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[UgliestSon]

09.03.19

Same Sex Friendships on Lit

How important are they to you? Are they harder to make because of the nature of the site. Girls seem to have it a bit easier. Is that just the nature of women to make friends a bit easier or... other reasons. Discuss!

I really struggle with making same sex friends on Lit because most of the dudes here are boring and lame.

 

[AlwaysFara]

09.03.19

Same Sex Friendships on Lit

How important are they to you? Are they harder to make because of the nature of the site. Girls seem to have it a bit easier. Is that just the nature of women to make friends a bit easier or... other reasons. Discuss!

Extremely important.
I’ve been more up and down over my GFs than over most of the guys here. The couple of times I’ve gotten by heart broken here was by women.
I’ve had no difficulty making GFs. I keep most of them.
My GFs here are the reason I come back. I have what and who I want romantically and sexually. My friends fill my heart.

I’m also very lucky to have many “in the flesh” GFs, both from Lit, other online sites, work, and through the neighborhood. I’m closer to some than others, of course, but that’s okay. I’m learning that give and take.

 

[Karabare]

09.03.19

Same Sex Friendships on Lit

How important are they to you? Are they harder to make because of the nature of the site. Girls seem to have it a bit easier. Is that just the nature of women to make friends a bit easier or... other reasons. Discuss!

I didn't realize it was i important until I had one. Now we chat off Lit almost everyday. It's also amazing to have someone to talk to about this weird Lit life. I like all you bitches, mostly, there are a couple that, well....
Some women just don't make good friends. I have female and male friends IRL. (I'm awesome like that)

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

09.03.19

Same Sex Friendships on Lit

How important are they to you? Are they harder to make because of the nature of the site. Girls seem to have it a bit easier. Is that just the nature of women to make friends a bit easier or... other reasons. Discuss!

For me, not overly important. There are several factors that play in to this. I find strong friendships are forged in shared experiences. The distance and time spent together makes this difficult here. Coupled with the lack of body language, tone, and facial expressions, I find strong internet friendships hard to achieve, regardless of gender. My close friends are more likely to be male. This is no mystery as to why, psychologically, my profile is more common in men. My desires, goals, expression of emotion, strategies, reaction to adversity, what makes me tick, profiles comparatively to less than 0.5% of women but 5% of men. Adding that humans are the sum of our experiences, we will also likely need to have a significant overlap in backgrounds to form a strong bond. That means probably 1 in 1000 women versus 1 in 200 men. I have a solid handful of close female friends, but they were harder to find. Most importantly, there is what drew me here. I never came here for a human connection. I have that. I came here for something different. In order to make my life what I want right now, I had to put certain things up on a shelf in the back of my head. I focus my time and energy towards my goals. This has left me a little low on variety. What I especially missed was that rush of sexual attraction with someone new. The anticipation, the excitement, the yet to be answered questions. I came here because I thought writing about my past experiences might help me relive those feelings a little, rather than blowing up my life out of what boils down to boredom. I joined the forum for writing tips. Instead, I found that feeling in the forum itself. What I want from here hasn’t changed.

All that being said, if I found a female or male that true friendship came easy with, I would take it in a heartbeat. However, I have enough work on my plate of life that I have no desire to add on more. We would have to be highly compatible so that it isn’t work, and that is rare I do very much enjoy the presence of females here though, and find that important. I like the occasional banter, when we find commonalities, and I appreciate the differences. I don’t know that I would stay with out them, even though it has nothing to do with why I am here. Just the active female presence makes it less uncomfortable to be frequenting a forum like this. As for if it is the nature of women to make same sex friendships easier, well not for this one.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

09.03.19

Same Sex Friendships on Lit

How important are they to you? Are they harder to make because of the nature of the site. Girls seem to have it a bit easier. Is that just the nature of women to make friends a bit easier or... other reasons. Discuss!

Its not that unusual that I don't have any male friends on Lit (yet). IRL, not counting my Brother-in-Law and my Son, I have four close male friends. The kind you couldn't call for bail money because they'd all be in the cell with you. The kind who will use the Traditional Queen's Bush opening to an action ("Hold my beer and watch this"). A fifth moved four hours' drive away, and has become a cyber friend.

I have a couple of women friends on Lit. I suppose we are as close a cyber friends get. We talk about things that I won't discuss with most other people. I enjoy their presence in my life.

I should add that I can only name three women I am close to other than my Sister and my Mother. One is closer than my Sister, was a former roommate with a love for skimpy bikinis and married my best friend. I didn't actually introduce them, but I was there when they met, and I knew her first. A second is as close as my Sister. I stood by her during some nasty rumours (small town), helped her get through her divorce and I'm glad to see her happy. I have no sexual interest in any of them.

I am not opposed to male friendships here. I think I get along with most guys on the threads. I admire a few for their abilities. I think they know who they are.

Some women do seem to form closer friendships here more easily.

 

[clark_kent]

09.03.19

Same Sex Friendships on Lit

How important are they to you? Are they harder to make because of the nature of the site. Girls seem to have it a bit easier. Is that just the nature of women to make friends a bit easier or... other reasons. Discuss!

I don’t really have same sex friendships in Lit. The reality is that I came here looking for some escape from everyday life. I was actually surprised at first that I made friends (I thought online would be too difficult - that in person was needed). That being said, the friendships have been with women. I don’t know that I have the psychology background to fully explain this other than I find it awkward as a straight male to look for male friends on an adult site. If it works for others, that’s great.

