Daddy's Little Girl: Second Edition

[LostGirlTink]

It will be the face I get right before he says, you wanna say that again, little girl?

That made me grin again.

 

[PuckIt]

I have a few rules for my own self. Based on a book called The Four Agreements.

1. Always do your best
2. Never make assumptions
3. Be honest
4. Don't take things personally, because usually, it's never really about you. We like to make shit about us because that's human nature. But we're all generally speaking from our own point of view, about our own experiences. When something is truly about you, if you've done 1-3, you're good. No running away needed.

I guess I have a fifth rule - take some time to reflect on words and actions. Don't post in anger.

I'm having this conversation with someone now. How true friends get through the confusion or the misunderstandings by talking things through. Asking questions. Clarifying points. Trying to see the other side, and if I can't, at least saying I value our friendship but I don't get you right now.

I dunno.

Off to think about rules. And glitter.

****stands to applaud****

Dude.
He’s a DOM.

Yeah... I’ll get right on that.
“Tink says you should come back...”

***collapses back into chair RL cackling***

 

[AlwaysFara]

That made me grin again.

Yeah. He’s a hot sexy sick fuck.

 

[barefootgirl69]

‘cause you’ve actually heard us interact?

Yeah.

 

[DarkSimian]

Yeah.

Fancy running into you here

 

[DarkSimian]

https://image.ibb.co/hJbRCe/20180822_125520.png​

Number seven.

I'm tired of drowning my partners!

It doesnt feel healthy, and neither of us enjoys it.

I want balance. And enough space for everyone to feel good and happy about the relationship.

But... how?

I hope she meant this metaphorically, and not literally; if not, this would make a good episode on ID

 

[lillianaZ]

I am not a little!

Uhmmmm…so I’ve totally derailed the thread but…Yeah, this was on my mind tonight.
Oh, and hugs. Yes, absolutely hugs mean different things and you can tell a lot from a hug! Hugs are essential to life, I think. IMHO.
Now I’ll shut up, stop writing a bloody novel, and go back to my usual random posting.
(love you all!)

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

.....

 

[cascadiabound]

I am not a little!

~ snip ~

Uhmmmm…so I’ve totally derailed the thread but…Yeah, this was on my mind tonight.
Oh, and hugs. Yes, absolutely hugs mean different things and you can tell a lot from a hug! I go to yoga because there are hugs. If it wasn’t for yoga class, nobody would physically touch me. Hugs are essential to life, I think. IMHO.
Now I’ll shut up, stop writing a bloody novel, and go back to my usual random posting.
(love you all!)
Lilli

Lilli!
I love that you shared all this. It is wonderful and heartwrenchingly beautiful and words do not do it justice. Just... thank you. And no apologies for posting. This is gold.

 

[ExiledWelshman]

So when I started writing this I was listening to Metallica. Not a good idea. Changed it to Fleet Foxes. Made a difference.

Because I was gonna go angry and now just not bothering because really, what's the point?

It's the internet. Everyone has a voice and we can't like all of them.

Don't post angry. Don't reply angry. Maybe that's the point.

 

[Angedesoleil]

He should come back. Tell him I said so.

I'll post for seconding THIS.

Guys I was not commenting on or hurt by anything contrary to the point of rules. Have tgen done have them AWESOME.
I really didn't flip about that. I tried to explain what **specifically** hurt me and why. I even in the first post acknowledged that it was likely not aimed, but if something hurts me I have to communicate that. If it's unfair for me to do so then its an unsafe place for me to be.

EW and Puck are both working pretty hard to make me look at if this is my Aspergers or my self talking . My aspergers is part of me. There you go. So if it is not how other people take it, it's how **i** take it. If you're gonna be my friend and I'm gonna be yours then call it a trigger. Dismissing me is a big darn deal. It's something I watch for. It's something I take care not to do. I don't use words ( I me I) do not use words like **just** because they are dismissive.
I waved a white flag as not offensively as possible to say hey this is hurting me. Ew and I have a thing I taught him... pause... if you know how I met your mother... pause unpause. ... I was trying to say waaaiittttt pause please... that hurt.
I'm sorry BFG took it as hypocrisy, I really am. I don't know how to resolve tgat. I have to be safe to say *thing hurt me* if I can't then I can't be in that place.
I'm truly not at all bothered by anything other than what I specifically said hurt me, for the reason I said it hurt me, and I've got no other way to handle this.

I love and appreciate every single person here. You matter. But I can't keep adding stress to EWs life. I can't. He doesn't need that. This is me talking not him. I'm not running away. I'm not picking up my toys. I'm saying that if I can't communicate in a way that others can understand and accept without causing added drama and stress to daddy tgen I'm grounding me till I can. I thought I had.

 

[ariel58]

This is gold.

Just like Lilli herself.

