Erochic
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I'm a dominant woman and this is something that is fairly popular in depictions of Femdom - and I can't understand it.
I was recently talking with someone about possibly starting a D/s relationship and he mentioned that he was into forced feminization and I had a pretty strong negative reaction to it.
I think there are a number of reasons that I don't like the idea.
I don't like humiliation anyway... Because I can't square humiliation with maintaining respect for someone.
I also don't like the idea that dressing up as a woman seems to a shorthand for being weak - that seems to completely contradict the idea of female dominance and appreciating the strength of women.
I guess that also ties in with the fact that even though I am womanly and feminine - I'm not actually very girly... And was always quite a tomboy growing up. I do like to dress up and look hot when I feel like it, but I get pretty bored with all the "girly" stuff
And when I dominate a man I like to enjoy the fact that he is a man, and is at my mercy.
I'm trying to see if I can perhaps understand it a little so I can maybe rephrase it in my mind in a way that I can accept and deal with. I'm not sure if this is a situation that will develop anyway, but if it does I would want to be in a frame of mind where I'm prepared to at least consider it.
I think I'm much more open to incorporating cross dressing in play if it's not associated with humiliation and dressing like a girl as being submissive - but as I understand it that's pretty core to the appeal?
For men who enjoy forced feminization in a female domination setting...
What is is about forced feminization that you enjoy?
Why do you think it is so powerful for you?
Do you feel that it is an essential part of the submission process for you?
Could you do it in a way where the forced element was removed and still find it enjoyable?
I was recently talking with someone about possibly starting a D/s relationship and he mentioned that he was into forced feminization and I had a pretty strong negative reaction to it.
I think there are a number of reasons that I don't like the idea.
I don't like humiliation anyway... Because I can't square humiliation with maintaining respect for someone.
I also don't like the idea that dressing up as a woman seems to a shorthand for being weak - that seems to completely contradict the idea of female dominance and appreciating the strength of women.
I guess that also ties in with the fact that even though I am womanly and feminine - I'm not actually very girly... And was always quite a tomboy growing up. I do like to dress up and look hot when I feel like it, but I get pretty bored with all the "girly" stuff
And when I dominate a man I like to enjoy the fact that he is a man, and is at my mercy.
I'm trying to see if I can perhaps understand it a little so I can maybe rephrase it in my mind in a way that I can accept and deal with. I'm not sure if this is a situation that will develop anyway, but if it does I would want to be in a frame of mind where I'm prepared to at least consider it.
I think I'm much more open to incorporating cross dressing in play if it's not associated with humiliation and dressing like a girl as being submissive - but as I understand it that's pretty core to the appeal?
For men who enjoy forced feminization in a female domination setting...
What is is about forced feminization that you enjoy?
Why do you think it is so powerful for you?
Do you feel that it is an essential part of the submission process for you?
Could you do it in a way where the forced element was removed and still find it enjoyable?