 

[standard1]

in a previous life here i had several good male friends. it was a different time and this place had a very different vibe. not criticizing the way things are now, just saying it was different; more open - more daring. or maybe it was just me. these days i have zero male friends and, oh, one female friend. no big deal. i still enjoy spending time around here.

imho, women run the Playground and have for the past decade. they form friendships that shape much of the vibe here and thrive on it. i think women bond in a different way than men and need each other in a different way as well. i think same sex friendship is more important to the women here than to the men. maybe i’m all wrong, but that’s how i see things from this vantage.

btw, i’m writing strictly about Lit in the above. RL is a whole nother deal. lots of good male friends, straight and gay. and i enjoy my friendships with them all.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I have lots of male friends who have deep male friendships.
Online??? They are mostly gay males, and I’m just realizing that, and wonder if that has anything to do with it.
Meaning my het male friends are friends with my gay male friends. Closely. But the het males wouldn’t be friends with other het males without the gay guys.

In the flesh? My het male friends have deep het male friendships.
And my gay male friends have deep gay male friendships.
But they don’t really bond with each other.

My gay and bi and het women friends are all friends.

 

[Sexybritches69]

Women friends are very important to me. I feel a kinship when I’m close friends with another woman. I have a good amount of irl friends that I adore, and I found my circle fairly easily.

Online has been different. When I joined Lit, I saw so many women that were smart and funny, but I felt like those friendships were already tight, and I felt like it was very hard to make friends here. While I could banter with people on the threads, I didn’t feel like I was looked upon very favorably. Now, that could be on me for a couple of reasons...1. I’m afraid to give too much info about myself bc I’ve had some scary experiences when I’ve been too open online. 2. I have a tendency to over analyze every comment and think that every negative vague post is about me. Those two reasons may have played a big role in why it took so long to feel more at home with some of the women on Lit. I think that many people here have their guard up because of past experiences, and that is another hurtle to get over before friendships are cemented.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I don't have many male friends here, despite my glowing personality. Guys just aren't like that here. I've had a couple of guys with whom I've chatted over the years. Usually about a specific topic regarding a post one of us made. Guys just aren't wired for those kinds of online friendships. We don't need support from other men. We sure as hell don't talk about our problems with other dudes.

I keep my friend circle small. I don't need lots of friends. And this isn't the best place to have lots of friends in my opinion. So I keep a nice, tight circle. *hi five*

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

<pokes your tight circle>

No. Take that shit elsewhere.


( get it?)

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

No. Take that shit elsewhere.


( get it?)

<pokes your tight circle>

Use a lil lube, rub it back and forth, then round in little circles til it loosens up.

 

[Azuldrgon]

09.03.19

Same Sex Friendships on Lit

How important are they to you? Are they harder to make because of the nature of the site. Girls seem to have it a bit easier. Is that just the nature of women to make friends a bit easier or... other reasons. Discuss!

I have guys on here I respect. Some on here I can say that are friends. But because of my nature, I don't make many guy friends here. No idea why.

 

[DarkSimian]

09.03.19

Same Sex Friendships on Lit

How important are they to you? Are they harder to make because of the nature of the site. Girls seem to have it a bit easier. Is that just the nature of women to make friends a bit easier or... other reasons. Discuss!

I have guys on here I respect. Some on here I can say that are friends. But because of my nature, I don't make many guy friends here. No idea why.

This sums up my feelings, also. There are some guys that I deeply respect, some I like, some that I would call friends. But the vast majority I wouldn't trust to guard a warm cup of piss. Too many roosters in the henhouse, too much testosterone. And too many people (both male and female) that will turn on you in a heartbeat if it serves their purposes....

 

[Lord Pmann]

Ladies, enough talk about my tight circle. You're all whores.

 

[Suz_anne]

Not to be all #HumbleBrag, but I've had some experience in above referenced nice, tight circle.

 

[AbsintheFather]

Not to be all #HumbleBrag, but I've had some experience in above referenced nice, tight circle.

Fingers, strap-on or something else?


I've got friends and acquaintances of both sexes. I just said in a conversation to Ems the other day that women here on the Playground probably think of me like a gay friend these days because I don't hit on them anymore

 

[tolyk]

Fingers, strap-on or something else?


I've got friends and acquaintances of both sexes. I just said in a conversation to Ems the other day that women here on the Playground probably think of me like a gay friend these days because I don't hit on them anymore

I've always thought of you as a gay friend

 

[AbsintheFather]

I've always thought of you as a gay friend

I just knew, when I typed that, that this response was in-store

 

[tolyk]

I just knew, when I typed that, that this response was in-store

How could I leave a friend hanging?

 

[AbsintheFather]

How could I leave a friend hanging?

Hahaaa . . . well with that double entendre, you're definitely going to have people wondering

 

[tolyk]

Hahaaa . . . well with that double entendre, you're definitely going to have people wondering

I know

In all seriousness though, I do hope you've been well AF

 

[AlwaysFara]

Fingers, strap-on or something else?


I've got friends and acquaintances of both sexes. I just said in a conversation to Ems the other day that women here on the Playground probably think of me like a gay friend these days because I don't hit on them anymore

You’re straight??!

 

[AbsintheFather]

You’re straight??!

See . . . I made my point. I've been out of circulation for so long, I'm a virtual eunuch in the harem.

 

[tolyk]

See . . . I made my point. I've been out of circulation for so long, I'm a virtual eunuch in the harem.

I no longer have a harem.... For the record...