asking for what you want? If you don't receive it right away, do you persist? When do you give in?

I have ways of getting what I want. Works almost every time.

 

[Trouble_maker]

I have ways of getting what I want. Works almost every time.

We all know what your “ways” are. I’m sure it goes without saying you always get what you want.

 

[AveryElle]

10.10.19

How good are you at asking for what you want? If you don't receive it right away, do you persist? When do you give in?

Difficult question. I’m not good at it at all. Everyone else comes first. Their needs, real or imagined, matter. I always feel like when it’s my turn to ask for what I want, there’s no more space for that. Even what I need. Everyone else gets theirs and I get scraps.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m stubborn as fuck. And driven. But the real things I need or want...those are always at the bottom of a much bigger and ever growing list of important things to focus on.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Difficult question. I’m not good at it at all. Everyone else comes first. Their needs, real or imagined, matter. I always feel like when it’s my turn to ask for what I want, there’s no more space for that. Even what I need. Everyone else gets theirs and I get scraps.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m stubborn as fuck. And driven. But the real things I need or want...those are always at the bottom of a much bigger and ever growing list of important things to focus on.

Avery

I feel like this is very much a woman/wife/mother thing. Not exclusively, but it happens so often among the women I know that it's almost taken for granted that we'll go through this at some point.

I started making changes in my forties. I think it's funny that both my daughter and the guy I'm dating like to use the oxygen mask metaphor, but it's a good one. We have to take care of ourselves first. We have to, full stop. Changing your perspective and behavior is a crap ton of work, but it's starting to pay off for me - finally.