Blowjobs during and after sex

[Candy224]

Had a peculiar event happen with my recent partner. We have only slept together a few times but we seem to understand and feel very comfortable with each other. However last night during sex I noticed him becoming soft and he mentioned he may not be able to keep up (we had been going for awhile) so I promptly hopped off and went to go down on him just to try to rectify the situation and he stopped me and exclaimed about how gross that is and how I couldn't go down on him after he had been inside me just as he couldn't go down on me.. I was really taken aback. I never thought of it as an issue. It made me almost uncomfortable just the way it was handled. Is this a normal reaction from most partners? Do people really prefer to not go down on each other unless it is the starting event?

 

[TalkToMeInSB]

Curious if he was in your ass or pussy? His reaction could be expected if he was in your ass. But your pussy? Wow... No, have never had anyone complain about either sucking my cock after fucking her pussy, or going back and forth between her mouth and pussy.

 

[UpwardSpiral]

Had a peculiar event happen with my recent partner. We have only slept together a few times but we seem to understand and feel very comfortable with each other. However last night during sex I noticed him becoming soft and he mentioned he may not be able to keep up (we had been going for awhile) so I promptly hopped off and went to go down on him just to try to rectify the situation and he stopped me and exclaimed about how gross that is and how I couldn't go down on him after he had been inside me just as he couldn't go down on me.. I was really taken aback. I never thought of it as an issue. It made me almost uncomfortable just the way it was handled. Is this a normal reaction from most partners? Do people really prefer to not go down on each other unless it is the starting event?

Yeah that is a really surprising reaction if he had only been in your pussy. Is he like a big germaphobe or something? I suppose if you were super straight and you had an issue with tasting yourself, that's one thing. But that does seem a bit odd that he had an issue with you doing it of your own volition. And if he was also saying that he wouldn't ever be able to go down on you after being inside you, whether he had cum inside you or not?!?!? Uncool.

 

[Mr_Neb]

Of course, everyone has their own personal preferences but for me (us), oral sex all throughout the process is very, VERY enjoyable. To begin with, (again, for us) sex is not just about one sense, touch. We enjoy what it means to all the senses and taste is certainly one of them.

Many times my wife will go down on me for a short time as foreplay. I very gladly return the favor. Many times I'll make her come that way but enter her before her orgasm is finished. (She loves that.)

After she's cooled down a bit, she very much enjoys taking me into her mouth after I have been inside her and she has come. Sometimes she'll bring me to orgasm that way, sometimes not.

I really enjoy going down on her after we've had intercourse. She is so much wetter and tastes divine!

(See the story, "Thursday Fantasy" or "If You Ever Give My Husband a BJ")

 

[Biker_Type]

i'm pretty quick to go down on my OL as a part of sex even after i've been inside her pussy. she however will not put my dick in her mouth after it's been inside unless i've thoroughly washed off. oddly she love it best when i cum inside her and then go down on her until she cums, too.

 

[MellowGem]

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[cosmic_peach]

Is this a normal reaction from most partners? Do people really prefer to not go down on each other unless it is the starting event?

Everyone is different of course but for me oral performed on me during sex (beginning, middle, end; doesn't matter) is de rigueur and I love it. I also utterly adore post coital sucking activity done to me, that is very hot and gets me going again. "Going down" on me after being inside my partner is essential activity.

I would agree with some of the other posters here that performing oral on me after anal activity is a different thing that I also would not be into and would fret a bit about that but probably stay quiet on the matter as to not spoil things.

Most of my two woman fantasies (not realized yet, it is on the list) involve this sort of activity heavily and furthermore would require each woman to not be "grossed out" at me being inside the other woman then her mouth etc. I would be curious how your partner renders his two woman fantasies in his mind given this phobia.

Not sure if this helps, I am just one man with my opinion, every man is different.

 

[hpycpl]

good thing to find out early

sounds like he may have some puritan values

Not that that is bad but more that it is something to be aware of.

If you tend to be more "daring" or " adventuring" it may be an issue

 

[DrHappy]

I’m a guy, and I LOVE giving and receiving oral sex before, during, and after intercourse. There’s nothing gross about it. I love pulling out and 69’ing for a while before resuming. When I pull out, her pussy is wetter than during foreplay (from both her own lubrication and my pre-cum), but that’s an enhancement! In my opinion, the extra mouth feel, tastes, and scents are something not to be missed! Many of us (myself included) also enjoy giving oral sex after we cum in her pussy. This works out well if she still wants more stimulation after my orgasm.

If he's not into that, then he has that right, but I also agree that he probably could have handled the situation better. Maybe talk to him and suggest how it could have been handled better. Let him know how you felt after his comment.

How old is he? If he's young, then maybe he just isn't aware that many people enjoy this aspect of sex. Some men seem to have some irrational paranoia about doing anything that might be construed to be a gay activity. I'm guessing that he he believes that it's alright for him to taste your wetness from your pussy, and it's alright for you to taste his pre-cum from his cock, so there's nothing inherently unsanitary about oral sex after his cock has been in your pussy. Is he paranoid about anyone tasting themselves?

 

[celticmedic]

This is simply awesome. Switching up with oral and regular sex is just great fun!

 

[Lord Pmann]

He has mental problems.

 

[cookiecat]

He has mental problems.

Exactly.

What guy wouldn't want a blow job no matter what???

Do you love everything else about him? That always happens. He's a great guy in every other way but this super important blow job way.

 

[Spicolli]

I've heard of this and I'm not saying this is your case,but the people I know who have been adamant against it was spawned from homophobia. They felt going down there after being inside the woman was like sucking a dick. I don't agree with this but have heard it.

