The Sexuality of Women in Their 40's and 50's

[cookiecat]

My wife is in her early 50's and she's been in this pre-menopausal state for at least the past 10 years. That means sex is the last thing on her mind. When we do have sex, it's straight vanilla. No imagination. No "weird" positions. No blowjobs. No toys. No long drawn out sexual experiences, she wants it done and over with. We've been married forever and I love and cherish her, but damn I'm about to lose my fucking mind!

That menopause fucks around with us and it's horrifying. It's like in my head, I want to be sexual and fun but sometimes my body just won't cooperate.

What I don't get though is how people can tuck away these sexual feelings and read or garden instead. My god. A good fuck can make so many things happier. Even if a fuck is just too much for my hot-flash body to handle, there's a million other things you can do to keep the relationship connected.

 

[Jack94]

That menopause fucks around with us and it's horrifying. It's like in my head, I want to be sexual and fun but sometimes my body just won't cooperate.

What I don't get though is how people can tuck away these sexual feelings and read or garden instead. My god. A good fuck can make so many things happier. Even if a fuck is just too much for my hot-flash body to handle, there's a million other things you can do to keep the relationship connected.

Is it possible to tuck back desire and put it out of your mind? I can't imagine what it must be like for a woman, in the peak of their sexual prime, to suddenly feel completely disrupted from it.

 

[Arianne6947]

I'm over 50 and mine decreased at first but now I want as much cock or pussy I can get, feels great still being thought of as "fuckable" as guy's say

 

[RjThoughts]

That menopause fucks around with us and it's horrifying. It's like in my head, I want to be sexual and fun but sometimes my body just won't cooperate.

What I don't get though is how people can tuck away these sexual feelings and read or garden instead. My god. A good fuck can make so many things happier. Even if a fuck is just too much for my hot-flash body to handle, there's a million other things you can do to keep the relationship connected.

My wife has been going through it for the last 6 years. She has her moments when she's the minx I married 30 years earlier. She has moments when I'm scum - a sign to put on the fan and let her be.

The times we've fucked when she's had a hot flash were interesting: Her orgasms were quick, multiple, and ear-shattering.

 

[cookiecat]

Is it possible to tuck back desire and put it out of your mind? I can't imagine what it must be like for a woman, in the peak of their sexual prime, to suddenly feel completely disrupted from it.

It's a weird feeling. But I try really really hard to keep it forefront Part of the reason I'm wandering around Lit, I guess.

I'm over 50 and mine decreased at first but now I want as much cock or pussy I can get, feels great still being thought of as "fuckable" as guy's say

This is good to know.

 

[Sailchick]

I really love reading this thread. It's nice to know that I'm not the only incredibly horny 47 year old out there. I too have had a sexual awakening over the past year and a half and I am enjoying it fully. Who knows where it might lead and I can't wait to find out.

 

[kingkoll]

i have always wanted to be with an older woman.its such a hot idea

 

[luscious pearl]

As someone who has never been married or had kids and who is also in my early 40's I can say that I deprived myself of sex and relationships because I was duped into believing I needed to find the "One" before I was allowed to be sexual in anyway. I am happy to report that things have definitely changed for the better since my late 30's and sexually, I have never felt better.

Now that I am in my 40's I find my libido growing so I don't believe I could have stayed chaste even if I wanted to. I also know who I am, what I like, and I have explored more now than I ever did in my teens/twenties. I feel more confident oddly. I am also incredibly honest and if something doesn't work, I will tell my partner and not fake it.

I'm really glad for this uptick in libido and sexual exploration that has come along in my later years. I hope it continues to evolve and grow. I am hoping there will be many more years to come of this.

 

[misterb64]

That menopause fucks around with us and it's horrifying. It's like in my head, I want to be sexual and fun but sometimes my body just won't cooperate.

What I don't get though is how people can tuck away these sexual feelings and read or garden instead. My god. A good fuck can make so many things happier. Even if a fuck is just too much for my hot-flash body to handle, there's a million other things you can do to keep the relationship connected.

Thanks for the reply Cookie! I'm sorry it's so rough on you but at least you're wanting to hold on to it and keep the intimacy alive. Big kudos to you!

I don't even know where to begin in talking to my wife about this, or if I even should. I just don't see anything good coming out of the conversation. She'll either cry or get pissed off - either way I lose for being selfish and only thinking about me and not about all she's going through.

Any advice is truly appreciated

 

[runsubmerged1956]

In my 20s and early 30s, I had more fun with women age 40 to early 50's than with any other age group.

 

[cookiecat]

My wife has been going through it for the last 6 years. She has her moments when she's the minx I married 30 years earlier. She has moments when I'm scum - a sign to put on the fan and let her be.

The times we've fucked when she's had a hot flash were interesting: Her orgasms were quick, multiple, and ear-shattering.

LOL @ putting on the fan and letting her be... sorry that includes you being scum

Thanks for the reply Cookie! I'm sorry it's so rough on you but at least you're wanting to hold on to it and keep the intimacy alive. Big kudos to you!

I don't even know where to begin in talking to my wife about this, or if I even should. I just don't see anything good coming out of the conversation. She'll either cry or get pissed off - either way I lose for being selfish and only thinking about me and not about all she's going through.

Any advice is truly appreciated

I'm always a little surprised when one partner thinks it's ok to withhold affection. Sorry you're dealing with this. You sound like a good guy for trying.

