Are you reasons for staying on LIT now...

[missswannie]

I first came in 2003 for the stories, then noticed the boards 4 or 5 years ago. My outlet for having a little light hearted fun was elsewhere at the time but I came across a series of fun threads last year and thought what the hell, I could play a little in here too.
I've had some discussions with interesting people, some I can identify with, others in different situations and countries but interesting as people as well. I can't say that I am here for anything except to have a bit of banter, show off a little, the odd witty exchange on PM, so haven't been overly exposed to anything negative or mismatched expectations.
I have found the odd playground group that has been interesting in discussion, but being on the other end of the world than most, my time online is usually everyone else's offline, so its catch up mostly.
I guess I am staying, I haven't really found reason not to.

 

[Jada59]

Same but better. I originally came to post stories. Still do that when I have time to write. After I came here, I discovered the boards. Found some old friends here, a near relative and all around lots of good people! I have made a lot of friends here!

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Well I have only been a member for 18 months, so really a very short time in the grand scheme of things, though had been reading stories much longer. The core reason I joined and why I stay has remained the same, though the secondary intentions has changed.

I had been reading stories here for a while. I was also pushing 40. My son was 4. I was having a bit of a midlife crisis for a couple years (still am). I was missing the excitement and freedom of a more carefree life. I had long forgotten me. You know, so focused on my work, being a wife, being a parent, I just don't have much time for me. I had won an award at work, and they sent me questions for the speaker to use during the presentation. It included things like what are your hobbies, what are your future goals. I was just so lost trying to answer them. My answers pretty much were my profile (it was amusing watching the vice president of the company give a speech about me peeing alone though, audience was very amused). A lot of women my age are like this. I joke about the Target stereotype. The moms in our yoga pants (which may or may not be clean) trying to steal an hour of time, not knowing what to do, just trying to find something exciting and new at Target. Most of my friends are coming out of it now, as their kids are grown, but it has been all they have known for decades, so they still don't know what to do. I literally have a friend who is making outfits for her pets and having puppet shows now that her last daughter moved out. OMG kill me now.

Anyway, I had always been a wild one, but for my thirties, I was trying really hard to buckle down, be responsible, hit all the points I should, be painfully boring, and overall was doing a fairly decent job of it; but in my head I was desperate for something new. Truth is, I was one night of freedom away from an affair. Anyway, one night, I was reading lit stories thinking about what I would do if I had an opening, and I thought that maybe I could write about my past adventures, maybe I would feel that excitement as I wrote and maybe it would quell that "everyday is exactly the same" feeling. That is why my user name is what it is. I thought if one was going to read my stories, I wanted them to understand the person they were coming from. I wanted them to get the whole cliche of the desperate housewife I had become, but desperate housewife is minimizing the depth of this feeling in true housewives, because at least I have a soul sucking corporate job where I might have some adult like interactions.

When I decide to be active on a site, it only makes sense to join the community. This would enable me to read tips and tricks, ask questions, seek site support, get a feel for the community and audience, etc etc. When joining a community, it only makes sense to turn on messaging, as what if someone wants to answer your question or offer tips privately. Well, as soon as I created my profile and went to look around the forums to see what I should know before starting, I was hit with message after message after message, some nice guys, some total pervs, dick pics, requests to chat, requests for pictures, requests to cam etc etc. The lit female welcoming committee I guess. And I enjoyed answering them, some snarky, some friendly, some pervy

Anyway, as it turns out, I found online pervy interactions kind of supply that whole something new, something exciting rush that I was looking for. I also remembered I was an exhibitionist in my teens and twenties, and put that in a box in my thirties. Most importantly, I found this can be worked into my existing life and balanced with it.

I keep coming back to get feel that rush of something new (ok, and get turned on and get off of course). Same reason I joined really, just in a different area of the site than I had initially intended.

 

[DarkSimian]

Well I have only been a member for 18 months, so really a very short time in the grand scheme of things, though had been reading stories much longer. The core reason I joined and why I stay has remained the same, though the secondary intentions has changed.

I had been reading stories here for a while. I was also pushing 40. My son was 4. I was having a bit of a midlife crisis for a couple years (still am). I was missing the excitement and freedom of a more carefree life. I had long forgotten me. You know, so focused on my work, being a wife, being a parent, I just don't have much time for me. I had won an award at work, and they sent me questions for the speaker to use during the presentation. It included things like what are your hobbies, what are your future goals. I was just so lost trying to answer them. My answers pretty much were my profile (it was amusing watching the vice president of the company give a speech about me peeing alone though, audience was very amused). A lot of women my age are like this. I joke about the Target stereotype. The moms in our yoga pants (which may or may not be clean) trying to steal an hour of time, not knowing what to do, just trying to find something exciting and new at Target. Most of my friends are coming out of it now, as their kids are grown, but it has been all they have known for decades, so they still don't know what to do. I literally have a friend who is making outfits for her pets and having puppet shows now that her last daughter moved out. OMG kill me now.

