Daddy's Little Girl: Second Edition

[Angedesoleil]

Last year I had a Daddy - a good friend who wasn't a Dom, but functioned very nicely as a Daddy.

I learned that I do best with routine and principles and a little accountability, and the freedom to ask for more involvement from him when I'm struggling. Rules? Eh, not so much. They make me feel stifled and very anxious.

We did have a few, though, which were created on an as-needed basis:

1. Take your pills!

2. I was not allowed to play in public without Daddy's consent and presence. I asked for this rule to be made, because i didn't have a lot of self-control in this area. I'm not an exhibitionist, but i am a pleaser, and I sometimes found myself in uncomfortable situations because I didn't know how to say, 'No.' I didnt feel like i could say no on my own authority, so the rule gave me a tool I could use to protect myself while I learned to become more independent and courageous.

3. It's always okay to cum. . Most of our rules were more about giving me permission to do things that I felt guilty or hesitant about.

I'm sure there were others, but that's all that comes to mind.

We didn't do punishment, Daddy said I was hard enough on myself without having to be punished.

The absolute irony that this is the last post I'll read here and it was incredibly helpful.

Thank you honey. I appreciate that. I can relate to the sentiment.
Tink, Lilli, puck, tulip, Cas, cookie and anyone else I do hope I'll see you round. I'm so grateful for all of your help. Truly.

 

[cascadiabound]

I told you politely how your post hurt me and why. I made a suggestion as to how it might not come across as pointed at me in future. I'm sorry you took that as hypocritical. I apologised before about taking things too personally before but in the end you said you understood. I'm sorry you don't like me or the way I conduct myself. This is your thread so I think it's better if I remove myself from it. I wish you the best. I'm grateful for all of the support I had received from you and everyone Here.

Bless. Sincerely. I hope when you need help and advice you find it.

Ange... I really hope you do not leave this thread. This is OUR thread... all of the littles (and Daddy's too). bfg may have started this thread and helps to moderate and keep it going, but I do not think she would claim it as "her" thread.

I know I and many others wish you the best and are grateful for your voice here as you sort stuff out.

Bless and Peace all around.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Ange... I really hope you do not leave this thread. This is OUR thread... all of the littles (and Daddy's too). bfg may have started this thread and helps to moderate and keep it going, but I do not think she would claim it as "her" thread.

I know I and many others wish you the best and are grateful for your voice here as you sort stuff out.

Bless and Peace all around.

You're right, cb. It's an 'our' thing. It was started long ago by/for INeedLove. Remember when it got deleted? I think we lost many good conversations and insight from that thread.

 

[cascadiabound]

You're right, cb. It's an 'our' thing. It was started long ago by/for INeedLove. Remember when it got deleted? I think we lost many good conversations and insight from that thread.

I remember that like it was yesterday almost. Indeed, the original DD/lg thread was started by INeedLove. There were so many posts that were lost when that thread was deleted it broke my heart.... and I recall that you and I discussed which of us should start the new one and what the OP should say to keep it from ever getting deleted again.

no one OWNS this thread. It is a place on the PG for people to discuss DD/lg stuff, to post images related to DD/lg stuff, to ask questions, to get help and to hopefully have a safe place to figure out some complex feelings.

None of us are perfect. Text and on line can be misread and we make mistakes in what we say and how we read and respond.

Grace.
Hugs.
Care.

*throws extra glitter all over the place*

quietly closes the door and hopes by the time I come back all of the dust will have settled.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I remember that like it was yesterday almost. Indeed, the original DD/lg thread was started by INeedLove. There were so many posts that were lost when that thread was deleted it broke my heart.... and I recall that you and I discussed which of us should start the new one and what the OP should say to keep it from ever getting deleted again.

no one OWNS this thread. It is a place on the PG for people to discuss DD/lg stuff, to post images related to DD/lg stuff, to ask questions, to get help and to hopefully have a safe place to figure out some complex feelings.

None of us are perfect. Text and on line can be misread and we make mistakes in what we say and how we read and respond.

Grace.
Hugs.
Care.

*throws extra glitter all over the place*

quietly closes the door and hopes by the time I come back all of the dust will have settled.

Exactly!

Yes, ma'am...

•••

Sorry everyone for having a short fuse this week. I'm worried, so very worried, about something I haven't shared except with one person (and Him, of course). It's going to be a long week, and I'll try to refrain from exploding.

