Daddy's Little Girl: Second Edition

[barefootgirl69]

Tomorrow is the 9th anniversary of the worst loss in my life. We don't talk about it. I sailed through last year and fell off the rails a few months later. Huge.
Working on the "take care of me because there is no one else here to do it" - I am fixing my favorite lemon shrimp dish for dinner tonight. This is part of my goal this year of being a better me than last year
Tonight ... maybe tomorrow night - blankets and pillows and a movie(s) and lots of hot tea and maybe some pumpkin bread.
Tomorrow will be bitter cold (fitting), but my goal is to get out of the house and get some groceries and work some more on the fence for the horses. Busy mind, productive hands.

I'm sorry, Dapple. My inbox is open if you want to talk.

Keeping busy is a good way to keep your mind busy, too. I usually clean things like closets or cupboards.

 

[SadieAnne]

Good questions! Sadly, like HB, I too fall short in doing for myself what I remind others to do for themselves. Perhaps we do have other "escapes" from which we find our joys, but too often in my case at least, work and career stresses consume me, even crippling my ability to do those things I find pleasure in. Except of course having a big bowl of ice cream every evening!

I've been wanting to go for a massage, but keep putting off as I have this deadline than that deadline to fulfill.

This Saturday I am taking off though and going on a short road trip to visit a very old friend who has lived 2 hours away from me and I have not yet visited in the 7 years he's lived there...

I'm trying to reflect back, but I do think I was better at self-care when I was involved with a little - she pushed me and reminded me of the things I needed to do.

This makes me sad

 

[Lost_Yonder]

This makes me sad

I'm sorry, I didn't intend to make others sad - was just reflecting on how too often we, I allow external things (like jobs) to drive us, distracting us from that which is truly important.

I was reminding a friend to remember to sit back once in a while and breathe deeply and take in the aroma of the flowers - forgetting to do that myself!

Which is why I appreciate this thread so much - reminds us to sit back and reflect...

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Tomorrow is the 9th anniversary of the worst loss in my life. We don't talk about it. I sailed through last year and fell off the rails a few months later. Huge.
Working on the "take care of me because there is no one else here to do it" - I am fixing my favorite lemon shrimp dish for dinner tonight. This is part of my goal this year of being a better me than last year
Tonight ... maybe tomorrow night - blankets and pillows and a movie(s) and lots of hot tea and maybe some pumpkin bread.
Tomorrow will be bitter cold (fitting), but my goal is to get out of the house and get some groceries and work some more on the fence for the horses. Busy mind, productive hands.

Wishing you comfort and joy today, but most of all peace.

 

[cascadiabound]

Tomorrow is the 9th anniversary of the worst loss in my life. We don't talk about it. I sailed through last year and fell off the rails a few months later. Huge.
Working on the "take care of me because there is no one else here to do it" - I am fixing my favorite lemon shrimp dish for dinner tonight. This is part of my goal this year of being a better me than last year
Tonight ... maybe tomorrow night - blankets and pillows and a movie(s) and lots of hot tea and maybe some pumpkin bread.
Tomorrow will be bitter cold (fitting), but my goal is to get out of the house and get some groceries and work some more on the fence for the horses. Busy mind, productive hands.

Anniversaries are difficult. Good job on recognizing that you need to do different things this year than you did last year to make space for your grief and still take care of yourself. Self care self care self care. You are worth it. Sigh. As others have said - there are no words and platitudes hurt rather than soothe.

Honor your loss. Be proud of yourself for facing this day with whatever grace you are able to and forgive yourself for whatever you wish you might have done better - today or any other day. All of that is self care too. And yes... busy hands, productive days... these are a balm.

Wishing you peace as you are able to find it.

 

[cascadiabound]

It's been DECADES since I've had bubbles in my bath. Never had a pedicure or manicure for that matter...

I dare say we do indulge in other things when needed. Video games, toys, tools - powered or otherwise, model building etc. Well those are some of mine.

Good questions! Sadly, like HB, I too fall short in doing for myself what I remind others to do for themselves. Perhaps we do have other "escapes" from which we find our joys, but too often in my case at least, work and career stresses consume me, even crippling my ability to do those things I find pleasure in. Except of course having a big bowl of ice cream every evening!

