The Isolated Blurt Thread XXXVIII: Suffering Sappho!

[adrina]

I think to a large extent it's generational. We're more or less the first generation to really embrace the net like that. My parents are readers. Mom, 81, stands out because she uses Facebook and email, but she's barely starting to google for info.

I'm a book slut. If it's reasonably done, I'll read it. In your wheelhouse, I really like Mark Kurlansky, Wade Davis...and whoever wrote 1491 and 1493. There's also a whole list of natural science-y stuff I've loved. Any recommendations especially?

Well I discovered the internet in my late 20s/early 30s. I'd have loved to have had in college. Although I have to be honest, I loved the library. Even those stupid microfiche - I spent hours and hours going through those. Haha! I'd have been dangerous in college with access to the net.

My mom - in her early 70s - is a total internet junkie. Well of sorts. Those silly games, facebook - she even has an ipad just for her games. I think the only research she does is check the weather. And maybe not.

I don't have any specific recommendations, but you did it to me again - "in your wheelhouse". Never heard that phrase before. You're racking up my research miles, Mister.

 

[NHKitty]

...and whoever wrote 1491 and 1493. There's also a whole list of natural science-y stuff I've loved. Any recommendations especially?

And yes, I am wearing Star Wars boxers.

 

[Conager]

I'm looking at the contact information for a business. It's pretty cool; it contains seven 7s.

Three in the phone number, two in the street address, and the last two in the zip code.

 

[Emerson40]

Some parents watching their young kids play sports really need to chill out.

The kid is six years old and is supposed to be having some fun out there, learning the mechanics and skills of the game, and some sportsmanship. But mostly fun.

 

[thør]

This potential client looks as good as she sounds.

Yeah, superficial of me.

Like it matters.

 

[Adjudicator]

I'm looking at the contact information for a business. It's pretty cool; it contains seven 7s.

Three in the phone number, two in the street address, and the last two in the zip code.

You are a crazy fucking stalker. Do you get off on this shit?

 

[yossi]

Just cried watching this one.

https://youtu.be/ZKSWXzAnVe0

 

[Conager]

You are a crazy fucking stalker. Do you get off on this shit?

The yellow pages?!??

I prefer the JCPennys catalogue. . .

 

[Peregrinator]

Well I discovered the internet in my late 20s/early 30s. I'd have loved to have had in college. Although I have to be honest, I loved the library. Even those stupid microfiche - I spent hours and hours going through those. Haha! I'd have been dangerous in college with access to the net.

My mom - in her early 70s - is a total internet junkie. Well of sorts. Those silly games, facebook - she even has an ipad just for her games. I think the only research she does is check the weather. And maybe not.

I don't have any specific recommendations, but you did it to me again - "in your wheelhouse". Never heard that phrase before. You're racking up my research miles, Mister.

I did too. I remember how excited I was that there was actually a website devoted to exploring abandoned buildings. We had email in college, and that was fascinating. I could communicate with my brother in Israel for free! Amazing. I was an English major, so it was all books and a typewriter for me.

Mine actually suggested I look something up "on Pinterest" a couple weeks ago. I snorted.

Huh. I thought that was a fairly common expression. I think this post is safe, unless you're naive to Pinterest...

And yes, I am wearing Star Wars boxers.

I'm so glad to see both of those things. Thought of you this afternoon during a trail run.

 

[thør]

RE: Libraries

Some are shutting down and throwing away their collections. It costs too much to sell things or get it to a proper home.

In one of the tech committees I sit on, were were discussing this crime and the fact that a lot of people won't look anywhere but on-line for research. Some stuff just isn't on-line!

 

[NHKitty]

I'm so glad to see both of those things. Thought of you this afternoon during a trail run.

Why? Did you fall flat on your face? I tripped over my own feet Saturday, thought I'd pulled my calf, but all seems OK.

...the fact that a lot of people won't look anywhere but on-line for research. Some stuff just isn't on-line!

^^this is my Mon-Fri^^

 

[thør]

^^this is my Mon-Fri^^

AND, I happen to know that your collection is NOT all on line.

 

[Peregrinator]

Some are shutting down and throwing away their collections. It costs too much to sell things or get it to a proper home.

In one of the tech committees I sit on, were were discussing this crime and the fact that a lot of people won't look anywhere but on-line for research. Some stuff just isn't on-line!

It's horrifying, to think what might be lost. The history, especially. Stuff like old, local newspapers.

Why? Did you fall flat on your face? I tripped over my own feet Saturday, thought I'd pulled my calf, but all seems OK.



^^this is my Mon-Fri^^

Nah, just saw you posting a few days ago and remembered you're not far away and like to run. I'm in shite shape right now.

You ignored me when I said we need to do lunch.

 

[NHKitty]

AND, I happen to know that your collection is NOT all on line.

'Tis true!!!

 

[RobDownSouth]

The yellow pages?!??

I prefer the JCPennys catalogue. . .