*curtsies*

 

[AlwaysFara]

May I?

We've just had a seriously intense few days. For a number of reasons. So there's no harm done here.

All cool?

Yeah?

Anyone need a cup of tea? I may even has some biscuits.

Ffs. Cookies.

Right ... but... can I ask please not to be used as a cautionary tale? Can you see how it would hurt? Yes, we all need a safe place to agree or agree to disagree.... but when the context is a question I asked... I'd prefer not to be used as a warning to lurkers. It might hurt less if it was broken into a secondary topic like address my question.
Then say : I think that it brings up the concept for me of what I discuss before entering a relationship. Then it's about YOU not about US


Word to the wise... I'm a bit protective. Someone even looks at him or us sideways and I will react. I'm working on it. It's not necessarily positive... I admit my faults. But that's part of who I am. So you just hit salt on a sore spot. Someone likes to goad me about this and I'm sorry I took it badly. Honestly it's just me being protective.

No one was talking about you 2, as far as I know.
I talk about MY relationships. And even those can get pretty fucked up.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Hurt feelings happen. Ask me how I know.

Mend quickly, Ange. You belong here, with us.

 

[AlwaysFara]

And I just read through this all.

So, now you are both leaving. When people you claim are your friends stress again and again they are NOT referring to you.

Look. I’m happy for you both. I love you, Ange, and EW, I don’t know you as well, but you have always been kind.

I’m here for ME. I’m talking about MY relationship. My shit. How my shit MAY affect others.

I don’t hold others up as an example. Not my game.
No one I know here does that.

This is a safe thread, as far as I can see.

So, please rethink this before you flounce.

 

[LostGirlTink]

I never posted in the original thread but what only a couple people know is that that was the thread that brought me to lit.
Someone asked me to read it so I did. The whole entire thread.
Twice.
And when I came back months later it was gone. I wanted to read it again because it had explanations for things I can’t put into words and things that made me think and a whole lot of wonderful discussion.
I’m sorry it’s gone

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

And EW definitely belongs here with us! Cos, cookies!

Okay, kidding. But it's been great to have another male voice to be counterpoint to all of the females here.

 

[tolyk]

And EW definitely belongs here with us! Cos, cookies!

Okay, kidding. But it's been great to have another male voice to be counterpoint to all of the females here.

Should I contribute more? I'm like Tink, I don't go by the label at all, I just have traits

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Should I contribute more? I'm like Tink, I don't go by the label at all, I just have traits

Yes. Yes you should.

Fuck the labels. If you have something to say, say it.

 

[cascadiabound]

I never posted in the original thread but what only a couple people know is that that was the thread that brought me to lit.
Someone asked me to read it so I did. The whole entire thread.
Twice.
And when I came back months later it was gone. I wanted to read it again because it had explanations for things I can’t put into words and things that made me think and a whole lot of wonderful discussion.
I’m sorry it’s gone

Tink... it gives me something like tingles to know that original thread is part of what brought you to Lit. Helps me feel like what we do and say here matters.
We never know who or how we are going to effect people who are reading and lurking out in the ether.

And I just read through this all.

So, now you are both leaving. When people you claim are your friends stress again and again they are NOT referring to you.

Look. I’m happy for you both. I love you, Ange, and EW, I don’t know you as well, but you have always been kind.

I’m here for ME. I’m talking about MY relationship. My shit. How my shit MAY affect others.

I don’t hold others up as an example. Not my game.
No one I know here does that.

This is a safe thread, as far as I can see.

So, please rethink this before you flounce.

Exactly this. I try to talk about me, and occasionally generalize broadly my from observations. It has always been really important to me that this thread be as safe as possible.

Should I contribute more? I'm like Tink, I don't go by the label at all, I just have traits

Lots of us are unclear about where we fit on the spectrum and the labels are uneasy... feel free to post as you wish. If you have something to say - no doubt it will be valuable!

Yes. Yes you should.

Fuck the labels. If you have something to say, say it.

THIS! fuck the damn labels.

*throws more glitter*

*sets up a blanket fort in case anyone wants to hide out*
https://78.media.tumblr.com/d6e4081daaa0e625e623a510b3e72ad2/tumblr_pdv9pqR2Ed1ukd09x_540.png

 

[LostGirlTink]

Should I contribute more? I'm like Tink, I don't go by the label at all, I just have traits

I love that you are reading and I know it helps you understand me more and labels aren't important to me... I think you have a lot to offer the thread. (And I'm not just saying that because I kinda sorta like you you know)

Tink... it gives me something like tingles to know that original thread is part of what brought you to Lit. Helps me feel like what we do and say here matters.
We never know who or how we are going to effect people who are reading and lurking out in the ether.

