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cascadiabound said:
Welcome Foreverwe.

Thanks for coming oit of lurking mode.
As many have often said here, labels are complicated and sometimes obscure as much as illuminate, but when i have read stuff about "middles" i often find myself nodding in recognition. Not too long ago Mr T said he kinda experiences me as regressing possibly to a young teenager kind of head space when i am in certain kinds of sub mode.

Would you mind saying a little bit about how you understand "middle" ~ what that label means to you?

cascadiabound :heart:
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Thank you barefootgirl.

Thank you cascadiabound.
I agree that labels do create boxes that people may not want to fit inside, but in this case, I really appreciate it as a place to point and say "that resonates."

I think one of the most recent important moments for me came when my PYL (Daddy) said to me " well you're not really a little." He didn't mean it how I took it certainly and I even knew that at the time, but I bristled and inside shouted ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!

Then I promptly barraged him with a ton of articles, quotes, etc that were flashing neon lights for me.

https://youtu.be/p68zH_Dw0Zw

So what is a middle to me; and how do I relate? I do and don't get into regression. I think for me it's more of a constant mentality. I know very few adults actually wake up in the morning and feel 40, but I don't ever feel my age. Don't get me wrong; in mature and responsible. I handle my life, raise kids, have a job etc. However, my interests and personal preferences stopped. Things that make me happy stopped. Where, as a child I made friends more easily with adults, now my *friends* are teenagers. Granted by that I don't mean that I hang out with them on a Saturday night and go all American Pie. No. But if I get to talking to certain people in my life I immediately feel ME and I light up. I think Tink's sparkle applies.

It took a long time for me to really nail it down. My PYL says that being a middle explains my tastes :rolleyes::D
He is constantly mortified by my taste in music, movies, books, shows, food etc. Even in so far as what I'd rather spend free time doing, or how I express excitement. It also shows in how I handle disagreements though :( that's really hard for me.

I think a lot of the things that apply to littles apply to me, because that's the submissive part that runs through us all.

I need to know I please him. I need to know I make his life better. I need to help and feel useful. I need to comfort and be comforted. I have anxiety about being left or being found wanting. I worry and over think. But at the same time I don't need CONSTANT attention. I suck at taking care of me, but not in the put me to bed tell me when to eat, coddle me sense. More in the I will eat crap constantly because I've zero self control, I won't do nice things for me, I will neglect my responsibilities cause HIM if he lets me ( totally related to angedesoleil's signature being kicked off until work work was done.)

So yeah... instead of feeling "little" or "fragile" which I don't much ( note I do get little in only ONE Situation, but that's between Daddy and me) I tend to feel middle when excited, happy, giddy, in love teenage stars in the eyes love, and the like.

Interestingly I've two very distinct sides to my middle personality... one is flowers and pastels and goody two shoes calm the other is black and jewel tone sparkly hyper as fuck, funny nuts you better run to catch up with a wicked sense of prank and humor.

https://encrypted-tbn3.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcRaP7NChpEvZa7O7NI5yj21bNfivsJXhwcfL7s4__3VYyDe4Vo0G0AUFjh86w
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(Lilo= submiddle I'll sign my posts, my other half PYL/Daddy doesn't. He'll post, but he probably will forget to sign ;) )
 
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Hi Lilo.
Sounds like you've done a good bit of reading/researching too. :)
That's what I do too. The sparkle, yeah, it's the best way to describe that core of who I am and the happy part of me that is all the best parts of who I am.
I'm glad you decided to stop lurking and participate.
 
Thank you Lilo :rose:
For sharing so much and providing some new resources here for people to think about.

This might be a good topic for others to chime in on?

For the board in general:
Do you feel your little/middle self all the time or just sometimes?
Do you age regress when you are in little/middle space?
How does this thread its way through your life/ your sexuality/ your Dd/lg relationship?

Are those the right questions? If not....just say what you want to say. :heart:
 
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Great topic, cb!

cascadiabound said:
Thank you Lilo :rose:
For sharing so much and providing some new resources here for people to think about.

This might be a good topic for others to chime in on?

For the board in general:
Do you feel your little/middke self all the time or just sometimes?
Do you age regress when you are in little/middle space?
How does this thread its way through your life/ your sexuality/ your Dd/lg relationship?

Are those the right questions? If not....just say what you want yo say. :heart:
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I can only do this one at a time, so I'll start with the first.

I feel little A LOT of the time. When I have to be "adult", it's no problem...but there are times I feel like I have to push little me down and sit on her while taking care of adult things.

Being little was much easier when my children were younger or when I was babysitting. I think this is why I was in charge of the nursery during Sunday School or had the younger children's classes. :eek: Cause... "you just have a way with that age group". 😂

Time for Daddy to call!
 
cascadiabound said:
Thank you Lilo :rose:
For sharing so much and providing some new resources here for people to think about.

This might be a good topic for others to chime in on?