Anyway, I had always been a wild one, but for my thirties, I was trying really hard to buckle down, be responsible, hit all the points I should, be painfully boring, and overall was doing a fairly decent job of it; but in my head I was desperate for something new. Truth is, I was one night of freedom away from an affair. Anyway, one night, I was reading lit stories thinking about what I would do if I had an opening, and I thought that maybe I could write about my past adventures, maybe I would feel that excitement as I wrote and maybe it would quell that "everyday is exactly the same" feeling. That is why my user name is what it is. I thought if one was going to read my stories, I wanted them to understand the person they were coming from. I wanted them to get the whole cliche of the desperate housewife I had become, but desperate housewife is minimizing the depth of this feeling in true housewives, because at least I have a soul sucking corporate job where I might have some adult like interactions.

When I decide to be active on a site, it only makes sense to join the community. This would enable me to read tips and tricks, ask questions, seek site support, get a feel for the community and audience, etc etc. When joining a community, it only makes sense to turn on messaging, as what if someone wants to answer your question or offer tips privately. Well, as soon as I created my profile and went to look around the forums to see what I should know before starting, I was hit with message after message after message, some nice guys, some total pervs, dick pics, requests to chat, requests for pictures, requests to cam etc etc. The lit female welcoming committee I guess. And I enjoyed answering them, some snarky, some friendly, some pervy

Anyway, as it turns out, I found online pervy interactions kind of supply that whole something new, something exciting rush that I was looking for. I also remembered I was an exhibitionist in my teens and twenties, and put that in a box in my thirties. Most importantly, I found this can be worked into my existing life and balanced with it.

I keep coming back to get feel that rush of something new (ok, and get turned on and get off of course). Same reason I joined really, just in a different area of the site than I had initially intended.

Some music to accompany your story:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f4Mc-NYPHaQ

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Some music to accompany your story:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f4Mc-NYPHaQ

Well thank you. (I half expected that to be someone playing a sad song on a tiny violin lol) I don't know about that mustache though. I don't think it goes with the miniskirt very well. Just saying.

 

[DarkSimian]

Well thank you. (I half expected that to be someone playing a sad song on a tiny violin lol) I don't know about that mustache though. I don't think it goes with the miniskirt very well. Just saying.

It was supposed to be a parody of a very popular British drama series that was on at the time...US censors didn't get it, so the song (and video) didn't get much airplay in the US; but the Brits enjoyed it

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

It was supposed to be a parody of a very popular British drama series that was on at the time...US censors didn't get it, so the song (and video) didn't get much airplay in the US; but the Brits enjoyed it

I did not know that. In all fairness, I was a very young american at the time, and I still don't watch soap operas, but hey, I did just google it, and learned something new today. (Still question the mini skirt and mustache clash though.)

 

[DarkSimian]

I did not know that. In all fairness, I was a very young american at the time, and I still don't watch soap operas, but hey, I did just google it, and learned something new today. (Still question the mini skirt and mustache clash though.)

Appearing in drag has long been a comedy trope (Milton Berle, Flip Wilson, Jonathan Winters Tyler Perry) esp. with the British (Monty Python)

And now, for something completely different...

 

[done_got_old]

Appearing in drag has long been a comedy trope (Milton Berle, Flip Wilson, Jonathan Winters Tyler Perry) esp. with the British (Monty Python)

And now, for something completely different...

I grew up watching Milton Berle, Flip Wilson and Jonathan Winters. Many times I laughed until I cried! Thanks for reminding me of those happier times.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I came here to learn about BDSM, and that I did. I didn’t expect to fall in love and have all kinds of in the flesh experiences, though.

I’m here now for different reasons. Mostly, the friends I’ve made, and habit.

 

[AbsintheFather]

different from you reasons and needs when you first joined? So we all had our original reasons to try LIT out but they may or may not be valid today. So are your reasons different or the same?

If you are up to it , it would be great to hear what has changed since you joined.

Totally different now . . . .

Just like many of us, when I first came here it was for the stories. With me, I was looking for ideas to spice up my marital sex life. Well the marital sex life never got spiced up, but I had stumbled on something that was informative, fun and titillating. That's what kept me here.

Sure, over 9+ years it has gotten tiresome at times. I've left briefly to concentrate on my marriage or for other reasons a couple times, but I keep coming back. I have learned a lot here over the years - about myself and about other people, about sex and the online world. I've had a ton of fun, a lot of laughs, made many friends and acquaintances, found love and crushes, experienced some heartbreak too. What goes on in these threads continues to amaze me.

But it's different. Yeah, I'm more jaded. It's not as new, bright and shiny as it once was. After all these posts, I no longer feel a need to have a frequent posting presence. Been there, done that. I'm not chasing ladies trying to get into their cyber panties anymore, it's different. Like DGO, I'm a lot slower to warm up to people. Getting to know someone takes time and I don't spend enough time here to invest myself that deeply in it anymore.