Queerbait's descent into mental illness seems to have begun with the JCPenney catalog

 

[NHKitty]

Nah, just saw you posting a few days ago and remembered you're not far away and like to run. I'm in shite shape right now.

You ignored me when I said we need to do lunch.

My shape is still somewhat roundish, but I'm still out getting after it.
And I'm still slower than a herd of turtles through peanut butter.

Lunch, yes....I'm just not sure when, we're booked for most of the summer between trips, parties...I'm a social butterfly after all.
We could fit something in between hiking, biking and the like.

 

[hashtag69]

This hits VERY close to home for me.

Now single I can look at anything I like and more importantly interact with anyone I choose to with not guilt, no remorse.

I grew up HEAVILY repressed.

Porn for me was the JC Penney's catalog. I for example removed some lingerie pages (they were the only part of the catalog that was in black and white..EVEN MR. J.C. Penny's apparently disapproved of my prurient use of them).

My Mother shamed the HELL out of me over it. Made me sit beside her in tears as she went PAGE-by-PAGE through it pointing out why each and every one of them were not to be viewed in an objectifying manner. She DID not wire my dick up to electrodes and deliver an aversion therapy shock with each image, but she might as well have.

I repressed DEEP. I voyeur-ed in secret, and dangerously so.

Flash forward. I get married to, like you, a wonderfully open minded girl. Her mom was a prostitute, she was the LAST one to want to shame me, but she did. Repeatedly.


I found a video while hunting in the desert. A tame "all markets" copy of Debbie Does Dallas. I was embarrassed and excited to find it. Had I not had my hunting buddies with me I would have picked it up, dusted it off and taken it home. Maybe. If so I would have watched it felt guilty as hell and thrown it away. Maybe dug it out of the garbage, watched it again. I am not exaggerating the level of ridiculous angst.

My lovely wife, when I told her about it ASKED me to go back and get it. I did. It was a formative video for her...she saw it at 13. She was upset it was the non-graphic heavily edited version..i thought it was hot as hell to watch especially with a warm supportive wife by my side. Did that experience "fix" me? HELL no. I did a couple of years of expensive therapy in arguably the best sex-addict clinic in one of the largest cities in the US. Did that "fix" me? Somewhat.

Like you my wife had NO problem with porn she was involved with but could NEVER understand me craving for privacy. EVEN knowing the story above. Even when treated at the same clinic as a co-addict..(in hindsight it was all wrong SHE is the sex addict, I am the love addict, but I digress)

At some point about 17 years in, we got honest. BRUTALLY honest. It started because I had a window into a long repressed desire of mine that felt weird, and very unsafe sharing. She snooped (as she always did - nothing like peeping on a peeper, huh?) found something, was incensed, then a light of compassion dawned and we explored a whole 'nother side of me together. It made every angst filled portion of our marriage before and since up to and including her poor choices at the end worth it. THAT 'fixed' me.

My take is when I got healthy I was no longer interesting to snoop on, I was no longer a source for craved drama. She found a thing or two that she manufactured into drama.

She knew I loved lit as a guilty pleasure and I would pledge time and time again to stay away. One day when everything ELSE was going quite well...I felt NO pull to lit to "interview" girls james spader in sex lies and videotape style...I created an ID 'just to check' and to say thank you to a brave person whose thread inspired the place she and I were. Understand- that sort of rationalization is slippery behavior...i likely would have returned on an "unhealthy day" but I hadn't been having any need for secrecy. My wife and I were on our way to being fairly well known in the sex-blogger community. She snooped found the new id and said to me..."Look, I KNOW what that place means to you...I WANT you to go back."

Sensing a trap..(ultimately it was, but she meant it at the time...the same way I ALWAYS meant it at the time when I said I was done with porn)..I hesitated...she explained it like this. "If the first time I 'caught' you you had simply said, 'HEY! I am a GROWN-ASS man and if i want to look at porn I will!" I would have accepted that...it was all the denials and the hiding and the going back after saying you wouldnt that always worried me."

So, to you on behalf of your husband:

"Listen, Bitch! (and I mean that in the most loving, wonderful Sire to his Bitch sorta way) He is a GROWN-ASS man and if he wants to look at porn (and possibly jerk off), it is HIS mind and HIS dick. Be glad he shares it with you and not random girls he meets.

NO ONE faults women inflaming their libidos with prurient TV and romance novels.

I LOVE Dr. Jenn Berman (Even before I knew she is HOT as hell, like hotter than pornstar hot, but I digress)

She says often: "You shouldn't care where he gets his appetite as long as he eats at home."

Think about it. He could pass a billboard (or a HOT girl) on the street, pop wood and come home and give the what-for like you've never had it. If that happens, do you:

a)Want to know the details of how his normal, male, libido worked as god, goddess or nature intended if he came home to you?

b)Do you think he SHOULD feel guilty for his reaction?

My example I realize doesn't involve what you perceive as sneaky duplicity, and he didn't invite the experience.