 

[cascadiabound]

I have heard of this too. Though not so much objecting to the woman going down on him, as not being able to see his way clear to oral on the woman after he maybe might have cum inside of her. I have even heard of not being willing to go down on her for as much as a day or two after cumming inside.
Which seems bat shit crazy to me. But whatever.

 

[Hipshot1554]

Dip and lick is great both ways!

 

[box13]

Maybe it's some other experience from another relationship that has him concerned, or feeling turned off, or simply worried about what he might be doing to you...or he's covering the shame of some mild ED. People aren't static, and their emotional and physical needs aren't either. If this is just the first few of encounters, then hopefully some additional exploring will help make things easier.

Sometimes it's the things we can't imagine, that stop us from trying, or enjoying.

And...he's very fortunate to have you in an intimate relationship.

 

[lydia_kitty]

I love tasting my juices on him! As others have suggested maybe he was more so embarrassed by a little bout of ED.

 

[tristantrotsky]

Blow Him Candy...

Had a peculiar event happen with my recent partner. We have only slept together a few times but we seem to understand and feel very comfortable with each other. However last night during sex I noticed him becoming soft and he mentioned he may not be able to keep up (we had been going for awhile) so I promptly hopped off and went to go down on him just to try to rectify the situation and he stopped me and exclaimed about how gross that is and how I couldn't go down on him after he had been inside me just as he couldn't go down on me.. I was really taken aback. I never thought of it as an issue. It made me almost uncomfortable just the way it was handled. Is this a normal reaction from most partners? Do people really prefer to not go down on each other unless it is the starting event?

He's a very lucky guy to have a lover as open and considerate as you, Candy. If he doesn't appreciate just how fortunate he is, that's very much his loss...

 

[Candy224]

Thanks everyone for your responses! Much appreciated I did touch briefly on the subject with him and it just seemed like he is getting used to being with someone who enjoys having sex and wants to explore with him and it takes him aback sometimes. Ah well, I figure if it continues to be an issue or other issues come up than maybe I am not the one for him!

 

[7LivesManyFaces]

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[MODaddy68]

Hard to comprehend why it's OK before, but not after. Like adding the 2 together makes it "bad" for some reason??

Anyway, my past experiences are that if they was open to oral sex, then it was all good. Especially if I pulled out and rubbed her juices on her nipples to enjoy some pussy flavored nipples! And letting her suck her juices from me and either swallowing them or giving her juices to me in a kiss.... He's missing out on some fun if you ask me.

 

[BuckyDuckman]

I believe he's probably an outlier and that's unfortunate for him.

I know some guys who refuse to kiss their wife/girlfriend after she has gone down on him unless she brushes her teeth or swigs some mouthwash or something.

Most of the women I've been with are fine with kissing me after I've gone down on them. Most, but not all. A few clearly wanted there to be more of a break between me going to down on her and before I kissed her on the lips again.

Personally, I find that curious. So, it's okay if I go down on you and get a mouthful of your goodness, but kissing you afterwards is gross? Why wasn't it gross that I went down on you in the first place?

Clearly, I would respect his limits, but if you find that limit unacceptable, please find another lover. You deserve to be free and happy, too!

 

[KimGordon67]

I believe he's probably an outlier and that's unfortunate for him.

I know some guys who refuse to kiss their wife/girlfriend after she has gone down on him unless she brushes her teeth or swigs some mouthwash or something.

Most of the women I've been with are fine with kissing me after I've gone down on them. Most, but not all. A few clearly wanted there to be more of a break between me going to down on her and before I kissed her on the lips again.

Personally, I find that curious. So, it's okay if I go down on you and get a mouthful of your goodness, but kissing you afterwards is gross? Why wasn't it gross that I went down on you in the first place?

Clearly, I would respect his limits, but if you find that limit unacceptable, please find another lover. You deserve to be free and happy, too!

I think guys not wanting to kiss their partners after cumming in their mouths isn't that unusual. It doesn't usually cut the other way though - I LOVE the taste of myself on someone else's mouth/cock/fingers/anywhere else ... so maybe the OP could start there - kiss him after he's gone down on you, and clearly enjoy it (if you actually DO enjoy it, of course). People do have variable boundaries around bodily fluids. I'm with a guy at the moment who's done a LOT of stuff, but just recently he licked his own cum off my skin, and then mentioned that was a first for him ... now he absolutely loves doing that, but it obviously took him 30+ years of some pretty wild sex to decide that it was OK.

 

[xhxhxh]

I think guys not wanting to kiss their partners after cumming in their mouths isn't that unusual. It doesn't usually cut the other way though - I LOVE the taste of myself on someone else's mouth/cock/fingers/anywhere else ... so maybe the OP could start there - kiss him after he's gone down on you, and clearly enjoy it (if you actually DO enjoy it, of course). People do have variable boundaries around bodily fluids. I'm with a guy at the moment who's done a LOT of stuff, but just recently he licked his own cum off my skin, and then mentioned that was a first for him ... now he absolutely loves doing that, but it obviously took him 30+ years of some pretty wild sex to decide that it was OK.

I love tasting her and myself. Drives me a lil cazy to be honest. After she takes me in her mouth i cant kiss her fast enough....

 

[KimGordon67]

I love tasting her and myself. Drives me a lil cazy to be honest. After she takes me in her mouth i cant kiss her fast enough....

Plenty of guys don't though - my husband NEVER kisses me after a blowjob, at least not if he's cum ... I'll have to pay more attention and see if he does if he hasn't cum.