What's something you've always wanted to ask the opposite gender?

[base10]

Ouch but fair.

I've spent so much time trying to figure out if she's into me or not, at what point can I be more forward sexually. What does she want? This is all dependent on if I'm interested as well.

Sometimes I'm not that interested, sometimes she's not.

Sometimes we both are, and I'm trying to figure out the right point to make a move and not scare her away. The thoughts and feelings are as complex on our side as they are on yours. At least this is what runs through my head.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Sometimes, sometimes we're not as interested as you are, and sometimes you ladies are just really hard to read.

I agree, and the same goes for us.
I think we can all benefit from listening to cues more.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I've spent so much time trying to figure out if she's into me or not, at what point can I be more forward sexually. What does she want? This is all dependent on if I'm interested as well.

Sometimes I'm not that interested, sometimes she's not.

Sometimes we both are, and I'm trying to figure out the right point to make a move and not scare her away. The thoughts and feelings are as complex on our side as they are on yours. At least this is what runs through my head.

I agree, and the same goes for us.
I think we can all benefit from listening to cues more.

I get accused of talking too much but you rarely have to wonder what I'm thinking.

 

[thefishfryer]

I've spent so much time trying to figure out if she's into me or not, at what point can I be more forward sexually. What does she want? This is all dependent on if I'm interested as well.

Sometimes I'm not that interested, sometimes she's not.

Sometimes we both are, and I'm trying to figure out the right point to make a move and not scare her away. The thoughts and feelings are as complex on our side as they are on yours. At least this is what runs through my head.

I'm too old for all that shit. Pour me another glass of Malbec.

 

[base10]

I get accused of talking too much but you rarely have to wonder what I'm thinking.

That this place is so up front sexually actually makes things a lot easier, in much of the real world, a lot more complex

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

That this place is so up front sexually actually makes things a lot easier, in much of the real world, a lot more complex

True. Though this place gets over fucky sometimes.

 

[Interested_Girl]

There's a compliment in there somewhere. I hope?

What do you mean?

 

[base10]

True. Though this place gets over fucky sometimes.

I try to stay away from the bullshit around here, I have too much of it in the rest of my life that is unavoidable.

Here its avoidable

 

[AlwaysFara]

I'm a men.

You’re a Dude.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I try to stay away from the bullshit around here, I have too much of it in the rest of my life that is unavoidable.

Here its avoidable

Wisdom.
But sometimes easier said than done.

 

[thefishfryer]

I get accused of talking too much but you rarely have to wonder what I'm thinking.

I have no idea what you're thinking, but actions speak louder...............

 

[base10]

Wisdom.
But sometimes easier said than done.

Yes, but a goal to strive for

 

[thefishfryer]

What do you mean?

Perhaps I should have asked you the same thing. If I had your address I'd send you a postcard. Can you still buy those? Oh yeah, you can, but you have to go on holiday.

 

[Interested_Girl]

Perhaps I should have asked you the same thing. If I had your address I'd send you a postcard. Can you still buy those? Oh yeah, you can, but you have to go on holiday.

Ah, I see. No, the letters are just accounts of him travelling. They aren't intimate in any way.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

So much scrolling!

You people are killing me.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

So fellas, what is your general view on women who make the first move?

 

[thefishfryer]

So fellas, what is your general view on women who make the first move?

Is that a thing? I must have been too naive to notice.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Is that a thing? I must have been too naive to notice.

Maybe it's an older woman thing.

 

[thefishfryer]

Maybe it's an older woman thing.

I hope I live that long then.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Thanks!

I think it's about what fits my sense of style, too. Cutoffs don't appeal to me for some reason. But i would totally do a cargo short, hikers, and a strappy tank.

That's teasing. It's nearly the same thing. Unfair!

Or a scooter! That was an inspired design.

Scooter?

You have started a good conversation about "driving stick" in this thread.

You're all welcome.

Do you think that men really do change as they get older? That attraction does truly evolve? Because based on the comments I read on LIT ever day, I suspect not. That most (not all) do have some form of standard beauty or that this beauty takes precedence over a lot of other things.

Yes. At least for those of us who mature as we age. There aren't as many "boob men" or "leg men" or "butt men" as we age. The older I get the more I see my response to the physical attractiveness of a woman is to appreciate what I see. "I like big tits" (or small ones, big nipples, whatever) becomes "Look! Tits! And, they're wonderful!" (because they're naked).

And, yes, some of us remain forever sixteen. Sorry. That's why I occasionally lurk on Am Pics, but have only commented once ( a guy was being a huge dick, which usually means he has a small dick).

So, what do you admire and enjoy about women?

The "opposite" part of "opposite sex" has become more important. We think differently. Not better or worse, but differently. The ability to follow directions as opposed to reading a map or blueprints for example. That's why I prefer an Engineering Team with men and women. Better, more complete solutions result!

What does a one night stand mean for you? Just a night to let go and release, you may find something particularly about that person that you you may like to develop later or more than random but not too close for comfort?

At what point does it stop being a one night stand?

I have never had one. However, I'd say it stops being a one night stand when you do something together that neither results from nor leads to sex.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I hope I live that long then.

I see you're retired. You should be getting there pretty soon.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

So fellas, what is your general view on women who make the first move?

Where were you all when I was eighteen and painfully shy around women?

 

[thefishfryer]

I see you're retired. You should be getting there pretty soon.

Yeah, that profile was written when I joined.

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

Great Q. I have also wondered this myself. I had a one night stand for the first time a couple years ago. It was with someone younger. No regrets, but I think he just really needed to feel like a man. His girlfriend dumped him for a woman. And while he said he didn't care, he did. And I was in a weird place and it was one of those perfect storm situations. Never saw him again, never will. So, all in all, no question - one night stand

On the other hand, I met someone this summer (mentioned this in a couple threads now) and he was passing through...And we spent a week together on and off. And some nights we didn't have sex. Just went with the flow, but in all honesty, not that I have to categorize it, but I was like...Was that a one night stand that just happened to be a week long? I don't know. We met on a dating site. We met at a Spanish Meetup class for the date. Later that week we went to the art gallery. Then spent evenings cooking with each other, reading books and watching documentaries.

So, honestly? I don't know. Maybe it was, maybe it wasn't. Thoughts my lovely Lit People?

What are YOUR thoughts, BCC?

My thoughts are severely limited based on my experience. To be honest, my experience has been severely muted. I base my questions off of what I've read, what I see day to day and situations exposed to me and from here...I would like to contribute to some things but it would only be me speaking from what I think it should be, not from experience. When my questions are place here, it is with the utmost sincerity they are asked.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Only a man would say that cutoffs and cargo shorts are nearly the same thing. *smh*

A scooter is (listen closely, now) a mini-skirt with built-in shorts. For active women who like skirts but aren't in the mood for flashing their knickers.