 

[RustyIron]

Hi, Wolfie! Let me rub your belly and you can tell me what you're doing this week.

•••

Good morning, everyone! I hope you're having a great day so far.

*awe rolls over for a belly scratch*

Ah just been behaving myself, we are going thru a restructure at work at present that has caused some upsets across the organisation. . Fun, Not Fun, no, no, no.
Come on lit, talk to some friends and put my head in another space, and escape the occupation procrastination.
Trying to keep cool calm and collected, mmeh well at least on the outside

How you been, worried about something? I hope all is well, massive (((((((hugs))))))).

 

[LostGirlTink]

I am not a little!
*stamps foot, clutches my stuffie to my chest and sticks out bottom lip*
In fact, I may not even be a sub…technically.
Actually, factually, I don’t like labels. I don’t really see any reason to use them to define myself.
But I have a Person.
Daddy doesn’t really fit for me, even if that is what he is.
He’s not my Dom. Although I (sometimes) let him be.
He is my Person. He gets to see all of me. All of my insecurities, all of my fears, all of my ‘litteness.’
All of my everything and all of my world. I’ve held nothing back.
*snip*
When I ask his advice, it’s because I really want to know what he thinks. If he offers his opinion, I’m going to consider it carefully. I may not agree, but I will listen and consider it. I will listen if it makes sense to me. If it doesn’t make sense, I’ll ask for clarification.

Uhmmmm…so I’ve totally derailed the thread but…Yeah, this was on my mind tonight.
Oh, and hugs. Yes, absolutely hugs mean different things and you can tell a lot from a hug! I go to yoga because there are hugs. If it wasn’t for yoga class, nobody would physically touch me. Hugs are essential to life, I think. IMHO.
Now I’ll shut up, stop writing a bloody novel, and go back to my usual random posting.
(love you all!)
Lilli

Clipped for length. Did you? Did you derail the thread or did you put so much of what I can never figure out how to say into words? I think that one.
Massage works for human touch too by the way.
I don’t get hugs either.

Lilli!
I love that you shared all this. It is wonderful and heartwrenchingly beautiful and words do not do it justice. Just... thank you. And no apologies for posting. This is gold.

It’s sparkly

So when I started writing this I was listening to Metallica. Not a good idea. Changed it to Fleet Foxes. Made a difference.

Because I was gonna go angry and now just not bothering because really, what's the point?

It's the internet. Everyone has a voice and we can't like all of them

Don't post angry. Don't reply angry. Maybe that's the point.

Except I don’t know about this. Sometimes disagreements are uncomfortable, sometimes feelings get hurt and sometimes it needs to come out so that it can be seen, examined and dealt with.

I'll post for seconding THIS.

I love and appreciate every single person here. You matter. But I can't keep adding stress to EWs life. I can't. He doesn't need that. This is me talking not him. I'm not running away. I'm not picking up my toys. I'm saying that if I can't communicate in a way that others can understand and accept without causing added drama and stress to daddy tgen I'm grounding me till I can. I thought I had.

I’ve grounded myself too. It’s ok to do that as well.
You know you. It’s oknif things hit you one way.... you learn to handle it your way. Sometimes it takes time.


Also can it be a thing that you all tell your Doms that “Tink said so” and we just make that a valid reason why for everything? *giggles*
No?
Damn it was worth a try

 

[lillianaZ]

Also can it be a thing that you all tell your Doms that “Tink said so” and we just make that a valid reason why for everything? *giggles*
No?
Damn it was worth a try

Seems legit to me.

 

[LostGirlTink]

Seems legit to me.

I certainly thought so.

 

[DarkSimian]

*wanders in, wanders back out*

 

[SubTulip]

......

 

[LostGirlTink]

Agreed, Cos you and your sparkle are too cute.

I can't wait to hear how this works out...

 

[lillianaZ]

I can't wait to hear how this works out...

How's it working out for you?

 

[tolyk]

How's it working out for you?

I'm working out just fine for her thanks for asking

But I'm not a Dom either.

 

[Moochienanu]

*wanders in, wanders back out*

*does same, but steals a hot chocolate to drink in bed before ducking out*

 

[SubTulip]

......

 

[Angedesoleil]

Question - does anyone else ever worry, ponder that they could do more for their Daddy?

Cos they do a lot for you and you think do you do enough for them?

Just wondered if this was just me or if anyone else has this sometimes.

Constantly. Especially days like yesterday and today.
It's pretty typical for me to sit and consciously try to think of what I can do to make him happier or make his life better. I plot gifts a lot. Surprises. But sometimes like... 5 minutes ago... I ask him directly what is something I can do to make him happy.

Yes. A lot.

 

[formertroll]

thank you all for your posts and pm conversations to help me figure myself out. I'm clearly not cut out for ddlg, i just needed help talking things out, learning more, and being asked hard questions. Thank you litsters.