 

[gabriel16]

Wonderful thread

As a guy who appreciates women in 40s and 50s, I am glad to see this thread!

G

 

[robbyngraves]

Yes...i am 55 and I am more sexual than when I was in my 20's! I fucled more guys then but I am far more "outgoing" now! I could suck a dick for hours and have my pussy ate for days!!

 

[tallman1133]

I'm over 50 and mine decreased at first but now I want as much cock or pussy I can get, feels great still being thought of as "fuckable" as guy's say

I wish I was with you. I would love you to have as much as you wanted, as long as I got more than my share.

 

[StrongMaster7]

I am happy for the women who develop a sex drive that is in tune with their partner's.


Here is MY OPINION:
For the most part I agree with comedian Larry Miller who once said that the difference between most men's sex drives and most women's sex drives is the difference between shooting a bullet and throwing a bullet.

This is not because women are cold, frigid bitches. It's biology and society, both of which push most women toward desiring a minimum of sex (frequency and variety). And the same biology and society push men toward desiring little besides sex (everything, all the time).

At 56, I have given up on trying to romance my wife into increased frequency or variety. We have sex about 65 times a year. The menu and duration are limited.

I masturbate to internet porn daily and chat online just to remind myself that there are some more sexually interested women. I love my wife and am lucky to have her. But if your wife likes to fuck as much or more than you do, you are blessed beyond riches. Money cannot buy that kind of happiness.

 

[carlsnake]

My wife and I are in our 60's and still have great sex about twice a month. When she was in her 40's, she looked much younger and was really appealing to the younger sales reps who called on her office. They constantly hit on her and successfully felt her tits, ass, and pussy when the office crowd went out drinking. I was the lucky recipient of her horniness when she got home from those outings. They warmed her up, and I got the sex.

 

[abvt75]

I have always wanted to know the 50 plus mature woman, how her mind and body think. In real life, i seem to hit off perfectly with this age group. i have been always curious about exploring my sexuality with them and desires. This id a great thred, but sadly when I reach out to a mature woman I get a reply... you are my sons age or some thing else like i am just few years older than their oldest or same age of their younger sibling!

I wish more ladies would keep an open mind of atleast having an inter raction. the women from
facebook and myspace age are looking for salt and pepper men but mature ladies are yet jot ready to move on with the age gap thing. I wish threads like this will open up their mind to different aspect of sexuality.

Ron

 

[CoralRose13]

I'm 46 and horny as hell. Hubby hasn't been interested in 5 years. I'm not unattractive or super huge. I'm done trying to work it out, figure it out or give a shit. C'est la vie. :caning:

 

[MikeFL513]

I have found in the past couple of years that I'm most attracted to women in their mid to late forties and early fifties.

 

[sexymanlick69]

Older women are amazing in bed and they can take more then younger women i know of that for sure

 

[ibshy2003]

When you reach your 40s you will not be able to keep up with her

 

[GingerFireFly]

I just turned 46. I've always been very sexual and gotten turned on easily, but I've been like a teenage boy the last few months. The littlest thing makes me horny. My pussy is almost constantly wet, and I think about the bodies of everyone I encounter, how they look when they cum, how they like to fuck, how they'd taste. I figure it has to be hormonal.

 

[shescurious11]

My libido has always been high, but when I turned 40 it seemed to kick into overdrive! I'm 44 now and practically insatiable. It may sound like an awesome thing, but being monogamous with a husband who is 47 (and not into sharing) is a little frustrating. We have great sex and he is a little kinky, which is fun, but it's just not nearly often enough.

I cope by using my nightstand drawer full of toys, reading sexy stories, hanging out on tumblr and in a fun chatroom and connecting with other people.

I would like to hear from others, particularly other women, about their experiences with sex in their 40's and 50's. I am 47 and almost a year ago I became a new sexual being. It has grown and grown since then. I am not sure if it's hormonal, the physical relief of my kids getting older and me not being so exhausted all the time, or what.

Usually you hear that women my age have sex drives that are declining, but mine is the opposite. I'd love to hear from other ladies about how your body and mind and libido has changed as you've gotten older.

 

[OneAuthor]

This thread is fantastic.

My wife and I are both 47.

Within the past year, she has had a sexual reawakening that has been truly amazing.

We have done things that she never had any interest in before (including having me lick her to orgasm - something she had always thought would be "too gross" but was finally willing to let me try...and we both loved it).

We had one particular session in which I was fingering her to orgasm and she came five times in less than two minutes. She finally stopped me because it was becoming too much for her. She had never had multiple orgasms before, and was completely shocked that it happened. But she absolutely loved it and of course we've tried to replicate it ever since. Alas, I've only been able to give her as many as two in a row in a few sessions since then.

Anyway, the point of my post is to show another example of a woman's sexuality rising after the age of 40.

 

[Ava_44]

I have to agree with what seems to be the consensus here, my Libido has definitely gone up since turning 40. My husband is away alot and we've discussed outlets, hence why I initially came here, just to explore. I am 45 now, and now only one of the kids still lives at home when they aren't at Uni. It'll hopefully give me a lot more time to explore myself, and I seem to develop more and more different likes and fantasies. Unfortunately, I haven't had the time or opportunity yet to explore them all as some of you have! (All though I have done more than a bit) I can't say I am not looking forward to it! But until all the kids are gone, It'll have to be Lit with some RL exploration, rather than exploration with some Lit xx