I don't talk about that very often, I came to lit to learn more about me. I've found some awesome knowledge, friends and so much more here too.

Exactly this. I try to talk about me, and occasionally generalize broadly my from observations. It has always been really important to me that this thread be as safe as possible.



Lots of us are unclear about where we fit on the spectrum and the labels are uneasy... feel free to post as you wish. If you have something to say - no doubt it will be valuable!



THIS! fuck the damn labels.

*throws more glitter*

*sets up a blanket fort in case anyone wants to hide out*
https://78.media.tumblr.com/d6e4081daaa0e625e623a510b3e72ad2/tumblr_pdv9pqR2Ed1ukd09x_540.png

In for glitter and forts. Always.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I wish Necro was still on Lit.
He has a good take on all of this.

 

[cookiecat]

I have a few rules for my own self. Based on a book called The Four Agreements.

1. Always do your best
2. Never make assumptions
3. Be honest
4. Don't take things personally, because usually, it's never really about you. We like to make shit about us because that's human nature. But we're all generally speaking from our own point of view, about our own experiences. When something is truly about you, if you've done 1-3, you're good. No running away needed.

I guess I have a fifth rule - take some time to reflect on words and actions. Don't post in anger.

I'm having this conversation with someone now. How true friends get through the confusion or the misunderstandings by talking things through. Asking questions. Clarifying points. Trying to see the other side, and if I can't, at least saying I value our friendship but I don't get you right now.

I dunno.

Off to think about rules. And glitter.

 

[LostGirlTink]

I wish Necro was still on Lit.
He has a good take on all of this.

He should come back. Tell him I said so.

 

[tolyk]

I love that you are reading and I know it helps you understand me more and labels aren't important to me... I think you have a lot to offer the thread. (And I'm not just saying that because I kinda sorta like you you know)



In for glitter and forts. Always.

I enjoy reading your thoughts, on everything. I like being able to take care of you, even from this distance. I like being your forge. In short, I kinda sorta possibly love you.

 

[cookiecat]

I wish Necro was still on Lit.
He has a good take on all of this.

 

[AlwaysFara]

He should come back. Tell him I said so.

Dude.
He’s a DOM.

Yeah... I’ll get right on that.
“Tink says you should come back...”

 

[LostGirlTink]

I enjoy reading your thoughts, on everything. I like being able to take care of you, even from this distance. I like being your forge. In short, I kinda sorta possibly love you.

Um. Words.

Dude.
He’s a DOM.

Yeah... I’ll get right on that.
“Tink says you should come back...”

I giggled.
A lot.
Tell me how it goes...and take a picture of his face. LOL

 

[AlwaysFara]

Um. Words.


I giggled.
A lot.
Tell me how it goes...and take a picture of his face. LOL

It will be the face I get right before he says, you wanna say that again, little girl?

 

[lillianaZ]

I wish Necro was still on Lit.
He has a good take on all of this.

I wish he would come back just to say something about this too. His voice and logical reasoning are needed in times like this.
The original thread was one of the first that I read here too. It was one of the reasons that I finally felt safe enough to come out of hiding.

*but I'm not a little and maybe not even a sub...so what do I know?

 

[barefootgirl69]

I have a few rules for my own self. Based on a book called The Four Agreements.

1. Always do your best
2. Never make assumptions
3. Be honest
4. Don't take things personally, because usually, it's never really about you. We like to make shit about us because that's human nature. But we're all generally speaking from our own point of view, about our own experiences. When something is truly about you, if you've done 1-3, you're good. No running away needed.

I guess I have a fifth rule - take some time to reflect on words and actions. Don't post in anger.

I'm having this conversation with someone now. How true friends get through the confusion or the misunderstandings by talking things through. Asking questions. Clarifying points. Trying to see the other side, and if I can't, at least saying I value our friendship but I don't get you right now.

I dunno.

Off to think about rules. And glitter.

Good wisdom here, Cookie.

It will be the face I get right before he says, you wanna say that again, little girl?

Why can I imagine this?

 

[AlwaysFara]

Why can I imagine this?

‘cause you’ve actually heard us interact?