I've been wanting to go for a massage, but keep putting off as I have this deadline than that deadline to fulfill.

This Saturday I am taking off though and going on a short road trip to visit a very old friend who has lived 2 hours away from me and I have not yet visited in the 7 years he's lived there...

I'm trying to reflect back, but I do think I was better at self-care when I was involved with a little - she pushed me and reminded me of the things I needed to do.

Thank you for sharing.
It is a good reminder that we ALL need help with self care and of course, self care takes different forms for different people - esp when it comes to relaxation, distraction and pampering.

Lost Yonder's comment that he was better at self care when he was involved with a little because she reminded him of things he needed to do is apt. I wonder if other Daddy's have noticed this phenomena?

Are there things that you find are particularly helpful or not helpful in being nudged by your little/pyl to do self care? Do you think that simply having an awareness about prompting a partner/ little/ /pyl to do better at self care is in itself a prompt towards one's own self care?

https://66.media.tumblr.com/d0eaa29910f50a9ab65ce36f7b6aa79a/tumblr_pco2d9IRvK1tsb14po1_500.jpg

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Thank you for sharing.
It is a good reminder that we ALL need help with self care and of course, self care takes different forms for different people - esp when it comes to relaxation, distraction and pampering.

Lost Yonder's comment that he was better at self care when he was involved with a little because she reminded him of things he needed to do is apt. I wonder if other Daddy's have noticed this phenomena?

Are there things that you find are particularly helpful or not helpful in being nudged by your little/pyl to do self care? Do you think that simply having an awareness about prompting a partner/ little/ /pyl to do better at self care is in itself a prompt towards one's own self care?

https://66.media.tumblr.com/d0eaa29910f50a9ab65ce36f7b6aa79a/tumblr_pco2d9IRvK1tsb14po1_500.jpg

I think there are two unconscious ways being involved with a little that inspired my own better focus on self-care - the first is exactly as you say cb - being in a state of caring and reminding another made it part of a daily routine of, yes, I gotta do that too! The second, quite honestly was perhaps a bit of masculine insecurity - in my situation my little was quite a bit younger, with lots, and lots, and lots of energy. Just keeping up with her required me to do things! But it was also the age thing - wanting to look better, be fit at least, etc. A third thing, in my case was that she drew me away from my work. When I was with her, I had to step away from my work, which consumes me otherwise 24/7. Which for me is particularly important and a real challenge as my wife and I have the same career. So much of our personal time is spent talking about work!

No doubt, some of us are much better in our lives than others of taking care of ourselves. But even those who workout and exercise regularly do it, often, as an escape rather than necessarily a commitment to self and self-care. It takes more than just exercising - taking the time to breathe, to enjoy one's surroundings, to reflect, to read, to pursue one's hobbies, to chill with friends, take a road-trip, whatever it may be.

Again, every relationship is unique, every DD has their own regimen of self-care, or neglect. It seems one way our littles might help is not to just ask about our well being and if we did something for self-care, but rather recognize some of the things we need to do and enjoy doing for ourselves and ask, demand, stomp your feet in insisting that we do it together...

LY

 

[DappleDoxie]

Made it!!! Now we'll wash, rinse and repeat and try for a string of two days forward motion. Coffee and oatmeal are hot. Sun is shining. A little sweat therapy on the property on tap.

bfg .... Thank you!! I could not return your note.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Made it!!! Now we'll wash, rinse and repeat and try for a string of two days forward motion. Coffee and oatmeal are hot. Sun is shining. A little sweat therapy on the property on tap.

bfg .... Thank you!! I could not return your note.

Don't forget to do a little jig when you are out and about to celebrate you!

https://thumbs.gfycat.com/EarlyAgitatedGuineafowl-size_restricted.gif

 

[barefootgirl69]

Don't forget to do a little jig when you are out and about to celebrate you!

https://thumbs.gfycat.com/EarlyAgitatedGuineafowl-size_restricted.gif

YESSS! Wiggle, wiggle, and a little giggle!

 

[cascadiabound]

https://i.pinimg.com/564x/75/2c/72/752c72f67b29436541f77d71d8c0411c.jpg

cupcakes anyone?

