When do you think is the point where a virgin should give up and just pay for it?

[Ladyrookie123]

30 years old, still a virgin, girlfriend-less for 5 years, no friends, Afraid of girls,no car, I only work, go to the gym, and play with my dog. Yet I still have strong long repressed sexual urges but I have no idea how to satisfy them.....I'm currently thinking of paying for a hooker or escort but I have no idea how much those costs, I'm very well that this method is more likely to mess me up further but I have to do something soon otherwise I feel these desires will just become much worse....

 

[Debbie]

30 years old, still a virgin, girlfriend-less for 5 years, no friends, Afraid of girls,no car, I only work, go to the gym, and play with my dog. Yet I still have strong long repressed sexual urges but I have no idea how to satisfy them.....I'm currently thinking of paying for a hooker or escort but I have no idea how much those costs, I'm very well that this method is more likely to mess me up further but I have to do something soon otherwise I feel these desires will just become much worse....

Take the dog to the dog park. Chick magnet. The dog I mean.

Or an advert in the local paper.

(Well behaved dog, mixed breed looking for fellow canines to go on long walks, swim, play catch and snooze in the sunshine. Don't forget to bring your Mistress/female owner to come with to meet my Master. )

 

[Ladyrookie123]

My dog is old and probably on its way out soon...

 

[pollynova]

Let's say you paid for sex, then what? What about your life would change?

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

Oh joy...



Another smoot alt.

 

[Liar]

Ah, one of those threads.

Get a hobby that involves other people.

 

[HisArpy]

My dog is old and probably on its way out soon...

Puppies are even better chick magnets. Kittens are unbeatable though so you might want to switch teams.

As for the original problem I honestly do not understand why people have trouble with this sort of thing.

You are looking. So are THEY. There's someone for everyone out there, so why do people have such a problem getting together? I think it's because you are (to quote the song) looking for love in all the wrong places. And the image you are chasing is wrong too.

Go somewhere where there are people of the attractive sex. See what they are doing. Then start doing that. Engage those around you in conversation. HELP each other. Be friends. Start hanging out, going places together. Eventually have a relationship begin. Go on with life together.

It's not that difficult. Millions of people around the world have done it. So can you.

 

[Hard_Rom]

150-250 and hour from Backpages. Condom required and supplied. It's called the GFE, girlfriend experience. Best of luck.

 

[thør]

Have you tried e-bay to get rid of your virginity?

Or the free ads?

 

[Boxlicker101]

Puppies are even better chick magnets. Kittens are unbeatable though so you might want to switch teams.

As for the original problem I honestly do not understand why people have trouble with this sort of thing.

You are looking. So are THEY. There's someone for everyone out there, so why do people have such a problem getting together? I think it's because you are (to quote the song) looking for love in all the wrong places. And the image you are chasing is wrong too.

Go somewhere where there are people of the attractive sex. See what they are doing. Then start doing that. Engage those around you in conversation. HELP each other. Be friends. Start hanging out, going places together. Eventually have a relationship begin. Go on with life together.

It's not that difficult. Millions of people around the world have done it. So can you.

It's not that easy, either, especially for a man who is very shy, as the originator of the thread apparently is. Some women are looking, but some are not, and have no interest in establishing a relationship, except with a rock star. Other women just sit back and wait for men to come to them. For immediate gratification, I see nothing wrong with patronizing a prostitute, although there are risks, legal and other, involved.

For a long range solution, I would recommend a dating service or personal ads in a local newspaper. The women you will meet this way will also be looking and unable to coyly deny it. There is some risk involved, and you might run into gold-diggers, but I believe the possible benefits are worth it.

I met my wife through a personal ad in a newspaper. We were married a year later and will soon be celebrating our 22nd anniversary.

 

[Lancecastor]

30 years old, still a virgin, girlfriend-less for 5 years, no friends, Afraid of girls,no car, I only work, go to the gym, and play with my dog. Yet I still have strong long repressed sexual urges but I have no idea how to satisfy them.....I'm currently thinking of paying for a hooker or escort but I have no idea how much those costs, I'm very well that this method is more likely to mess me up further but I have to do something soon otherwise I feel these desires will just become much worse....

Hello and welcome to Lit.

I read your LitProfile and it seems to me you'd be a good match for lovestoread, a regular here on the General Board...your Interests are well matched.

Check her out; you'll see what I mean.

 

[chillywilly2]

150-250 and hour from Backpages. Condom required and supplied. It's called the GFE, girlfriend experience. Best of luck.

Is it worth it?

 

[Ladyrookie123]

Let's say you paid for sex, then what? What about your life would change?

Hopefully the fact that I don't feel severely sexually frustrated or depressed at night due to my never having experience an orgasm from another person. I wanna get rid of those feelings at least.

 

[Ladyrookie123]

Puppies are even better chick magnets. Kittens are unbeatable though so you might want to switch teams.

As for the original problem I honestly do not understand why people have trouble with this sort of thing.

You are looking. So are THEY. There's someone for everyone out there, so why do people have such a problem getting together? I think it's because you are (to quote the song) looking for love in all the wrong places. And the image you are chasing is wrong too.

