So many fetishes!

[ReadingExcitesMe]

So many fetishes! - Ugly Beautiful

I've seen quite a bit of fetishes on Lit, some I have never considered before and then others that I would say are pretty common. I have yet to see anyone say that they are into unattractiveness. By this I mean people who aren't your textbook case of pretty or handsome, they could be overweight, beautifully scarred, etc. So how about it? Anyone?

I've dated quite a few people that my friends thought were butt ugly lol

 

[draig_OMalley2]

very imaginitive

Great idea for a thread. Very imaginative. I confess I am much more attracted to women who are plain. Don't know why. It just happens. Not into ugly, or grotesque. It's just that the plain characteristics seem to allow natural attractiveness to not be impeded by self-consciousness, and then beauty blossoms. And when someone like that catches me noticing, it's fun to enjoy the light-up of her eyes, even if only brief sometimes.

 

[sunandshadow]

I don't think the idea "attracted to unattractiveness" is an accurate way to explain what's going on here. Attractiveness is not a monolithic or universal property. We are all human animals whose perception of what's attractive has been shaped by our ancestry as well as cultural experiences when growing up. Me personally, I have a thing for men with long hair, and I pretty much never feel attracted to a man with short hair. Why? Because growing up I learned to expect that men with exciting and appealing social role, such as fantasy hero and rock star, would have long hair, while men with boring and unattractive social roles, such as politician and accountant, would have short hair. Some people feel the opposite, they think long hair on men is unattractive because they grew up thinking short-haired men were stronger, more masculine, more prosperous, or something like that. Neither long hair nor short hair is objectively more attractive than the other.

Back to the question of unattractiveness. Some of the people I am highly attracted to might be considered unattractive. Like this guy, the character Grima Wormtongue from the Lord of the Rings movies, played by Brad Dourif.
https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/4f/2c/7a/4f2c7ac70c85ca0fa6b7bf73e2fd100a.jpg

For comparison, here's a different picture of Brad Dourif in ordinary clothes and with shorter hair. Most people would probably consider this version more attractive, but to me personally it's much less attractive.
http://iv1.lisimg.com/image/5148364/600full-brad-dourif.jpg

But, some of the people I'm strongly attracted to are also considered attractive by lots of people, such as Jareth the Goblin King from the movie Labyrinth, played by David Bowie, and David Lee Roth, original front man of the band Van Halen.
http://fairytalereview.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/FTF-20150320-01.jpg
http://cdn2.greatsong.net/photo/ext/david-lee-roth-132297.jpg

 

[ReadingExcitesMe]

Great idea for a thread. Very imaginative. I confess I am much more attracted to women who are plain. Don't know why. It just happens. Not into ugly, or grotesque. It's just that the plain characteristics seem to allow natural attractiveness to not be impeded by self-consciousness, and then beauty blossoms. And when someone like that catches me noticing, it's fun to enjoy the light-up of her eyes, even if only brief sometimes.

I can understand that. There are always certain things that we find attractive about people that others may not see. I bet the plain Jane's that you fancy are appreciative of the attention, that must be nice.

 

[ReadingExcitesMe]

I don't think the idea "attracted to unattractiveness" is an accurate way to explain what's going on here. Attractiveness is not a monolithic or universal property. We are all human animals whose perception of what's attractive has been shaped by our ancestry as well as cultural experiences when growing up. Me personally, I have a thing for men with long hair, and I pretty much never feel attracted to a man with short hair. Why? Because growing up I learned to expect that men with exciting and appealing social role, such as fantasy hero and rock star, would have long hair, while men with boring and unattractive social roles, such as politician and accountant, would have short hair. Some people feel the opposite, they think long hair on men is unattractive because they grew up thinking short-haired men were stronger, more masculine, more prosperous, or something like that. Neither long hair nor short hair is objectively more attractive than the other.

Back to the question of unattractiveness. Some of the people I am highly attracted to might be considered unattractive. Like this guy, the character Grima Wormtongue from the Lord of the Rings movies, played by Brad Dourif.
https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/4f/2c/7a/4f2c7ac70c85ca0fa6b7bf73e2fd100a.jpg

For comparison, here's a different picture of Brad Dourif in ordinary clothes and with shorter hair. Most people would probably consider this version more attractive, but to me personally it's much less attractive.
http://iv1.lisimg.com/image/5148364/600full-brad-dourif.jpg

But, some of the people I'm strongly attracted to are also considered attractive by lots of people, such as Jareth the Goblin King from the movie Labyrinth, played by David Bowie, and David Lee Roth, original front man of the band Van Halen.
http://fairytalereview.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/FTF-20150320-01.jpg
http://cdn2.greatsong.net/photo/ext/david-lee-roth-132297.jpg

Yes, you're correct. We all have our standards of what we deem attractive. Those are some good examples that you added. Men that get you going that do absolutely nothing for me.