 

[LostGirlTink]

https://i.pinimg.com/564x/75/2c/72/752c72f67b29436541f77d71d8c0411c.jpg

cupcakes anyone?

I would do a LOT of things for a cupcake and some cuddles right now.
I’m super overtired and that makes me out of sorts

 

[cascadiabound]

I would do a LOT of things for a cupcake and some cuddles right now.
I’m super overtired and that makes me out of sorts

((((Tink))))

sending you a dozen cupcakes
a pile of fluffy blankets and a bottomless cup of tea/ cocoa/ coffee.

take a nap honey.

hope you feel better soon.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Tomorrow is the 9th anniversary of the worst loss in my life. We don't talk about it. I sailed through last year and fell off the rails a few months later. Huge.
Working on the "take care of me because there is no one else here to do it" - I am fixing my favorite lemon shrimp dish for dinner tonight. This is part of my goal this year of being a better me than last year
Tonight ... maybe tomorrow night - blankets and pillows and a movie(s) and lots of hot tea and maybe some pumpkin bread.
Tomorrow will be bitter cold (fitting), but my goal is to get out of the house and get some groceries and work some more on the fence for the horses. Busy mind, productive hands.

 

[sensualhub]

Tomorrow is the 9th anniversary of the worst loss in my life. We don't talk about it. I sailed through last year and fell off the rails a few months later. Huge.
Working on the "take care of me because there is no one else here to do it" - I am fixing my favorite lemon shrimp dish for dinner tonight. This is part of my goal this year of being a better me than last year
Tonight ... maybe tomorrow night - blankets and pillows and a movie(s) and lots of hot tea and maybe some pumpkin bread.
Tomorrow will be bitter cold (fitting), but my goal is to get out of the house and get some groceries and work some more on the fence for the horses. Busy mind, productive hands.

Focus on the be better to me part and the be a better me will take care of itself.
Thoughts are with you.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Those cupcakes look delicious, cb.

I would get one, but I'm too tired to enjoy it.

Did y'all have a good weekend.

Oh...welcome to the thread, sensualhub. That was good advice.

 

[sensualhub]

Had a wonderful weekend and its a pleasure to be here..
Thank you for your kind words, we all need a little support sometimes

 

[Lost_Yonder]

It is going to be a glorious day! Hope everyone let their spirits run free! (Though I'm sure a little coffee will help! )

https://i.gifer.com/AoTH.gif

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

https://i.ibb.co/Q8mmSjr/20190204-083515.jpg


I disagree with the last bit, but it's still cute. ​

 

[DappleDoxie]

A string of six grand days

Thank you all for the lovely words and support. I have some pumpkin bread left from my Super Bowl watch party to share.

Shall we go for another six?

 

[barefootgirl69]

Good morning, ummmm afternoon, everyone!

LY, I love that gif! I love meadows!

Honey, pouts and wiggles are good things *nods*. Used appropriately for cheekiness instead of brattiness, should always cause Daddy to...tickle and laugh with me! You're right, I don't know how I'd feel if he caved in so easily to my whims. But I don't use my charms unless I need to!

Dapple, six days behind and six ahead! It's not so intimidating when it's broken down like that. I need to remind myself not to "countdown" to these anniversary things.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

https://i.ibb.co/Q8mmSjr/20190204-083515.jpg


I disagree with the last bit, but it's still cute. ​

I appreciate these aren't for everyone, but that reminded me of this other one that sparks a particular memory for me...

https://i.pinimg.com/236x/6d/15/72/6d157258d5d085d1b0325c2d2f96fbd7--dom-kitten.jpg

 

[Lost_Yonder]

A string of six grand days

Thank you all for the lovely words and support. I have some pumpkin bread left from my Super Bowl watch party to share.

Shall we go for another six?

Would love a slice of pumpkin bread - thank you!

You've got this next six! and the six after that [not sure why my fingers keep typing s-e-x instead of s-i-x ]

Enjoy the clear, crisp air

 

[barefootgirl69]

I appreciate these aren't for everyone, but that reminded me of this other one that sparks a particular memory for me...

https://i.pinimg.com/236x/6d/15/72/6d157258d5d085d1b0325c2d2f96fbd7--dom-kitten.jpg

*giggles*

 

[sensualhub]

*giggles*

Behave young lady