So at this point, I have to say it is about higher quality, deeper relationships, rather than trying to get to know a little about many Litsters. But, I will say that I do genuinely like the people I have gotten to know here and that's what keeps me coming back. It's all about the people, the open forum and all the smiles I get from you all.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Totally different now . . . .

Just like many of us, when I first came here it was for the stories. With me, I was looking for ideas to spice up my marital sex life. Well the marital sex life never got spiced up, but I had stumbled on something that was informative, fun and titillating. That's what kept me here.

Sure, over 9+ years it has gotten tiresome at times. I've left briefly to concentrate on my marriage or for other reasons a couple times, but I keep coming back. I have learned a lot here over the years - about myself and about other people, about sex and the online world. I've had a ton of fun, a lot of laughs, made many friends and acquaintances, found love and crushes, experienced some heartbreak too. What goes on in these threads continues to amaze me.

But it's different. Yeah, I'm more jaded. It's not as new, bright and shiny as it once was. After all these posts, I no longer feel a need to have a frequent posting presence. Been there, done that. I'm not chasing ladies trying to get into their cyber panties anymore, it's different. Like DGO, I'm a lot slower to warm up to people. Getting to know someone takes time and I don't spend enough time here to invest myself that deeply in it anymore.

So at this point, I have to say it is about higher quality, deeper relationships, rather than trying to get to know a little about many Litsters. But, I will say that I do genuinely like the people I have gotten to know here and that's what keeps me coming back. It's all about the people, the open forum and all the smiles I get from you all.

I love this answer ❤

 

[done_got_old]

Totally different now . . . .

Just like many of us, when I first came here it was for the stories. With me, I was looking for ideas to spice up my marital sex life. Well the marital sex life never got spiced up, but I had stumbled on something that was informative, fun and titillating. That's what kept me here.

Sure, over 9+ years it has gotten tiresome at times. I've left briefly to concentrate on my marriage or for other reasons a couple times, but I keep coming back. I have learned a lot here over the years - about myself and about other people, about sex and the online world. I've had a ton of fun, a lot of laughs, made many friends and acquaintances, found love and crushes, experienced some heartbreak too. What goes on in these threads continues to amaze me.

But it's different. Yeah, I'm more jaded. It's not as new, bright and shiny as it once was. After all these posts, I no longer feel a need to have a frequent posting presence. Been there, done that. I'm not chasing ladies trying to get into their cyber panties anymore, it's different. Like DGO, I'm a lot slower to warm up to people. Getting to know someone takes time and I don't spend enough time here to invest myself that deeply in it anymore.

So at this point, I have to say it is about higher quality, deeper relationships, rather than trying to get to know a little about many Litsters. But, I will say that I do genuinely like the people I have gotten to know here and that's what keeps me coming back. It's all about the people, the open forum and all the smiles I get from you all.

Well said. Your grade is an A! Oh, I'm sorry. I forgot that I'm no longer teaching.

I think there are a lot of users who are the reincarnation of past assholes. I avoid them because I'm not into drama. Others are fighting a battle with stupidity - and losing. That being said, the Literotica of the past was way better than what it is today. There are still good, interesting people here.

 

[AbsintheFather]

I love this answer ❤

Well said. Your grade is an A! Oh, I'm sorry. I forgot that I'm no longer teaching.

Thanks ladies, I know that you both understand

 

[PWilton]

Not quite the old-timer as some, but have been on and off Lit for several years.
Many of the reasons I started on Lit are still true. Nothing profound or earthshaking.

I get a lot of arousal reading the stories.
Enjoy browsing my Subscribed Forum Threads to get well chosen images.
I have had several fun p.m. partners with whom to share stuff. Sometimes quite arousing.
I occasionally have the bug to actually write a story, and this is a place to publish.
Occasionally visit the Lit chat rooms and do some role playing or teasing or whatever.
I don’t get hung up on the nuisance posts or offensive people; I make liberal use of the Ignore List (interestingly, when I post that I use that list, there is a fair amount of pushback – as if I am not being sociable or whatever..)
I like how the site is Moderated; at least it keeps most things in between the ditches.
And lastly, it is free!  

 

[JerseyJade]

Well I make pretty good money working at Doctor Liz's clinic, so that's why I'm here.

 

[DarkSimian]

Well I make pretty good money working at Doctor Liz's clinic, so that's why I'm here.

I have to stay, as I have a backlog of appts with Dr. Liz, and I hear there is a penalty for early withdrawal....

 

[lovetopleasewomen]

reasons for staying on LIT now...?




good question....

 

[LostGirlTink]

I originally came to lit to learn some things about myself. Then I found the stories and made some friends.
I didn’t expect to find what I have, and I stay because I like the community and with the exception of 2-3 individuals, I care about most of the people who post, at least a little bit. I’ve made some amazing friends and I like having conversations with like minded people