Go somewhere where there are people of the attractive sex. See what they are doing. Then start doing that. Engage those around you in conversation. HELP each other. Be friends. Start hanging out, going places together. Eventually have a relationship begin. Go on with life together.

It's not that difficult. Millions of people around the world have done it. So can you.

Love? Pfft hell no, I just want a casual sexual relationship, it can be a hook up,fuck buddy or whatever I don't have time for love. Problem is girls are even pickier to who they choose for that and a guy has to figure out a way to convince them and I have no experience with that.

If I was looking for normal relationships I would be down with your method but I'm just looking for sexual relationships....Though having normal friends would be nice too.

 

[Ladyrookie123]

150-250 and hour from Backpages. Condom required and supplied. It's called the GFE, girlfriend experience. Best of luck.

It's still a fake experience none the less.....and I dunno about that price.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Denny

First off your user name is as crappy as ours and we aren't looking for pussy.
Listen to Debbie. Most of the others have worse problems than you do.
And whatever you do stay away from so called escorts and hookers.
Get out. The grocery store, a decent bar, the park, anyplace nice young ladies go.
The laundromat used to be a great place. I don't think there are any left.

Our adopted son in Florida finds all kinds of female losers on line on various sites.

 

[FGB]

Dude!

That stuff is addictive!

One piece and I was ruined for life!

And I don't care... worse than coke!

 

[Queersetti]

I truly love to read about straight people's sexual problems, and yes, I mean that in the most condescending way.

 

[HisArpy]

Love? Pfft hell no, I just want a casual sexual relationship, it can be a hook up,fuck buddy or whatever I don't have time for love. Problem is girls are even pickier to who they choose for that and a guy has to figure out a way to convince them and I have no experience with that.

If I was looking for normal relationships I would be down with your method but I'm just looking for sexual relationships....Though having normal friends would be nice too.

Well, there's your problem. You're 30 and you still haven't figured out how to pick up girls even for a quickie in the alley. Yet you scoff at advice intended to help you avoid that lonely feeling on a Friday night.

Perhaps you should focus on something else. A spartan religious vocation comes to mind.

 

[Boxlicker101]

First off your user name is as crappy as ours and we aren't looking for pussy.
Listen to Debbie. Most of the others have worse problems than you do.
And whatever you do stay away from so called escorts and hookers.
Get out. The grocery store, a decent bar, the park, anyplace nice young ladies go.
The laundromat used to be a great place. I don't think there are any left.

Our adopted son in Florida finds all kinds of female losers on line on various sites.

Unfortunately, LR123 is so shy he characterizes himself as being afraid of girls. There is little benefit to going to most places where women are if he lacks the nerve to approach one, because they will almost never make the first contact. I wouldn't recommend hookers or escorts either, because of the dangers, although they could alleviate one part of the problem.

Your son in FL has the right idea. Contact women online or through similar sources, because the women there are already letting men know they are interested in meeting men, and frequently in casual sex.

Whatever you do, Ladyrookie, good luck. You'll need it.

 

[Noor]

Hopefully the fact that I don't feel severely sexually frustrated or depressed at night due to my never having experience an orgasm from another person. I wanna get rid of those feelings at least.

Sex doesn't really cure depression.

Love? Pfft hell no, I just want a casual sexual relationship, it can be a hook up,fuck buddy or whatever I don't have time for love. Problem is girls are even pickier to who they choose for that and a guy has to figure out a way to convince them and I have no experience with that.

If I was looking for normal relationships I would be down with your method but I'm just looking for sexual relationships....Though having normal friends would be nice too.

The way to convince them is to love women in general and be a very good lover.
Good sex takes time. Women want good sex.

You kind of sound like an entry level employee who expects the key to the board room.

 

[Boxlicker101]

Sex doesn't really cure depression.

The way to convince them is to love women in general and be a very good lover.
Good sex takes time. Women want good sex.

You kind of sound like an entry level employee who expects the key to the board room.

Sex doesn't cure clinical depression, but it is a physical pleasure and can make the participants feel better about themselves and about life in general.

If he were a very good lover, he wouldn't have started this thread. What you are saying is about like saying "The way to become rich is to have a lot of money and other assets." Well, duh.

To me, LR sounds more like a man whom life has passed by, through no fault of his own, and who wants to partly catch up.

 

[Hard_Rom]

It's still a fake experience none the less.....and I dunno about that price.

Gets the virginity monkey off your back.

 

[MNGuy]

30 years old, still a virgin, girlfriend-less for 5 years, no friends, Afraid of girls,no car, I only work, go to the gym, and play with my dog. Yet I still have strong long repressed sexual urges but I have no idea how to satisfy them.....I'm currently thinking of paying for a hooker or escort but I have no idea how much those costs, I'm very well that this method is more likely to mess me up further but I have to do something soon otherwise I feel these desires will just become much worse....

Afraid of girls equals afraid to hire a professional.

 

[Boxlicker101]

Afraid of girls equals afraid to hire a professional.

Nonsense. There's a vast difference between: calling a pro on the telephone, telling her what you want and arranging a time and place and: working up the nerve in a singles bar or similar place to hit on a girl, taking the chance on being shot down in competition with every other guy in the place.