My type is usually the heavier, hairy guy, but then I am attracted to guys that aren't the "norm" for me like Steve Buscemi.

 

[sunandshadow]

Yes, you're correct. We all have our standards of what we deem attractive. Those are some good examples that you added. Men that get you going that do absolutely nothing for me.

My type is usually the heavier, hairy guy, but then I am attracted to guys that aren't the "norm" for me like Steve Buscemi.

Heh, yeah that's the opposite of what I like, which is mainly slender guys with no facial hair and pretty faces (as opposed to handsome or cute types of faces). I myself am the female version of heavy and hairy, and I've many times had those pointed out to me as unattractive traits, so I've probably internalized that opinion to find those traits unattractive in others. Or it could be the fact that I associate heavy, hairy guys with macho asshole personalities, and I absolutely hate guys like that.

 

[StrongMaster7]

It's funny. I was thinking about this just this morning. As I was driving to the gym, I saw a lady walking who was textbook plain but had a very large bustline. As a lover of busty ladies, I have known a number of ladies who were very well-endowed bust-wise, but were not the prettiest.

I'm not the first guy to suggest that super-pretty gals can be a bit "stuck up" or may not "try" as much. And I have found that gals who are not as classically beautiful are often much more approachable and friendly. One of my regrets is not asking out one girl in my college dorm who had a great body, was very friendly, but was not very pretty.

And I think that any lady becomes more pretty when she is being affectionate.

 

[mterrence]

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[ReadingExcitesMe]

Heh, yeah that's the opposite of what I like, which is mainly slender guys with no facial hair and pretty faces (as opposed to handsome or cute types of faces). I myself am the female version of heavy and hairy, and I've many times had those pointed out to me as unattractive traits, so I've probably internalized that opinion to find those traits unattractive in others. Or it could be the fact that I associate heavy, hairy guys with macho asshole personalities, and I absolutely hate guys like that.

Understandable. Also, since I have changed physically over the years, there has been a considerable shift in what I have found attractive in others. I definitely make the hairy/macho connection. I have loved assholes all my life! lol

 

[ReadingExcitesMe]

It's funny. I was thinking about this just this morning. As I was driving to the gym, I saw a lady walking who was textbook plain but had a very large bustline. As a lover of busty ladies, I have known a number of ladies who were very well-endowed bust-wise, but were not the prettiest.

I'm not the first guy to suggest that super-pretty gals can be a bit "stuck up" or may not "try" as much. And I have found that gals who are not as classically beautiful are often much more approachable and friendly. One of my regrets is not asking out one girl in my college dorm who had a great body, was very friendly, but was not very pretty.

And I think that any lady becomes more pretty when she is being affectionate.

Approachable and friendly wins every time in my book. I try not to stereotype someone's personality by their looks, but I'm human and sometimes there is a bit of truth to the them. I have also found that people who are not outstandingly good-looking are a bit more empathetic and I find that more attractive than looks any day.

 

[MrEd63]

Approachable and friendly wins every time in my book. I try not to stereotype someone's personality by their looks, but I'm human and sometimes there is a bit of truth to the them. I have also found that people who are not outstandingly good-looking are a bit more empathetic and I find that more attractive than looks any day.

Basically, ugly guys try harder

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

Basically, ugly guys try harder

Yeah, we generally also appreciate the lady who notices us much more.

 

[Hipshot1554]

I can understand that. There are always certain things that we find attractive about people that others may not see. I bet the plain Jane's that you fancy are appreciative of the attention, that must be nice.

For me, confidence is sexy. Women don't have to be beautiful to be sexy. Confidence can be instilled. Therefor "sexy" can be also.

 

[biseattlegirl]

I find that there is zero connection most of the time between "attractiveness" and how good a lover the person is. My friend said fucking a perfect 10 is like eating at Taco Bell. It may look and sound appealing when you are hungry but an hour later you are left with nothing but regret and an upset stomach.

We all love to look at what we consider pretty people, but finding that person that touches our sensual side and scratches our sexual itch is really the most perfect thing....that person can never be ugly.

I've dated a lot of men and women with a variety of looks...but the best lover I've ever had is nearly twice my age, overweight , thinning hair and more than average amount of body hair. Yet, whenever he walks in the room I get excited and turned on.