Emotional affair-have you had one and how did it go?

[Funnwater79]

Hey guys and gals,

Just curious if any of you have ever had a emotional affair with anyone before and how it turned out?

Thanks!

 

[BattlingSoul]

Hey guys and gals,

Just curious if any of you have ever had a emotional affair with anyone before and how it turned out?

Thanks!

They can really grab a hold of you and take you further than you probably intended to go...

It's like a drug, you think you control it, but it controls you...

 

[Funnwater79]

Good to know... how long were you in one and how did it end?

 

[BBW_T&A_Lover]

Good to know... how long were you in one and how did it end?

Mine started on her birthday when she read my profile and PMed me, which usually never happens. This was 2015. At the time, we didn't think it would be anything serious. We were both with someone and on opposite ends of the United States.

We figured it would end up casual. Maybe some sexual chat here and there, but we are very much in love. We've talked countless times on the phone, IM and have video chatted with each other since then. We share everything, between sex talk and just normal everyday things.

I'm now single (she broke up with me) and she is close to getting to that stage. She was going to leave her husband before she met me, so I was kind of the "push" she needed.

We're hoping to finally meet in 2017 and take our relationship to the next level "real world" wise.

It really isn't far fetched to meet someone and connect with them deeply on a site like this.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

yes.
It did not end well.
Broke my heart.
His, probably not so much.. Lol.. (fucking prick!! )

 

[Funnwater79]

Good story! Thanks for sharing... mine is similar to that but we dated in the past and both of us are married and in other states... She wants a emotional commitment but I'm trying to see how that would work...

 

[Funnwater79]

yes.
It did not end well.
Broke my heart.
His, probably not so much.. Lol.. (fucking prick!! )

Sorry to hear about that... yes guys are pricks...

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Good story! Thanks for sharing... mine is similar to that but we dated in the past and both of us are married and in other states... She wants a emotional commitment but I'm trying to see how that would work...

um.
I'd tap the breaks on that, buddy..
Good luck.
Slippery slope.
And not in a good way.

 

[Funnwater79]

Thanks for the advice I feel that way also... not a good idea lol

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Thanks for the advice I feel that way also... not a good idea lol

I get lots of flack for my opinion on this..
But.

I really am not trying to squash anyone ...It simply seems like you're on the edge of a lava bank.. And you're actually contemplating sticking your toe in..

Which, if self-matyrdom is really your thing... Go for it.

My opinion though, is it's really not healthy to go into a relationship with eyes wide open to knowledge that it's not going to end well.

And if you're both already in committed relationships, and you're still needing to connect emotionally with another person, then you probably ought to consider pulling the plug on the one before getting involved with another.

If, however, you can keep your heads on straight...It might work.

Probably won't.

But, you are more welcome to try.

 

[Dribble]

They can really grab a hold of you and take you further than you probably intended to go...

It's like a drug, you think you control it, but it controls you...

You know....this really says everything better than i would have.

 

[BBW_T&A_Lover]

Good story! Thanks for sharing... mine is similar to that but we dated in the past and both of us are married and in other states... She wants a emotional commitment but I'm trying to see how that would work...

I wouldn't do the commitment thing right now if it was she who brought it up. You might see a bad side of her if you tell her you were talking innocently to someone else. One guy I knew on here did that and the girl turned psycho. She didn't want him talking to anyone period.

I just happened to luck out when we both wanted to be committed to each other. We can both back out without any problems, but neither of us want to.

 

[txgent101]

Not sure I even know how to have an unemotional affair....

 

[girlyboi85]

Not very well, and I'm still not over it. Doesn't help that I still talk to the person as a friend, I suppose.

 

[BBW_T&A_Lover]

Not very well, and I'm still not over it. Doesn't help that I still talk to the person as a friend, I suppose.

Going back to the friend zone never works out in the end. There is always that glimmer of hope that he/she want to rekindle the relationship.

That happened to me when the girl became guilty for getting too involved with me while her husband was at work or sleeping.

 

[Funnwater79]

Lots of good info thanks everyone!

 

[AmethystQueen]

Yes. Online. It ended on kinda good terms. He got another playmate IRL that was jealous. I thought we were getting a bit too close anyway so he ended it not wanting to hurt her, but I was also wanting to end it.

BattlingSoul said it perfectly...

 

[quietlylooking]

Yes. One in particular, which has morphed into just a small slice of what it was initially. While I miss what it was, I understand (I think) why it had to change, and enjoy what remains.

There have been several others too... Unfortunately, the emotional component is something I naturally crave as it makes the rest much more intense. But it is a very slippery slope.

 

[Funnwater79]

Interesting

 

[lonelyladyfl]

I was in one. We were both married to others when it happened. He still is, won't ever leave his wife. I still talk to him like once a week.
I'm divorced which was a great thing since I was in an abusive marriage.

 

[Interested_Girl]

It's possible. I didn't think it was. But it is. I find the intensity a lot lower from my end though, but still possible.

 

[Funnwater79]

Thank you for sharing Laura

 

[masterslave00]

Good story! Thanks for sharing... mine is similar to that but we dated in the past and both of us are married and in other states... She wants a emotional commitment but I'm trying to see how that would work...

I would ran away from her as fast as possible...

 

[plesmore]

No - if I can't hold and kiss him I don't need it.

 

[Funnwater79]

Thanks plesmore