Ok, fair enough...try this one:

His buddies are celebrating a divorce in their circle and they 'drag' him (not all that unwillingly) to a strip club....he ogles but feels punishingly guilty about it.

He so guilty he worries you might sense something so he is a little distant, trying to forget his shame...

You hate him still?

Sometimes we as humans are on our own private paths...it was WONDERFUL when for whatever reason stars aligned and I was able to walk my weird, definitely less traveled path for a while WITH my (at the time) beautiful, patient, adaptable wife. She ended up taking a fork in the road of her own later, on a fairly common path that NO ONE that 'knew us when' would ever think made sense. She is on her own path now and I wish her well. She was GOOD for me once.

You didn't "FIND" this out, you snooped, you violated your partners privacy. Would you be OK with him going through your diary (if people still kept those) if he had a "hunch" noticed you were "distant" or whatever your spidey sense was telling you?

Don't misunderstand I don't HIS behavior is healthy. Clearly it is not. Notably, he DIDN'T eat at home. Whenever a man or woman's own masturbatory practices leaves them unavailable to their partner it IS a problem...It is HIS problem. Your part in it is to decide how best to take care of your needs up to and including providing a safe environment where he MIGHT be able to say..."Geeze, honey, I fucked up today, I got a little overexcited before I could get home to you and I fired it off a couple of (three-dozen) times and I guess I am "eating" at home tonight if that's OK..."

If he gets progressively worse..(and he may without professional help) you may on your own find that the level of intimacy and frankly the frequency of sex isn't meeting your needs..that's what couples counseling and subsequently divorce are geared to assist with.

You have it all wrong you didn't "REWARD" his bad behavior with sex!!! What is your pussy made of silk and myrrh and only bestowed on the deserving? Never had a one night stand in your wild single days? Did THAT guy deserve it more than your (necessarily) penitent husband? Really?

You BOTH were rewarded by the Gods of relationships for reaching a point of brutal honesty...him more than you..you at least admited (but are not sorry for) the breech of privacy, him for admitting (only when caught) to spanking the monkey to teh kinky pron...

Those Gods bestow their WARMEST blessings on deserving COUPLES with HOT monkey-love sex...BASK in it...

I have had some Blog-worthy sex with some AMAZING creatures the likes of which you wouldn't believe me even if I introduced you to them.

It (so far) has NEVER reached the level of God-like earth-melting fire that those few months I had with my wife when we were at the level you achieved the other night.

He COULD have turtled in...he could have hid in his shame..(I did for years)..instead he admitted that HE was in the wrong here (dumbass!..just kidding that is catnip to chicks) he apologized, and pledged eternal fealty and then fucked the living shit out of you..

well done BOTH of you.

Holy shit.

 

[thør]

It's horrifying, to think what might be lost. The history, especially. Stuff like old, local newspapers.

The school in the town that my mom was raised in had a monthly newspaper from 1934 to 1951. It was a regional paper, not just school BS. No where is the entire collection digitized, but it is on microfiche at a few libraries. It's fascinating to read. In my mind, I can hear my grandpa telling some of the stories that I've read in the paper. It needs to be digitized.

 

[Peregrinator]

My shape is still somewhat roundish, but I'm still out getting after it.
And I'm still slower than a herd of turtles through peanut butter.

Lunch, yes....I'm just not sure when, we're booked for most of the summer between trips, parties...I'm a social butterfly after all.
We could fit something in between hiking, biking and the like.

I'm a few pounds over where I like to be, too, these days. Spent a year or so on the couch getting over some cardiac shit. Better now, but the road to fit is steep.

PM me with scheduling stuff. I'm sort of open a lot, or not in the state.

 

[Peregrinator]

The school in the town that my mom was raised in had a monthly newspaper from 1934 to 1951. It was a regional paper, not just school BS. No where is the entire collection digitized, but it is on microfiche at a few libraries. It's fascinating to read. In my mind, I can hear my grandpa telling some of the stories that I've read in the paper. It needs to be digitized.

That's so cool, and EXACTLY the kind of thing I mean. It's that stuff that creates living history, makes it real.

 

[thør]

That's so cool, and EXACTLY the kind of thing I mean. It's that stuff that creates living history, makes it real.

Some folk wrote up a summary, and included a few things in a book, but they just couldn't get all 125 or so issues into it.

 

[Wings]

Bought my bestie a wine molecule necklace for her birthday. Now I want the whiskey and the coffee molecules.

 

[Peregrinator]

Some folk wrote up a summary, and included a few things in a book, but they just couldn't get all 125 or so issues into it.

You need to get to scanning. Yanno, in your free time.

 

[Peregrinator]

Bought my bestie a wine molecule necklace for her birthday. Now I want the whiskey and the coffee molecules.

I wanna see 'em!

 

[pointless]

ugh. fucking kids. i wanna go to a movie. i don't care about vr bullshit. change your damned minds.