For the board in general:
Do you feel your little/middke self all the time or just sometimes?
Do you age regress when you are in little/middle space?
How does this thread its way through your life/ your sexuality/ your Dd/lg relationship?

Are those the right questions? If not....just say what you want yo say. :heart:
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Hiya Lilo. Well explained! I like the chart too.

I think I'm constantly me too, I think that's why I had such a hard time putting my finger on why I felt like I belonged here, it was just a nagging thing. In think there are certainly times it's closer to the surface for all the world to see. Those times are awkward to say the least. They can be the most fun times, but also the most awkward. I agree with not really feeling "fragile"

I think I never acknowledged it as age regression, and this will be a hard ting for me to really decipher if in times of stress it is my Aspergers peeking out and the mask I have slipping, or if it is my little saying NOPE I'm 8 and this is 8. And because of promises I made to Daddy, I'm going to stop there and not qualify that statement any further. But I WILL take a minute to thank him and Puck both for making me take a hard look at how Aspergers affects this part of my life and how D/s is useful toward my Aspergers. GOOD PICK-UP.

I think I'm still learning how it threads its way through my life. I know it affects how I view myself, what makes me tick, what makes me happy, how I interact with stressful or exciting or emotional times. I think it does NOT affect the romantic/physical part of my relationship aside from calling EW Daddy (it has more to do with the comfort and care and openness... rather than ageplay dynamics) ... in that part of my life I'm first and foremost submissive.I'm first and foremost *name*, and this is what we like. We've spent a lot of time in the beginning discussing it, and we may revisit it in the future... it's one of the things I struggled with because I didnt really identify deeply with being a little or middle (it took some really emotional serious moments for me to say OH.... hai there) so I was deeply concerned that I wasnt giving him something he needed.
I'm still on some level concerned about this.

Great questions,Cas <3
 
Blurt:

Something that seems to be a common theme among a lot of the DD/lg crowd out there on the web is this idea that DDs ought to be responsible for the emotional stability of their lgs. There seems to be almost a sense of pride from the lgs in being super needy. :confused: i don't know whether that's done for effect, or if they're overcompensating for feeling guilty about being needy (that i can relate to - the guilt), or something else, but it seems to me an unhelpful example to follow.

I'm pretty needy and to be honest, it doesn't feel good! It also doesn't feel good to think that the solution lies in the actions of someone else. BTDT, and all it brought was frustration for me, and burnout for him. :( :rolleyes: Lesson learned.

What i really want to say is that the longer i go without an in-person partner, the more realistic i think my expectations become about what i actually need from him, and i think that is a Very Good Thing. :)

For myself, i need sex, and a certain kind of affection and emotional intimacy that i likely won't want from anyone else. But I've grown to believe that there are other needs that can and should be met - at least in part - by other people. For me, some of those would include companionship, intellectual stimulation, creative expression, emotional/psych therapy, my sense of identity.

Yes, he can and likely will contribute to those things, but he shouldn't be the end-all, be-all. It's a romantic notion that the media has fed us since we were toddlers watching Disney princess movies, but it's unrealistic and unhealthy for everyone involved. What mortal man can carry that kind of load? Its unfair to them, and it robs us of the opportunity to experience the satisfaction of doing things for ourselves.

Yikes! :eek: i was on a soapbox there. :eek:

This is not pointed at any of you.:rose: It's more a rising up in my spirit against untruths that I've been taught and believed for far too many years. They've weighed me down and hindered me from finding my own wings, and i don't want anyone else to go through that if i can help it, because it SUCKS. Okay, I'm done. :eek:.

SPARKLE ON, PEEPS!:cattail:
 
barefootgirl69 said:
I like it, too... but it has a .com on it.

Let's be careful, we don't want the thread to disappear.
Or if the mods will ever return. :rolleyes:
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Sorry! I took it down and will re-post after i edit ;)

Eta: fixed!👍

Tink, can you delete the pic in your post, and re-quote me if you want to? :)
 
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Do you age regress when you are in little/middle space?



Yes. Like Ange, I never recognized it. I don't think anyone really stops to think about it until they are learning about DD/lg and about themselves. If I did, it was probably in a bad way telling myself to "grow up and act my age". It is obvious to others when it happens. But, even as a teenager, I would do a little girl voice when I was being silly (in their eyes). Once I discovered I wasn't crazy and there were many others like me, I tried to avoid putting an age on it. It just felt weird for so long. But, I know that age I feel most comfortable, and I don't feel comfortable sharing it. :eek:


How does this thread its way through your life/ your sexuality/ your Dd/lg relationship?

It's certainly a part of my life, because it's a part of me, but it's not a part of my sexuality. *stops to ponder* I think.
For the most part, I'm a submissive, a woman, in those instances. I still feel his power and control, but I don't think of myself as anything but a woman even when I call him Daddy. It has its place in our relationship, but we are also friends and so, it's not every part. Lately there's a shift in our relationship that's necessary at this point, I can't be as needy or little because I'm being there for him and his needs. But, that's what relationships are all about, right?

