Daddy's Little Girl: Second Edition

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As for therapy, in the words of the world's first slacker and a trailblazer in the field of expressing ennui,

"I would prefer not to."

I appreciate the gesture, have no doubt of that

I am happy to sit in on the tea party as a silent participant
 
Hi everyone. I think there are a lot of single littles on the thread. What are some of your coping mechanisms when you are feeling lonely for a daddy?

I have two---1) heated blankets and 2) weighted blankets. Wrapping up in them are a comfort at night

:rose::rose:

This has a bunch of good info for both unattached subs and even LDRs who need more structure.


Structure and Self-Care for Unowned Submissives


I received a note recently asking me if I had any reference materials that focused on providing structure for a submissive who is currently without a Dominant. I didn’t, but I thought it was a good opportunity to write about it.

While I’ve never had a formal system, I have found in both in the time before I identified as a submissive, and in the times since, when I was without a Dom, that I naturally gravitate toward providing myself with a certain amount of structure. (To be clear I have always been a submissive, but I did not always have the words to identify as such.)

Creating structure for yourself in the absence of a Dom comes down to self care. You want to create routines for yourself that enforce predictability and healthy habits.

Some examples of things you might consider establishing as ‘rules’:

Going to bed by no less than 7 hours before you have to wake.
Being out of bed by a set time, even when you have nowhere to be. (say 10am?)
Regular exercise several times a week.
Reading a certain amount of pages per week.
Getting a vegetable with every meal.
Keep regular contact with friends and family members. (perhaps 1 call per week to 2-3 people)
Do all the dishes before bed each day.
Keep a chore list of things that need to be done each day, week, and month.

One you’ve decided the things you will be focusing on you may find it helpful to establish rewards for yourself. Some people, (like myself) who are organized by nature, may find reward just in having the routine, but for others there has to be incentive to motivate them.

You might consider taking out some money from the bank in one dollar bills, and placing a dollar in a jar each time you successfully follow one of your own rules. At the end of each week or month you can use that money to buy yourself something special. If this doesn’t seem like something you’d abide by, money is tight, or you generally just buy what you want anyway, then you might consider orgasm control instead. Put yourself on denial, and give yourself a point for each task completed. When you manage to reach a set number of points you allow yourself an orgasm.

There are a lot of reward systems out there but the basics of giving yourself structure are in creating beneficial routines, and motivations for doing them. It doesn’t have to be formal charts if that seems like drudgery to you.

You can reward yourself within the system. It can be as simple as when you get to bed on time all week you allow yourself to sleep in on weekends.Or making yourself wait to have any snacks/treats for the day until your work/chores are done. There are endless possibilities really, what matters is that you feel motivated to continue taking proper care of yourself.
 
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*walks in, looks around the party, quickly runs to another, safer space*

Before I go, this is how I made my own weighted blanket.

Good bye thread.
 
Rum, in tea..?

I’ve never tried that but I have plenty of rum! White rum, spiced rum, kraken rum

What’s your poison?

A drama or two of Kraken rum in Good Earth tea helps keep the winter blues away.

As a good sailor, I love my rum like a diesel likes its oil.

(That is to say often, and large amounts)
 
I have some Good Earth tea. :) it's basically orange spice, but it's called something else.
Sweet and Spicy, maybe? I don't remember. :eek:

I like CS Bengal Spice, too. With honey. Of course. :D
 
I always appreciate your posts about self care.:rose:

It's a constant struggle for me to value myself enough to do them. :(:rolleyes:

Honey...you and every single other person reading these words right now ABSOLUTELY are worth self care. You are of value. You deserve good things. You are important. Treat yourself as if this is so every single day.

*walks in, looks around the party, quickly runs to another, safer space*

Before I go, this is how I made my own weighted blanket.

Good bye thread.

Moochi..... are you okay? Thank you for leaving info about making a weighted blanket, but it makes me so sad to think this is not a safe thread for you....:confused:
Sending you hugs and comfort. :heart:

cb
 
I have some Good Earth tea. :) it's basically orange spice, but it's called something else.
Sweet and Spicy, maybe? I don't remember. :eek:

I like CS Bengal Spice, too. With honey. Of course. :D

I love tea. I start my morning with a big mug of it in bed. Its one of my little pleasures to have a cuppa in a nice warm bed. I have been into Black Current tea for a little over a year now but in the morning I like one that is ginseng, lemon and honey. I add organic raw honey to it. so yummy and refreshing.
 
I love tea. I start my morning with a big mug of it in bed. Its one of my little pleasures to have a cuppa in a nice warm bed. I have been into Black Current tea for a little over a year now but in the morning I like one that is ginseng, lemon and honey. I add organic raw honey to it. so yummy and refreshing.

Black currant sounds good! I am glad to be able to get raw, local-ish honey even in our small town.
 
Sorry. I should have included everyone who can't be with their sweet ones too. Long distance relationships are hard for that too.

My blanket is sort of like a big bean bag (instead of down fillled). At first hearing the stuffing moving around distracted me but now I'm totally used to it. I'm quite partial to mine now. :)

I've heard a lot about weighted blankets! I really enjoy feeling weighed down while I sleep - it makes me feel so safe :heart: Maybe I'll invest... Students life is kicking my bank account's butt :p
 
Why is it blue?

I think it's a certain flower used. I will need to go look because I have one that does the same thing when you add lemon called magic potion that I got while in Canada. Its delicious and fruity.

ETA- I believe its butterfly pea flowers.
 
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I think it's a certain flower used. I will need to go look because I have one that does the same thing when you add lemon called magic potion that I got while in Canada. Its delicious and fruity.

ETA- I believe its butterfly pea flowers.

You win the grand prize :rose:

It is from northeastern India and the craze du jour... though I'll stick with heavy black tea with mint or espresso...
 
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