D/s Protocal in long distance relationships

[one_love]

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[surrenderedfaith]

I have been in a long distance D/s relationship for 10 months now. I've been in two prior to this.

Keeping a submissive's journal with two sections: assigned topics, and personal thoughts has been very helpful.
Keeping a food or wellness journal that I spend time creating has been centering. It also relieves him of the pressure of checking in with me on that.
Setting "date nights" for watching a movie together or playtime is very good when and if situations allow.
Having a shared project is also really a worthwhile pursuit, whatever it may be.

I had, at one point, a collar that I wore that i had a ritual for taking care of. This kept me centered.

Daily checking I wouldn't ever consider optional for either side.

Basically anything that keeps you and the dynamic intentionally and purposefully front and center in each other's minds.


Good luck.

 

[one_love]

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[surrenderedfaith]

Mine was a collar of my own making. It was a very intricate piece of knot work and braided cords. It was handmade and required careful and thorough cleaning. It was not a play collar, it was not meant for practical use, rather symbolic. Due to its nature I wore it 24/7 but took it off on the 5th of every month to wash it by hand, dry it carefully, straighten the cords and knkts to get it into proper shape. I'm also a spiritual person so I spent time focussing on what each color and knot represented daily, as well as at that time. Before putting it back on I put anointing or consecrating oil on it and wrote something meaningful to my Sir.

We had a collar of consideration agreement fir a year and a day . It began on the 4th of October and ended on the 5th of October, thus the 5th. The 4th happened to be a Thursday, so every Thursday I also wrote something meaningful to reaffirm my conscious desire and decision for the dynamic to continue.

No, we did not continue past the year and a day. Master Arcaine has some really nice micro rituals in his program Crow Academy along the same lines.

I like the concept that whenever Daphne presents her collar for Him, she says something that she has appreciated about him or their relationship. It is a nice touch.

As for shared projects: it can be anything from planning a trip to taking an online course together, to a shared fitness goal, or even as intricate as the story Cascadiabound and Mr.T wrote together. I'll track down the link for you and paste it here shortly.


Good luck to you both and I hope your meeting is as wonderful as you dream.

 

[one_love]

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[surrenderedfaith]

Oh my Gosh!!! I love that you are actually FAMILIAR with Crow Academy. HIGH FIVE!
Yes, it was. Sadly, it just wasnt the right fit.
It honestly depends on other life factors whether M/s is feasible long distance. This is certainly at the discretion of the Master whether he can have enough access to feel comfortable with the level of involvement and responsibility he has. In any case, in trying to remember other things...

Planning tandem meals. We used to plan on occasion what we would both eat so we were "sharing a meal" that was nice.

There are the oldies but goodies of picking clothes. Right now,socks of all things are significant to me. :/ lol.

 

[one_love]

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[surrenderedfaith]

*high five*

You’re a wealth of good ideas. I want to do the meal thing as well. That sounds like a such a good idea. A suto date night if you will.

The only thing I know for sure I want us to constantly grow with eachother in our dynamic. The thing I love most about D/s is how close we can feel to another despite our distance or the humdrum of our daily vanilla lives. Her submission is cathartic and beautiful. I take it, and her well being with up most importance.

As you should. That is absolutely one of the greatest benefits of this. That's for a different thread though.

The shared project by Cascadiabound and Mr T. http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1360528

I find making things for and with my partner important.

 

[cascadiabound]

As you should. That is absolutely one of the greatest benefits of this. That's for a different thread though.

The shared project by Cascadiabound and Mr T. http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1360528

I find making things for and with my partner important.

thanks for pointing to our "shared project"
I was thinking about how important shared projects have been to me and Mr T. It keeps us intellectually engaged and a place for us to grow with each other.

The novella has been our most public shared project, but we also have a shared blog and we are currently supporting each other in daily poetry writing.
We have some other writing projects on the back burner but even the planning and discussing how to approach the next project is very good for us.

We also periodically exchange gifts, and things that we have made for each other are prominently featured in these exchanges. I love that he has objects of my own hands incorporated into his life, and that I have physical things that he has made for and given me that are touchstones for us. And the power in these things is in the way they are of no clear D/s or sexual content. The content is from the fact that they were made/given in love in the context of our relationship.

 

[surrenderedfaith]

thanks for pointing to our "shared project"
I was thinking about how important shared projects have been to me and Mr T. It keeps us intellectually engaged and a place for us to grow with each other.

The novella has been our most public shared project, but we also have a shared blog and we are currently supporting each other in daily poetry writing.
We have some other writing projects on the back burner but even the planning and discussing how to approach the next project is very good for us.

We also periodically exchange gifts, and things that we have made for each other are prominently featured in these exchanges. I love that he has objects of my own hands incorporated into his life, and that I have physical things that he has made for and given me that are touchstones for us. And the power in these things is in the way they are of no clear D/s or sexual content. The content is from the fact that they were made/given in love in the context of our relationship.

* tips hat*

As always, you are an amazing inspiration, both of you.

 

[one_love]

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[AlwaysFara]

I think long distance relationships are really difficult. Not simply D/s.
Any LD.
I commend you for trying to be close.

Is there a way it won’t be in the future?

 

[sweettalk4u]

It does take commitment like any relationship but a special kind doing a variety of things to stay close. Sharing the passion and the love

 

[one_love]

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[AlwaysFara]

You never know what the future holds. I do know however, I'm only on this earth for a short while before I'm worm food. And in 10 years we may be having a very different discussion. For now, I'm going to play the hand I was dealt, and accept advise from you fine folks.

Life is short.
Live and love hard while you can.
Good luck to you both.