:rose:
 
Wild_Honey_66 said:
Blurt:

Something that seems to be a common theme among a lot of the DD/lg crowd out there on the web is this idea that DDs ought to be responsible for the emotional stability of their lgs. There seems to be almost a sense of pride from the lgs in being super needy. :confused: i don't know whether that's done for effect, or if they're overcompensating for feeling guilty about being needy (that i can relate to - the guilt), or something else, but it seems to me an unhelpful example to follow.

I'm pretty needy and to be honest, it doesn't feel good! It also doesn't feel good to think that the solution lies in the actions of someone else. BTDT, and all it brought was frustration for me, and burnout for him. :( :rolleyes: Lesson learned.

What i really want to say is that the longer i go without an in-person partner, the more realistic i think my expectations become about what i actually need from him, and i think that is a Very Good Thing. :)

For myself, i need sex, and a certain kind of affection and emotional intimacy that i likely won't want from anyone else. But I've grown to believe that there are other needs that can and should be met - at least in part - by other people. For me, some of those would include companionship, intellectual stimulation, creative expression, emotional/psych therapy, my sense of identity.

Yes, he can and likely will contribute to those things, but he shouldn't be the end-all, be-all. It's a romantic notion that the media has fed us since we were toddlers watching Disney princess movies, but it's unrealistic and unhealthy for everyone involved. What mortal man can carry that kind of load? Its unfair to them, and it robs us of the opportunity to experience the satisfaction of doing things for ourselves.

Yikes! :eek: i was on a soapbox there. :eek:

This is not pointed at any of you.:rose: It's more a rising up in my spirit against untruths that I've been taught and believed for far too many years. They've weighed me down and hindered me from finding my own wings, and i don't want anyone else to go through that if i can help it, because it SUCKS. Okay, I'm done. :eek:.

SPARKLE ON, PEEPS!:cattail:
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:heart:
 
barefootgirl69 said:
I can only do this one at a time, so I'll start with the first.

I feel little A LOT of the time. When I have to be "adult", it's no problem...but there are times I feel like I have to push little me down and sit on her while taking care of adult things.

Being little was much easier when my children were younger or when I was babysitting. I think this is why I was in charge of the nursery during Sunday School or had the younger children's classes. :eek: Cause... "you just have a way with that age group". 😂

Time for Daddy to call!
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I wasn't going to say anything, but :D
 
cascadiabound said:
Thank you Lilo :rose:
For sharing so much and providing some new resources here for people to think about.

This might be a good topic for others to chime in on?

For the board in general:
Do you feel your little/middke self all the time or just sometimes?
Do you age regress when you are in little/middle space?
How does this thread its way through your life/ your sexuality/ your Dd/lg relationship?

Are those the right questions? If not....just say what you want yo say. :heart:
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As most of you l know I never expected to find myself here on this board let alone this thread, but here I am, something drew me, and so the questions really had me thinking over the last couple of days and I'm going to try and put my thoughts down.

Do you feel your little/middle self all the time or just sometimes?
Sometimes. I can adult when I need to but it doesn't take long for little me to show up (if I'm comfortable) Right from a young age I always had something I loved It started with Basil Brush, then The Wombles, Ernie & Bert, Paddington Bear, Smurfs Elmo Mickey Mouse you name it I loved it! I have always viewed myself as a bit of a 'Big kid' Now I mostly get Little with my PYL, most days. But today I went to see Christopher Robin with a friend and discovered Little Me out in force My heart just melted at Pooh:heart::heart::heart:

Do you age regress when you are in little/middle space?
I guess a bit. I need hugs, need to feel that virtual touch (and I know it sounds weird but I actually do....can't really explain it) when he kisses the top of my head or hugs me tight I just melt.

How does this thread its way through your life/ your sexuality/ your Dd/lg relationship?
Despite what I just put in the previous question, when we are 'together' there is no little. For me they are adult activities and any form of little in there would be wrong. But in our relationship in general it is there in his expectations and endearments, his encouragement and humour. He knows it is my happy place with him and never fails to address that frequently every day

Does any of that make sense?
 
Bfg: thank you for sharing. I think that the second paragraph was very accurate as well. Relationship as people first, dynamic second.

I think today we had a really hard moment. In the middle of really good. I think a lot of the time if I'm discussing things past I am right back where I was in the circumstance . I'm understanding this as I write. So as time goes, things don't dull for me. When discussing hard/ angersome thing from 9.... I was right back where I was. I think it fits some rare emotions too. When I feel vulnerable or abandoned I go right back to the age I felt that. That might be a thing for me. This would also explain my middle. ** waves Daddy down** this requires essay.

Ok. So side topic.... dance and music speak to me deeply I dunno if anyone else too. But for the last three days I'm deeply moved by this dance ( the song not 100% fitting, but the DANCE as a metaphor for this dynamic and much of D/s
https://youtu.be/3DQRULMZD1M
 
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